BFPs after MC - Christmas Cake for Christmas Babies - Thread 1

[Cakelaur]

Here we go ladies!!! Let's continue it here and hope we all just switch from the TTC group to the pregnancy group

Sorry I've been away, work's been mad and I'm absolutely knackered. @Cakelaur, I've told DH no sex until after the 12 week scan We've just seen a heartbeat at 7 weeks, which is farther than we've been before. Also, we had sex the day before the first miscarriage and I had a massive cramp with orgasm, and whilst I'm sure it's unrelated, I can't forget that pain and I'm just too nervous it will dislodge our wee babe. Really missing that physical intimacy right now but also feeling so grotty I'm hardly in the mood. Also massively nauseous so no interest in BJ either. (sorry for TMI!) But DH has taken it well, we're both just so chuffed to finally be this far. Sending some calming and positive thoughts to you xxx

@Athers666 Hun I know exactly how you feel. I can’t shake the feeling either.
I just know something bad is going to happen. It’s all I think about day and night. I’m so envious of the women around me (trust me when I say 99% of them) who got their BFP for the first time and screamed with happiness and made it to their 12 weeks Scan with no worrries and saw a heartbeat. And then went on to have the perfect happy ending.
My innocence and naivety of TTC has unfairly been snatched away from me and I’m so full of anger that I have to feel this way.
I’m convinced that I’m never going to have a baby. And that every pregnancy I have is going to end up in ectopic or a BO or when I finally get to a 20 weeks Scan, there’s going to be something wrong.
I only find comfort in knowing that I’m not the only one that feels this way. We will all get each other through this!!!

Also, to top it off, DH has suspected Norovirus. WTF!!!!

And I also have a very physical job which involves lifting and I have. I waynif getting out of it as I work for myself on my Larry. Has anyone else got quite a physical job??

I have no way of getting out of it (that was meant to say)

Ok ladies. I'm doing it... I'm taking the plunge.. literally.... I'm having a bath!! (A cool one) I've been gardening all day and a showers just not gonna cut it. I need to soak. 🤞🏻I have to conquer my fears!!

@MagicalCreatures i have quite an intensive job. I'm a cake decorator/Baker. I have my own business. I've had to tell all my staff, because I can't be lugging 25kg bags or flour and sugar around. Plus some of the cakes are really heavy and take 2/3 people to carry them. I've opted out of that too! And I'm lucky enough that it's quiet time in the business for the next couple of months. I've taken a month off (for the puppy, coincidentally I'm now pregnant) and then I'm only going back part time. I don't want any stress on myself at all. So at least if it goes wrong, I knew I did everything I could.

Enjoy your bath @cakelaur 😂

@BobbySD345 I'm due 21/12 which happens to be my birthday as well!

@athers666 you aren't the only one I had a big melt down last night hardly slept at all I had convinced myself I was miscarrying as most of my symptoms had disappeared but today is a better day. I honestly don't know where I would be if it wasn't for the people on her. They have kept me sane. I am trying to take each day as it comes and if I'm meant to have this baby I will. Today I'm 5 weeks pregnant, will I be tomorrow no one knows, but I am today. I hope that makes sense and we all understand if you need to just come on and rant as we are all probably feeling the same at some point.

@MagicalCreatures bless you. Hugs to you. Your post brought tears to my eyes. I also think about it day and night. And i know exactly what you mean about everybody around getting a bfp, telling the world and then getting the happy ending. I just want that so much but simply cannot imagine it happening to me. Dh is so excited about this new pregnancy but I just feel like it's just a matter of time before it's game over. Can't shake the negativity. Aargh!
@cakeular I hope you have a lovely relaxing bath and it makes you feel super relaxed x

@Martydog Thank you. Let's try and all keep calm! Great we can all support each other on here, don't know what I would do if I had to keep it all to myself x

Sending big hugs ladies. We are gonna get there. We have our Christmas presents being prepped as we speak!!

Let's do this!

@Martydog your birthday ! That's got to be a sign 😍

I hope so @bobbySD345

@Athers666 Sorry Hun. Hope it didn’t upset you. It’s so hard putting these feelings into words and it really is true when people say you have know idea unless you’ve been through it.
@Cakelaur Hope you enjoyed your bath. The problem I have with my job is I don’t have anyone to pass the load onto. I’m a mobile nail technician. I carry a portable table around with me and I lift bags full of stuff in and out of every clients home. I just hope I’m not causing damage myself but I really don’t have any options. X

@MagicalCreatures any idea what it all weighs? I'd say 10/15kg is ok, as you're used to carrying it all the time. Mine doesn't help because I have massive back issues due to over lifting things. So I've been seeing a chiropractor for the last 3 months.
Can you get a little trolley to be able to pull it around maybe?

I'm officially done poas. Got this today!! 😍🌈

@Cakelaur yeh I think it weighs about that. I know they say that lifting that sort of amount won’t cause a miscarriage and that they only fret about it because it’s more likely to harm the mother but I can’t help but worry.
That’s fantastic. You must feel abit better.
I’ve booked 2 blood tests 48 hours apart to check my HCG on Tuesday and Thursday x

@MagicalCreatures I think it's more in second and third trimester. Mainly because your joints loosen and become a little 'bendy' so therefore you can damage yourself. Just try and take it easy, I'm currently lugging a 15kg puppy in and out the house and into the car etc.

5 weeks today! Feels like a lifetime ago I found out! Gonna phone epu this week bout an early scan, if they say no gonna book private one for 7 weeks. Hope ur all feeling ok? X

Ok. Totally freaking out. Pinky brown cm on wiping today! 😭

@cakelaur can you ring someone for advice 🤞It's nothing as I have read that brown blood is just old blood so it's nothing to worry about. Sending lots of hugs.

Thanks @Martydog I would think the same, but I had it with my mmc around the same time. We'll see. Scan is on Friday. That should confirm.

@cakelaur have you still got it? Maybe phone epu in the morning they might let you go in earlier this week so you don't have to wait till Friday. Hope ur feeling ok xx

Nope it seems to have stopped. It was just on wiping earlier, but I'm just so panicked. I think I'd rather wait until Friday. Because that way it will be more definitive. More likely to see a heartbeat, and if there isn't one and it's only measuring 5 weeks then I'll know for sure.

@Cakelaur I hope you are OK. If it has stopped that's a good sign for sure. Fingers and toes crossed 🌷 Phone the unit if you are worried and I'm sure they will get you in for a check up asap.

Is anyone else around 5 + 5 and really uncomfortable all the time. Nagging dull pain lower left plus short shooting pains every now and again and a typical AF type bloated and sore belly, sore back and boobs and just generally feeling uncomfortable...Oh and absolutely shattered ZZzzzz
Hoping it isn't all a bad sign ☹

The days drag don't they !