November 2018 babies ....

[MissKx]

Anyone else due in November? Only 5 weeks along with first, super nervous, super excited! Rung GP but they just seem to have left me to it? Is this normal? They just asked my last period and they’d send a letter out... what happens now? What symptoms is everyone feeling at this stage? Any advice?

I wear the bands! The nausea subsides for me quite rapidly!

Aw Becky that's mega exciting! PLEASE let them work... I haven't had a wave of nausea since putting them on about 20 mins ago... glad you've found something that's working for you anyway!

Do they really work? Someone mentioned them to me but I was pretty sceptical tbh!

I was sceptical too but desperate! So far so good - ask me in a few days!

Hi November pals. Has anyone else suffered any bleeding? I'm 7+3 and had a small amount of blood when I wiped earlier on. It was quite faint and pink and seems to have stopped now. I'm sure it's really common but I might phone the early pregnancy unit in the morning just to be on the safe side.

Hi edinbeezer, this is my first pregnancy and all good so far but I've seen loads of people on mumsnet in a similar situation and it generally seems to not be an issue. Definitely worth making a call for peace of mind, fingers crossed for you xx

I mentioned earlier that i had spotting over the weekend, i am just over 9 weeks with my first. I have spoken to several women and they've said its normal, some it's also happened to as well. If it continues or gets heavy they advise to call. I only spotted for the evening and then it went so fingers crossed for you xx

Thank you Jenny and Becky for your lovely responses. This pregnancy malarkey is a bit stressful, isn't it?!

Since the weekend i have just had like waves of pain, little niggles but since the spotting it has unnerved me a bit! :(

So stressful! No spotting but I have had random twinges and cramps right from the get go so I'm always thinking it's on the point of going wrong. And I STILL haven't heard anything from the bloody midwife which is definitely stressing me out! Called on Mon but the number the doc gave me was actually for the health visitors so no use at all. We were away Tues til Fri and was sure there'd be a letter when we got back, but nothing and then it's been bank holiday weekend. Going to try again tomorrow as I reckon I'm getting on for 9 weeks but could be more as the first day of my last period is pretty much pure guesswork. We should all be resting and taking it easy but why does life never actually work out that way?!!!

Edin - how are you?

Jenny - how's the wristbands? I got some this afternoon, not sure they're helping tbh.

Hiya. I'm OK. The bleeding stopped overnight and I spoke to a midwife this morning who said just to keep an eye on things and let them know if it got worse. Unfortunately it came back this afternoon and is a bit worse than before so booked in for an early scan tomorrow morning. It still isn't super heavy and I'm not in any pain so trying not to jump to the worst conclusions. Thank you for asking me and I will update tomorrow after the scan. X

Oh bless you, that must be pretty anxious for you. I hope all goes well!

Hope things go well with the scan Edin - got everything crossed for you. I'm finding the bands pretty great Dragon to be honest! They're really tight on me so I don't know if it's just purely having another sensation at the forefront of my mind that means I'm not focussing so much on the nausea? But I don't care how they work really, I'm just praying they carry on doing it for me! Sorry to hear they're not working well for you so far, I hope they do something soon but I guess it's different strokes for different folks. I wouldn't say they've fixed me completely but definitely made it much more manageable.

Morning all - hoping you can help me out with a dilemma. So I finally got through to a midwife yesterday at our local hospital and said that I think I'll be 9 weeks tomorrow by my best guess but still haven't heard anything about any appointments, just wanted to check everything was ok. She couldn't seem to find the referral from my GP but said the community midwife from my area was in the hospital today and she'd ask her to get in touch with me. That's fine but I'm still worried that time is ticking on and my 'best guess' on dates is just that - I could actually be 10/11 weeks. I was perfectly nice but just explained that this is my first pregnancy and I'm a bit anxious, and (given that my referral seemed to have gone in the bin - did not mention that but was thinking it) asked, if I hadn't heard anything in say another week or so should I call again? She then got a bit shirty, saying 'I TOLD you before I'd talk to the midwife.' She then started saying how it didn't really matter if they didn't do the scans til week 14 - I think she was trying to reassure me but that just made me feel like no one is even bothered! Long story short I was in floods of tears as soon as I got off the phone. I think mainly I'm anxious because I really have no idea how far along I am so I don't know how soon I'll get past the tricky 12 weeks, which would help put my mind at rest and mean I can finally tell family/work - worrying about that is not helping either. Really sorry for the ramble/vent, but I've been wondering this morning whether paying for an early scan would help. I know they call the 12 week scan the dating scan but I'm sure I've seen a few references to being measured for more accurate dates in the early scan? Those of you who have had one, did you get any clarity on dates? The thought of not being any clearer for another 6 weeks (if they don't do the scan til week 14 like she said) just terrifies me! Sorry again for rambling - and I am aware that this probably seems completely mental to be stressing over...

My breakfast was nice to eat, not so nice throwing it up. 😔 (bands aren't working at all for me)

Got my first midwife appointment today and I've got to take my 3.5 year old with me so that could be stressful!

Jenny - I didn't have my scan until 13 weeks with DS. Try not to worry, the first appointment is basically all about getting yours and the fathers medical history etc.
Tell your midwife when she rings back that you think you could be as far as 11 weeks when she rings, don't mention 9 weeks and she should rush it through for you.

Oh no Dragon, that's rubbish that they're not working for you! Really sorry- hope the sickness eases soon. Thanks for the advice, I'll definitely mention the possible 11 weeks thing. Just hope someone calls back soon - feel like I've been completely forgotten! Why oh why oh WHY did I not make a note of my last period?! In my ignorance I genuinely didn't even know that's how you got your dates- I suppose I thought they'd just look in a crystal ball... that will teach me to do some research before undertaking major life changes in the future!

Haha, I know it is hard but try not to worry, you've plenty of time. 😊

Pregnancy is the longest 9 months ever, any other 9 months just flys by. 😂

Jenny I would give your Gp a call this morning and find out exactly what’s happened and explain how anxious you’re feeling, you shouldn’t have to fork out for a scan it’s not your fault when you should be having one soon anyway! Obviously they’ve messed up somehow as our dates are pretty close from finding out and I got my booking in appointment and first scan date within 2 weeks and you’ve had nothing and you’re further along than I am

Thanks MissKx - it's so frustrating, feels like everyone on here has their scan date already except me! I wouldn't mind waiting for the scan if I knew for sure how far along I was - I'm pretty sure baby is ok as have no spotting at all (touch wood touch wood touch wood) and lots of symptoms (sickness, massive/sore boobs etc.) but it is just driving me absolutely insane that I could be anywhere between 8-11 weeks! One week away from being relatively "in the clear" or three (nearly another month)! I think I am just stressing in general which doesn't help - I've just been promoted which is great but I feel so bad I couldn't tell my employer that I'm pregnant, especially as eight of my colleagues also went for it and didn't get it - but then I feel like why should I have to say, if I'm the best candidate then that's that - but I hate not knowing how long I'm going to have to keep them in the dark about it, feel like I'm stringing them along. And we're thinking about moving to be nearer to friends and family - so all in all lots going on and lots of stress! I really don't want to get on to the wrong foot with the midwives by pestering and I'm sure it'll all be fine, but I just so wanted this to go smoothly and get appointments quickly so I wouldn't have to stew on it for weeks and I feel like my confidence in how it's going to go has just gone down the pan after they lost the referral and then got shirty about it. Anyway - definitely rant over this time! I know I'm so bloody lucky to have conceived so quickly, not to have had any proper scares and to still be having symptoms - baby seems well and that's all I should really be worried about. I think if I haven't heard anything by Friday I'm going to go into the GP surgery and try and just explain why I'm so anxious like you say and see if anything can be done to chase up. I'll have a think about booking an early scan as well - just feels like anything that could give me some certainty at this point would be priceless! Thanks so much for listening to me rant!

Whereabouts are you living Jenny? My GP told me that I would be contacted between 8 and 12 weeks for my booking appointment and that actually came but woth regards to any scan dates etc we have no idea, they don't give you any of that information at your booking appointment.
I went for an early scan and actually had an emergency scan this morning due to a number of issues but thankfully the baby is still nestled right in there!!😍

Hi folks. I had a scan this morning and unfortunately it isn't the best news. The baby is measuring the correct size but the heartbeat is a bit slower than it should be so they have given me a 70% chance of miscarrying. I need to go for a follow up scan in a fortnight. I'm pretty gutted but keep reminding myself that there is a reason my body is rejecting this one. We will keep trying and soon enough will have a wee one joining us. Thanks for your concern and well wishes.

Hi Edin,
Try not to give up hope just yet, sometimes they give you the worse case scenario to prepare you! I know plenty of women (from having 21 nieces and nephews..) and many of them mentioned a slower heartbeat and had healthy babies. I truly hope that this becomes the case for you and send you the warmest of wishes xx

Hi Edin, really sorry to hear that things are so stressful at the moment. Got everything crossed for you.

Hi Becky, really glad to hear everything went well at the scan. I'm in SE England (Portsmouth-ish). When I saw the GP he seemed to think I'd have the booking-in appointment within a couple of weeks, which would have taken me (from my best guess) over the eight week mark, especially as I was unclear on my dates so could actually have been considerably over eight weeks by that point - but it's been nearly four weeks since then and still no word. I think that's the frustrating thing - I wouldn't have minded so much getting a letter saying my appointment was six weeks hence! It's just not hearing anything and feeling like I've just been completely lost in the system.

When I called the hospital they said that they had no record of a scan being booked for me - but then said that was fine because I hadn't had the booking-in appointment yet and they normally put forward the referral for the scan following the booking-in appointment. That worried me because if I'm twelve weeks or beyond when I have the booking-in appointment, and they only make the scan referral then, I could be pretty far along by the time of the first scan. I also would have spent ages stressing about trying to hide it from everyone when actually it would have been fine to tell people weeks ago.

Needless to say I still haven't heard anything from anyone, despite being told fairly stridently by the hospital that the midwife was "going to get in touch very soon"... but I have bitten the bullet and booked an early scan Sat am and am feeling much less stressed since having sorted that. They seemed confident they could help me pinpoint my dates from the measurements, which is the main thing I'm stressed about. Hurray! I think I'll see how that goes - if it turns out I'm just eight weeks-ish then I'll not fret so much about waiting to hear about appointments, but if it turns out I'm more 11 weeks-ish then I'll be pressing for the booking-in asap to try and get the scan lined up as close as possible to the 12-week mark. Phew! Thanks all for all your help and patience.