Pregnancies April 2018 - #3 the babies are nearly here !

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So we’ve nearly finished with thread 2! Just on time for the babies joining us !

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Congratulations @Myalterego1!!! And all new mums! @WonderfullySunny you're so good at keeping up to date with everyone!

No baby yet for me either! And I've been having random contractions for over a week which makes me want to cry a little bit 😭!! My dr says I shd ask for induction if I cant take it anymore but I dont want to do that yet.

Congratulations Fieau on your little baby boy! It can be really hard and stressfull at home the first days so it is normal to feel the way you feel. I'm sure you can call back hospital for the advice and they will let you know what to do next. Did you manage to latch him on while in hospital or is it at home that you are trying to do so for the first time?

@fieau it’s completely normal lovely to be so emotional. When your milk comes in you get a surge of hormones. I think mine was day 3-4 and that was it I cried at everything. I sobbed as I was so tired then sobbed because isobelle screamed for ages then sobbed because I asked midwife to have her for ten mins then cried that I had sent her away then cried again telling hubby all about it. Not even gentle cry’s that horrid big ugly crying I was a right mess 🙈 but after a few days it settled down.
Try phoning the midwife today have you got the number for your community midwife? They should be able to help. Do you have any breastfeeding support groups in your area? We have a dedicated team for it here and they come and help with any issues.

Congratulations too all the new mummies 💖 hope your all doing okay.
Hope all the ladies still waiting aren’t waiting too long. Fingers crossed you get to meet your beautiful babies soon 🤞🏻

@Bez9087 so glad to hear the girls weights are creeping up! It sounds like you have them covered with the routine 

@Loosemoose28 your neighbour got away lightly! I don't get why people text to ask is the baby coming/here yet, am wondering if it's because they can't think of something better to ask. Even how are you feeling would be easier to cope with. I really hope little one makes an appearance for you before 42 weeks 🤞

@Teeeee same here! Have you had any checks or sweeps as yet?

Congratulations to @Fieau and @Myalterego1, I hope your little ones are doing well and you're both alright. Sounds like feeding generally is a difficult one to commence!!

@WonderfullySunny I had a couple contractions during a CTG so they watched it happening.. which made me feel less crazy! But no I've not had any sweeps or anything else. They're mostly concerned that I get some sleep for when labour kicks in properly... if it does its only one day over the date, seeing as the average is at least 5 days over for the first one, my gut instinct is to hang on so thats what I'm going to do. X

Congratulations to the new mummies...enjoy your snuggles.

Congratulations to all the new mothers!

Our baby is still in the NICU but making progress. I'm not doing so well though. I don't feel like I'm his mother because I didn't see his birth, and I didn't meet him until hours later, and I rarely have the chance to do anything for him now. When I do, the nurses can be quite critical of how I'm doing it and abruptly take over. They don't do this with my husband even if he makes the same mistakes. They also talk mostly to my husband as if I'm invisible and make me feel as if I should just leave. I keep wondering what I've done to make them so cold with me. My husband says he doesn't see it but I don't think it's in my head. The nurse we had just now had a dig at me for not having learnt the language and kept saying I was doing everything wrong when I was trying to wash the baby for the first time. I just put him down and walked out.

@Teeeee must have been good to see the contractions! Are you getting a lot of messages asking if there's any movement/labour imminent? Hang in there is exactly the feeling!!! @Loosemoose28 hope all is well with you lovely.

@HarryHarry oh lovely that must be so hard. Can completely understand why's it's been so hard to make that connection but you will, it doesn't matter how long it takes your his Mum. When they speak to your husband is it in the native language? I have a similar problem here, they speak to DH in the native language and I'm like hang on a bloody second I'm the sodding patient!! I complained to the unit manager and they got better at addressing me directly in English perhaps try that? It's horrible given you're in NICU and they should bloody well know better but it's often that you need to be strong with people like that. Thinking of you, we're here in case you ever want a sounding board or just to rant You've got this lovely truly, your his Mum and know him better than anyone already.

Thanks @WonderfullySunny. They speak to my husband in English but they're completely different with him. It's as if they can barely tolerate me. I'm also being observed by the psychologist which makes me feel like I'm unhinged. But I don't think my reaction to the situation is at all unusual. I keep being told it's normal to cry but then being watched suspiciously if I'm even a little bit tearful.

@HarryHarry sorry wrong end of the stick there! They have psychologists on the nicu ward here for support services, can imagine it's rather unnerving though if you feel like you're being watched all the time. Do they have an equivalent of pals where you are?
It is completely normal to cry, even if everything was perfect you'd still be teary! I remember you saying they anticipated you being there for upto 4 months is that still the case or has it been revised? Has your DH gone back to work now? Thinking of you and sending hugs

Quick question for ladies who are breastfeeding...are you giving you little one vitamin d? Health visitor mentioned it when they came on Friday, if you are what ones are you using? I've started to take pregnacare for breastfeeding but been told he needs his own supplement.

I'm really struggling with the lack of sleep, baby Joshua sleeps virtually all day, just about waking for feeds and nappy changes and then screams all night, usually from 11pm until 4am. Midwife says this is normal but my heart hurts to hear him scream, as it sounds like he is in pain. We do all the normal things to console him, skin to skin, feed, nappy change, check if he's to hot or to cold but nothing seems to work...could this be colic? Am seeing midwife tomorrow so will let her know what's going on.

@amy we gave our daughter the vit d drops that came in The bounty pack on advice of hv but they made her ill. She was sick and really grissly and didn't sleep that night. We left it a couple of days then tried again and the same thing happened so they went in the bin. None of my others had them and they are healthy grown ups now. I think as long as you are eating properly and taking supplements then they'll be fine. Getting out and about each day will help too but thats personal choice.

It could be colic or trapped wind. You could try infacol for a few nights and see if it makes a difference?

Sometimes sacro cranio will help with colic. Has done wonders for some babies.
Still pregnant 40+11 today

Amysaurus have a look on le le leche league and co-sleeping it may be your answer to some sleep.

amysaurus I'm not giving any supplements for my little one. My health visitor didn't mention anything either. I've heard that the mother has to take vitamin D so I'm taking Pregnacare breastfeeding supplements. As for the lack of sleep, I know how bad it can get. I had couple of times when my dd didn't sleep all day and all night long. I even took her to see GP. Unfortunately, it's one of these things either they sleep days or nights as long as they get between 12 to 18 hours sleep in 24 hours it's allright. If your little one sleeps daytime, try to sleep the same time. Did you try swaddling before night?

Hi amy, I'm breastfeeding and supplements haven't been mentioned to me. I only take a Multi Vit daily. I eat well though, so hopefully that's enough!

I am suffering from quite bad headaches at the moment though. Guessing hormones, tiredness, dehydration and a bit of muscle soreness from feeding.

Anyone else??

I had midwife come out today and mentioned vit d for baby and ahe said Oh yeah you should be giving him a daily drop! No one has mentioned it at all. I'm taking the pregnacare breastfeeding supplement but she said I should be giving LO his own. We've bought some now and will start tomorrow.

@kirta I've been upping my water intake today as I was feeling really thirsty all the time. Was definitely not drinking enough so I've been carrying a flask round with me today. Feel so much better for it

@Loosemoose28 have been thinking of you, must be 40+13 by now. I'm only 40+6 but am starting to lose the will so can only imagine what it's like for you!!

Who else is left still pregnant?!

Still here
Still pregnant
42 weeks tomorrow this bubba has gone for the full cook. I am bloody uncomfortable today so hoping thats a good thing. I am fed up but just focusing that by weekend I will have a baby. And in my eyes not “over due” until 42+1.

37-42 is normal term pregnancy

Thank you for thinking of me

I have been reading the thread. Just trying to keep focus. Ive come off all social media etc just to find space.

@Loosemoose28

37-42 is normal term pregnancy

Absolutely! It can all change in a blink of an eye! Hope the uncomfortableness is a sign of some movement!

Good luck

Hi everyone,

Have been on and off this thread, but my little one is now 2 weeks old.

Those of you that have your bundles of joy here and of a similar age, could you tell me how much / how often they are feeding?

Thanks

@LutherRalph1 my baby is 2 weeks tomorrow and was over 9lb when born. Baby has 4pz every 2 hours and his formula fed.

My LO is 3 weeks tomorrow. I'm breastfeeding but there's no routine really. Sometimes he goes 3 hours between sometimes half hour snd the time he latches on varies as well. Makes it very tricky to plan anything
Anyone else bf and finding the same?

My girls are 5 weeks now (6 on Friday 😳) they take 4oz every 4 hours... sometimes 3 hours if they are particularly hungry. They was still only 6lb 11oz and 6lb 13oz last week though so still dinky really in comparison. I keep thinking do they need to be taking more but then think technically they are just coming up to size of an average newborn and they would only be on 2/3oz about now. Hope everyone is getting on okay. And the ladies still patiently waiting aren’t waiting too long.