Pregnancies April 2018 - #3 the babies are nearly here !

[DaisyLand]

So we’ve nearly finished with thread 2! Just on time for the babies joining us !

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/pregnancy/3070393-Pregnancies-due-April-2018

[Shelli1stbabyboy]

34 weeks tomorrow and the exhaustion is becoming a way of life! Had a long weekend off work and really helped with the spd. Had work today and I ache all over! Sleep is nonexistent due to the acid and spd! Feels like he’s running out of room in there poor thing! Roll on maternity leave next Friday

[julia02]

Thx for your advice @wonderfullysunny

[dkb15164]

@WonderfullySunny no date really, I've pushed my one May exam to August but have a project charity event to do on the 27th march and assignments due 8th, 9th, 12th, 13th, 15th and 20th March and the 17th, 19th and 27th April (plus one due on a still unknown date on April) which all have to be done in advance as I'm due 15th April in the middle of it all. Been told not to worry too much about later ones as I can get extensions.

[WonderfullySunny]

@julia02 most welcome! Thrush sucks when pregnant, doctor was telling me most pregnant women have it at least once during the 40 weeks.

@dkb15164 I read that and thought bloody hell! Well done for getting through the deadlines so far, it sounds like your uni are being supportive with the extensions at least. I suppose when you're waiting for little one to arrive it will be a good distraction from the downsides of late pregnancy

Does anyone else get pain in their hips when sleeping on their side at night? It wakes me up and keeps me awake annoyingly, I think I've found a position which helps but involves artwork with the pregnancy pillow! Wedging myself diagonally with an arm up so not fully on my side or back DH has less room though....

[Bez9087]

Hi @lambly hope your well and that pregnancy has been okay so far for you.

@wonderfullysunny yes to the hip pain I am constantly changing sides to try stop it and then groin pain it’s like they are led on a nerve. The physio said to try some satin pjs and bedding to make it easier to move I was like eerrrmm no thanks. Haha!

Was getting so many kicks low down last night really bartering my poor lady bits I’m hoping they calm themselves down today. I honestly was convinced a few times there was going to be a hush of water with some of the kicks last night how brutal they was. On plus side one more day till we hopefully have a plan of action eeeeek!

[DaisyLand]

@bez hope everything goes well tomorrow
I was in hospital again last night, each doctor tells you something different about movements, one that if i get some not to panic, the other one that if they decrease just to go and get check... guess they're fed up of me as been there 7 times in month and a half. He said they'll review my case in the obstrecian team when i hit 37w (i'm 35 today) so i might end up induced, i dont like the idea as per "horror stories of being induced"that you can see in MN but... i like the idea of having the baby here and also knowing which day he'll be born or day after, i hate the thought of being pregnant at 42w... makes me even more panicky

[Bez9087]

@daisy they are such conflicting advice. I am the exact same any change in movements etc I’m up there. Most are fine about it and some you can tell would rather I didn’t go but I just think it’s us responsible for these babies and we know them so much already.
I got induced with two of my previous pregnancies and it isn’t as bad as some horror stories you read. I find either places like mn or even worse netmums your always going to get the horror stories but never the nice ones. I think some people get a kick out of scaring others. Plus everyone reacts different you get some ftm who will birth within an hour and some a day... it all differs on people so don’t worry. That’s good the consultant is going to review it. I can’t imagine going over... my dd was 37+4 and my ds was bang on 40 because I was induced at 39+6 (at like 5pm at night). Hopefully they help you out. I have heard in our area if you go in three or more times with reduced movement they have to induce you etc.

[DaisyLand]

Thanks bez! I think they're trying to stop me from induction as it's easier and many of my visits are related with anterior placenta + anxiety, so sometimes i feel that i go there baby moves loads and doctors dont believe i couldnt feel the baby, I had the doppler yesterday, doctor said can you feel te baby kicking i said not at all, he said he could feel it in the device he was using for the check, how could he feel it but not me , that really upset me to be honest.

I've had 7 cases already so thought they'd say ok go ahead, but in last weeks meeting with the obstrecian she said she'd rather do it without any intervention (which i understand and agree that as less as possible best) but at the same time,,, i just wanna have the healthy baby in my arms and forget that for a long time i've been in hospitals every now and again.

Do you mind asking, was your husband with you since they induced you? I'm in between two minds about what to do, he'd need to take the day off and if it is a long process and things dont start quick i feel bad that he took it off + that he'll be as bored as me in the hospital. When i was kept over the night a few weeks ago when he came to visit me during the day i told him to go out and enjoy the fresh air as it was damm boring being in that room :)

[Bez9087]

Don’t feel bad. Both of mine have anterior placentas and sometimes where they are they have kicked the Doppler and I haven’t felt it but because the placenta was in the way etc. Some drs aren’t as empathetic as others. The one I had at my last consultant appointment sent my anxiety through the roof with worry but others do help.

When I was induced with my first ds (he was stillborn due to a long list of medical problems we was aware of) he was with me and allowed to stay etc but because we was in a side room on the delivery suite that was designed away from “live births” to make the process easier which to be fair I couldn’t see anything making it easier.
With my second ds I went in at 3pm to the ward they didn’t start me off till 5pm as was quite short staffed. He came with me but on the ward it was same ward you go to after the birth so partners can visit 8am - 8pm and select times for others like 1-3 etc. So he was meant to go home at 8pm but because they was late starting me off they let him stay till about 9ish. He did go home and I told him to keep his phone on loud and I was texting him all night as it did work quite quick for me. Then about 6am I felt the urge to push so the mw said they would phone delivery suite to take me down and also phone dh to come back but I had already phoned him at about 5:30 to tell him to come back up as think I was close and he was waiting outside the ward doors as they took me to delivery suite.
So they can be with you but depends on the ward and policy. I found it harder having him at home whilst I was in but the same time I’m glad he was able to go and get a few hours kip. Think it all depends on time aswell I was unlucky in the sense they could only fit me in at 3pm that day and then didn’t get started till later but some can go at 10am so if that’s the case could always be with you and if you progress enough before visiting over for them and move to delivery suite then he will be with you. On delivery suite they don’t send partners home so they stay with you. Hope that helps? If there is anything else you want to know just ask always happy to help. I didn’t find my inductions that bad and relatively quick but I walked a lot etc to try and help get things going. I remember walking dh to the other end of hospital where his car was then to the shop at a bit near the side we was at and then back to the ward. Then I kept pacing my bay and corridor just to the bottom and back so think that really helped.

[Loosemoose28]

The issue with reduced movement is what we know regards to its links and unwell babies. Therefore advice is change in movement be assessed.

A professional cannot tell you what is normal what is not regards to them. I think its horrid they are making you feel guilty. They will offer induction as that is their guidance.

Please don’t feel guilty calling them up xx

[amysaurus87]

I've not had reduced movement, but I've been in scans when baby has been kicking and I've not felt it, and that's with a posterior placenta, I find sometimes I don't feel every movement so I can't imagine how it must feel for those of you with anterior placentas!

Had to take my wedding rings off today as they were getting tight on my finger 😕 quite a sad moment as they haven't been off since we got married April last year.

[AnnaMadden]

Morning all...thanks for the new thread Daisy!

I'm 35+1 today and meeting the hv has never been mentioned so maybe they don't do that here? I'm more interested in having a tour of the birth unit and delivery suite to be honest as I'd feel more comfortable having seen it before the big day...I don't even know where it is in the hospital. They said we'd get one but nothing was mentioned since. I have a consultant appointment next Weds so might bring it up then! Although I've been referred to see the anethetist twice now and still no appointment so I'm not holding out much hope!

[HarryHarry]

amysaurus87 I had to take mine off last week for the first time in 11 years!

[Bez9087]

@Anna we had to phone our delivery suite up to book on one they held one think every other week on a Sunday at my local one. We went round with dd and was quite informative.

@amy I take mine off now each night as a few times in the night my fingers have swelled and I have got them stuck. I have had to leave one of my pandora rings off and one of my late nana ring off permanently as they kept getting stuck weirdly only on left hand same finger as my ring finger on right hand. My wedding ring every so often gets snug but then I can wiggle it off.

[amysaurus87]

@Harry @bez it's such an odd feeling. I've got mine on a chain but I keep thinking I've lost them! I hoped I'd be ok as they were a little bit big to start with, but nope.

[Pumpkinma]

Evening ladies

Does anybody else feel like their baby is too big for their uterus? I'm so uncomfortable baby is right down low and up inside my rib at the same time. I'm literally close to tears I'm that uncomfortable and in pain. May be feeling slightly sorry for myself

Very excited for baby to be on the outside 😩

[Loosemoose28]

Pumkinma I feel the same. I measure fine but am convinced this baby feels huge. He/ she is constantly shifting left and right it feels so weird yesterday feet kept ending being pushed up into my sternum.

I have started sitting on a birthing ball, sofa is bad for positioning anyway, have to say the ball has really helped the baby is too big feeling, I just have to be a$$ed to go get it as can’t leave it in living room because I reckon the dogs will make a game of it!

[Pumpkinma]

@Loosemoose28 oh I'm measuring big 🙈 I'm sure this poor little child has no room left at all. My OH pumped my ball up the other day I haven't really given it a go yet, so thanks for the tip!

Same with the feet right up it's soooo uncomfortable! Hope you manage to good some sleep tonight, don't think I'm in for the best night ever 😂

[WonderfullySunny]

@Bez9087 good luck for today 🍀🍀🍀 will be thinking of you and the girls!

@Pumpkinma and @Loosemoose28 yup couldn't agree more! For some reason LO favours one position so my right side ribs ache constantly and then are really uncomfortable when he stretches. I was reading that they don't have too much more length to put on just weight, I find that kind of reassuring somehow?!

[Fieau]

Hope you don't mind if I jump back in here. Was on the earlier threads and then disappeared. I'm 33+5 and have a few weeks left at work. Can't wait to finish! Although I'm excited about meeting the baby I feel really sad about the thought of not being pregnant anymore. Does anybody else have that?
I think part of it is that we spent such a long heartbreaking journey trying to get pregnant that I am trying to make the most of it!

[Bez9087]

Thanks @wonderfullysunny I am so so so nervous. Just want it over and done now to know a plan of action. Hardly slept last night from worrying and torn between adamant they won’t just take them out tomorrow it will be more planned and then the other side of thinking they may just do that. Argh only another hour till my scan. We worked out she needs to have put on 1lb 1oz to stay on the invisible line she jumped onto last scan but then it took her 4 weeks to get 1lb 6oz on so cant see her putting over a 1lb on in two weeks. long as she gains at least 8oz she will have hit the bottom centile but not dropped below it which I can only hope will be good 🤞🏻 Time will tell I guess will update you when we can.
@fieau I’m the same I’m torn as wanting it over now so fed up and then keeping them in as long as possible as it’s my last pregnancy.

[dkb15164]

@WonderfullySunny have the same thing with my right ribs, have had it since just after 20 weeks and it hurts like hell. I do the stretch where you put your hands up high on a wall for 5-10 minutes to relieve it but usually comes back right after
@Loosemoose28 @Pumpkinma my balls actually the comfiest thing of late other than lying down. Sit and study at my desk with it as well, it's great and bouncing a little on it stops baby kicking as a distraction as it must lull her to sleep or something. Only thing I've actually found any use for relieving back ache/overall ache. Did accidentally slip off it the other day and had a nasty fall on my tailbone so make sure you have a handle on something if possible
@Fieau In a totally different situation to you (unplanned) so can't say I feel the same exactly. More a conflicting feeling of "I can't take another 5 and a half weeks of this bloody pregnancy" mixed with "I have too many things to do in 5 and a half weeks, it's not enough time"

[carryondoctor]

Hello all! Can I play?

Just booked an ELCS for 5 April... eeeek!!

Baby having a quieter day to worry me today, after bouncing around like a football yesterday and apparently having moved to a different position, based on how it feels. Aren't anterior placentas fun??!

[DaisyLand]

@carryondoctor thats good! how many times have you been checked? I've been 7 times cuz of it but as last time with the obstrecian he had been moving for a week they said not yet... i've got a new appoitment in a few weeks so hopefully they'll agree to it tho for me i think induction is the way. How many weeks will you be by then?

He's having a quiet day today :( just been to mw and heart was good so trying to stay positive and calm. Also he's engaged and damm it hurts so much when walking!

[DaisyLand]

@bez havent forgotten about you, hope everything goes ok today!