Posifrickinspring thread for PG after MC!

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If we can't be positive about the weather what can we be?

Welcome posters new and old.

Scan was okay. Baby measuring right and heartbeat still there. They could see a bleed above my cervix which they said puts me at greater risk of a miscarriage but didn't say much else. I have my scan on Monday so I guess if things do go wrong, it won't days long to find out.

I'm so glad to hear that kirin. I hope the bleeding settles down and all is still well on Monday.

Fingers crossed kirin, I hope everything continues for you x

That's good news @kirinm although I can understand why it is only partly reassuring. Must have been great to see the heartbeat though. I know lots of people who bled in pregnancy (I did with DS) so there is a chance it will resolve and the pregnancy will continue. Lots of love to you - take it easy whenever you can!

They actually let us hear the heartbeat today which was quite mad!

I'm really pleased to hear that Kirin - and happy that they saw you so quickly. Fingers very tightly crossed that Monday brings more good news for you

kirinm so glad to log back on and see this news. Sending very best wishes for Monday.

Just trying to waste away some time at work- you may be interested to know the miscarriage association are seeking views on an amendment to the law to allow registration of pregnancy losses before 24 weeks (not force them). They have also introduced a new thing where you can register your loss as a star (the idea made me cry!) www.miscarriageassociation.org.uk/

Great news Kirin! It's nerve wracking but sounds like baby is doing really well in there, good luck for Monday x

That's lovely news @kirinm, I understand your worries though, how are things today? I too know of many who bled frequently through pregnancy and even had quite large bleeds and all was ok.

How are you today @MsJuniper? I can understand that was a worrying appt. Thinking of you and glad they're monitoring you.

That's really interesting and a beautiful idea @Eastend2015. I will have a look. I wonder if it could have a knock on effect on the legal situation eg maternity rights and terminations.

Thanks @Ekphrasis - my ankles, feet & hands really swelled up last night but I don't know whether to be worried. Also I stopped taking aspirin at 34 weeks as that's what I was told at the beginning of the pregnancy, so I said to the consultant should I carry on taking it after all but she said no. But treatment for pre-e does include low dose aspirin. So I am wondering whether to ask someone else.

Ms Juniper have you phoned to ask about the swollen ankles etc? Maybe worth getting them checked out.. I'm 36 weeks today and was told to keep taking the aspirin to 37 weeks... Although having been told on Tuesday they think baby will need to come early I'm wondering if I should stop taking it...

Thanks @Ekphrasis I'm feeling less anxious today. Bleeding has now turned to brown and is very similar to the bleed I had at 5w. Nausea has made a reappearance today too which I'm less thrilled about. It's only a couple of days until my scan so now I'm just trying to concentrate on that.

Yes perhaps give them a call @MsJuniper just to be safe.

I was told at an appt yesterday to carry on till birth with the aspirin (or that I could as they never officially put me on but commented that half the women they saw were in it!) - the dr was quite young so maybe I'll check again next time.

Glad it's easing Kirinm, fingers crossed all continues to be well.

Hi all, and sorry for my absolute rubbish posting frequency. I do still read along, I just find myself being busy at work and still absolutely exhausted in the evenings.

@kirinm I'm very glad to hear that the bleeding is subsiding. I know it's only
anecdotal, but a close friend of mine had a similar thing: a quite heavy bleed at about 12 weeks, going to the epu i the middle of the night, just to get the message that baby was fine. She didn't bleed at all through the rest of the pregnancy, and now has a happy and healthy two year-old. I hope and believe this will be true for you as well. So very stressful, though! All the best for your scan on Monday.

@MsJuniper sorry about the scare you had earlier this week. It is good that they look after you, though, it seems like you have a close follow-up from your hospital. I agree with the others, just call them if your worried. Most likely all will be fine, but perhaps they may put your mind at rest a bit. Only a few weeks to go! Do you know more about whether they will push forward your due date?

@LisaSimpsonsbff I hope you managed to deal with the maternity leave email without stressing too much. I think we all can relate to the feeling of not wanting to talk too much about it or plan anything baby related just yet. I have that feeling several times a day in all sorts of situations. Having to tell colleagues, my FIL who wants to start order a painting for the baby (so sweet, but imagine if it doesn't work out!!) and telling other parents at DDs nursery. It all makes me want to hide and hibernate, and not join the world again until I'm 39 weeks pregnant and in labour...

Anyway, nothing new here, 17 week now, very happy and grateful to have made it this far, but still worrying a lot. Now just want the 20 week scan to be over. I'll have it in a couple of weeks. In the meantime there is no way I can hide my pregnancy, I'm already enormous, I look at least 6 months pregnant (without exaggerating). So everybody knows, which has its own worries. Can't win, I guess. Hope all the rest of you are doing fine, and that days pass fast for those of you in the early days and weeks!

Thanks notparticularly - I really appreciate you replying, and I know you're right that we all feel like this to an extent. I also have the 'everybody knows' problem - I look visibly pregnant now (despite reading a post on Mumsnet earlier that said no one shows with their first this early!) and word has inevitably spread a bit at work.

19+3 today, and 5 days to go until the 20 week scan - very much counting down the days! We still haven't decided whether we're going to find out the sex - I'm not really letting myself think about it because I'm so scared we'll get bad news before we get to that bit of the scan.

Hello, may I join? Mc 17 months ago and have barely ovulated since, had ovarian drilling and fell pregnant a month after! Found out yesterday (at 10dpo) and am absolutely petrified. How to relax after the loss?!

Well, it happened. First actual sick moment, outside, in front of some poor girl. I feel sorry for everyone on my 4- hour train journey today! Always when it's least appreciated, hey?! -__-

Welcome and congratulations, millypad. I don't have any great insights on achieving pregnancy after loss zen - it very much eludes me! - but I think taking it one day at a time is the only real way. Hoping for a boring and uneventful pregnancy for you!

@MsJuniper sorry to hear that you had a worrying appointment.

In terms of the aspirin, I have asked at every appointment and have been told to keep taking it. I have also got quite swollen this week but so far bp ok and no protein. I asked for signs to look for and was told sudden and excessive swelling particularly in the face is definitely of concern so keep an eye out for that. Also headache, visual disturbance and pain high in abdomen. What I would say though is listen to your instinct. If you just don't feel "right" (my midwifes words this week) then call maternity assessment and go in. It will do no harm at all to get checked as often as you need to. Given the results and now the swelling I think they would like to see you. May as well have too many checks than too few. So sorry you're having a rough time. Take care

Hi @Millypad. I wish I had some words of wisdom to help you relax but I think it is just taking things a day at a time at this stage! And also telling yourself that the chances are in your favour that it will all be ok. So many of us have been where you are now and have a positive story to tell. Fingers crossed for you!

Fingers crossed for Monday too @kirinm, what a scare you've had.

@UnicornsandRainbows1 you poor thing. I hope the train journey is ok!

Ahh @UnicornsandRainbows1, marvellous timing! Luckily my only public sickness was ever in hospitals, and thankfully there was always a toilet to run to nearby!

@millypad Welcome! Seconding the advice to take it one day at a time. Keeping busy and making other plans has also been helpful for me. I’ve kept the pregnancy books I bought last time packed away and am just concentrating on getting through the early weeks. I sometimes say to myself in my head ‘the odds are on my side’. Wishing you a healthy pregnancy!

Thanks for the support and advice all. It's funny as I feel absolutely fine apart from a bit tired and ungainly! The ankles and hands/feet have returned to normal size - I've taken off my wedding ring just in case. I did keep an eye on my face (so to speak) as I'd read that too about it being a danger sign. Baby moving as usual so will keep monitoring and de-stressing as much as poss. Oh and I've carried on with the aspirin although 75mg not 150.

Welcome @Millypad - great that you have become pregnant again after such a difficult time. My only relaxing tip is not to worry about worrying - it's inevitable and there is no point adding an extra layer of angst. Once I gave myself permission to feel a bit anxious, funnily enough it helped me get through the moment.

Hi, can I join? I've had to 2 miscarriages in the past 6 months and found out I'm expecting again last week! Absolutely terrified and to make it worse had a dream last night that I miscarried again any tips on how to take your mind off it?

Congratulations @KatieA1234. No wise words of advice, really, as I'm still a nervous wreck at nearly 19 weeks and am now preparing myself in case I get bad news at the 20 week scan! Each scan for me has been a no sleep, loss of appetite, throwing up with nerves event. The anxiety doesn't truly ever go. However, just take each day as it comes. I see each passing day and week as a milestone. Threads like this are also a fantastic support, as we all 'get' it!