Posifrickinspring thread for PG after MC!

[BertieBotts]

If we can't be positive about the weather what can we be?

Welcome posters new and old.

Hi. I would like to join the thread if possible?

Not sure how it works yet getting my head around all the acronyms.

I had a miscarriage in June 2016 at 8.3 weeks (found at 12 week scan) and a chemical at 5 weeks in July 2016.

I am now 12+6 so far so good. PG after MC is so hard. I spend my days checking my knickers for blood and jiggling my boobs to make sure they still hurt. Sorry if that is TMI but just being real.

Thoughts with you all its so difficult to relax and enjoy pregnancy after mc

xxxxx

Thanks foxtrot. I've been entered into a trial because I'm at higher risk of pre-eclampsia. At my dating scans they did some dopplers to look at the blood flow through the uterine arteries. This is how they picked up the narrowing. If l wasn't in the trial it would never have been found because it isn't routinely looked for. All I need to do at the moment is carry on taking Aspirin and hope the little thing keeps growing nicely. I guess it is one of those things that could exist in lots of people but not cause any problems.

Captain, perhaps you can rearrange the dates with the hotel rather than cancelling?

Hi bearface and welcome - it's nice to pass where you were before. Do be warned your symptoms will probably reduce now you're heading for the second trimester which is always worrying but it's normal.

Keepon, that sounds very likely.

Another gentle hand hold here keepon, sorry you’ve got more things to worry about

I’ve never known time pass so slowly. It’s what you said lisa, I’m going to be weeks pregnant for 100 years. I resurrected the Ovia pregnancy app in my efforts to embrace this new chance and I’m torn between reading the updates on the likely growth of tiny arm buds in there and wanting to hide away from all of it just in case!

Exciting to have the date for your scan bertie.

@bearface1983 constantly giggling my boobs. First thing I do when I wake up is poke them...🙈

Oh god @AnneLovesGilbert the passage of time feels like it's been at a standstill for so long! I am now at the stage where people have started saying "oh gosh that's gone quickly hasn't it?" and I have to grit my teeth and smile when inside I'm like no it feels like years since my BFP and it is literally years (3.5) since my first BFP after DS.

So another appt today and another doctor so yet more going over the same ground. The baby's abdomen is still large but has slowed since the insulin. Head has increased more rapidly but DH and DS both have big heads! Doctor said they wanted to move delivery forward to 10-14 days from now which I was ok with in theory and happy to go with whatever is safest although it would mean my mum would miss the birth . Anyway after a lot of chats and second opinions they decided not to move it after all. So three weeks from now (or sooner if she makes a dash for it) I'll hopefully have that baby. Please please please.

Not at all Foxtrot! :) It sounds like quite normal anxiety to me.

MrsJ, getting close now! Have you got things prepared?

Foxtrot I get what you mean. I was saying to DH the other day that one of the things that I'm finding mentally exhausting right now is that now things have got a bit further I find I worry on so many levels at once. I worry every day that that will be my last day pregnant, but I also lie awake worrying about the growing rates of teenage mental health problems and whether I'll be a good enough mum to support him through that! I feel both completely disbelieving that I'll get as far as giving birth, but at the same time I'm starting to get anxious about birth. Felt a bit like you last night after dinner with a friend (never been pregnant, says she'll start TTCing in 3 years) who was generally sweet and lovely and asking me lots of questions, but came out with a couple of gems:

'I'm going to pick to have a casearean. I'll tell them I have a fear of childbirth. I don't get why anyone would have a vaginal birth and risk damaging their vagina.'
'My friend's wife didn't put on any weight apart from the baby itself, and she was smaller than you are now at full term. It was amazing, she looked completely normal a couple of weeks after giving birth.'
Both of which were a bit... Erm, thanks?! And made me start worrying about birth damage and my post birth body. Again, from a birth that I don't really believe I'll have. This whole thing is a mindfuck!

All v low risk and we’re having a boy!!! Made up

Great news, coastalchick! What's your due date?

My anxiety levels are rising now. I have always had breast tenderness as an early sign of pregnancy but am not really getting it this time (I am still only 4+3 so I know it is early days). The lack of it is just worrying me :(. Did anyone else not get breast tenderness in pregnancy?

Thanks Lisa! 17 sept - 5 days before my 40th!!!

I think every pregnancy is different moomoo but I didn’t get tenderness really until quite a bit later x

@MsJuniper that is frustrating! Only a few weeks to go for us now, sorry there's been a bit of toing and froing for you. I have an appointment for a scan and to be booked in for my section next Thu. I'm still assuming ta all happening on Tue 27th but who knows?!

I'm still taking my aspirin and iron tablets and energy levels are up a little I think, but I cannot get to sleep at night for my mind racing with all the "what ifs". I just need this baby safely in my arms now.

People are driving me mad too, but I know I'm just being grumpy. I was in work yesterday and people were falling over themselves to tell me how "huge" I am. And today I'm being told I'm "neat". All everyone wants to talk about is the baby, even perfect strangers. I get they are just trying to be nice but I'm struggling with it! I'm still not all that comfortable talking about it, and I would really rather make conversations about something else. I wish it wasn't so obvious.

Excellent news @coastalchick!

@moomoo85 I am on my 5th pregnancy (have 2 children) and can honestly say they have all been completely different. With DD I didn't have breast tenderness at all, with this one it's the worst I've ever had it from minute 1. The others have all been somewhere in between. Try not to read too much into it, not easy I know.

Yayh @coastalchick! It's such a relief to get those results, isn't it!

@moomoo85 My experience regarding tenderness is similar to others in that it has varied a lot. With dd it was there from the start, whereas this time I had nothing until now, when they are itching like crazy every afternoon (revenge for those first weeks of nothing I suppose). Try not to worry, symptoms vary a lot.

@LisaSimpsonsbff Sorry about your insensitive friend! What is up with assuming it's a good thing to not put on weight? Your body is supposed to build some storage of fat that it can use for breastfeeding after the baby is here. I've been huge (+19 and 16 kg) with both my children but my experience is that if you eat healthy-ish, breastfeed and go for a daily walk, you'll be back to being yourself after 6-12 months. So not two weeks (obviously!!), and of course it varies from woman to woman, but I'm sure you'll be perfectly fine. Having said that, I think your worries are very normal for a first time mum, but I get that it is frustrating to worry about both that and something going wrong at the same time.

We had our 20 week scan today, and all looked perfectly fine. Very relieved. I even managed to buy a couple of bodies and leggings in size newborn afterwards. Felt nice I don't think I will stop worrying until she is here, but today we are on track and I'm feeling hopeful.

@itsgoingtoofast your post has made me feel more normal! I am similarly grumpy and sleepless. Although last night was the first night in weeks when I didn't have a long period of wakefulness and I felt amazing today. I had the choice of 27th or 28th for the section but there's a thing on at DS's school on the Tuesday so I went for the Weds. I've stopped taking the aspirin now.

Brilliant news @coastalchick and @notparticularlypatient - so great to get past those milestones 

@LisaSimpsonsbff she sounds more like a frenemy! I hope she has her good points...

Yay lovely to hear about lots of positive tests and scans.

I have just read about Panorama on our BT group and had googled it idly to find out where a person was from and realised that it's available in Germany! This is an expanded one which checks for a couple of issues that we were told we're higher risk for, so if we can have a noninvasive screening for this, then I feel like that's a good idea. Would have been lovely to know about it back when I was 9 weeks, but never mind. So I've sent off an email to our geneticist to ask her opinion, especially on whether we could get it covered by insurance, because the one which has all the things we need it to test for is nearly €500!

I'm feeling more movement every day at the moment which is lovely. Some turns, especially when I get dressed or put on a seatbelt (as if to say "Hey, you rearranged my room!") and some very occasional kicks as well but still mostly flutters.

DH was very disappointed not to find out the gender at our last visit because he's hanging onto that as something which will make it feel more real to him. I think we should be able to find out in April, so not long to go, but still. He keeps getting frustrated at me asking him questions about birth courses, hospitals etc. It's annoying because I would also love to not think about these things until later, but I'm aware that we only have limited time and I don't want to miss our chance.

Bertie I have been feeling more movement over the last week as well but so far nothing today which is annoying / worrying me as he has been super wriggly the past few days! I know it's still too early for regular movement but I can't help worrying. I'll be 17 weeks on Monday.

Will you find out the sex via panorama? Or just ask at your next scan?

I think I feel movement now, but still not really sure - maybe it's just gas! I'm 21+3, but with an anterior placenta so was fully expecting to feel movement later. Whatever it is that I do feel is always at the bottom of my bump, which I guess would make sense at that's where my placenta isn't.

I have an anterior placenta and I don't think I was sure I felt any movement until about 22/23 weeks (and then it was proper kicks-felt like a muscle twitch!)

had CTG monitoring yesterday as hadn't had as much movement in the previous 24 hours, but that was fine and she was really active last night. Finished up at work now, was emotional, but all good. just need to relax now for the next few weeks and hope little miss breech baby decides to do a wee flip for us

If we do panorama then we'd definitely find out the sex if it's an option, so we might even get it sooner - I hadn't really thought of that point!