Posifrickinspring thread for PG after MC!

[BertieBotts]

If we can't be positive about the weather what can we be?

Welcome posters new and old.

Welcome @AnneLovesGilbert and other new people!
@yellowfrontdoor I reckon u also need to join you on that one .. With my date set for induction i probably really need to get over the anxiety that comes with bringing any baby items into the house... Currently I'm just about managing the Cardigan and hat my mum has knitted. It is the knly baby thing we have here. My husband wants to fit the car seat this weekend so it is ready.. I keep telling him he can do it after baby arrives while we are still at the hospital. I know it is silly and i know having things ready won't change anything but it is still incredibly hard..
@MsJuniper I'm not sure if day I'm ready for induction... I don't feel very prepared and it all still seems so unknown. But I am trying to look only at the positive side which will be that the baby will be here and all being well everything goes according to plan. I do trust the doctor though and if it's what she thinks is best for both baby and me then I will do anything she suggests.. My current birth plan is something along the lines of do anything and everything you think necessary to get baby here safely.
How far are you now? You mustn't have long left either?

That birth plan sounds really sensible @Smurf123. When I had DS I did similar - went through various scenarios and what I preferred/consented to in each case, but not too rigid, just whatever is safest.

I am booked for a cs a month tomorrow - seems both v close and too far away. I just want to get stuff in order for my replacement who starts on Monday so if I need to make a speedier exit it's all in place. I have my bp check tomorrow to see how that's going and another growth scan next week.

@Niketan glad you had a good scan - I think the heart shape is quite common so I hope it doesn't mean too much worry for you. I know it's easier said than done though.

@AnneLovesGilbert great you have been under the RMC so are being well looked after. I wasn't prescribed clex etc so I can't offer any experience on that front. My RMC did scans at 7 & 9 weeks before I moved over to the antenatal clinic - they would have done an 11 week if I'd wanted too.

@Niketan mine is also slightly heart-shaped. No-ones ever really seemed to care so I'm assuming it doesn't effect much.

Hi @Smurf123, I remember you! So glad things are going well

I'll take a decaff coffee Bertie and MsJuniper

I've been offered scans at 6, 8 and 10 weeks under RMC then, all being well, moving onto normal care.

Not a clue why he wants to see me tomorrow. I'm on the drugs, had the bloods back, too early to scan, the clinic is mad busy and already overbooked, so seems a bit daft.

Hi ladies - just popping in quickly with some positive scan news. I had my 20 week yesterday and all was ok with the baby. I have an anterior placenta which explains why I was feeling movement early and then nothing because they suspect as the placenta grew it moved in front of the baby.

Hope everyone else is ok. xx

So glad to hear that AKP79 - congrats on the good scan! I have an anterior placenta (they told me at the 12 week scan) and I haven't felt a thing yet.

I am feeling irrationally resentful of a group of children today, because my scan appointment was originally today but I moved it to tomorrow because DH is on a school trip (he's a teacher, not a school child!) and I now feel like my need to get this scan over with is greater than year 8's need to go see a castle! (Joking) (Mostly)

Decaf  for all - great to hear about the successful scans and hope your day goes quickly @LisaSimpsonsbff to get to yours!

@LisaSimpsonsbff - ahh really hope today flies by for you. I understand that anticipation/anxiety all too well.

Annoyingly my placenta wasn't anterior at 12 weeks it would seem it's moved down. That will be exactly why you haven't felt anything, it's so frustrating.

Absolutely fucking bricking it for my scan tomorrow. Either I've made it all up and there's nothing there, or that it's already stopped growing. I'm not sure what I'd want to be the case, of course for everything to be okay, but what if there's a heartbeat and it just stops all over again. I can't do this again for the 3rd time. I really, really can't. I just want to cry for the entire day tbh.

I hate people who just sail through this and everything just works out. No one should ever have to feel this scared and anxious.

Sorry you're feeling so anxious unicorns but completely understand it, especially for a first scan. Will have fingers very, very crossed for you tomorrow and hope time before it passed quickly for you.

Smurf if you can bear it I would try and let him do the car seat this weekend if you can. Reason being sometimes they aren't as obvious as they seem and if he needs to go back and look up a youtube tutorial or take it back to the shop or whatever, you don't want that while you're in hospital. Perhaps you can avoid using the car on Monday so you don't need to see it? And put a blanket over it when you go in for your induction on Tue, though it might feel better by then.

Good luck for tomorrow, Unicorns, scan anxiety is horrible. Can you plan something nice for Thursday or the weekend? I know it won't really take your mind off it but something else to look at rather than the horrible sense of impending doom!

@unicornsandrainbows sending loads of luck and love for tomorrow. Let us know how you get on.

Can I get some advice? I’ve been unable to get an appointment with a midwife until a few weeks time (I’m currently 6w4). When I found out I was pregnant I was certain I would want an early scan. The doctor said I should try and see the midwife early on because they could prob refer me. But now I’m not so sure I even want the scan. I’ve only had one pregnancy that ended in mmc detected at 9w3. So do you think I should I push for a midwife appointment earlier ie. try & get a cancellation or just go with my gut and leave it be? I’m not sure whether the scan would reassure me or just take me back to a traumatic experience unnecessarily. I guess my question is, people who have had early reassurance scans, were they reassuring?!

ek78 I think - and sorry, this isn't very helpful! - it massively depends. Mostly on your previous experiences, I think. I did find my early scans (I had four in first trimester!) reassuring - they didn't take away all my anxiety by any means, but they kept it a bit more under control. But I'd never had a good scan before - two of mine ended naturally before a scan, and the third was a MMC picked up at 7 weeks; this also meant that I was very lucky (well, lucky relatively in the world of recurrent miscarriage!) as my 'furthest I've ever got' came quite early on. So for me scans didn't reassure me that everything was ok, but they did help me with the 'this pregnancy is not my previous pregnancies' mantra. I know a lot of people who have previously had good scans followed by losses feel very differently, and find them much less reassuring. I do find the day before a scan absolutely awful, but for me that immediate pre scan anxiety was outweighed by the relief of hearing that it was still there; for other people the calculation is very different and so scans increase rather than reduce anxiety.

Sorry, that's not much help! I think it's so individual that if your gut is telling you to wait then I'd listen to it.

ek8 do you know at what point the pregnancy stopped developing last time? I found it reassuring to have a scan once I got past the point I had got to before, although it wasn't totally 100% reassurance, it was still a good sign.

Good luck tomorrow @UnicornsandRainbows1 lets us know how it goes!!

Implantation...anyone shed any light on symptoms? Apart from spotting (which I've not got) ...not sure what's going on.

Also CM, what should it be like??

Sorry lots of questions x

@UnicornsandRainbows1 sending you so much good luck for tomorrow. I'll be thinking of you. Xxx

Thanks @bertiebotts &@lisasimpsonsbff. I’m thinking I might try and get a scan before 12 weeks but after where I got to last time (even though I didn’t really get to 9w in terms of development). I’m at the point now where the pregnancy stopped developing last time so very tuned in to symptoms changing. Last time the fatigue and sore boobs eased and I thought it was just a new phase of the pregnancy ☹️. I’ll
Play it by ear. Thanks for sharing your thoughts on this. I don’t feel comfortable discussing this stuff with the few people who know about the pregnancy -apart from my partner but I’m aware I’m not the easiest person to live with right now! - So it’s such a relief to talk about things here.

Thinking of you @UnicornsandRainbows1 - hope there's happy news tomorrow. Sorry you are feeling so anxious.

@ek78 I had previous successful early scans which then turned out not to work out so for me they weren't reassuring as such but more like @LisaSimpsonsbff says - a chance to see this pregnancy for what it is. After my keenness for early scans in previous pgs, I wasn't in a hurry this time but the RMC arranged one for 7wks anyway. It felt more like a confirmation that there was something there than a reassurance if that makes sense. If you don't see a mw for booking until 9+ weeks, are you likely to then have to wait until your 12w scan though? It might be worth trying to push that forward to arrange a scan for 9ish weeks.

I have my blood pressure check tomorrow, not sure what else is happening if anything, ie the blood test results etc. It's at the maternity day assessment unit not antenatal so not sure how everything joins up. The whole hospital system is a mystery to me. I have been trying to sort stuff out at work in case I need to finish sooner but still have piles of crap to get through. Bought some Large Pants though just in case 

@Star88 I previously always had implantation bleeds like periods but only one day (but had nothing this time) - some people get a blob of cm or pains. I did find after implantation I'd then have lots of thin white cm (sorry tmi)

Good luck for today @UnicornsandRainbows1 🤞🏻
Will be thinking of you.

Will catch up on thread

I'm had more bleeding. I'm not going to rush to the EPU for now. Going to see if it's just spotting again or if it continues. I can't cope with this!

Kirin I'm really sorry that you're having all this stress - hope the spotting ends quickly.

Ek78 that makes sense. Just wanted to point out (and I know it's really hard) to try not to focus too much on symptoms as it can be really normal for them to come and go, but when it's been a bad sign for you so hard it's so hard not to panic. Actually, that was one thing I did find reassuring about the scans - I had some stuff that worried me (cramps, very mild symptoms) and even though the scans couldn't tell me that everything would be ok in the future, they did tell me that I was wrong about my 'gut feelings' that it had already ended, and so that I couldn't trust my symptoms, if that makes sense?

V. heavy snow here so worried that my scan this afternoon will be cancelled. I'm 20+2 and it says it'll be done before 20+6 so hopefully they'd slot me in in next few days if so, but feel like I can't get through another night of worry - I didn't sleep much last night.

@kirinm so sorry to hear that. I really hope it's just some random spotting and that it stops soon. Did anyone say whether it was likely to happen again when you went to the epu the last time? Completely understand the feeling of not being able to cope with it. This is not what you needed. Keeping everything crossed for you.

@UnicornsandRainbows1 the best of luck for your scan today.

@MsJuniper I hope all is well at your appointment. How far along are you now? Not long to go, is it?

@BertieBotts thanks for offering support, I will likely be a wreck before my scan appointment, so might need some serious hand holding on Tuesday. Luckily it's in the morning, so don't need to wait too long.

@LisaSimpsonsbff it's your scan today as well, isn't it? Hope it is the really nice experience it can be when all is well and you get to see your baby that actually looks like a baby

They said it could happen again but I think they'd still prefer for it to be brown blood rather than bright red. I think I'm going to just have to hope it doesn't continue. Unfortunately I can't keep missing half a day from work every week. Work aren't going to be overjoyed at me being pregnant anyway but my sick record is starting to look awful too.

Do work know you're pregnant Kirin? Totally understand if you don't want to tell them (I didn't tell mine until 14 weeks and I wanted to put it off longer but we were arranging stuff for this autumn then so I felt I had to), but my understanding is that if they know they can't count pregnancy related problems/illness as part of your normal sick record?

No they don't know and I really don't want to tell them until I'm absolutely sure there's going to be a baby. Rightly or wrongly (obviously wrongly) I'll be written off as soon as I have a baby so trying to avoid that for now. If the bleeding doesn't get heavier than I guess it's just yet another bleed. I just hate the thought of having to go to work when I'm this anxious.