She called me an older mum!

[Trulyscrumptious12]

So I’ve been trying to get to sleep for the last 2 hours but something has really been bugging me. Me and dh went to our first antenatal class today, I was so excited and did enjoy it but while I was there these 2 girls kept staring at me, as we were leaving they asked me how old I was and I told them (I’m 28, dh is 30) they laughed and told me I’m well to old to be having my first baby and people would think I’m it’s granny when I pick them up from school. I know I shouldn’t let it bother me but it did, it’s all I’ve thought about all evening, yes I would have liked to have had kids earlier but I didn’t meet dh until I was 26 luckily we wanted the same things, we got married after 6 months and 6 months after that I got pregnant. So I guess what I’m asking is: what age do you think is a young mum? What age do you think is an old mum? How old were/are you when you’re having you babies?

[ReelingLush18]

What nasty rude girls - classic mean girls Totally agree! It's why even as a fully functioning adult I quake in my shoes (internally) when I come across a group of the wrong sort of teenage girls when I'm out and about. I was relatively recently 'sneered at' and mocked for my 'posh' accent by a group of 16 year old girls (on a bus), with no provocation I might add. It was horrible and totally unnecessary.

[cherryontopp]

Your a lot nicer than I am OP.

I wouldn't be able to keep my mouth shut. Mid twenties/early thirties is when a lot of women have their first babies as they want to get a career or life experience first.

17&18 mean girls and I would have said something really bitchy and put them in their place. Why they would feel to make comments like that is beyond me.

[restingbemusedface]

Eh?! I was by far the youngest mum in my NCT class at 30 - in fact after me the youngest was 35, and 3 of them were 40. 28 is young!

[katycb]

I was 30 when I had my twins and was about average at toddler groups etc. However at twins group I was one of the youngest (so don't worry isitmummy!) As lots had had IVF and twins are more common the older you get. I am also a nursery teacher and the kids mums at work range from about 18-45 with I would say the average being mid 30s

[GruffaloPants]

They were rude. But they're just kids.
I would regard you as youngish! I had DC1 at 33, DC2 at 38, and haven't ruled out another at 40. I don't feel all that old.

When I was having DC2 I was on a ward with 2 women in their early 20s. We were all nice to each other, you just met a pair of idiots!

[BoredOnMatLeave]

I thought from the thread title you were going to say you were 48! Your area must be young. At my antenatal class (nct which I think makes a difference) I was the youngest by 10 years and I was 23. 20years younger than the oldest.

You are not an old mum at all!

[Dingdong1975]

Had my 1st at 31. I didn't think about having children until I have a career and a house tbh! Where do you live? May be 28 is older than average over there? But 28 definitely not old. Mums at my DD class are around my age.

[RandomUsernameHere]

They were so rude OP, ignore them.
I was 28 (and the youngest in my NCT class) if that makes you feel any better.

[jcsc]

28 is still a great age and certainly not old. Even if you was way into your 50's it's got sweet FA to do with anyone else. I would have lost my temper with them, I'm suffering from pregnancy rage if there is such a condition x