September babies 2018

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Hey everyone I thought I'd start a thread for September babies!

I've found out I was pregnant yesterday which was amazing! I'm a first time mum so I'm new to all of this, conceived cycle 2.

When should I contact GP to confirm pregnancy, has anyone got any advice this early on?

Has anyone else sneezed so hard it really really...and I mean really hurt?
Also thinking of a water birth because my go to when I'm not feeling great is a long soak in the bath so I'm hoping it will help haha

Tinkerbelle568 I also like soaking in the bath. I loved laying in the bath with my first. Hated being in water with my 2nd made me feel ill. Had a bath at the hospital when in labour made me feel sick.
I enjoy being in water with this one so hoping it will help with labour.

I was wondering about baths too, I have cramps and I love a hot bath and thought it might help; but apparently you can’t have a hot bath as it may cause issues?! It doesn’t say so on NHS though which is my go-to for sensible info. Can anyone shed any light? How hot is too hot??

@81louise sorry didn’t see your post at first. That must have been scary you for you, how are things now? There seems to be a big range of ‘normal’, it’s so hard isn’t it!

Yeah I've stoped having my baths hot. I have them warm enough so that it doesn't feel cold or room temperature but cold enough that I dont go red, sweat or get a headache...and usually the warmth only lasts 10 minutes 😂😂

Also has anyone been thinking about an epidural. The only reas on it sounds good to me is so that I don't feel myself tear....Tmi....but with reading up on it I feel it's better not to have one. I'm not sure.

I don't like the idea of an epidural. Although I was in alot of pain with my labour with my 2nd child I still wouldn't have one. It can slow the labour down as you can't feel this contractions.
I had gas and air and pethidine, I ended up with a 4th degree tear and I didn't feel it.

@tinkerbelle568, that happened to me one night, it was so so sore and really freaked me out. But it was a one off so not too concerned

I just told my parents that I'm pregnant and that I'm doing this on my own. They were so shocked as they really hadn't expected it. I've been crying ever since cos they didn't sound happy. I'm just hoping that they can get their heads round it soon😢

@niclw im sure they will get their heads round it. My mum knows but more worried about telling my dad's family and my brother as I'm young so I'm their little girl. Thankfully my mum and step dad are happy and excited so that's a little less stress.

I don't think I want an epidural anymore but so worried about the pain so I'm keeping my fingers crossed for a water birth but I know it's not guaranteed.

@Tinkerbelle568 Thank you. I think they had assumed that they wouldn't be getting grandchildren as I'm 38 and my brother doesn't want them. I just wish they could have said something at least vaguely positive x

Niclw, sorry to hear that.
Not matter what they may be feeling, surely they can put their own feelings aside and give you the support you need.

@niclw I’m sure they will be fine. It will just have been a shock and worry if they didn’t think it was coming. Can you tell them how you feel? Perhaps they haven’t realised they have upset you. They will be excited once they realise what it all actually means i’m sure. I’m finding it hard to imagine that this is a tiny baby so they perhaps haven’t even thought of it like that yet! Xx

@niclw so sorry to hear you don't think your parents sounded happy about your pregnancy. Maybe it will just take some time for them to get their heads around things and in time they'll be excited for you.

@ScoobySue10 I hope you get the birth you like :) I won't be thinking about it until way closer to the time cos i'll be too scared and worry about it too much otherwise! I was shocked when i went to my doctors appointment and they asked what hospital I wanted to give birth at lol i don't think i'll be quite so kenos watching one born every minute now either!

Thank you all of for your support. I'm just hoping that my friends are more supportive when I tell them in a few weeks time x

Thanks @PumpkinPatch000 always reassuring to know you’re not alone! My midwife appointment was really positive (I skipped the dr and asked for a midwife appointment straight off). She went through all the do’s and don’ts of being pregnant, all the tests you can have and was really lovely and reassuring. She also went through all the appointments I’d have and where the birthing centre etc is. She came to house and was here for two hours! My letter for my scan came in a non descript white envelope so just looked official nothing out of the ordinary.

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@niclw have you got a close friend you can talk to now so you have some support? Xx

I told a friend at work on Friday as I really needed to talk to someone. She has been really supportive and happy for me. I'm worried about telling my other friends particularly as one of them can be really judgemental but I'm hoping they will be happy for me. They are always saying how amazing I am with their children.

@niclw my parents responded badly first time round even though I’d been married for five years- I was upset at the time but now realise that they were just worried but didn’t know how to express it properly. Once the baby is here it will be different I’m sure xxx

Thank you @radio4junkie c

@niclw In my experience people who have been lucky and found a partner and had kids easily are often judgemental of decisions others make because they just can’t imagine the scenario at all. they don’t like it when people do things differently to how they did it - often because it undermines their own security a bit I think! Tell those who won’t judge you first and then let her judge away! You can let her get over it In her own time then (and she will) and just focus on enjoying it :) xxxxx

Sorry guys! I just realised when I read that back that it sounded a bit bitter! I’m not at all - I have just been in a similar situation before and it inflamed old anger! Sorry 😬

@niclw I’m 6 weeks pregnant and going to be doing this on my own as well. So sorry that your parents have been unsupportive, I hope they change their minds. Mine have been great (thank goodness as I’m still living at home) but I am expecting judgement and criticism from friends and other family. All the stress isn’t what you need right now, hopefully you will start getting the support you need at what is already such a scary and stressful time x

@Ktn35 Thank you for being supportive. I will try to enjoy it once I've got over my patents reaction. At least I've stopped crying now. I'm not going to worry about my friends for a few weeks.

@Hedgiequeen I'm glad that your parents are being supportive for you x

There's me thinking I was past the sickness. Lol.
Been feeling sick most of the day and retching after feeling normal last 2 days and i'very just been sick.
Oh well. Let's see what tomorrow brings.