Posifrickentive into 2018 - thread 20 for those pregnant after mc

[MsJuniper]

New thread - bringing lots of happiness, support and understanding through Christmas and into the new year!

Sorry to hear so many of us are stressing. I've been quite optimistic, even bought some things, I guess as a coping mechanism - but then it gets close to the next scan and I wonder if I've imagined the whole pregnancy. I'll update tomorrow after my scan

I think the anxiety really ramps up as a scan date gets closer. I’ve unfortunately experienced two MMCs but now I’m past those dates and into the second trimester I’m feeling a little more relaxed (for now!). I hope it’s the same for the rest of you.

Look forward to hearing hopefully really good scan news grumpy

Flatwhite how lovely to have jumped a few days! Great news.

Hope you’re both doing well, peach and noparticularpattern

@lifeofpies - yes I agree!

@flatwhite32 - sorry, missed that recent post - great news!

Just got my booking appointment - 17 Feb so almost 9 weeks. Had it at 8 weeks last time. Wonder if they're doing it cos I lost it just after 9 weeks last time so they think I may not need appointment, or if they're just inundated after Xmas and new year shags meaning more than average number of babies!!

I can't believe I am interviewing for my maternity replacement today. Seems so definite for someone who still struggles to use the word pregnant. I keep thinking, but what if it all goes wrong?

Sorry so many of you are having scanxiety. Hopefully you will be in my shoes in a few months...

I found the heartbeat with a doppler this morning! :) That means I've officially got to my milestone I was waiting for. 10 weeks and heartbeat or scan.

That's fab news Bertie. I've got my harmony scan in 20 minutes - really hoping I'm still measuring ahead of my dates (should be 10+2 today as per scan at 8wks where I measured 8+3). If I go by ovulation date I'm only 9+6 which would be too early for harmony. Feeling sick with nerves

Very pleased to report one wriggly baby! Measuring a bit ahead again (10+4 by one measurement and 10+2 by the other). Harmony results within the week! So happy and relieved.

@grumpy and @bertie - yay!!!! Great news!!!!

What a fantastic scan @TheGrumpySquirrel !! The picture is great. Congrats.

So happy for you grumpy and bertie! What a lovely clear scan too.

Yay what a lovely scan!! I can't wait until my next one, I want to see some wriggling and legs

We've got the keys for our new place today so literally walking around planning what furniture will go where. The "spare room" has officially now been promoted to baby's room! DS has an enormous bedroom all to himself as well. Feel very lucky right now.

Lovely scan @TheGrumpySquirrel !

So beautiful @TheGrumpySquirrel! So happy for you ❤️. Xx

Thanks guys I am so happy and relieved! Hoping I can relax and enjoy this pregnancy now

Brilliant scan picture @TheGrumpySquirrel Congratulations!

So happy for you @TheGrumpySquirrel!

I know this is meant to be a positive thread but can I just ask whether some of you just knew you'd miscarried? I'm absolutely convinced I've had another miscarriage. Definite lessening in severity of sore boobs and nausea. I don't feel completely exhausted anymore. I'm actually in floods of tears as I already feel like I'm grieving. I'm even trying to work out the practicalities of when i should have a scan. I was thinking of asking one for Monday but I have a backlog of work that I can't not do so I might have to leave it for a few more days.

Hi @kirinm, it's a difficult one to answer because I did get to a point with my mcs that I knew that was it, symptoms gone and didn't feel pregnant any more, BUT during my successful pregnancy, I had plenty of times when I thought it was over and I was wrong. Symptoms do come and go, and when they go you just feel completely normal. So I think it's hard to tell if it's a fear or reality.

Oh kirin it’s so difficult isn’t it. My second MMC I honestly did not see it coming, to the point where I went to the scan alone. I am quite in tune with my body and always thought I would know. Similar to Holly, in this pg and with DS there have been times when I was convinced it was over, only to be proved wrong. Symptoms do fluctuate...

@kirinm Oh you poor thing. I did know with my first pregnancy that it wasn't going to work out - I just had a feeling - but I didn't know the actual moment that the baby passed away, if that makes sense. Just wasn't surprised when there was no heartbeat at the next scan. BUT I've also had tons of moments in this pregnancy where I've been convinced it's all been over - in fact every scan for the first 25 weeks or so I was surprised every time
I saw or heard a heartbeat. So I honestly don't know.

I did quite regularly have the odd few days where my nausea declined and my sore boobs went away at around 8 weeks and never came back! So I honestly don't think that has to mean anything.

Sending you strength

Thank you all. I'm sat here in floods of tears trying to think of things I will be able to do that I wouldn't be able to do if I am still pregnant. Maybe it's self-preservation.

I was 8w on Thursday and as I went to bed I had a slight cramp very low down sort of above my pubic bone and if it's even possible to feel when it happens, I think it was then.

I've had no tears this pregnancy (except when I had a bleed at 5w but saw heartbeat after that). But today I am all over the place emotions wise. Thank you all for being understanding.

Sorry to hear you're having a rough day today kirin. I would say that with a two of my miscarriages I did know before but equally there have been plenty of times so far this pregnancy where I've been convinced it has ended and so far it is all looking ok. I do hope your gut instincts are wrong but if I were you I would try and sort a scan to find out one way or another.

Lovely scan pic grumpy.

Thanks. I've got some work to sort out (if I need to take time off if I do miscarry) so I'll go in at the beginning of the week and try and sort a scan for next week.

I wish I'd stayed detached from the pregnancy now.

I think we probably all have intentions of staying detached but I'm not sure it is really possible. The way I think about it is it I wouldn't be any less upset if it doesn't work out and therefore I may as well try my best to enjoy it around the worry. You're a human, you desperately want it to be ok and therefore you are attached.