Posifrickentive into 2018 - thread 20 for those pregnant after mc

[MsJuniper]

New thread - bringing lots of happiness, support and understanding through Christmas and into the new year!

@kirinm try not to fear the worst. Cramps are very normal as things stretch. And symptoms can start to lessen after 8-9wks. The fact you've seen a heartbeat is great. I really hope things work out for you xxx

Kirin, I've had lots of cramping and back pain but so far everything has been good, and yes symptoms can come and go. I know the self preservation thing though, and so if it helps to focus on other things, do that. I hope you get your scan booked.

For me when I've miscarried it's always started with spotting. But I've tended to go earlier. I don't know if it's different for a later one.

@kirinm so sorry to hear you're having such a horrible day. With my MMC at 12 weeks I still had pregnancy symptoms, so there really is no rule book . Definitely get a private scan arranged, or ring the EPU about your loss of symptoms. Symptoms do come and go a lot in pregnancy.

How are you @kirinm?

Sending positive thoughts Kirrin, hope you're ok.

Hi, thanks for asking. I am a lot less tearful than I was on Saturday. My symptoms have come back like an avalanche but I'm still not holding out much hope. I am trying to get as much work done as possible so I can try and get a scan towards the end of the week.

I think Saturday was quite therapeutic. I obviously don't want to miscarry but emotionally, it felt real enough on Saturday so that I feel I am ready if that is the outcome. Thanks so much for all being so kind and supportive.

Id recommend the private scan, as the NHS is on its knees and struggling for appointments, it took 2 weeks just to have my previous mc to be confirmed with a scan. I have 11 days til my early scan, LITERALLY counting down the days! Tested again today and cb has gone from 1-2 to 2-3. Im 4+5 so thats good right? Considering it stayed at 1-2 with my mc x

I don't particularly want to go private. The EPU local to me are excellent and based in an excellent hospital and as I'm nearly 9 weeks I don't want / couldn't cope with a medically managed miscarriage. I would want a ERPC. So I'd have to go to the NHS in any event. As this is pregnancy no.7 and they know my history, I think they'll be willing to see me.

I'd go private if I genuinely felt this was a reassurance scan. But I don't.

I'm so sorry you're going through this kirinm, I'm keeping everything crossed for you

Sometime it is therapeutic to go through the emotions, Kirinm.
I would stick with epau. As you say, you’d have to go anyway so it would prolong the process to go private first if there was a problem. Keeping everything crossed for you X

I'm sure your EPU will see you kirin. Have you had any luck sorting a scan? I hope work has been a welcome distraction today.

The midwife rang me today and I have to go for booking appointment tomorrow. Cue immediate thoughts about jinxing it. Not that I even believe that is possible. At least I don't have long to work myself up about it.

I had an mmc last year so know how everyone feels, I'm now about 8 weeks and still a nervous wreck.
I'm constantly worrying about symptoms, I've been feeling dreadful for the last week, constantly getting headaches as well as nausea. I don't know if headaches are a good or bad thing.

Just posting here to vent.

Today marks the mid point for the wait to find out what happens. Last Tues I saw my tiny bean with a HB (great) but found out I probably have a 50:50 chance of it surviving (it was very small and they weren't massively encouraging).
I have another scan in a week today to find out.

It's a truly tortuous wait. And it's going so sooooo slowly!

Symptoms coming and going. No blood but I didn't till after 10 weeks with MMC1 so who knows... I've done better than MMC2 (bleed at 5 ish weeks) which is a plus I suppose.

Sorry just wanted to get it all out!

Hope your doing OK Kiri and I was pleased to see someone's scan - was it grumpy?
Hope everyone is OK.

Dont lovely to hear from you. Well done for getting through the first week. How are you occupying yourself? I know it’s impossible to think of much else, no matter how hard you try.

ellie sorry about the headaches. I think they’re pretty common, unfortunately.

Happy booking in, keepon!

My last day at work today (voluntary redundancy - agreed before I got pg) but as I’ve been signed off for a while with HG it feels very odd and unfinished!

Hi @DontBuyANewMumCashmere I'm sorry you are going through this uncertainty, the waiting is horrid. @kirinm how are you holding up?

Yes was my scan pic. Have been relatively relaxed since then although have harmony results coming through in the next few days which I'm quite nervous about, as they believe my previous MMC was due to a chromosomal abnormality. Doing quite well at staying optimistic- I'm past where I miscarried last time. But can't think too much about it being an actual baby or I get too emotional. Am exhausted despite now over 11wks I feel even more tired than before.

I know I'm a dip in and outer on here, but I really wanted to share this with people who will appreciate what a milestone it is for me. I've just had my 16 week check up and there is a strong and healthy heartbeat. Hearing it was magical and something I never thought I'd get to hear!

That's fantastic @AKP79, great news. It does feel pretty unbelievable doesn't it.

I actually bought a small thing for the baby on Sunday which was quite scary but nice. 31 weeks today.

@DontBuyANewMumCashmere sorry to hear you've still a week to go. Time goes so slowly when waiting for scans. Fingers crossed for a positive outcome.

@AKP79 That's fab news. I have my 16 week midwife appointment next week on Tuesday and am losing sleep over it. So terrified.

I just wanted to pop in and say hello! I’ve not been on the thread for a while, but am 37 weeks now and believing that this baby will actually be coming into our lives soon!
It’s still a little sureal and I still feel a bit weird buying stuff, but if I don’t there’s not going to be nappies to wear etc!! I hope you’re well doing well 😃

Fox, I was told by the hospital dr recently to certainly keep taking while the placental blood vessels are developing which continues up to around 24 weeks. I'm going back at 28 weeks (now 25) and see what they say there after.

They don't officially tell women to take it now for my issue which was low birth weight/ small placenta in my nhs Trust, (no evidence for that) but they all seemed to have positive thoughts about it. Best taken at bedtime. They do prescribe here for preeclampsia.

Foxtrot same here, 2 MCs and my consultant didn't advise I take it, just sort of informed me sometimes they get RMC patients to take it...
So this pg I have taken one every day. I've read around a little bit and it seems general advice is to continue to take it until you reach 3rd trimester.

Congratulations AKP that is a real milestone!
Life I have a 3yo DD so she keeps me going! I think this would all be much much harder if I was trying for DC1 so I have every sympathy for everyone in that situation.
Had a tiny spotting last night so now convinced it's a no go. If it gets any heavier I'll call EPU but otherwise will continue to wait til next Tues.

Fingers crossed to everyone else.

At the very least if it doesn't work out I have a prosecco festival to attend in April and I'm going to get absolutely shit faced

Don't I'm thinking of you and keeping my fingers crossed. Really hope the odds swing in your favour.

I'm 5 weeks now and starting to worry about how good I feel, by this point in my preg with DD and with my miscarriage I felt dreadful, was wearing anti-nausea wristbands and eating crackers all day but I just don't feel sick at all, even the tiredness has gone. I also had pregnancy insomnia and that hasn't started yet. I'm still having positive tests, my boobs are huge and painful and of course no period. I'm driving myself mad, is this a bad sign?

Had my booking in yesterday and waiting for my early scan appointment now.

Great news on making it to 37 weeks mogul! And on hearing the heartbeat AKP!

Sorry about the spotting and torturous waiting dontbuy. I hope somehow time speeds up for you.

I survived my booking in appointment. They don't try and listen for a heartbeat at 16 weeks here so if things are still going ok I think I might book a private scan to get me through that bit.

fox, I am also taking Aspirin of my own accord. The midwife said yesterday that it is likely the consultant will recommend it anyway as I'm at higher risk of pre-eclampsia so based on that I would presume it is fine to take it throughout pregnancy.