Posifrickentive into 2018 - thread 20 for those pregnant after mc

[MsJuniper]

New thread - bringing lots of happiness, support and understanding through Christmas and into the new year!

My combined screening came back 1:120. We didn't do any further testing (wouldn't terminate purely for DS, only if major physical defects)
We figured 1:120 is a 99.17% chance of baby not having DS, and we weren't willing to risk MC with amnio. The NHS cut off is 1:150 which is 99.33% chance of a baby without DS. Harmony would have taken us another 4-5 weeks for results (couldn't get test done for 2 weeks locally)
I'm 39 so that will have increased risk. Doing further tests when categorised as low risk (or obviously in my case, even if high risk) might depend on what you'd do if you found out they did have DS, and as peachgreen says, it's a totally personal decision.

I'm struggling with work at the moment, it's physical, and long days, and even with some adjustments I have horrible backache at the end of the day. Only 6& 1/2 weeks left though

Thank you peach and hotcookie. I just called our hosp to enquire about testing and had a really helpful chat with a midwife who specialises in screening. She said that my results are good for my age - average is 1:230 or something. And as you both say, it depends on what we’d do with more info. I wouldn’t be willing to have an amnio, and as the test isn’t diagnostic then it’s a bit pointless. Just so different from DS, but I was only 34 then. Going to just be happy with their judgement of low risk.

Thank you all for talking it through, appreciate it X

Hi can i join? I had an early miscarriage at christmas, new cycle started the day my hcg went back to 0, concieved that cycle. Am 14dpo (4 weeks today) and constantly knicker checking. A bag of nerves. I have an early private scan booked in 2 1/2 weeks time.

Hope everyone has had an uneventful pregnancy so far 💐🍀🍀

EDD: 3/4 october

6 1/2 weeks, hotcookie - amazing! Do you think you’ll make it, or could your employer make more adjustments? It’s tough if you have to been on your feet/doing physical work.

Welcome Honeyucake86, I'm in a similar situation after miscarrying in November. I'm 12dpo and due around the 7th Oct. I'm going to have an early scan at my hospital and probably another private one before 12 weeks. Just a bit nervous about the booking in process, I'd rather do it after the scan but not sure if that's possible.

I think mine was 1/10000 risk and I considered that very low risk so didn't do anything else. Here, they only send you for further tests if your under 1/250 which is still pretty low risk relatively !

Congrats and welcome @Honeycake86!

Just checking back in on here.

Now have Harmony results and am low risk (1/10,000) for all the trisomies- 21 (Downs), 18 & 13

Was such a relief to hear the results!
Plus they did combined bloods at same time as Harmony and did NT scan on the 2nd appointment.
The combined results gave low risk as well but v glad we went straight for Harmony given my age (39).

I'm officially 13+3

Feels good to have got through all the scans & tests so far, had my booking last week and also my NHS dating scan this week.

Still a long old way to go though so only feeling a little bit less stressed!

I also wanted to say what a wonderful place the Fetal medicine centre is.
It's in Harley street.

We went there for Harmony- the cost is almost exactly the same as other places who offer it.

We stuck the whole cost all on the credit card I really wanted to have it done, it's a shame they don't offer NIPT in more NHS hospitals...but I've heard it may be rolled out in more places.

It's my due date today Baby seems very happy where she is though so I'm not expecting anything!

Turquoise so glad you had a good experience. We are due date partners!

Peach amazing! I hope you are comfortable enough to relax for the next however long.

Had a reassurance scan today (special offer if you've been at the place before) and I am measuring 15 weeks instead of 14+2! I've been really really unwell with a sickness and diarrhoea bug, so I'm relieved. Back to worrying tomorrow though knowing me!

Peach congrats on your due date! I’m officially into single figures of days remaining and I can honestly say it is doing my absolute head in! I’m incredibly jealous of all these people I keep hearing about who have had their babies early and I’m being ridiculous. Just so desperate to meet junior now I can’t even describe it!!

@NoParticularPattern Thank you! I'm still comfortable enough but just want her out and safe now - it feels so close I could touch it but still too far away. I won't believe I can have a baby until she's in my arms, to be honest.

I hope your last few days fly by!

One of the girls on August antenatal club just had a MMC diagnosed at 10 weeks, no development past 8+4. I'm feeling pretty anxious as that's what happened to me last time, and despite seeing a HB at 8+3 this pregnancy I'm terrified the same thing is going to happen again. I've got my harmony test and scan with it tomorrow morning and really nervous 😟

@TheGrumpySquirrel I do get your worry. I had a mmc at the same time with a baby that had stopped developing at 8+1. It was absolutely awful. While the probability of it happening again isn't big, I think it's impossible not to worry when you reaches that point in a new pregnancy. I can imagine that seeing someone else having the same experience triggers the anxiety even further. Try to get through the day. Your scan tomorrow will most likely reassure you, and all least for me, the worry has been of a less severe degree after the harmony scan, and particularly after getting back low risk results. Hope it is similar for you. This is a new pregnancy, and chances of things being ok at this point are in your favour.

@flatwhite32 what good news! So pleased your scan went well 🎉

Thank you so much for the reassurance. 24 hours till my scan 🤞🏼

Squirrel I know exactly how you feel about that fear of “what if” that you get when you hear about someone in a similar situation to you. And I also remember every time I saw someone saying they had tragically lost their baby much later on then that became my new worry “goal” to get past. It’s irrational and we know it is, but I guess we have to just carry on as we are and assume that until we know different then everything is absolutely fine. Easy for me to say now at 39 weeks but I remember how hard it really was. I had to step away from MN sometimes as I became a bit obsessive over the outcomes of other people’s pregnancies or worries and it wasn’t helping.

Peach I know exactly how you feel about it being so close yet so far. I also won’t believe I’ve got a baby until he/she is here. And then I’m sure I’ll find many many other things to worry about with regard to keeping them alive haha!! I’ve just booked a sweep for a week on Monday so at least I feel like I’m doing something- especially as I would really like to avoid induction because I simply do not want to be hooked up to a drip and unable to move around as much as I want to. I shall mostly be found bouncing on my birthing ball and trying not to think about how close baby is or isn’t to being here. Oh and I might finish packing my hospital bag- clearly tempting fate by not being organised isn’t a thing with pregnancy!!

Good luck for your scan Grumpy! I am anxious about missed miscarriage as well. I should get a scan on the 7th Feb so not too long to wait but it still feels like forever!

I've borrowed a doppler from a friend but I can't find anything, my womb is still too far down. I'm not worried about that but it would have been nice to have some reassurance if we could have heard something. Will try again tomorrow maybe (I last tried on Monday night).

I'm another one stressing re scan. Last time I had a scan at what was supposed to be 7+3, saw a HB but baby was only measuring 6 weeks and was fobbed off (by private sonographer) with "you must have got your dates wrong" (I knew I hadn't). Surprise surprise, I started bleeding at 9+3 and was told it stopped developing around the 6 week mark.

This time I'm being scanned at 7+2 and I will not be fobbed off again. It annoys me that they think we don't know what we're talking about because we're not doctors. I don't just look at MN/google, I actually read medical journals to add credence to my research,

This time it's the consultant doing it so am hoping he'll just be upfront and honest, if there's a problem or potential problem I want to know. I'm 40 in September so no dicking about!

I'm also currently really stressing. My last missed miscarriage was picked up at 11w but heart stopped beating about 10w. I'm 8w now and have been feeling terrible but am not feeling as bad today. A lovely lady on the September thread had her scan yesterday having been dealing with terrible nausea and no heartbeat found.

I cannot get rid of the overwhelming fear that something is going to go wrong. And that it'll be happening soon. I see the midwife next week but don't want to book time off work because I think it's tempting fate. If I am still pregnant next week I think I'll ask for a scan as my 12w scan isn't until 26 Feb which is still ages away.

Hi ladies, can I join the worried club?! Supposedly 6 weeks now and constantly analysing whether I 'feel pregnant enough, do I have enough symptoms, I'm sure I felt more sick with ds', at the same time I am trying to reassure myself that 'every pregnancy is different'. Its horrible waiting, knowing that you might just be waiting to mc again, that things might be progressing well or badly and there's no way of knowing.
It's so tough this period between getting a positive test and getting to the 12 week mark. How did people cope in the days before scans when you just had to wait until the birth!?