Posifrickentive into 2018 - thread 20 for those pregnant after mc

[MsJuniper]

New thread - bringing lots of happiness, support and understanding through Christmas and into the new year!

@Dandelion89 I measured behind for ages - midwife said they don't worry unless it's 10 days. Am now 39 weeks and measuring 90th percentile - so she caught up!

Hi all, lost you for a while as my app was playing up but I've reinstalled it and seems fine now.

@Hollymchollyface I'm really pleased you're back, if it helps I've always been a compulsive overtester too. I had a scan at 7 weeks this time which was far enough along to be more definite than 6 weeks, then 9 weeks and so on.

@Ekphrasis my DS is the same, really affectionate, lots of singing through my belly button. I hope he's like that when the baby becomes a reality!

@itsgoingtoofast thanks for the good wishes, I will also be having this baby at least a week early so we might still have matching arrival dates! I'm having growth scans at 32 & 36 weeks to check the GD isn't affecting the baby. She was a bit ahead at the 28 week so we'll see.

@Ekphrasis your DS sounds so sweet. Glad you are starting to enjoy the pregnancy.

@Hettyturnip I hope all is ok?

@Hollymchollyface @BertieBotts I heard hcg peaks at 9-10 weeks which is why sickness can ease after that. Tbh I was testing until 6wks with ics and digitals as my symptoms varied a lot.

Well I told my boss yesterday, he had totally guessed! I'm glad he knows and we can make a plan. He knows about my miscarriage and he was really nice.

However now I'm freaking out that all is still okay, I don't really feel pregnant at all except for the boobs. It's been a week since my scan and my 12wk scan isn't for another 2 weeks 😱

Thanks for the welcome!

@peachgreen thanks so much for the reassurance, that's helped me feel a bit better.

I had no more spotting last night, but a bit of red this morning. Not looking good. Would really rather have a d+c than a natural miscarriage, my first happened naturally and was awful and went on for 2 weeks. It’s so annoying that this all started on Friday afternoon.

I'm so sorry hetty, there could still be hope. It's the waiting that's awful though I know. Here to hand hold

@Dandelion89 congratulations! I think that's fairly usual at that stage - I don't think 3 days is a worry. I don't think it's an exact science. I measured 2.5 weeks behind at 8 weeks and despite a heartbeat, that ended in mc the next day. However googling at the time seemed to indicated a few days either way is very usual.

I'm sorry I've missed a few other new people - Welcome and congratulations!

I sent myself crazy with testing - definitely by 6 weeks there was barely any darkening of tests despite examples on the internet. I had to be very firm with myself about stopping! It was very hard.

I'm not sure how best to advise dealing with the early anxiety other than constant mantras "today I'm pregnant" "no news is good news" - I also know of many women who spotted throughout pregnancy, and even had big bleeds. I did feel low and lonely though for a long time. It's literally only been feeling regular kicks that's helped - though I've been worried today as I don't seem to be feeling them as strongly! (I think I had a growth spurt and don't feel it as much then baby grows and a do again.) (I hope)

I'm not sure the worry goes completely- I'm worried about all sort of things; autism, early birth, loss of movement, how my son will cope. I'm 40 so an older mum. I just try really hard to challenge those thoughts as much as I can.

This thread was very helpful in the early days for helping me get through - just posting helps. I googled everything and sort of accepted I was doing it as it didn't make me panic or get really down. If it did I would have avoided it though. Scans do worry me, I get terrible scanxiety, so I didn't have reassurance ones except at my Nipt test, which ended up being at 11 weeks anyway and I had the 12 wk one a week later.

Dates being a week, or even more, out at scans is really, really common and nothing to worry about (easier said than done, I know). At my first scan at 6.5 weeks I was two days behind, at my scan at 8.5 weeks I was dead on, at 11.5 weeks I was told I was a week ahead, and at 13 weeks that I was 3 days ahead. I'm absolutely certain about my ovulation date so I think the one at 8.5 weeks was 'right' and the others not, but it's all within the usual margin of error.

Thanks for the kind words girls, I really appreciate it. You don't realise how scary pregnancy can be!

Hope everyone else is ok.

@Dandelion89 at my 6 week scan I measured a week behind, but have been on track with all scans since!

Amazing Flatwhite32, thank you. I remember you from the other thread. Is everything still going smoothly?

I hope so @Dandelion89! 12 week scan went well, but of course I'm back to anxiety central again!

Pleased to hear it, theres one hurdle over though! I can't imagine pregnancy ever being easy or stress free.

I'm stressing today as I've got a bug with horrible diarrhoea! Lovely! It is DH's birthday as well, so I can't go to the family meal planned. Had awful stomach cramps this morning and was worried sick, but they seem to have eased off for now. I have been sick, but only once at 2am.

Such bad luck flat. Hope you feel better soon!

6 days till my harmony test. 14 days till 12 week scan. Never wished time away so much! Feeling very normal except for the giant boobs.

Could it be round ligament pain? I have had phases of very achey bumps and I'm afraid my back has never stopped aching since I had ds; some days worse than others. I did a lot of walking at around 18 weeks one day and things were agony the next day.

The discharge is very normal; some days I've leaked through pants and leggings and had to wear a pad it's so bad. your oestrogen and progesterone are going to be starting to ramp up now which can cause it.

It never hurts to check though.

At this stage - I think- a mc would feel like pressure from the top of your uterus akin to labour, but no harm calling the mw tomorrow maybe? Lack of blood is the main reassurance.

Hi ladies, is anyone struggling with a lowered immune system? Since finding out I was pregnant I've had the following:

A skin infection at 4 weeks requiring antibiotics

A heavy cold and cough at 8 weeks

Another infection at 12 weeks requiring antibiotics

Now, at 14 weeks, I had sickness and diarrhoea starting on Sunday at 2am. Felt awful all day yesterday. Tummy has settled down now (feeling sick but that could be pregnancy, I've no clue if it's the bug or not!? ) but I have no energy and my limbs ache, so am off work. I also have a sore throat today and fuzzy head.

I'm a primary school teacher so am exposed to more illnesses than the average person, but I can't seem to stay well for more than a few weeks at a time. I went off veg for a bit in the early weeks, but my diet is healthy overall. I thought about ringing the doctors, but they are overstretched and tbh, I doubt they'd be able to do much! I'm also worrying about the effect all this is having on baby.

@Flatwhite32 obviously not fun for you but I think all the illnesses will be good for your baby as your body will be producing antibodies which will pass to the baby.

I think a lowered immune system is inevitable as it means your body is accommodating the baby. Obviously you need to take care of yourself and make sure you are fully vitamined and well watered.

With DS I struggled a lot with illness in the first year as my immune system took a while to recover but I did console myself with the thought I was passing on antibodies through bf. Possibly coincidence but he's had very few illnesses and only mildly.

Hi Flatwhite,
Hope you are doing; I think lowered immune system comes hand in hand with pregnancy but as you say you are in the firing line being a primary school teacher. My 4 year old seems to have picked up so much since last September, including slap cheek and a horrible vomiting bug which wiped her out for two weeks as well as the usual run of the mill colds - there does seem to be a lot going about at the moment.

@hetty how are you?

@flatwhite...I had that throughout my first pregnancy...constantly ill! This time round I seem to be managing better touch wood

@Flatwhite32 I'm sorry you've had lots of illnesses; as others have said I think it's a common pregnancy thing. I've had two serious utis and I never get them! I always start a successful pregnancy it seems with a terrible virus. Primary teacher too so you have my sympathies!

The only thing that is really worth doing is make sure you're taking vitamin D especially post pregnancy as low levels can lower your immune system. You also need more if breastfeeding. Wash hands as much as you can at school; I tried this and it did make a difference- I don't think those hand gels are as good as basic soap!

How are you @FoxtrotSkarloey and @Hettyturnip?

Flatwhite I'm at the same stage as you (15 weeks tomorrow) and I've had back to back colds/sore throats since week 5 of this pregnancy. I normally rarely get ill, so I definitely think my immune system is low - as people have said, I think that's really normal. Sorry you're feeling so rubbish at the moment, though.

Have you had a flu jab? I did - I've never either had one or caught flu before, but with this lowered immune system it didn't seem worth the risk.

Hi all, how are you doing? Sorry to hear about colds, infections etc. It sucks. How is the pain, foxtrot?

I’ve been having a particularly bad time with HG. Back to the GP this morning to talk about changing meds. It’s so debilitating and miserable.

If namechangedtoscream is around, I think today is your rescan? Thinking of you.

Thanks ladies. I can cope with being ill, I just worry about the effect it'll have on baby. Just found out there's a case of slapped cheek at school, so currently waiting to hear back about what to do about that! @MsJuniper I never thought about the antibodies thing.

@Ekphrasis I'm taking vitamin d supplements, so will keep up with those.

@LisaSimpsonsbff sorry to hear you're suffering too.