Posifrickentive into 2018 - thread 20 for those pregnant after mc

[MsJuniper]

New thread - bringing lots of happiness, support and understanding through Christmas and into the new year!

We finally got to see the geneticist today :) She was lovely but it was such a strange thing! It's very common here for doctor's offices to be converted flats and this was no exception so it's laid out very strangely as one long corridor basically with rooms off it. We got welcomed by the receptionist and asked to wait in the waiting room, which turned out to be a big square room with just four chairs awkwardly placed right in the middle and a single dinosaur toy (!) We were the only people there which was nice but now understand her six month waiting list... very strange.

Anyway she got us to do a full family tree going right back to grandparents, all aunts, uncles, any children they had, miscarriages, and anybody who died young. She was very surprised with all of those family members that there were no records of the translocation! We refrained from making comment about the NHS. Anyway ultimately, they decided to run karyotype tests for both of us, which I thought was really nice just in case. (I'm quite excited to see what my chromosomes look like. I sort of want to frame them and put them on the wall, haha!) So we had his n hers blood tests to celebrate our anniversary tomorrow :)

Because I'm now pregnant I asked her opinion on the NT and NIPT testing. She advised this is unlikely to be relevant for this issue which is what I thought. She actually said she thinks that the NT plus mothers hormone method is outdated and should be scrapped. Luckily she thinks the karyotype will be back within 2-3 weeks and we'll wait for that to advise whether we should do amniocentesis. Another option may be to get a custom NIPT done but she's not at all sure whether it will be possible. But what she has promised to refer us for is a detailed ultrasound, replacing the NT scan and looking at everything. That's exactly what I wanted so I'm v relieved about that and extremely happy that it's going to be covered under insurance. That seemed like enough information for one day so I decided to save my follow up questions but I feel really happy with her and glad that we've done this, it feels like the right thing.

Hi I'm 5 weeks pregnant today and had a missed MC in October! I was nearly 10 weeks when I found out but baby only measured 6 weeks. I'm so worried it's going to happen all over again . Part of me wants to be excited but another part doesn't want to be disappointed again.

Hi ladies, I am super tentatively joining because I just got a bfp on saturday. my last mc in November. It was the first cycle of ttc again so I haven't had a period since.
I don't really feel ready to be back on the pregnancy board as it's so new, but I have some questions and I didn't want to seem insensitive by asking on the conception thread.
So I am really not sure what to do now. I am so confused about dates because I was convinced that I o'd on the 27th Dec, but got negative tests up until the 13th so was convinced I hadn't conceived. I've been pg 5 times now, and have always had a bfp by 13dpo. I don't know if it matters or if it's something to be worried about.
I've had 3 bfps since sat (ics), all quite faint but clear enough. No real symptoms except a bit of nausea and tiredness.
Would you keep testing now to check it's still positive, or do you just wait it out now?
The reason I actually got my bfp was because I hurt my hand at the weekend and had to get an x-ray and did a test before to check I wasn't pg (this has happened to me before!), I thought it was negative at first so went for the xray and then when I got home and looked at the test again, I realised there was a line. So now I am worried about the xray too!

aahhh! so much to worry about

Hi All,
Thank God for Mumsnet!! I had a mc in August and got my bfp 3 days ago! I am completely freaking out!! My husband is saying not to tell anyone so looking for some wise words. I had some light spotting last week along with some low like period pains so throught AF was on her way... nothing happened, so did 2 tests. One positive and one 1-2 weeks pregnant. Since I have had like low period pains on and off. Not cramps just an ache really no bleeding for 3 days. Anyone else experienced this? Trying to keep a positive mind set... I seem to be switching between positivity and doom!

Hi everyone,
I got my BFP today after a mmc in December. Can't really believe it. Hoping it sticks. Not sure how to keep myself positive. X

Two consecutive miscarriages at 5 weeks, I’ve just got my third BFP and I’m in turmoil....I’ve been waiting for the day when I fall pregnant again (it’s been four months since my last miscarriage) and now it’s finally here, all I feel is terror that it’s going to happen all over again?????

Did anyone take baby aspirin or extra progesterone during early pregnancies????

Hi fellow newbies, @user1489606775 i think cramps are normal in early pregnancy, and spotting can be too. Just keep an eye on it and check with the epu if you are worried.

@NelleB &@SPNs congratulations ! Not sure how to stay positive!? I don't think there is much we can do either way so I'm trying to do things that keep me busy and calm, and keeping everything crossed. Don't stress if you can, stress is not helpful

Excellent @FoxtrotSkarloey - when do you get the results?

Sorry I forgot to say good news about your scan @FoxtrotSkarloey

Argh, just wrote v long post and lost it!

Many congratulations foxtrot - such great news! I'm just waiting on my combined results too. I think they prefer to use external wherever they can because most women prefer it - I had an internal at 6 weeks, but all my scans since then have been external, including the one at 8 weeks.

Welcome to all the newbies - and congratulations on your BFPs! I'm not sure how much you can really do to make these first few weeks easier - I found that time just slowed to an absolute crawl. Distraction probably is the best way.

SPN I did take both progesterone and aspirin (am now 14 weeks - still on aspirin, stopped taking progesterone at 12.5 weeks). Obviously you'd need a prescription for progesterone and they're not that easy to get because the data on its effectiveness isn't great. Aspirin is also controversial, though my local hospital do stick all recurrent miscarriers on it. I have no idea whether both/either helped me at all - I'd had three miscarriages before this, all before 8 weeks, so this is my most successful pregnancy to date. But the data for either of them being effective in women with no known issue (I had full recurrent miscarriage testing and came up normal) is really weak, so it could be complete coincidence.

Congrats foxtrot! And good news on the geneticist Bertie, I'm glad you're getting some good support and getting the tests you've been after for so long (although of course I hope your current pregnancy will be smooth sailing so you won't need them!).

And welcome to all the newbies. Can totally understand the first few weeks are really tough, you just have to get through it a day at a time. Holly, it sounds like you may have ovulated late? I've always had messed up cycles for a few months after a MC. Try not to worry about the x-ray! Loads of people have them without realising!

user I've had low cramping early on in all my pregnancies - I think it's just stretching pain, seems to be quite common.
SPN I had 2 MCs, both at 11-12 weeks, so decided to take the low dose asprin this time... I just felt I had to try doing SOMETHING different this time. Now nearly 21 weeks, but obviously no idea if it's due to the asprin or I was just unlucky to have 2 MCs previously. Also I've not admitted to taking it to the midwife as I wasn't sure if they'd approve of my self medicating!

Hello all, tentatively poking my head in here after lurking for the last few weeks.

I had two MMC last year, the first at 10 weeks (ended around 6 weeks) and the second around 5/6 weeks.

I'm now 6+5 (by LMP) and last week had a bit of odd colouring when wiping (sorry - not really 'spotting' which is a delightful word compared with the alternatives) and odd cramping which I don't remember from my first successful pg.

So I went in to EPU for scan today and they basically tortured me by booking me in for another scan next week saying they couldn't see a foetus but a viable pg can't be ruled out as I could be slightly behind dates. I've scoured my scan sheets from last year and I can see I'm slightly in a better place than after 2nd MC last year (yolk sac present this time - YAY! Go yolk sac!) but can't guage against 1st MC.

So I'm now in total limbo land and my need for distraction and conversation is bigger than my desire to not jinx it by talking about it online or irl! - It's pathetic isn't it. I tie myself up in knots about it which won't be helping things along either.

SPN I'm taking baby aspirin, the consultant after my last MC said they often recommend it so I thought - why not. I also take Pregnacare and just before my BFP bought a new pack of Conception pills just so I couldn't jinx that too...

Congrats on your scan Foxtrot it's lovely to hear good things! I really hope everyone else gets the news you're all looking for. This is heartwrenching isn't it. My only consolation atm is my DD who keeps me busy. One of my friends has had trouble conceiving at all and is about to start IVF so I can't imagine how hard it must be for her.

and to everyone.

Foxtrot congrats on the good scan!
Welcome to all the newbies.
I'm another one on low dose aspirin.. My recurrent miscarriage bloods came back clear and this time around I asked my gp about it when I became pregnant. She phoned hospital who said that they would be happy for her to prescribe it as it would be the first thing they try at rmc anyway. I'm now 30 weeks +3. I needed to feel like I was trying something different.
Ended up at gp today as been unwell with cold/flu like symptoms since sat and I wanted their thoughts on me going back to work. Been swabbed for flu and given a sick line for a week... Although I've told work that and also said I would like to come back on Monday all being well. Gp had a doppler and listened to baby's heartbeat which I wasn't expecting but it was lovely and reassuring to hear! I didn't know gp could do that! (I did nearly panic when it took a few mins to find (baby was just on the other side!)

Foxtrot I had exactly that panic after my private scan at 11+5 (that she'd pushed down so hard it hurt, and that it might have somehow damaged the pregnancy), but all was still well at 13+3. This is a bit grim, but I try and remind myself every time I think I might have done something that will cause a miscarriage (which I panic about a lot) - 'if that ended pregnancies then women wouldn't ever have had unsafe abortions'. If you could push down hard on your stomach for 10 minutes and cause a miscarriage, no one would ever have gone to backstreet abortionists. Also, perhaps more pertinently (and definitely less grimly), a trained sonographer definitely wouldn't do it if it was risky!

Big welcome to the newbies, wishing you all well and here’s to the early weeks passing quickly. It is tough. So sorry you’re in limbo though, dont, Keeping things crossed for a good rescan.

Bertiebots so glad the appointment with the geneticist was worthwhile and positive.

Foxtrot wondeful news about your scan! See no jinxing!! Hope you’re feeling good. The only reason I can think that it’s abdominal cf transvaginal is speed, convenience and general patient preference. For most women it’s their first scan and an internal could be traumatic. I think we’re all a bit more used to the dildocam... I find the internal less invasive somehow.

Sorry to hear you’re unwell, smurf - hope you can take it easy. What a treat to hear the hb though.

How are you doing, Lisa, Halloumi and everyone else?

I’m still feeling bouyed by the dating scan, and have booked a sex scan for next month (infuriates me that hosp call it a gender scan! As if they’ll be able to tell if my baby is trans or non binary )

Ps glad you’re posting here, Dont

• it can be so lonely and I know that no matter how much you try to distract yourself it’s also always at the Back of your mind.

@DontBuyANewMumCashmere my scan at 6 weeks (after a bleed - stressful!) showed just a gestational sac and yolk sac. At 8 weeks there was an embryo with a heartbeat.

Thanks Flatwhite I'm hoping to see a little bean next week. Just have to get through the next week......

Yes Life it's good to talk here with other people.

God after the appointment yesterday I've realised I've got three whole weeks to get through until my next anything! I know most people have to wait much much longer than that between scans and things so I need to get a grip really! We will have the house move so it's not like I won't be busy

Gah why do these early weeks drag on so slowly? It's like the last few weeks, isn't it! And the nice bit in the middle probably whizzes past

Evening all.

Welcome to the new ladies.

Great news on the scan foxtrot!

And I'm glad the geneticist was helpful Bertie. Especially as you've waited so long to see her!

I too feel like time is absolutely dragging. Any positivity from last week's scan has well and truly gone. Next one is a week today. We're off to the Lakes with DH's family for a long weekend after work tomorrow so hopefully that will be a good distraction.

Hello all. Lovely updates - congrats on the scans and new pregnancies.

I've my 20 week scan on Thursday and despite seeing a healthy little thing at my 16 week one, and hearing a strong heartbeat with the mw a few weeks ago, I'm nervous this will be the one where we find out it's failed. I know it's irrational . I'm being scanned every 4 weeks up to 28 due to age/antibodies and thank god because the anxiety would be killing me otherwise.

Is there anyone on this thread that feels confident that all will be well, and if so when did that feeling start? I know a few ppl have mentioned 24 weeks as being a milestone.

Wishing you all health and positivity

I have a massive four month bump from all the bloating and my belly fat has all migrated upwards. Yay! (Sarcastic!) I don't know how I can hide it from work - I've only got one jumper I look remotely normal in and everything else I just look really huge! Gaah. I would normally love the excuse to go clothes shopping too but I'm trying to save money!