Posifrickentive into 2018 - thread 20 for those pregnant after mc

[MsJuniper]

New thread - bringing lots of happiness, support and understanding through Christmas and into the new year!

The sticker is a great idea. Shame there’s not more awareness - I might mention it to my midwife.

flatwhite yes. I find myself being so vague about the pregnancy. Giving rough dates, always say ‘hopefully’... And I am a bit vague myself, gave my GP the totally wrong date for my LMP and am not tracking gestation. I have my dating scan on Sunday and I think I’ll engage a bit more then.

Peach I’m 37 weeks tomorrow so due date is 2nd Feb. Oh the stabby cervix pains are a delight! Really they’re the highlight of my day . I think the weirdest one is when I’m laid on my side and baby does a massive kick or moves and it really tickles on the inside. It’s very weird! Also scary to think I only have a few weeks of feeling those kicks on the inside left. Reminds me I really really need to make sure I’ve got everything for my hospital bag

I seem to add 'if we make it that far' to the end of most sentences if they're anything to do with the pregnancy. I can't even bring myself to pretend that we will. Just trying to take it day by day.

@kirinm that's exactly what I say. How far along are you?

Thank you ladies. It is a relief to know something is actually going on in there.

Well done on telling people flatwhite. I can't quite imagine doing that.

kirinm DH and I also start a lot of sentences with 'if this one works out'. I expect that will continue right until the end.

I'm starting to bloat badly at 12 weeks, so it'll be difficult to hide it for much longer! We say 'if this one works out' a lot too.

DH says that too, keepon.

NoParticularPattern - so close now! What have you got planned for the next few weeks? Hope you are getting some sleep.

@Flatwhite32 just 6 weeks so a long way to go yet.

I also add 'if we get that far' or 'if all goes well' almost as a reflex - it's almost a 'touch wood' thing for me, I feel weird and uncomfortable if I've realised I've forgotten it.

It's so hard to work out how much of this is previous losses, and how much is just my personality. I tend to assume it's the former, but then I'm a very anxious/pessimistic person anyway. When we got the first ever positive I remember telling DH 'I'm pregnant - but it's really early, so we can't get too excited yet!', while I see so many other women on here who are just as early and planning elaborate reveals. So maybe I wouldn't have been so different if things had worked out the first time after all.

Scan tomorrow - feeling the usual nerves/anxiety. I am glad we had the private one last week, as I think it's meant that I'm 'on edge and anxious' rather than 'certifiably batshit' today.

Oh I’m on a whole different planet...keep saying to DH but what if the pregnancy is in my head so basically I’m in denial and I won’t be making any purchases in advance. I’m far from it but I don’t even know if I’d get a Hospital bag together

@NoParticularPattern not long left 🙂
@keeponrunning85 glad to hear your scan went well.
Ive been saying touch wood or all being well or so far everything looks good the whole way through this pregnancy. I'll be 30 weeks tomorrow and I still say it. My mum went shopping and packed our baby hospital bag as she knew how anxious I was about buying anything and she keeps everything at her house until baby all being well is here.
I had a bit of a wobble today. Had scan on Monday all looked good and bloods done. Midwife phoned when I was on my lunch to say I needed to come get repeat bloods and urine sample done as the ones from Monday showed my iron levels are a bit low and my white blood count is high. I know she said it is probably just me fighting of a bit of the cold or something. And the iron is coming and easily solved with iron tablets but I still panicked. So I've back to hospital and had them repeated but results won't be back until next week.
My mum has tried reassuring me it is all fairly common and normal and baby is kicking away. (I phoned her after getting the midwifes phone call and promptly burst into tears )

Hey ladies. Newbie (to this thread) here.

Vital stats:
Age: 39 and almost 4 months.
1st pregnant: July 2017.
Loss: end August at almost 10 weeks - missed miscarriage where bean had died just after 6 weeks despite seeing a heartbeat at early scan.
Cycles TTC since MC: 4

Found out pregnant tonight after thinking AF had arrived Weds and after deciding we were just going to change focus to getting married.

Obviously over the freaking moon it's happened after 3 cycles of disappointing but now panicking esp as have had some cramping tonight!

So here, to try to keep myself sane!!!!

6 week scan tomorrow. So nervous.

Welcome @coastalchick! So pleased for you!
This thread is fab. I've not been on it long, but I prefer it to the generic pregnancy threads, as everyone here seems to get how I'm feeling!

@LisaSimpsonsbff I say 'if we get that far' ALL the time. DH and I both said it tonight in fact!

Meant to say good luck @Namechangedtoscream x

I also still add “all being well” to the end of sentences! Like the midwife yesterday asked if I knew what I was having (she wasn’t my regular one) and I replied with “no, just hoping for a baby”. I’m 37 weeks fgs. I know I need to get a grip but I just can’t. A lot like I daren't put everything in my hospital bag in case I end up not ever needing it! I’m completely irrational but I’ve given up trying to fight it and just accepting that until I hold this baby that I won’t really believe it’s actually happening. And then I’m sure all the other worries about baby feeding/sleeping/developments will creep in. Argh what have we done?! A lifetime of worry!!

Good luck with your scan today namechanged. Everything crossed for you (apart from my legs. I’m too giant to do that any more).

Good luck with scan namechanged

I'm already doing it "if it sticks", "if it all works out".

Good luck @Namechangedtoscream what time is your scan?

Good luck with the scans today lisa and namechanged.

Welcome @coastalchick and all the best for the scans @LisaSimpsonsbff and @Namechangedtoscream

Good luck with scans today, ladies.

@NoParticularPattern I'm exactly the same - 38+2 and still saying 'hopefully' and 'God-willing' etc. I found doing the nursery and packing my bags incredibly hard and left it all very late. Now I'm really struggling to read the birthing and parenting books I bought. It's just too scary! But I also feel incredibly grateful to be through those first agonising months where you had to go weeks without any reassurance.

Welcome @coastalchick and good luck to those who have scans today.

I'm 8w tomorrow and going to EPU for a scan in the morning. I've been in denial so far - but now I'm absolutely bricking it. Last time it all went wrong at 8+0, heartbeat stopped, no idea why, and I didn't even find out for another two weeks.

Scan went well, thank god. Measuring 3 days ahead, so they very slightly adjusted my due date, and nuchal measurement was normal.

Sorry, posted too soon! Wanted to say thanks for the good luck messages, too - it's lovely having such a supportive place to chat about all this

 great news @LisaSimpsonsbff ! I was put 3 days ahead at the same point too. What's your EDD now?