Posifrickentive into 2018 - thread 20 for those pregnant after mc

[MsJuniper]

New thread - bringing lots of happiness, support and understanding through Christmas and into the new year!

I am at the wrong end of the country to comment on Kings, but if your EPU accepts self referral just go there early.

I hope you feel better today Keep

Great news Foxtrot

I am glad all is going well Stuck

Hi and welcome Stowie

That is great news as well AKP.

I am slowly adapting to the GD. I managed to borrow a blood sugar meter so that I could get started on monitoring before my appointment. The only problem is that if I eat well and keep my blood sugars well down I have much worse morning sickness. Still, only 5w3d to go at the most.

Hiya - I’ve had a letter this morning with an appointment to see the doctor next month and it says I was referred by the Midwife team. Haven’t had an appointment with my Midwife since booking in 6 weeks ago and my anomaly scan and blood results came back as low risk. Has anyone had anything similar or any ideas what it could be about? Left a message for the Midwife but apparently they’re still away until next week.

Could it be something from booking in, thought? Are you high risk for anything, any family history? I’ve been referred but was expecting it and was made clear at booking in. Hope the MWs get back to you soon.

Welcome and congratulations stowie!

And great news about the scan AKP

Great to hear you're doing so well and wishing you a happy and healthy time for the (not very long now!) of pregnancy you have left, stuck!

I'm 12 weeks today, which feels like a milestone that I didn't think I'd reach. Still another week to wait for my '12 week' scan, though!

Hello everyone

I'm 12+2 Lisa and feeling really similarly surprised! The hospital have lost my referral though and I've spent since just after Christmas trying to sort it out. Our hospital maternity unit are already in special measures and have been for years(!). I'm really hanging out now to get this scan sorted. We'll have to go private if it doesn't happen soon.

Grey :( That's really shocking! Is there any other hospital locally you can register with? What do you think you'll do for the birth?

I agree that's terrible grey. Have you emphasised that you want the nuchal translucency test done (if you do)? Because there's a time limit for that, which should really make them pull their socks up, even if they're generally pretty crap.

Wow finally got a date for next week, what a relief! Been on the phone for over a week about this. Tbh, the same happened last time with DS so I was expecting a few hitches.

Bertie I'll stay as far away from the hospital as possible for the birth (crossing fingers to get that far). Last time I went to a freestanding MLU and it was great.

At that time the hospital were not meeting minimum safe staffing levels. They are now, but the patient feedback ratings are still tremendously negative with improvement required in CQC reports. It's a shame as I'd love to have an epidural this time around, but I don't feel I have a choice.

Great news on reaching 12 weeks @LisaSimpsonsbff and @GreyCloudsToday. Hope your scans go well.

I just had my growth scan at 27+3 and all seems well - the baby's abdomen is measuring large but that is common with GD so just means I have to be really careful with sugars. She is breech but they are not worried about that as plenty of time to turn (plus I'll probably have an ELCS).

Now we're into the new year I have to start getting my head around the reality of it and doing some preparation.

Lisa & Grey congratulations on 12 weeks-good luck with the scans

I'm about 26 weeks now and in the last 2 weeks have become HUGE. Belly is an obvious bump now-plenty of clients at work congratulating me and asking when it's due-I'm a bit scared there is (hopefully) 3 months left to go, as I can't imagine 3 more months of growth at the same rate. I'm suffering again with back pain/sciatica due to PGP/sacroiliac problems, so I think I'll have to go back to physio, job is so physical, even though I'm not lifting I can't do it without bending and being on my feet, so I get really sore some days.

Have my last cervical length & 1st growth scan this week. I dreamt I was measuring 3.5 weeks behind last night, no idea what that was about.

We've bought a buggy & car seat, & a second hand bedside cot, which is freaking me out slightly as it's a bit early, but it was such a good deal in the sale we couldn't resist (saved nearly £300 on travel system, and cot was £45, do need a new mattress though) Still trying to rearrange my 25 week midwife appt that I had to cancel as I was vomiting everywhere when I was supposed to have that.

Hi all, we are thrilled to announce the arrival of our rainbow baby girl! Lydia is doing brilliantly and our family of three is having a lot of cuddles inside while the gales howl outside :) I just can't believe she's really ours; I still feel as if we just have the loan of her for a while, but no, this is for good! (Remind me of that in 2 years when I'm tearing out my hair during a tantrum )
Thank you again to everyone on the thread for your loveliness, and best wishes and good luck to all of you on your pregnancies. It's a roller coaster, but you all made it much easier to deal with. Love and appreciation, XX

@WLMcI I am so pleased to hear your great news. So happy you are all doing well and enjoying lots of cuddles!! Congratulations!

@hotcookie we bought our pram today and it feels so strange! Getting or even thinking about getting anything for the baby still worries me but I'm trying to look past that part and enjoy it as much as possible! 29 weeks here and feeling incredibly big and heavy!!

Congratulations @WLMcI - lovely to hear. Wishing you very happy times ahead with your lovely family.

Wonderful news, WLMcl! Massive congratulations to you, enjoy the snuggles.

Great news WLMcl! I hope you're enjoying getting to know her.

Huge congratulations MLMcl! Hope all three of you are enjoying these first few days

Congratulations WLMcl That's great news

Hello! I've just seen this thread can I join? I'm 5 weeks pregnant after 5 miscarriages and 1 live birth. Currently been diagnosed already with hyperemesis so I'm hopeful this my be our one. Have a 6 week scan booked in with my consultant on Friday so I'll find out then I guess. Currently sporting a very strange mix of emotions and struggling.

Hope you're all well.

Has anyone found that it starts to feel real at any point, or is this just a post-miscarriage thing that you end up not wanting to get emotionally involved?

Am 7+2 today. Had scan at 6+0, saw heartbeat. Only ever got to 5+4 before. I really thought once we got past the point we had before, that I'd be hopeful and looking towards the future - but DH is and I'm still v guarded.

He asked me about this yesterday as he'd noticed the difference between us, and I explained a bit of what I'm feeling so hope you don't mind me rambling here to try to get some thoughts together on it.

Basically, with the translocation there are normally two possible chromosome arrangements which could result in a poor outcome. (In reality it's more complicated and there are more than two, but there are two likely ones, the others are rare.) In most people the poor outcome is miscarriage, some people's arrangement will result in a baby who survives to term but with disabilities, for some people it's failure to conceive, in some people it goes right back and affects egg/sperm quality - we've had testing and sperm was fine, so I don't think it's this - BUT - my theory goes that our two arrangements are probably:

• Miscarry at 5+4, presumably when development reaches the part the chromosome break is on.
• Stop developing at some point after conception but before or very shortly after implantation.

Based on the fact that we've never had a chemical pregnancy, we always miscarry at 5+4 exactly, and we had two very fast conceptions

I hear you bertie although we are still waiting our karyotype results. Our 5 losses have been at various stages from 5 to 9 weeks and the last had trisomy 22 so would never have got past 12 weeks. I'm being scanned every 2 weeks from next Friday (When I will be 6 weeks) but I won't be happy til we hit 10 weeks. Why? We had a heartbeat before at 8+2 and then it died 2 days later.

I'm trying to be happy as I've been told I have hyperemesis already but I'm worried about genetic abnormalities and I'm worried ill see a heartbeat on 2 scans then still go on and lose it.

We get pregnant extremely quickly - if we have sex on cd12 I'm guaranteed to fall pregnant. Each time we've caught it's off the back of 1 shag that month. So there is a hyperfertility suspicion with us. Our last one was lost in March 2017 and we get our test results this March, but I'm hoping we will get them on Friday as the same consultant is doing the scan.

Yeah, I'm not holding out a huge amount of hope for the karyotype results anyway, TBH - because like you can say it takes forever, but also, it's something like 1 in 500 to actually have a translocation in the first place. Then there's a combination of 23 x 22 chromosomes so realistically finding someone with the same as you is 1:250,000 - much too rare for any data to be reliable so we're waiting on anecdotes anyway.

I'm also finding 10 weeks quite comforting from a missed miscarriage perspective but again it only helps having a scan after that date. Plus it's ages away! Well not really and we're busy enough but it feels it.

@BertieBotts I am almost 28 weeks and have only just started to think about it as a baby. There have been moments of happiness but for the most part I would describe it as a grim sense of getting through each day. Sorry if that's not the most cheerful answer but it has been the reality for me. It has helped that DH feels the same and is very happy to take things at my pace re talking about it/telling others.

What did you mean about not having a chemical pregnancy by the way? If your pregnancies have lasted until 5+4 have you had scans by then?

Hope getting to 7w is a good sign for you that this is going to work out.