Posifrickentive into 2018 - thread 20 for those pregnant after mc

[MsJuniper]

New thread - bringing lots of happiness, support and understanding through Christmas and into the new year!

Notparticularly I was hoping for a nice, complication-free 3rd trimester to make up for the last few years, but that was optimistic of me. I appear to be really crap at being pregnant. Nevermind - at least we get to play clinic bingo and see if I can get a full card. The low sugar diet has brought back the all day morning sickness with a vengence. I still had it a bit, but nowhere near this bad or constant. I suspect I may have been keeping my sugars a bit high just to keep it at bay.

Welcome Santa. I am sorry about your loss. I hope this one goes more smoothly for you. The anxiety is normal - you have found your people here, we all jitter our way through this.

I hope all is well Grumpy. My symptoms came and went so often in my first trimester this time, far more than in any of my losses and it didn't half keep me on my toes.

My boob soreness definitely seems to be abating but I've still got nausea. Hang in there, grumpy, I know it's horrible when things wax and wane but is normal, try to hold on to that.

We've told immediate family and made two people cry! :)

I've not got much nausea at all, and other than not being able to eat loads in one go, feel pretty normal. This early limbo bit is the worst! trying to plan holidays for next year and obviously it affects a lot of things, got to assume the best outcome I suppose, or I'll go mad.

I’m with you all on the feeling down and anxious.... i have had bleeding since Friday, only a tiny tiny bit but Tuesday seems like such a long way a way to wait for a scan!

Maybe it’s the dark nights, weather and that Christmas is over that’s got us all down

Hi all, I haven't been around much over Christmas but thinking of you all. Sorry so many of you are dealing with worries at the moment.

I wanted to wish you all every happiness for 2018 and to thank everyone for the support in 2017. I can't really believe I've got to this point (26 weeks) and have just submitted the job ad for my maternity cover. Let's hope 2018 brings us all our dearest wishes.

Love and to you all x

Grumpy - I've had really, really fluctuating symptoms throughout, and always pretty mild. Obviously I'm only 11 weeks so too soon to know how this will turn out, but every time I've gone for a scan I've thought 'it's obviously all over' because one or another symptom has gone, and thus far there's been a little bean with a heartbeat.

Thanks Lisa , that's really reassuring.

Hi all, not posted for a while but have been following and happy to see some more familiar faces from the TTC thread, and some good scan news! Hope you all had a good christmas and thank you all for keeping me as sane as possible in 2017, I'm sure it's been a bit of a rollercoaster for all of us!

Hi can I join? I had a mmc at 7 weeks Dec 16'. I'm currently 14 weeks and had a 12 week scan just before Christmas... All was fine but my anxiety levels are through the roof... Constantly worried, I've told my DC and I'm petrified anything could happen and Id need to break bad news... Keep thinking awful thoughts and can't seem to shake it off. Symptoms gone apart from sore boobs at night, no bump but fat and it's my 3rd and no kicks..
I'm just a panicky mess 😥 should I see gp?

Haven’t been on in a few days so a warm welcome to the new joiners. Sorry to hear so many are feeling anxious over the break; I was at the start as well, I think it was just too much time inside my own head. Back to work tmrw so I’m sure Work worries will distract me again. I’ve made a new year’s resolution to (try to) be positive about this pregnancy.

hula I’m midway though 13 weeks and my symptoms have gone except for sore boobs too. I think that’s normal though eh, that nausea and such starts to ease around now? Not felt any kicks either but from what I’ve been reading although some people get them as early as 12 weeks, the norm is later than 16 even on subsequent pregnancies. If you’re feeling worried all the time though then defo talk to your gp; there’s no harm in doing that anyway.

Just wanted to wish everyone a happy new year. So sorry for those feeling low or anxious, sending very best wishes. I’m very grateful for this thread, now and when I’ve been here previously. Here’s to supporting each other through the coming months

Belated Happy New Year wishes for a healthy, happy 2018 filled with lots of healthy growing bumps and babies! I wouldn’t have got through the last year without the support of this group and I am insanely grateful, my little girl is 7 weeks old on Friday but I still love to follow everyone’s progress on this thread 💗 hope everyone is well and getting through the horrible anxious times xx

Happy New Year all 💐

Sadly I will be leaving the group as this isn’t my time unfortunately but thank you for the support for the last week or so and wishing you all the best for a happy, healthy and bump- filled 2018!

Hope to be back soon. Take care all xx

I'm so sorry to hear that Emma - hope you're doing ok, and that you have people around to look after you. Hope you're back here as soon as you want to be.

Emma I’m so sorry to hear your news. I hope you’re being looked after, and yes I really hope you’ll be back soon. Take good care Xx

Hi Halloumi. Good to see you.

Welcome Hula. I did get a bit of a slackening of symptoms around 14 weeks. Not gone completely but not clutching a basin at all times either.

Great to hear from you Haz. I hope you are really enjoying your time with your wee one.

So sorry Emma. I hope you are back with us for longer soon.

Happy New Year to everyone else. I hope this year is a good one all round.

Can someone talk me down a bit? Basically, I had a freak-out in the last couple of days, was convinced that I'd lost it - and so we decided, pretty much on a whim, to go for a private scan, called up and they said 'oh, can you be here in an hour?'. So I had it done, all is well (thank god). I have now spent tonight getting myself into a tizzy that I've been self-indulgent, had too many scans, and that it'll hurt the fetus. I had NHS ones at 6+4 and 8+4, but now I've had private ones at 9+5 and 11+4, too - and I'll have my NHS 12 week scan at 13+0. I kind of lied to the midwife about it because I felt a bit silly/neurotic and now I'm panicking that I've had four completely medically unnecessary scans. I'm being silly, right? At one point there was talk of me participating in a study and that involved fortnightly scans, so they're obviously pretty convinced they're safe, right?

I really thought my anxiety was getting better, but it seems to have ramped up in the last few days - and I feel like I'm casting around for new things to panic about constantly!

I’m so sorry Emma. Rest up and look after yourself.

lisa just did some google around and there are no known risks or side effects of having a scan... none at all. Completely understand the anxiety though. Hand hold here fwiw.

@LisaSimpsonsbff I've had scans throughout this pregnancy and was going to have weekly scans as part of a study at one point. It has really helped my anxiety though, not having to get through more than 3 weeks at a time without seeing the baby.

I've had:
7+1 (RMC)
9+1 (RMC)
12+6 (standard 12 wk)
13+3 (consultant)
16 (study)
18 (study)
21 (20 wk)
22 (20 wk follow up)

I've also got growth scans booked for 28 wks, 32 and 36 as part of diabetes management.

That’s fine, Lisa - don’t feel bad about it at all, I can totally understand wanting/having regular scans. DH and I agreed to take it day by day and scan as much as I wanted to. I’ll also have additional scans in later pregnancy. Hope you enjoyed seeing your little one!

Hazandduck sorry I missed your post! So glad it’s all going well with your little one.

Lisa, they scan every time here in Germany even for the most straightforward, medically low risk pregnancy, and Germans are very concerned about potential foetal damage due to having accidentally invented thalidomide - they are super cautious about anything causing harm, I've been told not to do so many things, but scans are apparently fine. So I think you're okay. X

Thanks so much for the reassurance all - I guess my concern is particularly that I had so many in early pregnancy, but I'm feeling better this morning - there doesn't seem to be any evidence that it'll cause harm, and anyway what's done is done. Had a very restless night, though - so hard not to panic in the wee small hours!