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First Time Pregnancy: Summer Babies 2018

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peachesarenom · 19/11/2017 17:04

Hi there,

Does anyone feel like a chat?

Age: 34
TTC: 11 months
Due: July 2018

I had vivid dreams in the two week wait. Since BFP I've just had mildly sensitive boobs.

My colleague has just announced his wife is pregnant, they've just had their first scan, I can't help but feel he's stolen my thunder a little bit!

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LMX0 · 09/01/2018 15:04

Congrats 😊

WalkingOnSunshine0 · 09/01/2018 16:00

Hello all... I'm a newbie!

Only found out on Sunday that I am pregnant, it was very unexpected and definitely not planned so I currently feel like I am walking around in some kind of denial bubble... although 4 positive pg tests tell me that I have nothing to be in denial about!

Phoned docs yesterday and asked what the hell I do and they booked me straight in with the midwife on Thursday.

I'm not too sure about my dates at the moment. The clear blue ditigals said 2-3 weeks but I actually think I could be as much as 7. Having done a little research it seems that the digi conception indicators may not be all that accurate.

One thing that does startle me is the fact that no medical professional actually confirms your pregnancy, until you have your first scan?!

If you are unsure about your dates are you likely to be referred for a scan early??

Brettgirl · 09/01/2018 17:28

Would it be ok if I rant please? I'm really cross with my husband, feels like he is putting me under so much to tell people and I really want to wait until after our scan on 25th. We've already told far more people than I feel comfortable with. He keeps saying it's because he's so excited, he just wants to share. I do understand this but I really want to get in to the second trimester before we share more widely. I've explained my reasons why, and then he says he's joking but I know if I said it was ok he would tell everyone in a heartbeat. He's just come in from work and asked again. I'm tired and irritable and just want him to stop asking! Sorry to rant x

Heregoeseverything · 09/01/2018 19:28

@Brettgirl That would make me angry too, he should cop on! Does he properly appreciate the risks in the first trimester? My DH got a pregnancy book which had a chapter on the things that can go wrong and he came to me ashen-faced and said, "I don't know how you've been so calm!".

I recall you got an early private scan as you were worried, you'd think he would have more sensitivity and comprehension of risks in the circumstances... You are not being precious, you are being entirely sensible. We waited to after 12 weeks before telling anyone. I have to say I doubted my DH's ability to keep things under wraps from his family until 12 weeks but he was true to his word. It sounds like your DH has already told family and others, he needs to keep it buttoned now, for heaven's sake! I would tell him that he is not to ask again, the position remains that you are concerned about the continuing risks until 12 weeks, you've already told more than you're comfortable with and you don't want to have to "untell" the world in the event of something going wrong. Perfectly reasonable.

Brettgirl · 09/01/2018 21:24

@heregoeseverything thank you so much. I know he's not being deliberately thoughtless but I need him to stop. He's so convinced that because the lady at the scan said we look on track for everything to be ok that nothing can go wrong now. He is also a bit put out that I have told a couple of people for practical reasons, mainly the osteopath and work (it's quite a manual job with long hours) and thinks that he is being left out. I asked him tonight to stop putting pressure on me and he says he isn't, but hopefully he's taken that away and thought about it and won't ask again! Thank you for your support xx

LMX0 · 09/01/2018 22:03

@Brettgirl i totally understand and agree with everything said and if he still goes on i would leash the hormones on him!! Might teach him not to push it anymore lol

@WalkingOnSunshine0 welcome & congrats the midwife shall be able to answer any questions u have ive no idea when it comes to being unsure about dates and that, and im a great believer of babies come along when they are meant too!!!

Anyone else getting sick of being sick, tired and having no energy? I am deffo looking forward to this energy in the 2nd termister everyone talks about!!!

Brettgirl · 09/01/2018 22:29

@lmxo he's already scared of the hormones, I will unleash if it continues!
The tiredness is really getting me down I have to admit. They think I might have a blood disorder possibly caused by my bypass so I just want my results back and see what can be done!
I can't wait for the promised energy rush of the 2nd trimester! How long til you are there LMXO? Sorry, my memory is dreadful these days! Xx

LMX0 · 09/01/2018 22:53

@Brettgirl and he is still pushing it! Hes not scared enough!! 😂 im 11 weeks so another 2/3 weeks left and it feels like forever!!!! Aww no way!! Hopefully they are able to help you in some way

Heregoeseverything · 09/01/2018 23:50

Such nonsense from him @Brettgirl , of course you told your osteopath and work in those circumstances! It's sweet that he's excited but he does really need to hold it in right now. If my DH really wasn't getting the message I might say something like, "It feels like you're not taking something that's causing me anxiety very seriously".

Re the hormones, are all you co-preggos generally feeling a bit nuts? I have to say I've been pleasantly surprised (as indeed has my DH!). I don't think I've become irrational at all (so far!) but would describe myself as ever so slightly more assertive...! I imagine this makes sense from a biological perspective, it's a good thing for a mother protecting her child to take no shit!

LilyWhit · 10/01/2018 06:09

Hi all,
Had my scan yesterday and am
Pleased to say all is well! Baby is due July 12th!
I’m 13 weeks and 6 days pregnant! Energy returned after week 11 :)...

In regards to telling people I was very anxious too. We told parents and siblings once we had an early scan at 8 weeks 3 days. And announced the pregnancy yesterday after the scan..
I’ve been up since 3 am this morning!!! Still can’t get my head around seeing baby and how amazing that feeling was.. suffering from insomnia now!
And up for work working 7-7 today! Wish me luck everyone! Xxx

Flatwhite32 · 10/01/2018 07:45

Congratulations @LilyWhit! I had my scan yesterday too, and I'm 12+2 today. We waited until last night to tell most people due to anxiety from previous MMC. It was incredible seeing baby wasn't it. I couldn't stop crying!

misshannah · 10/01/2018 09:13

Hi all,

Had my early scan yesterday and pleased to say everything looks good and im right about my weeks (7+3 today). Fatigue has really knocked my side wards and although im managing to get into work im not really sure i am productive....
I'm telling my mum next week when i see her, ideally would have told her at Christmas but we moved house and i think it would have caused more anxiety with her knowing.

When does the Fatigue go? Please tell me it goes.

Hannah

user1513517756 · 10/01/2018 09:58

Walking on sunshine - I know how you feel! I went for my first midwife appointment on Monday and when she took my urine sample she said "I'm not doing a pregnancy test" I'm surprised they don't check! Although I obviously got a positive test, no period, a bit of nausea, am exhausted and extremely sore boobs for the first 6 weeks I still can't believe I am! But yes it seems the only confirmation we will get is at our 12 wk scan! I think it's normal tho. I've heard alot of women cant believe it until they actually see the baby! Any one else feel this way? I'm 7 + 4 weeks. My next set of blood tests are booked for the 5th Feb, when they will tell me when my scan will be. I'm hoping very soon after the blood tests as then I'll be 11+4! I'm looking forward to the scan and being able to tell my office. I feel bad fibbing about where I'm going as I'm quite close to my manager! Even when I'm just taking a couple of hours leave it would be odd if I didn't say where I was off too!!

LMX0 · 10/01/2018 11:11

@Heregoeseverything it makes sense!! I dont think ive been too bad...... DH prob would disagree!! But i have found myself a little more irritated but i havnt been weepy thankfully the DH doesnt do crying!!!

@LilyWhit thats fab news!! And poor you
@Flatwhite32 awww thats great to hear!!!
@misshannah thats great news!! Youve had alot to deal with!! Let me know about the fatigue when u hear id love to know lol
@user1513517756 i also find that very strange for all the time it would take and all that it would cost im sure they could but thats the nhs now hopefully u wont have to long to wait til your scan then u can sgare the good news 😊

Brettgirl · 10/01/2018 13:49

Thank you all for your support! Things seem much better today, he apologised, gave me some gorgeous flowers and has been much better since. I know he saw some of the people this morning that he wants to tell and didn't mention to me once about telling them, so hopefully message is through!
I thought this morning I felt a little more energetic but this afternoon I'm exhausted! Got a 36 hour shift at the weekend and I'm nervous...xxx

LMX0 · 10/01/2018 14:06

@Brettgirl something must have went through!! Just you can see where he is coming from too it is hard keeping quite as it is exciting but he has to listen to what u want and your reasons

WalkingOnSunshine0 · 10/01/2018 15:10

I'm having a really hard time trying to come to terms with this pregnancy news. We only found out on Sunday so it's still new but hubby is really happy and excited and I feel really guilty because I'm really not. I feel like such a horrible human because I know there are so many women/couples who are desperate to conceive but can't and I get pregnant totally by accident and I'm not even happy about it. I'm guessing it's completely normal to be a bit overwhelmed but I am really struggling. Maybe seeing the midwife tomorrow will help a little.

Already pooping my pants about telling work. Couldn't come at a worse time really as we are right on the cusp of a really new and exciting project, now I'm going to have to take some time out of it. This new project also means I won't be entitled to statutory maternity pay as would be moving to a different company, so I will need to see if we can try and come to some sort of private agreement. Sad

V stressed and worried!!

Lphil93 · 10/01/2018 16:38

Was sent to EPAC today as a precaution... was told my baby has stopped growing and there's no heartbeat...

Im devastated but a small part of me holds out hope for next week when I return to check. This happened to a friend and she was later told they got it wrong.

💔

Heregoeseverything · 10/01/2018 17:06

Oh God @LPhil93 I'm so so sorry, that's awful news, thinking of you and everything crossed for you xx

user1513517756 · 10/01/2018 17:28

Praying for you Lphil93, fingers crossed for next week xxxd

Flatwhite32 · 10/01/2018 17:33

Oh @Lphil93 I'm so sorry. I have been where you are. Please get in touch if you would like to chat. Xxx

LMX0 · 10/01/2018 18:31

@Lphil93 i am so sorry to hear but i really hope they have better news next week!!! 💕

@WalkingOnSunshine0 it is normal to feel like that ive heard other ladies say it has taken time (even ladies that have been trying for a baby) it is a very overwhelming time there is so much to think about

Lphil93 · 10/01/2018 19:03

Thanks guys. @Flatwhite32 I would love to chat to someone who's been there... is there a private message option?xx

Noonaylor · 10/01/2018 19:05

Worked out how to change my name Smile - I was - user1513517756 now Noonaylor! Was doing it all on my phone, and I don't think it seems to work as well - like tagging people, changing my name etc!

Flatwhite32 · 10/01/2018 20:10

Yes there is @Lphil93 although I can only access it online rather than through the app! X

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