Hyperemesis Support

[LucindaE]

I hope everyone suffering from the Horrors of Hyperemesis will find this thread useful as a source of support and information.
There's no TMI on here - can't be by definition - and nobody should feel ashamed of moaning as much as they feel the need to.
MOH's wonderful website is full of useful information on this illness:
sites.google.com/site/pregnancysicknesssos
Another invaluable website is:
www.pregnancysicknesssupport.org.uk
If you need help in obtaining medication, phone them on:
024 7638 2020
Lastly, the NICE guidelines on treatment are useful:
cks.nice.org.uk/nauseavomiting-in-pregnancy
I would like to thank everyone who has given such invaluable support and advice on this and on previous threads.
Remember when you are at your worst, 'This Too Shall Pass'. It really will.
So many women on this thread have thought they couldn't get through this, but they did.

Couldn't agree more elephant, it's in no way helpful to play top trumps (yes Donald ) and so important that women feel supported. It makes me sad that people don't seek help early and then end up getting hospitalised. As I did. Because I was told repeatedly that it was normal and the implication was that I was somehow putting it on/exaggerating.
And yes, I don't think I would choose the HG out of all her many enviable qualities

mustang sorry you're struggling.

door sorry about DH not getting the job.

batman hurrah! That's brilliant!

Waves to everyone. Sorry I probably missed loads, feeling FUCKING RUBBISH. Argh

Sorry about the job Dead I’m gutted for you. That sucks.

You have my sympathy Just why won’t it just go away

Mustang I just seen her post ( and renewed my annoyance at the entire thread). It sound like she went through that because she thought it was a normal part of pregnancy and that is an expected level of suffering and had consoled herself by being proud of putting up with it. If one of the people she had puked on at work had made her go to the doctor it would have changed her attitude because she would realise that you actually can do something ( although the effectiveness of treatments varies a lot).

Yeah, not getting the job sucks. Hopefully something else will come up soon though.

I'm getting increasingly frustrated with the waiting now. Can't tell if I'm losing discharge or mucus plug bit by bit still, period pains again and I'm kinda desperate to go into labour tonight just so I have my own midwife there for it. She goes on holiday after my appointment tomorrow so won't see her afterwards. It sucks.
Hope Blue is doing ok. Still no update from her yet...

@shehz21. Many thought it was blonde shave 😂 - def blondes have fun

And yes i survived hg - tho tbh I would never do preg again coz of it

I survived as work nights as maternity nanny and could sleep /rest all day

I would throw Up in a bag /car on way home
And then lie quiet and still in bed with a bin beside me

No way could cope with a toddler /older child and preg

@elephant. Congrats and it’s amazing what babies survive on when we can’t eat /are sick

I was always told severe sickness /hg was a sign of a healthy baby

@batman. Praise to you for doing an exercise class. No way could I have managed that while i was preg and hg

@dead sorry about dh job :(

dead that’s a shame about your DHs job. Good luck to him for future opportunities.
Read that other thread, I think it’s great that hyperemesis and anxiety (another illness mentioned on the thread) are gaining more visibility. I would rather the odd person exaggerates how they’re feeling if it means more people get the right treatment, I honestly think the amount of women that are liars/drama queens/doing it for attention are very very minimal (does it remind you any other issues women face?) The upsetting fact is that women’s illnesses are often under diagnosed, especially where the illness is self reported.
emu (I think ?, sorry on mobile and it’s quite far back) mention the kicker in crotch feeling to midwife, as it may develop into spd/pgp and it took ages around here to get a physio referral

Mustang totally agree. Different carriers work for different people. Gross generalisation but the more structured ones like the ergo seem better for men and I have found fabricy ones like the connecta better for women. Also recommend going to a sling library so you can try them out.

The idea that you need to be vomiting 40 times a day before you get help is dangerous and could put some one who is seriously dehydrated from going to hospital when they desperately need to go

Absolutely, saw comments saying things like that on that thread and got pretty angry!

That sucks about the job Dead hope something else comes along soon (and better)

Oh interesting about the Ergo Mustang shall have to think about it. To be honest my breasts are barely existent even in their full pregnancy glory but I'll have a look at those other carriers you mentioned

Finally got meds today! There was a cancellation at the GP's so I got an appointment first thing, and it was the same doctor that I see everywhere, unless he has a identical twin or something! He used to be my psychiatrist, and then he was working in the maternity clinic early on in my pregnancy, and then a month or so ago I went with OH to his ADHD appointment and it was that doctor again, and now I saw him at the health centre. He prescribed enough to last until the gynaecologist decides if it's safe or not (which explains why the OB didn't call yesterday, as the gynaecologist hadn't answered her yet but I think she should have called anyway about my thyroxine and to explain that she's still waiting for the gyn to answer) so I can have some relief for the next two weeks at least. Also didn't get challenged in the pharmacy buying the ranitidine myself rather than sending OH in for it so that's good too.

Yep the shit that was spouted by some was just dangerous. Ah well I’m not going back to it as it makes me feel stabby lol.

Yeah sorry I was a bit of an arse about the carriers . Get what you really like but do lots of reading up if you don’t have a sling library near you. Sorry Nat not just boobs hips and general shape are An issue in the structured ones like the ergo for some women. I really like the general look of the ergo. You can actually hire carriers to try before you buy which id recommend any one does and you can do this online too.

Serious pity party here!!! I need to give myself a slap everything is setting me over the edge. I decided to make some gf wraps and oatcakes as they are really cheap and easy and plain to nibble so hopefully that cheers me a little lol

No update from Blue yet, hope everything is well.

Mustang pity party away. Some days are harden mentally than others and sometimes it all just gets a bit to much. Sending strength and happy to listen to as much ranting as you need.

There's a place in the city an hour and a half away that has some carriers it hires out, might investigate that. They also hire out TENS machine which I'm thinking I might want to hire this time around to hopefully help with the pains on the long journey to the hospital.

Hope everything is going well with Blue and she can update us soon.

GF oatcakes sound good, I might have to ask my mum to post me some.

Slept so well last night but woken up tired. Midwife appointment at half 1 so will see how engaged I am them.

mustang pity party away. I don't blame anyone at this point for wanting to just curl up and avoid everything and everyone.

Waves sadly to everyone. Not quite woken up yet so can't enthusiastically wave lol.

Mustang what you said about the ergo makes total sense, I got mine free and have small boobs so it worked for me last time (though only when DD got a bit older, how people faff about with the infant insert thing is beyond me!), can see it definitely might not be accommodating of bigger boobs! Sorry you're having a rubbish time, I hope those wraps and oatcakes do the trick though.

Natsku so glad you got your meds - at last!

Elephant, Justtheone and everyone else, you're so right about that thread, the idea that you must vomit 40 times per day to qualify is just bizarre, I hadn't realised I should have been keeping an accurate daily vomit tally as evidence, and god forbid actually be able to eat something on a good day, in that case I must be faking the whole thing for a laugh...!

At last there is a little news here, looks like early stages of labour are here (I mean very early)...that familiar back ache is here constantly, getting irregular contractions during monitoring this morning which have continued since. After examination the Dr seems optimistic things will happen within the next day or two. Waddling home from the hospital should have helped things along too. Trying not to get hopes up. Hope you get good news today dead, and that things start to happen soon for oklahoma too.

Blue I hope things are going well - I expect baby must be here by now, can't wait for an update!

Hi all. I thought I posted yesterday but obviously delusional.
That hg post is infuriating. I had hg last pregnancy too. When princess Kate announced she had it my friend said “she gets bedrest and drs, you get another meeting to go to.” My midwife wrote that I found sickness troubling! Makes my blood boil. Did you know you can effectively sack your mw lol?
Anyway, in awe of all the organised ladies out there. I just can’t get round to planning.
I also have a friend that used a big piece of material as a sling. She could sort it in minutes. Tried to teach me. I looked like I was auditioning for the mummy’s revenge! I have a bad back and was really wary about using a sling. Know that loads of people swear by them, as long as you have the ones that make sure baby’s legs are in the correct position. I used cloth nappies, planning to do that again and loads of people in the groups raved about baby carrying.
Good luck everyone with the pink castle in sight.
14w 5d today and it’s my birthday. I’m having a bath and DH has taken ds to the shops. Peace rules!

Happy birthday Seize. I hope you can enjoy your day.

I’m feeling a bit down today. Me and OH had an argument last night because he wants me to get rid of my dog. He thinks he’ll be too much for me once the baby comes and has said he doesn’t want him in the house. He’s a very bouncy rescue and can be boisterous but is in no way dangerous towards people. The problem is that my OH also has a dog (we each had them before we met) and mine sometimes goes for his.

Really not sure what to do.

Happy birthday seize 🎈 🎉
Troubling sickness? FFS!

pippa that is so exciting!!!

natsku glad you got your meds! That's really funny about seeing your doctor everywhere. Sounds like the start of a sci fi thriller!

Waves to everyone else. I feel like shit so sorry if I've missed anyone. I'm 24 weeks and like mustang says why won't it go?
Bought a baby play mat to cheer me up! Was reduced to £40 on amazon which is still ludicrous but I loved it. It's the mamas and papas octopus one.

If anyone does want the ergo carrier it's reduced on amazon.
I'm going to try the Caboo initially then take baby to a sling library to try others. The Caboo seems to sell second hand for nearly same price so not much to lose if I hate it.
I prefer the idea of a less structured one, although I'm fairly small of boob. Or I was before this, now I'm positively page 3

anew oh that would really upset me. Poor you. Maybe he can spend time getting them to get along better and researching how to safely bring a baby into a house with a dog. I assume he's not offering to rehome his? You could always rehome DP?

Hey everyone - sorry too much for me to take in to reply to all, but waves to you all.

nonstopdisco thanks for the advice about speaking to midwife, I will give it a go though not confident much will be done - though maybe they take these things more seriously than sickness (I would take a kicked in the crotch feeling over sickness any day).

dead I really hope labour starts soon for you. Sorry about DH's job.

natsku that's great you'be got the meds

batman so glad you're feeling a bit better wonderful to have some relief

Happy birthday sieze

Hugs to those feeling like crap. Sorry to those I've rudly ignored!

God that thread filled me with rage, I have stepped away now. Elephant you are so right about it. I know I haven't suffered half as badly as some of you but you've never made me feel like I'm being over dramatic or that I shouldn't say I have had HG because my meds have worked and I haven't been hospitalised. Thankfully, this thread is so supportive and full of wonderful women just trying to support each other through a horrible time, I will focus on that rather than the nastiness of that other one. This is the internet at its best I think.
I wish that women didn't feel the need to tear each other down so much. Life is bloody hard enough sometimes without that to add to it.

Well said Emu I don’t understand why the label matters so much. I feel like shit, you feel like shit so let’s support each other rather than trying to compete on who feels shitter.

Pippa woohoo!! Really hope it happens soon.

Happy birthday Sieze (for when you’re feeling better)

Anew that’s horrible. Dogs are such a part of the family. We have a golden retriever and she’s always been fine with the kids so tell your DH to spend his energy working out a useful solution that doesn’t include rehousing a family member.

Just sorry you feel like shit today. It’s so unfair how it just won’t go away. HG is the pits.

Absolutely Emu the whole pregnancy sickness thing is on a continuum anyway and of course there will always be those who suffer worse but that doesn't detract from the fact that what we suffer personally is horrid even if it's not as bad as the baddest cases. I know I've barely suffered at all compared to some on this thread thanks to very good medication (which I feel quite angry that it's not really available in the UK as it works so well and doesn't have the nasty side effects that some do)

Oh no anew that sounds like a tough situation, I hope you don't have to rehome your dog :(

I’m going to talk to him about it again today. I can’t just rehome him, I love him and he has got me through some really hard times.

I would end up being so upset having his dog but not mine, it wouldn’t feel right. He’s going to have to compromise because I don’t think I’m going to back down on this. The baby isn’t even here yet so it’s silly to not even try.

At least the weekend is here!

I'm really not coping today, feel really thick headed and dizzy even when I'm lying down. Nausea off the scale. Total pity party and can't stop crying I'm so miserable and fed up.

Just hang on in there. Those days are the worst. You won’t feel like this forever. Sending sympathy