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Hyperemesis Support

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LucindaE · 13/11/2017 19:30

I hope everyone suffering from the Horrors of Hyperemesis will find this thread useful as a source of support and information.
There's no TMI on here - can't be by definition - and nobody should feel ashamed of moaning as much as they feel the need to.
MOH's wonderful website is full of useful information on this illness:
sites.google.com/site/pregnancysicknesssos
Another invaluable website is:
www.pregnancysicknesssupport.org.uk
If you need help in obtaining medication, phone them on:
024 7638 2020
Lastly, the NICE guidelines on treatment are useful:
cks.nice.org.uk/nauseavomiting-in-pregnancy
I would like to thank everyone who has given such invaluable support and advice on this and on previous threads.
Remember when you are at your worst, 'This Too Shall Pass'. It really will.
So many women on this thread have thought they couldn't get through this, but they did.

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justtheonethen · 03/12/2017 17:09

Lucinda it's meadow having a scan!

Mustang I wish you were closer too Smile

Meadow hurrah for better piggie health Smile

Lost welcome! Sorry you have to join. The early days days are grim. Just hunker down and try and sleep them away. Don't be afraid to try different meds if they stop being so effective.

Have had a good chat with DH. Feel a lot better mentally. Yoga was great. Felt quite ill at times but glad I went.
Cat and cow positions seize!

justtheonethen · 03/12/2017 17:10

Natsku sorry you're feeling shit and stressed. Money worries definitely don't help. We are fucked for money as I can't work enough. It's really worrying me so I know how you feel. Sad

scottishem · 03/12/2017 17:48

Welcome @LostInTheTunnelOfGoats I found ready salted crisps and on good days salty chips to be my saviour. Cant stomach them now though mind!
@winky so sorry to hear of your struggles and sending you lots of love Thanks

I'm having a bit of a rough day aswell, I can definately hold down wayyy more food now than in my first trimester but liquids seems to still be such a problem for me! Cant stomach plain old water still and if I take any more than a slight sip of anything else it sits horribly in my stomach until it inevitably comes up, squash seems to be the worse for it.

The fact that so many on here are echoing that finances are causing unneeded stress just shows that more needs to be done for those who are signed off in pregnancy. Qualifying for my mat allowance is the only reason I'm attempting to soldier through at work but I wouldn't be surprised if I stop after Christmas at this rate.

scottishem · 03/12/2017 18:19

Also @Meadow so glad your furry family member is feeling better Smile

DeadDoorpost · 03/12/2017 18:40

Just popping in to say that goats should definitely try mango as that's been a saviour to quite a few of us. And week 6 was when it got really bad for me too. I remember losing an average of 3 or 4 lbs every week until my 12 week scan and then lost 7lbs in one day. It was horrific.
winky sorry to hear you coùld no long3r cope but I totally understand not being able to cope. I wish you all the best for the future.

Feeding is going really well here. Had Christopher's 5 day check up today and he's only lost 3 ounces which is amazing. And he's starting to sleep better too. Still won't settle in his cot though.

Stitches are also very sore. Don't have a clue where they are as I was still high as a kite when they mentioned it to me but i know where it hurts but don't think that's where they are. Oh well.
And I'd also like a little moan because you ladies understand... my DF is already making comments about me and DH having another baby in 2019... despite knowing I've had a hell of a pregnancy and still don't want children (wouldn't swap Christopher for the world though) so the comments and the hints that'll start coming soon are already driving me crazy.

waves to you all. Hang in there. I'm still lurking and cheering you all on. And will certainly pop back in and out to congratulate you when the time comes for you to enter the pink castle.

Natsku · 03/12/2017 19:02

I agree scottishem more needs to be done for those that need to be signed off for sickness. I've been ok with my sick leave thankfully, I put off being signed off because I was worried I'd get too little money but it actually turns out I get the almost same amount as I do for my unemployment allowance just minus the tiny extra for the days I worked and minus the child bonus so that wasn't as bad as I feared - if I had realised that I would have gone on sick leave sooner! I told OH tonight that I was stressed about the money, he's reassuring me that we'll manage, his grandma won 1500 euros recently so she's going to pay for all the Christmas food and some other essentials (I need to think of a good present for her to show our gratitude!)

Glad feeding is going well Dead but gah that's annoying that your DF is already hinting about a next child - has he not understood what you've gone through?!!

LucindaE · 03/12/2017 19:11

LostintheTunnelof Goats Welcome. Sorry that you feel so awful. Cyclizine is helpful and inexpensive, but if you are stuck in bed like that there are other meds they can try. I so agree with others about it being a good idea to get stronger meds. Do invest in some kesostix from any chemists, too, to check for the early stages of dehydration just in case you take a sudden turn for the worse. I so agree with others who recommend flat, full sugar coke and nibbles of crisps. Some other fluids are the juice of tinned fruit (particluarly peaches) Lucoazade, Elderflower Water, ice lollies, ice cubes, soda water, Dr Pepper, sips of chocolate milkshake (maybe soya), orange squash, and fizzy orange. Food (of a sort) is cuppa soup, tinned fruit, chips, jelly, cheap ice cream and mango and melon. Some swear by custard.
A truly appalling diet, except for the fruit. People can't usually work for quite a few weeks with this, but don't despair; for most people, things get a lot better sometime between 14 and 21 weeks. Even for the unlucky minority who suffer throughout, nobody suffers as badly as in the first few weeks.
Shez21 Hugs - how lovely. Thank you. Always on offer from me.
Natsku Some do complain of a hormonal surge at around thirty weeks, but I am sure the stress of the court case must be a factor.
Much sympathy.

Meadowhay and justtheone Silly me - my fingers did that! Iam glad the scan went well and the guinea pig is on the mend.
justtheone I am glad you had a talk with OH and that yoga cheered you up.
DeadDoorPost Lovely to hear from you, but I can't believe

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LucindaE · 03/12/2017 19:14

DeadDoorPost Sorry, that was truncated. I meant to say, lovely to hear from you and I can't believe that your DF is talking of a 2019 baby for you after you have been so ill. Words fail me. I hope the stiches aren't infected? I'm probably being super careful because mine became nastily infected...

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LostInTheTunnelOfGoats · 03/12/2017 19:28

Thank you all for the welcome Flowers and for the food ideas - I'm desperate for everything fresh and citrusy and I was sucking orange slices, but they're agony to my stomach. I hadn't thought of tinned fruit and mangoes, genius!

I'm going back to the doctor's tomorrow and will ask about different tablets. I have ketostix, and am usually sitting at the 1.5 mark ever since I've been on the tablets. Orange lollies have been lifesavers.

I'm concerned about money too, we're not exactly rich but on the other hand, if worst comes to worst, DH's wage will pay the bills. I'm too ill to care much anyway, as long as I don't have to move around or stand up for too long. I'm from a fairly strong union background, and if work try to discriminate against me in any way, I'll absolutely hammer them Smile once I'm human again that is..

Mustang27 · 03/12/2017 19:50

Hey goats sorry you are joining us you paint a very good picture of how it feels to be an hg sufferer.

Haha true meadow im not allowed them so I was doing his daddy a favour Who is rapidly getting either a sympathy bump or a dad bod hehe. So glad your gp seems to have got over the worst. Do what you need to, to feel like hg is bearable it really does isolate. If it was just the physical stuff we'd all be coping better I'm sure.

Oh Nat financial stress is the worst it can feel so bloody hopeless. That's awesome of your partners gm. I think you growing her ggc is a fantastic gift. My 30 week surge just stayed with me 38 weeks now and feels like the start. I was t this ill last time at this point.

Shehz we were attempting to induce labour by having a dance lol. Plus I'm trying to brainwash him into liking bagpipes as doesn't seem so keen. He does quite like Dolly Parton thanks to the bookbug cd that has her singing about a train ShockHmmConfused. I love music but country is at the bottom of the list and especially the cheesy type so it's proving torture.

Sorry I'm not Just but so glad you enjoyed the yoga. There is a lot of stuff on youtube and it's great for relaxation so you can do those on top of your class hopefully it will help you feel a wee bit more centred.

Sorry you are having a rough day Scottish I can barely eat chips they always make me sick and they are bloody awful second time around but carbs and sugar tend to set me off although it's often what I crave Hmm.

Hey Dead glad all is well. Get some lavender oil for your bath it helps reduce swelling you will still be pretty bruised and swollen even if you can't see it. Glad feeding is going so well. Ignore ignore ignore!!! It's bloody bizarre I guess it's like that until they are grown everyone will try and get their tuppence in.

Mustang27 · 03/12/2017 19:55

Just found this. I think il make this up pre labour it sounds pretty killer. You just need a wee spritzer bottle.

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Mustang27 · 03/12/2017 19:56

Posted to early sorry

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Natsku · 03/12/2017 20:00

Growing her a ggc is a pretty good present, you're right. She's so excited about getting to be a great-grandma and keeps saying things like "Oh I hope I live long enough to see my great-grandchild" - she's smokes like a chimney and drinks a fair bit but I reckon she'll live a while yet!
Hope this doesn't stick around like it has for you, poor you feeling so bad at 38 weeks, it's just not fair is it?!

We have had some good news at least, our van which we thought for quite a while would not be able to be fixed has finally been fixed and will be ready next week which is a big relief as our current car can not be trusted to drive any further than around town so it wouldn't get us to the hospital when the time comes. Going to ask OH about getting ISOFIX points put in next so we can use the base for the car seat (as I don't think the van has ISOFIX points as the back seats were a custom job by the previous owner so not standard.

Natsku · 03/12/2017 20:01

Ooo that spray sounds good, wonder if I could find the ingredients here.

Natsku · 03/12/2017 20:03

Ooo did you know that Witch Hazel is called Magic Nuts in Finnish? Brilliant name!

LostInTheTunnelOfGoats · 03/12/2017 20:28

That spray looks excellent Smile witch hazel is really brilliant stuff.

Oh God, I don't even know what an isofix is. My mechanic, a dad of young children, raved about my new car having Isofix when he was looking at it last month. I had to gently remind him DD was 10.... Little did I know...

Mustang27 · 03/12/2017 20:30

Magic nuts just made my life Nat I'm so easily pleased. A Spray made with magic nuts for your fanjo love it.

Good news on the van front. I love my isofix points but god the bases are crazy priced they double the car seat costs.

She sounds like a cracker, my ohs go are in their going to outlive is all.

It's bloody ridiculous but I'm so close I just think I can't bring myself to go back on the ondansetron even though if it was any of you guys I'd be like take all the MEDS!!! lol.

Mustang27 · 03/12/2017 20:33

That's supposed to say my partners grandparents are in their 90s** mini was in the bath and threatened to poop so I never proof read to avoid poop situation lol

Natsku · 03/12/2017 20:57

I wouldn't want to go on onandsetron so near the end either - imagine constipation combined with that first post-birth poo! Ouch!!

Haha Lost maybe your mechanic could foresee the future Grin

DeadDoorpost · 03/12/2017 21:00

That message mustang 😂😂😂 a friend of mine had her son eat some last night 😂😂😂 in the bath as well

Shehz21 · 03/12/2017 21:54

Natsku Much sympathy regarding all the stress with DB and financial matters. Totally get where you coming from with the money matters though my case is worse. I just resigned as soon as I started getting sick. And DH earns okaish but I would have worried much less had I been earning as well. DP are being amazing though, they are getting lots of stuff for their 1st grandchild super excited grandparents to be and it's helping us so much. Very blessed to have them and ever so gratefulSmile
Yay about DH grandma though! Lucky her Grin and lucky you in turn Wink

justtheonethen So glad you enjoyed the yoga and hope DH is going to be more considerate in the future.(crossing fingers he gives it up altogether!)

mustang omggg your last post Grin
Totally second Natsku about constipation and post birth poo not being a good combi!!

justtheonethen · 03/12/2017 22:07

Magic nut spray for fanjos Grin

Shehz I left my job before I got pregnant because I was going to do supply teaching and started a freelance consultancy job. Only it turns out I can barely work (done three days since getting pregnant) so we are a bit screwed for money. It's such a constant worry.

I spoke too soon earlier. Whilst I feel better that me and DH are back on the same page I just feel so sad about everything. I can't stop crying. I am so desperately unhappy all the time. I don't know how I can carry on doing this. I feel like a shit wife, a shit friend, a shit everything. My existence is so small now. I wish I had never got pregnant, then I feel guilty that the baby will think it's not wanted. I spend most of my time wishing I was dead. I just feel like such a shadow of myself and like I'll never be happy again.

DeadDoorpost · 03/12/2017 22:46

Justtheonethen
I spend most of my time wishing I was dead

Feel free to want to be me 😉
Seriously though, I actually felt like this. I still do sometimes but mostly because I don't want Christopher to think that he's being abandoned like I did at a young age. It's hard, it honestly is. But you've been through so much already and it really does get better towards the end, and on the other side. You have to remember that pregnancy does some strange things to your body and your hormones are running all over the place. I've never been so emotionally unstable in my life and it's something I didn't enjoy. And the sickness and the exhaustion really don't help but everyone here is experiencing the same thing. It certainly helped me to cope.

DH and I have just had a discussion about finances too funnily enough. He earns very little as a TA and it's a miracle we can afford to live tbh. And now with a baby it's going to be even thinner money-wise. He either needs another/better job or I go back to work in August and DH stays home. We both know I'd earn double what he could purely because I have a better qualification and more experience of different things than he does. and better self confidence but that's apparently not part of it according to DH

NonStopDisco · 04/12/2017 01:40

Hi all, sorry I’ve not dropped by, but had noticed Dead had had a little boy- congratulations!

Justtheone- this is exactly how I felt, like a shit everything, wondering why I had got pregnant in the first place, and this took a lot of getting past. I hope you have good support in real life, and are able to access some services to help you feel better.

NonStopDisco · 04/12/2017 01:46

Re. Constipation post birth- I was constipated for a week before birth, had a second degree tear and stitches. Managed the first bowel movement by eating lots of vegetables and taking lactulose. It was (tmi) massive but surprisingly, not unpleasant! I think being able to eat Proper meals went somewhere towards helping.