Hyperemesis Support

[LucindaE]

I hope everyone suffering from the Horrors of Hyperemesis will find this thread useful as a source of support and information.
There's no TMI on here - can't be by definition - and nobody should feel ashamed of moaning as much as they feel the need to.
MOH's wonderful website is full of useful information on this illness:
sites.google.com/site/pregnancysicknesssos
Another invaluable website is:
www.pregnancysicknesssupport.org.uk
If you need help in obtaining medication, phone them on:
024 7638 2020
Lastly, the NICE guidelines on treatment are useful:
cks.nice.org.uk/nauseavomiting-in-pregnancy
I would like to thank everyone who has given such invaluable support and advice on this and on previous threads.
Remember when you are at your worst, 'This Too Shall Pass'. It really will.
So many women on this thread have thought they couldn't get through this, but they did.

Oh Winky I am so sorry it's fucking dreadful but you need to be able to function and if you aren't then there is absolutely no point forcing yourself through this hell. Sometimes there is just too much shit to wade through. Do you have good rl support for Tuesday?

winky I echo justtheone. They will have discussed all the options with you, including steroids. Only you know how much you can endure.

Haha I might just hang about Lucinda, mumsnet is a bit addictive lol. I don't do any other social media.

Just that's crap I'm sorry it's all getting on top of you. I think it is hard to live with someone who is selfish as it's just a constant reminder that your needs are secondary to theirs and with all the other stuff and HG it just gets unbearable. Wish there was something I could do or say to cheer you hg is lonely enough.

Thanks mustang. I'm just so bloody lonely and fed up.

Hi all, hope you're all hanging in okay?

Just catching up on the thread now.

Sadly still here suffering, but not as badly as when I was pregnant.

I am so fed up though. A full day of vomit and migraines today. DS is being a little star so can't complain about him. I'm so lucky to have him. He's so good.

I have spoken to a Dr who's a bit more clued up on HG and it's her opinion that the BF isn't helping me feel any less sick.

I don't want to give it up. It's just so easy. Not a single sore nipple in sight. DS is gaining weight so quickly and he's so content with a great latch.

Why can anything never be straightforward for me? Sigh.

BlueButTrue Lovely to hear from you. I was thinking of you earlier. Oh dear. Vomiting and migraines. I do think if it doesn't get better soon and the GP doesn't have a suggested treatment plan safe when breastfeeding, the best thing to do is to give up breast feeding early. You have feed baby through the first weeks, which is the main thing to get those antibodies.
Mustang I am sure you are lovely anyway, swollen or not.

justtheonethen Sorry, forgot to add cyber hugs on offer.

So sorry for what you're going through Winky. Hope you have good support in RL. Thinking of you

Just about caught up but rubbish at remembering what I read so sorry ladies.

Pippa Many congrats on the birth of your little one, hope they are doing ok now and hope you are recovering .

DGPig is still very poorly and not through the woods and has to still be regularly syringe-fed but he is eating a bit now and seems a lot more bright in himself, wheeking now and then and coming over to the side of the cage sometimes showing interest in what we're doing rather than just sitting in a corner all day on his own looking sick, poor love. We have our fingers very tightly crossed that if we can just get some weight back on him he will be ok, he's very underweight at the moment though so very frail . It has been such a stressful thing on top of the HG, it might sound silly to some but I absolutely adore them and I've been crying every day terrified about losing him . They are my first ever pets too and they are not very old so I was excited for them to meet baby so the thought of losing either before baby arrives is heart-breaking. But anyway trying to think positive and just continue nursing him, he does seem to be doing a bit better as I say.

I haven't vomited at all so far today which is a nice break as I was sick about 5 or 6 times yesterday. The GP only signed me off for next week, which has increased my anxiety again as I highly doubt I will be miraculously well enough for work by Monday after this one . So will mean calling again for another sick note which makes me so anxious urghhh. I feel a bit like now that I'm coming out of the first trimester people aren't taking me as seriously as they've decided that I 'should' be better by 12 weeks. I am 12 weeks now and I am a little better but not well enough for work, or basically any movement. I've been housebound for so long...

Winky I hope you have a good support network IRL. I think you're being super brave and you do need to put your health first always. Wishing you all the best .

Hey ladies, has anyone had to have a transvaginal US scan for the dating scan? I think the letter said I need to drink like a litre of water an hour before the appt or something to have a US and there's no way I will be able to do that without lots of vomiting so...will they just give me a transvaginal one instead? I don't really mind too much as I've had 2 TV US scans before anyway for gynae stuff and they weren't too bad.

Winky you have to do what is right for you. No judgement on this thread, just support.

Blue it’s so unfair that we are still suffering but your GP is right, I know mine won’t go until I stop bf.

Waves to everyone else

Winky Hope you are able to manage until Tuesday and if not then for your sake I hope Tuesday comes soon! Try and concentrate on the better days coming ahead in case rl support ain't great. Tc of yourself love

Blue Sorry to hear you are suffering even in the Pink Castle. It seems like such a hard decision to make but maybe if you feel better physically, you will be able to enjoy your little star more.

Meadow A friend had a transvaginal one due to being overweight at her dating scan. She said it wasn't bad at all, slightly uncomfortable that's it.
I had a couple of them myself in EPU at 5,6 and 8 weeks. Was pretty okay with it aside from the fact that some random lady was prodding some random stick inside of me

So last night I woke up at 2am, reached for a twix bar, devoured it and went back to sleep.
Dh was looking at the wrap beside my head this morning..
I am turning into a monster

Meadow completely get how you feel about pets. They're fur babies. Hope there are some signs of recovery. My dr originally gave me short lines, and like you I got so anxious calling for a new line. The last one was 4 weeks though and it felt like I had time to recover. The idiot decided to take me off ondansetron last week though and I'm back on but still feel rough. Plus I put my back out being sick (seriously could only happen to me). Meant to be back tomorrow but don't feel up to it. I've been out of the house twice since October. I'm 17 weeks today and there are no signs of this easing up. I've been off work 9 weeks! Hugs to you and as my sister pointed out, giving a sick note is the easiest thing for the dr to do.
Blue glad ds is good but migraines and vomiting would do me in. I couldn't breast feed, so no help there but it's got to be a balance of what's best for you both.
Winky love and hugs for you. Thinking of you and like everyone says, hold on tight to your support network.
Just my mum smoked all through my first pregnancy. Drove me mad. We were at an aunts house, oh the days I could go out...and my aunt said she was going to the kitchen for a smoke. My mum lit up in front of heavily pregnant me and said not to bother. Aunt went anyway and everyone just stared at my mum. In her defence, she's completely blinkered but has now gone onto vaping. Which, I don't care what she says, stinks!

We had a scan yesterday and found out we're having another boy. So stuck for boys names! Was meant to be at queen tonight but as I'm still feeling ill and can't stand up, there's no chance. BIL is going with DH but I'm gutted.

Meadow I didn't have to have a full bladder for dating scan but I know lots of hospitals require that. Yes I expect they will just do TV. Had so many of those during ivf that I nearly whipped my pants off at my dating scan
Hope piggie gets better, pets are part of the family.

Blue sorry you're still suffering so much

Seize your poor back! Definitely don't go back if you're not right, it doesn't sound like you should. Hurrah to lovely boy news. Sorry you're missing your gig, that's so annoying.
Your mum!!! Shocking! Vaping stinks, I hate it! Prefer it to smoke obviously but it smells horrendous.

Shehz how funny!

Feeling really lonely today. Have spent the whole weekend so far crying and need to regain some sanity. Don't feel like I'm going to spew so think I might try and go to the preggo yoga class I've been trying to do for the last 3 months. Figure I can just lie on the floor if I feel too shit. Might be a step too far but I think I need to get out today as I've spent a solid 24 hours thinking about how I wish I was dead.

Just if you get to preggo yoga take notes on good moves for a bad back and repeat back

That's why I'm going seize! Will absolutely report back . Sitting outside as arrived early and feel really nervous!

You will love it Just!!! Promise. I wish I was close by you sound like you need an unbiased understanding ear.

Seize congrats on your wee boy, I'm struggling for all names have a few boys/girls names I like but not fully decided. I lost my aunt last year who I loved dearly but she has a really old fashioned name I love it but fear I'd be giving a girl a name she would hate. I basically go on the top one hundred names on a weekly basis and score out any that are on that list lol.

Oh Blue and Oklahoma it's such a short straw to have drawn I'm so sad for you guys. Especially when the feeding is proving easy in all other fronts.

Hope you and piggie are well soon Meadow.

Shit mum moment of the day I'm feeding my toddler a Krispy Kreme donut he is happy. We did just do a 10min dance to some funky rock bagpipes, don't ask. He earned it lol.

All luck with the scan justtheone. Almost certainly, you won't need it.
Seize You mustn't think of going back until you are over the worst. It is massively draining.That was very tiresome of your mother!
Meadhowhay I am glad that the poor guinea pig is a bit better. I know how you feel about a pet.
Oklahoma You are so right about it being wholly unfair.
Waves to Shez Mustang and everyone.

Hello, can I join?

I'm six weeks pregnant with my second and on cyclizine. It's worked in that I'm more it less able to hold down water and food sometimes- there was talk of going to the hospital for fluids but so far I'm managing to avoid that. I know it's going to get much worse though, I am so early on. Going to the GP tomorrow to get signed off work, at least until January. A few weeks ago, the thought of being off on the sick would have filled me with horror and worry, but at the minute I genuinely wouldn't care if we were tossed homeless on the street, as long as I was allowed to keep my boke basin, and was allowed to lie flat on the pavement

I can barely move until mid afternoon when it eases a little - attempted the post office yesterday and had to run out and be sick in my basin, which I was keeping in the car. So even my hour or so of relief isn't really useful. Then I get bad in the evenings again.

I have lost 5lb in a week and am picking off the soft parts from crusty bread rolls to eat. That and, weirdly, a small bowl of Chinese chips stayed down yesterday.

My DD is 10, so thankfully is able to look after herself in the house, and DH is being a complete star, but I wish I could temporarily die then be resurrected in about seven months time

Cuttlefish I'm so sorry you've been having such a rough time of it, I know it probably sounds awful but it does help me to talk to people who do understand though. To all the ladies on this thread, you're really helping me with my poor mental health, cos we've still not told anyone IRL that I'm pregnant except my parents and two siblings and my siblings are both younger and don't talk to me about it at all cos they just don't know what to do/say lol and my parents to start with were very unsympathetic and didn't understand at all - but they have got a lot better over he last few weeks, they visiting me more and witnessing me vomit more so I think they've finally realised how sick I actually am! But it is a very lonely time otherwise. Also congrats on the news of your little boy!

I don't mind a TV scan too much, had 2 before as I say and they're not that bad especially with DH there. I had one in France when I lived there and they wouldn't let DH come in the room with me and I was too anxious to argue as it was my first one and it was really weird, they told me to go in the room and get undressed and sit on the bed and then the doctor came and did it proper cold and then went out the room again for me to dress myself again . It was so different to the one I had in this country lol.

Good news about my piggy - he seems to have really turned a corner and is eating much better and generally brighter and more like his normal self. I think we just need to work on getting some weight back on him but I really think he will be ok now . DH and I are so relieved and happy to seem him feeling better.

I have decided to start using Elefriends again to help my MH a bit. I use to use it quite a lot years ago when I was really depressed. Feels weird going back on it but I'm hoping it will help my loneliness and low mood.

Mustang Don't worry about the doughnut, everyone loves a KK doughnut .

Welcome Goats, mine started at 6 weeks too, I'm 12 now and been off work ever since and can't see myself going back anytime soon really. If the cyclizine is not doing too much for you it's definitely worth going back to GP and asking to try something else - lots of us have particularly had significant improvement with ondansetron. Glad DH is being helpful but I totally sympathise with the wanting-to-temporarily-die thing, I feel like that every day too, it is rough .

Goats Welcome and commiserations HG sister
Along with the sick note, could you ask your GP for Ondansetron(or even some of the other medecines so you could try a cocktail in hard times?!)?
Being a veteran but 10 years back, may I suggest my personal favourites all the beige things,full flat coke and mangoes! Lucinda and the other veterans will give you a better list of what is famous for staying down and on the way back up as well.
Pleased to know that your Dh is being amazing as you will need all the RL support as much as possible. And we are always going to be here for you when you need a rant, for advice and support!I am sorry you are having to be here but you have found your people.

P.S : Grabbing at straws here but crossing fingers for you it won't get much worse this time round.

Hugs to all that need them (probably everyone!) and welcome Lost, sounds like you need to go back to your doctor as your meds aren't helping enough, and no point in holding back from getting fluids as they help so much.

Think I might be having another hormone surge or something as I'm feeling more sick again despite being back on the full dose of meds, or maybe it's stress that's making it worse?

Seize Congratulations on your little boy!
If you get a list, maybe we can help you out with choosing one(love those threads).
So sorry you can't be at Queen tonight, hope you are having a nice day so far though
And please do not go back into work until you are ready! There is really no point for you to back to square one owing to work related stress and fatigue.

Meadow So happy to hear your Dpiggy is back on track! Hopefully he gets more food back in him so he can go all fluffy and healthy again❤
I am sure this must have cheered you up a lot but obviously the loneliness which accompanies HG is so horrible, totally understand you feeling the way you do atm. Glad to hear DP have finally come to term with the fact that HG is no joke. Seriously support in RL can be so hard to get, I am genuinely happy tha they now can understand how miserable you have been/still are and they can be more compassionate now. Hope using Elefriends helps you a bit more and you can always speak to your midwife if you think you might be borderline antenatal depression. A lot of us on this thread have suffered and currently suffer from it and seeking help in whichever way you feel comfortable is a big step to making a difference. Even if ever so slightly.

Mustang Lol Mini must be still so happy about that yummy sugar rush! Glad you are enjoying yourself with your LO? Is he excited about the new arrival?

justtheonethen Hope your class has gone well and raised your spirits a bit.

Waves and hugs to Lucinda

Natsku I heard of a dreaded 30 week mark relapse? It might be that (how many weeks are you again?) But could well be the stress.
Why are you stressed?! Please don't -I know its easier said than done- but that's the last thing you need on top of such a hard pregnancy.

I had a relapse at 30 weeks, am 32 weeks now and have felt worse for the past couple of days. Stressed about my brother of course and also money issues because the way the maternity pay works is that I don't get paid until after 6 weeks of being on the leave so my first payment isn't due until end of Jan (two days AFTER baby is due) and so I won't be getting any money between middle of this month and then. After that it goes to the normal 4 week payment periods which are fine but 6 weeks is just too long.