Hyperemesis Support

[LucindaE]

I hope everyone suffering from the Horrors of Hyperemesis will find this thread useful as a source of support and information.
There's no TMI on here - can't be by definition - and nobody should feel ashamed of moaning as much as they feel the need to.
MOH's wonderful website is full of useful information on this illness:
sites.google.com/site/pregnancysicknesssos
Another invaluable website is:
www.pregnancysicknesssupport.org.uk
If you need help in obtaining medication, phone them on:
024 7638 2020
Lastly, the NICE guidelines on treatment are useful:
cks.nice.org.uk/nauseavomiting-in-pregnancy
I would like to thank everyone who has given such invaluable support and advice on this and on previous threads.
Remember when you are at your worst, 'This Too Shall Pass'. It really will.
So many women on this thread have thought they couldn't get through this, but they did.

Mustang have sent him the info. I just don't get why he's being such a selfish fucker. I have spent all evening upstairs as I am so annoyed. And the smell of him makes me heave.
Sorry you still have a cold. I hope mini2 makes a prompt appearance for you!

It is just selfish you are absolutely right, he has put his needs before yours and the baby. It must feel like a kick in the teeth considering how hard it was for you guys to conceive and if he was secretly sneaking them here and there. There is loads of evidence the damage it does to your sperm count. God silly man. It's really tough how do you get past it as it's so damaging to your trust. Not that it helps but I actually loved the smell first time round but this time I find it really horrible so I get it.
Does he want to be that dad that can't run after his children because he is heaving a lung?!? I doubt it. It's really sad I hope he can kick it for good for all of your sakes.

Haha I keep saying I'm ready then I panic cause I'm not lol. How hard can it be 😂.

Urgh just that makes me so angry! OH is a smoker too but he has switched to nicotine replacement snus (occasionally real snus which I'm not happy about but at least it doesn't affect me or baby like smoking does)

Had to google snus! Yeah that's annoying but at least it doesn't affect you/baby.

He's just being so selfish. He has a vape which he uses sometimes but he has zero willpower. I can't even be bothered to talk to him now. I'm so fed up. Looking back now I think he has been sneaking them as I've smelt smoke a few times but he's had excuses. Totally destroyed the trust. And annoyed me for making me feel like I've been getting at him unfairly when I smell smoke.

Justtheonethen I am so sorry about your DH being a knob. My DH is a chain smoker and he has recently decreased when I made it clear to him, he will not be allowed anywhere near the baby after a smoke. I have never smoked but I am aware that it can be really tough to quit but hey where there is a will,there is a way?
He should atleast be considerate enough of your very hard situation atm. I hope this "revelation" and your outburst makes him feel guilty enough to find the willpower he needs to quit.
How are you feeling today?
Oh sorry about that ridiculously foolish midwife as well. I swear I sometimes wonder why some of them chose this path as a job if they do not have the appropriate characteristics/traits to fit the profile.

Mustang Not that I am wishing you are overdue but the longer you are around, the better it is to have a veteran who we all absolute adore among us
Haha but on a serious note, hope Mini 2 makes an appearance as soon as you start feeling fed up!

Natsku Hope you doing alright

Shehz I'm feeling a bit better, no vomming just fed up, nauseous and annoyed. How are you?
DH used to be a chain smoker, I used to smoke and it is bloody hard giving up but part of me thinks well I had to so why can't you! Glad yours is cutting down. Has he tried a vape?

Aww all the stress is defo not gonna help
I have kind of resigned myself to accept that I will feel nauseous probably almost everyday until birth. In the process kind of conditioned myself to ignore it as well (to a certain extent).
Re DH is absolutely adamant that he can quit without trying vape. He has cut down from 20 to 10 a day so far. Should I consider this a small victory?
I think due to the fact that my DP live in Dubai and either I travel there to see them every 3 months or they come down here, the fact that the tobacco price in Dubai Duty Free is SO much cheaper than in UK , he found it very convenient as he wasn't spending half the amount of money he would've spent here on cigs. But I have stopped my DP from getting him cigs now and I myself have stopped getting him cigs whenever I travel back and forth. So he is having to reduce inadvertently now
He earnestly tries to make me believe he is becoming more aware of the harm on the environment,his health and the upcoming member of our family but I think it's the weight of his wallet getting lighter that made him realise

Ah cheap cigs are certainly not great for breaking an addiction! I used to 'smuggle' (bring back more than allowed, they never check too closely) big 200 packs of cigs from Russia to sell for a very nice profit during my first year in Finland but started to feel guilty about it after someone who was clearly desperate for a smoke paid a lot of money for some. Selling beers was less profitable but less guilt-ridden too!

weight of his wallet! Who cares, as long as he is cutting down! 20 to 10 is brilliant. Well done him!

Yes I'm resigned to the constant nausea too, mostly I can put it in the background but there's still the occasional wave that knocks me sideways.

Natsku ** a smuggler with a conscience.

Those were good times... my life is so dull in comparison now! I used to be known as Party Girl sigh

Me too

'This Too Will Pass' , everyone! You will have fun again; and never so much, as with a baby or small child. Well, the second time around-ers know that already.
justtheonethen I believe that sneaking the odd cigarette makes it many times harder to give up. Is it true that male sperm count has declined in recent years, I think I heard that recently for reasons that are not clear, and that is one of the reasons why it takes a bit longer for women to conceive these days (except when they don't want to, when it's sods law...)? To have two hours retching and heaving as a result of his self indulgence is really bad - must have been so painful - and he was a fool - but maybe it is stress of not being able to help you that makes him do it?
I hope everyone is coping. winky went in, and I know she was finding it very hard to keep on. I hope she is relatively OK(ish).

Been wondering how winky is too.

I know Lucinda but it's just so frustrating as like you say it's harder to stop if you're sneaking the odd one. And it's not like I can sneak one if I wanted so I think it's selfish!

Hi everyone, congratulations Amelia, I hope your little one is doing well and growing and getting stronger, and that you are both recovering from what must have been quite a terrifying experience.

Just I can totally understand your frustration, the smell alone would have driven me crazy, let alone being lied to!

Bunny am so pleased you are feeling a little better now, that's great news.

Mustang we were going to keep the sex of the baby a surprise but ended up finding out by accident right towards the end (they accidentally put it on the notes of one of the additional later scans), but it was quite a nice way to find out as still a surprise. Can't believe all the worry about baby being small now! I hope you can avoid being induced, for me it was a very different experience to my pretty relaxed first labour and much, much more intense - manageable but not something I'd choose to do again! But as ever, the most important thing is that both you and baby get through it safely.

We are settling in to our new routine here now we are home. This basically involves eating vast quantities of cake (3 days after giving birth I am a stone lighter than when I got pregnant...so I have a good excuse to make up for it!) whilst feeding baby/playing with toddler in a sleep deprived state. It is lovely. Thinking of you all and hoping that the days pass quickly for you. Also hoping winky is doing ok. Apologies to everyone I've missed here, but wishing you all well!

Pippa Glad to hear you are back home with Baby Pippa and you are getting to enjoy copious well deserved amount of cake!

Natsku & Just Haha I kissed goodbye to my old life(which consisted of shopping addiction,social events,travelling)and settled down into a very boring routine as of now. Hoping it gets better after Baby Shez is here forever wishful thinking

Hey another crap day kept nothing down and don't you hate it when your stomach has the audacity to rumble and complain it's empty. Why do you mock me body .

Shehz you are sweetie I think I will be loitering wether I like it or not.

Sorry everyone about my rant about cigs must have came across pretty insensitive. Hugs to all who have managed to quit and to those struggling to get loved ones to quit or to stay on the wagon themselves. It's not easy, I know. 6yrs here and I'd say I get a craving most days still so I'm in no position to judge.

Pippa that is such good news I'm standing at 4st heavier than I was before fell pregnant I'm actually jealous. Can't imagine what I'd gain without the sickness. Everything is swollen and puffy. So glad you are home and getting to eat all the cake and hopefully the sleep deprivation settles soon. Oh gosh I'm hoping for a nice relaxing second Labour il be drinking lots of rl tea and bouncing on my ball im pretty sure my cervix is softening though.

Sending my love Winky whatever you decided remember you will receive nothing but understanding and support here, hugs x

Mustang I don't think it was insensitive. It's all true!

I just can't get myself out of being totally miserable. DH is studiously ignoring the fact I've been crying all day and not speaking to him. I'm just so fed up today. With him. With being ill. With everything.

I'm here lurking. Thank you for thinking of me. Spent the night in hospital and was hydrated. I'm okay as long as I don't actually DO anything. My head is a mess as you can imagine.

Winky can empathise with that. I couldn't do anything in the early days. It's grim. Here for you if you want to chat.

winky Great to hear from you. Things will get better - they do for almost everyone. Those first weeks are dreadful. Take it one day at a time, one hour at a time if need be. If you feel desperate, remember that Pregnancy Sickness Support on 0800 7683 2020 can arange a one-to-one support relationship. They have to phone you back, but they will, and have helped so many people on here. Are any liquids any good - those ice lollies, did you say? What meds have they got you on?
justtheone Speak to him the next time he is doing DIY, say, hammering. As most men can't do two things at once, with any luck he will hit his finger. 'Oh, I'm so sorry; I didn't think...' Well, he didn't think, after all. Very mean of me...
Mustang You must call back in regularly when Baby Mustang has arrived.

pippasnippa Lovely to hear from you. Glad all is fine, and the birth was managable. Underweight, and stuffing down cake; what could be better?

Waves to Shez and everyone.

Lucinda ** great idea!

My termination is booked for Tuesday. I'm just not strong enough.

Totally understand winky. No judgement here, just sympathy

Thank you x