Pregnancies due April 2018

[DaisyLand]

New thread after www.mumsnet.com/Talk/pregnancy/3002846-Pregnancies-due-April-2018-Edited-by-MNHQ nearly full

@loosemoose28 Yeah TBH I don't think it's worth worrying too much about if other people haven't had a problem as long as you're aware that it can happen. Too much other stuff to worry about already!

Catching up as I've not been on for a few days! Work has been mental for the last few days, I can't wait for maternity leave to start. If I hadn't used all my leave I'd be going earlier than 15 March!

Got arrived on Friday and DH and I have spent the morning assembling it! We brought the Snuzpod and it's beautiful! Fits perfectly in the gap between the bed and the wall and has a shelf underneath for stuff.

32 weeks today and boy am I feeling it! Still have so much to get. I'm planning to breast feed but I'm planning ahead in case I can't, so we brought one of the prep machines a few weeks ago, just need to get formula!

Got another scan tomorrow to see how baby is growing, consultant says if baby is big then they will make me have a GTT

Welcome @madrainbow we have the same due date. I’m having an elective section though no later than the 31st March (Easter weekend) so will probably deliver in March but I refuse to move boards haha as these ladies are so nice in here.
@emvy can you rent the medela? I’m sure I saw on fb someone said about returning a rented one? May be worth looking into if don’t want to buy just yet.
Spent another two hours in Maternity yesterday ... went in for reduced movement on my left twin but the right was very over active they think she was squashing her sister as she was having her party for 1 in there. Whilst on the monitor picked up some hefty tightnings every 20 mins they have allowed me home again with strict instructions of any pain accompanying them im to go straight back. The good news though was it’s not having an impact on my cervix. She said it’s like my body and mind are thinking it’s over due and trying to evict them because of my size etc but the womb itself is arguing back it’s not ready lol! Consultant Thursday so will try enquire more then.
Have a lovely week everyone. Ours are back to school today and little boy nursery on Wednesday so only two and a half days to try entertain him this week. Lol.

Glad the babies are ok @bez. We could form the club of the maternity club !

I’ve been pampering myself in the last week. Thursday photoshoot, Saturday bump painting and yesterday massage.

Also realised that I need to buy the beddding for the bedside Cosleeper

I remember someone got the tutti bambini , what sheets and mattress protectors did you get ? It’s strange but the official tutti sheets are smaller than the actual mattress !

@daisy between us all we are keeping them busy aren’t we least babies are all okay when being checked she said would rather see us than not.
We just got our new mattress yesterday for our swinging crib. It’s all coming together now eeeek

Yeah they’d be bored otherwise in the maternity units !! What are they gonna do from May on :)

I bought my baby a coming home outfit yesterday. I’ve barely bought him anything as I’ve borrowed most of the clothes so I thought I wanted him to come home in something bought by his mummy and something special. Can’t wait to have him here and use it !

Aww that’s so cute. We have two sleepsuits picked out for the girls one in tiny baby and one in newborn as not sure what they will fit in.
With my daughter and son they had an outfit for coming home in and they looked super cute.

So just come back from my consultant appointment... really want someone to tell me it's just scaremongering cos right now I'm utterly devastated.

I'm obese, in fact with a bmi of 42 I think it's more like morbidly obese, and because of this I am a high risk pregnancy. However, this has very rarely played any role in my care: baby is growing perfectly, my BP is low, had a pretty much perfect pregnancy and delivery before and everything else has just in general been easier. In each of my consultant appointments up to now everything has been fine, 5 min appointments and my last one the consultant even said I could possibly give birth in the adjoining low risk unit (right across the hall from delivery suite)

I have now been told they want to give me a cannula on admittance, they want to actively manage my afterbirth, there is a chance baby could get stuck and that I could bleed massively and it was even implied an elective c section was a more viable option. Just to clarify NONE of this was even whispered about in prior appointments...

I am 2.5 bmi points heavier than during my last pregnancy and have managed not to gain any weight during this pregnancy, does this really make so much difference?? Should I genuinely consider these things? I suppose I should but it just feels so wrong :( when I say I had a perfect pregnancy before I wasn't exaggerating - baby grew fine, spontaneous labour (bloody quick labour) no pain relief, no getting stuck, no bleeding and 4 hours after I'd given birth we went home. I know every pregnancy is different but can it really be so different?

I've just been completely blindsided and I don't know how to feel other than distraught... please be gentle

@MadRainbow that sounds so scary! But a few weeks ago I was having some observations, as baby had reduced movements while I was on the monitor I overheard the doctor talking to a woman next door, saying all this scary stuff about baby getting stuck, bleeding, babys shoulder getting dislocated it sounded awful. Then she said how they have to say all this stuff and prepare for the worst even though the chances of it happening are so low. It was due to a case a few years ago when some things went wrong and no risks were communicated to the mother.

If everything's been okay up to now, and you and baby are doing okay, just listen to everything and decide what you want to do, ultimately it's your choice

I have had a few issues lately and my baby is measuring way ahead so I have a consultation in a couple of hours preparing myself for all the same talks! Hope you're okay! Hugs

@Pumpkinma thank you for that, I have calmed down somewhat now, it was just so much to process especially since every single HCP I've spoken to hasn't given me any indication that this would be an issue.

I want to talk to my midwife and see what she says and maybe talk to another consultant before all this comes up again. I don't want to just dismiss it out of hand but I don't see why I wasn't told be if it's so important.

With them measuring baby's size are they using a measure on you or scans? I know my cousins little girl kept measuring small and they panicked her for no reason as baby ended up weighing over 9lbs :/ I suppose I should know really to take things with a pinch of salt with that in my head but when it's you it's easy to panic.

Hope everything works out ok for you

@MadRainbow yeah I think that's for the best talk everything through with your midwife and decide what you want to do. As long as you're okay and baby is okay everything will be fine! Listen to all the advice and see how you feel once you have all the information ☺️

With my measurements it's been both I was measuring big, sent me for a growth scan and baby was off the charts. Got sent for another GTT and came back clear so now got appointment with consultant. I'm 33 weeks now, and like you been absolutely no issues up till now. So will see how it goes!

Does anybody have their hospital bags packed? Maybe I'm too eager! 33 weeks now

@Pumpkinma I have my fingers crossed for you. How big have they said baby is anyway?

Yeah I could look into renting a Medala one Bez. After a long conversation with my mum, she recommended I don’t spend loads on an electric pump unless I plan to pump regularly so I guess I’ll just see how I get on and rent or buy if I decide to pump. She’s a midwife and so I assumed she’d be really pushy with breastfeeding but actually she was really supportive yesterday with talking about formula feeding if I have to. Not that I want to, but if it was a must. It made me feel better knowing that she wouldn’t feel i’d failed if it didn’t work out. Just goes to show you should never assume, I guess!

Sorry you’ve had a tough day, MadRainbow. Definitely talk things through with your midwife before worrying too much. As you say, much easier said than done when it’s you!

laura, I have mine half packed. I ordered a couple of nighties to go in yesterday so it’s coming together. Anyone else feeling super impatient?! I’ve got 5 weeks left at work and I’m on full blown countdown.. I feel a long term coming! 😬

Aargh just needed to vent! Just now I was standing on the corner waiting to cross the street. I could see an older couple coming so I moved right to the edge of the kerb so that they would have plenty of room to pass behind me. For some reason they chose to try and get past in front of me. The man must have been annoyed that I didn't move back for him because he deliberately stamped on my foot really hard in his heavy winter boots then shoved me into the road. I am 33 weeks pregnant today. WTF is wrong with people? He didn't even look back when I called after him.

@HarryHarry that's awful! Hope you are OK, some people are just twats for no reason and have no manners!

I had a man tell me off for eating a peach on the train this afternoon...needless to say I gave him a piece of my mind, must be my hormones because usually I'd have just shrugged it off and got super embarrassed!

I've had people refuse to give me a seat on trains (even when I've asked nicely) and even had a woman ask me to move so her kid could sit down!

In other news I had my 32week growth scan today and the good news is babys growth has levelled out and is now on the 91st centile and not the 95th! Baby is currently weighing around 4lb 11oz and was 2lb 15oz at 28weeks so growth is kinda where it needs to be!

I'm convinced people are a lot ruder than they used to be!

amysaurus87 That's good news about your scan - I've got mine tomorrow morning. What centile are you supposed to be? Nobody tells me anything like that here so I've never understood it.

Unluckily we live in a world where it’s aleays me and after that me and after me. People don’t see beyond themselves and think only how to get the best for them even if that means annoying other people.

That’s good about the growth @amy ! I had a scan last week and mine think was aroUna the 3-3.5 lb. he’s following the 50% growth. So for 90 doesn’t seem so bad 4.2!

I got my belly painted over the weekend ! My sister arranged it for me as a Xmas present. I loved it ! I asked for a mandala as it’s kind of a representation of universe. The girl said that babies love it and they move loads. God he did move more than ever !

@Harry I'm honestly not sure, the growth charts are tailored to you, so what is 90th centile for me could be 65th for someone else if you see what I mean?

I think as long as babys growth is within the lines on your growth chart doctors are generally happy, it's when you go over them that they start giving you worst case scenario as some of us here have had (happened to me at 28 weeks when consultant decided to tell me that I would most definetly need a c-section as baby was so big!)

Hope that sort of helps...I'd ask your midwife just to be sure though as I might be wrong in what I've said

@amysaurus that’s a brilliant weight. I have my growth scan Thursday ours was 3lb 1oz each at 28’weeks but they was only on the 50th percentile I reckon they have slowed from that though as my bump doesn’t feel as huge but people say it has grown I just don’t feel loads.
Back in hospital got admitted yesterday as got contractions again with back pain. Still no change on cervix which is good but they are monitoring it as they are threatening to come early. Providing I don’t have too many today I should be allowed home fingers crossed.

Bez these girls really want to come to cold uk ! I thought of going to hospital yesterday as baby was quite quiet but then at night felt him a few times. I’ve taken my notes today. I work near hospital so might pop to day assessment after work.

Your girls for being 28w is quite good the weight ! Mine was 3.5 I think at 31w so despite can’t compare I think they’re getting quite good in weight!

Oh @Daisyland I love that. Me and my sister are going to attempt a go at a belly also If baby is not moving as normal just go in, don’t leave it all day.

@Bez sorry you are back in. I assume they have given you steriods now? I had them at 26 weeks because of my bleeding and tightening they hurt.

@madrainbow if you want to argue the cannula do it is only recommended to have injection for placenta no cannula is mentioned.

@Bez fingers crossed they stop enough for you to go home. If you're anything like me I bet you're very fed up of hospitals...

@Loosemoose they want to cannulate so that if i bleed they can stick an iv line straight on. Atm I've refused everything but I don't want to do so blindly, going to call my midwife in a min to talk to her

So I had my consultation yesterday. And I've pretty much just calmed down from it.

The woman honestly was so unhelpful and I'm not one to ever talk bad about NHS staff but it was like she didn't have a clue. She literally told me that there is no scientific validation for tracking bigger babies on the growth charts and they are mainly used to check for small or malnourished babies. She said that there is so much disagreement among obstetricians about big babies that no one really knows what the best plan is unless baby is over 5kg. So last time they scared the crap out of me saying that my baby was too big I'd definitely be induced and probably need a caesarean and need to wait till my GTT results came back. My sugar levels are completely normal. So now they have said everything is fine and have booked another growth scan for 36 weeks because they won't know anything till I have that scan. I've been an anxious wreck for nearly three weeks for them to now say actually we don't know if baby is too big or not see you in 3 weeks again. Ergh.

My OH was so mad he was pretty much shouting I had to tell him to calm down 🙈

I suppose the good thing is me and baby are fine! I really think some medical staff forget how anxious expecting mothers can be and especially first time mums who are new to all this 🙄

I agree that people are definitely getting ruder. Makes me sad how little respect anyone has for anyone else these days.
I was knocked over on the tube the other day, the guy didn't even apologise and still nobody stood up and offered me a seat. I had to bite my lip so hard to stop myself from bursting into tears.

Last day of work, and commuting into London next Friday though and I can't wait!! It really is becoming a struggle now.

Does anyone have any tips for getting a good night's sleep? I lay on my left side with my pregnancy pillow but the pains in my leg wake me up and can't do anything to get rid of them :(

I just need a little rant as Im very upset with my work once again, as HR agreed to pay my maternity pay as monthly payments, the way that they should be. They are now telling me that they have changed their minds and will pay me a lump sum at the end of March which will result in me losing a large amount of money via tax and National Insurance.
Sadly my work have done everything they can to make my pregnancy as stressful and difficult as they can for me. I can't wait to leave!!!