First time mums 2017/ early 2018

[lydiangel83]

An ode to the first time pregnancy thread! x

No suggestions here. Baby has been up since 2am and not gone back to sleep other than 20 minutes in the car. I am at my wits end. How is this even possible!?

@mrsjkerry oh no! Have you managed to get any naps in this afternoon?

No...screaming all day long. Still screaming and won't sleep. She's had calpol and bonjela. No idea what to do anymore...

I've got no advice - I'm going through same but not as extreme. I know it's late now but have you tried teething powders

@ew1990 have you found anything that works? Most teething granules have lactose in them...I've ordered some off amazon today that don't so we will give them a go!

The Ashton and parsons teething powders work for DD, is your LO lactose intolerant? Just had 45 minutes of screaming before I got her to sleep

@ew1990 I feel you. I never knew this would be so hard!!!!!

I know - being a mum is the best thing ever but so so hard at times, I hear about these babies having 2 hour naps on the day and DD never naps longer than 30 minutes

@mrsjkerry I feel your pain - we have screamy baby and even I can't calm her easily at night. Her poo has been a bit weird so I think she may have had tummy bug. Doctor couldn't find sign of infection so just said give calpol but that didn't work. A friend recommended ambesol liquid for teething, meant to be better than bonjela you buy it over the counter. Good luck xx

It's horrible. And I see so many other mums who seem to be coping well (are they pretending!?!) when we are just not. She doesn't like to eat. She doesn't like to sleep. Keep thinking it must be something I'M doing wrong....

Oh @mrsjkerry please don't think that it's not true. I'm currently on my bed crying because DH said he wishes we hadn't had a baby as it is taking away so much from us. I do sort of see his point :-( it's so so hard ;-(

@lydiangel83 your husband has a point. Lots of people must feel it. I miss my old life of gym, work, tv, dinner, bath, bed. I hate bedtime now because it's so false when I know I'll have to get up in an hour or so anyway!

Just checked baby's weight gain. She was 50th from birth and is now 25th. This happen to anyone else?

@mrsjkerry please don't think your doing anything wrong

Give your HV a ring and she what she suggests - how old is your lo

@mrsjkerry I totally agree that's probably why I got so upset. Talk to your HV re weight. Big hugs. Also dread bedtime but got to try and think it'll get better xx

She's 19 weeks. We have an appointment with a feeding specialist on Tuesday x

It's nice to know I'm not the only one with a micro-napper! 30 minutes max, can set my watch by her the little madam.

My neighbour has a baby that's 2 months younger than DD and he sleeps through the night, every night, and takes long naps during the day. I'm like how! DD is still pretty unsettled during the night. I love being a mum but there is so much shit that no one talks about.

Also I'm really really struggling with the lack of sleep now. Just had yet another breakdown and given DD to DH to deal with as I'm just so sick of her crap sleep. I haven't slept longer than 3 hours in a row in weeks and I'm broken! Can hear her screaming right now. Argh.

@WasThatPlaceTHESUN exactly the same here. I've got a call booked in with a baby sleep expert and am seriously considering spending the money and implementing their plan/advice. I know a couple of people who've done it and their baby's go down easy for naps and bed time.

My baby was up 1, 4, 5 and finally 7. Wasn't hungry. Little madam.

@mrsjkerry Hope that you don't mind me butting in, my little one is 18 weeks and she dropped from the 25th centile to the 9th centile not long ago.

Spoke to HV and they said that it was nothing to worry about, as she was still putting on weight and seemed fine in herself.

Still worth going to see them though, for peace of mind!

Haven't been on for ages and ages ladies but just wanted to say that sleep for us was terrible a few weeks ago. DS was waking every 90 minutes without fail and I was spending HOURS every day trying to rock a wide awake baby yo sleep for set nap times.

A friend of ours had paid for a sleep plan, which she sent to us and I had a few weeks of trying to strictly implement the nap/ bed time but it just resulted in absolutely misery.

I caught the flu and ended up in bed for three days straight so couldn't rock baby to sleep and my husband get into the ridiculous rocking/ singing cycle that I'd been in and by some miracle, DS just started going to sleep on his own. The issue was that he wasn't tired after 2 hours: he can happily stay up for 3-3.5 hours and now naps brilliantly in the day. Nighttime, he doesn't go down until about 9ish and wakes at approximately 3am and then up for the day at 7. We put him fully awake in his cot and he has a little play then goes to sleep.

Honestly, I'd try it. It might be that your baby, @mrsjkerry, just isn't tired when you're trying to force her to sleep. Might be worth a go.

My husband refused to*

Thanks everyone. @Teachervoice I have often wondered that myself. But our baby will literally fight sleep with everything she has. She'll be downstairs with us with bloodshot swollen eyes, yawning, rubbing at her face but won't sleep.

A friend of ours has never had any trouble with their baby sleeping. She also says she's never implemented a bedtime. She just keeps Baby with her downstairs and Baby will fall asleep on her own. This just isn't the case. My baby will cry and cry and cry until you help her go to sleep and even then she'll be mad at you because she doesn't want to sleep even when tired!!!

Sleep every 1.5-2hrs for us - also feeling broken. Having sedative for broken coccyx steroid injection tomorrow so at least I will sleep then haha! It's awful, I'm so ratty with my poor DH and he does do his share. We have no daytime nap routine except I notice she needs to sleep c. Every 2 hrs. Bedtime is consistent at around 7:30pm and I tend to go then as well just to increase my chances of getting some sleep! Stay strong ladies - you're not alone xxx

@mrsjkerry yes to fighting sleep! Totally!

@mrsjkerry how did Tuesday go