Staying posifrickentive- Thread 19 for ladies pg after mc

[Brenna24]

Ready. Steady. Go

Hi ladies
Would you mind if I join you? I just got my BFP this morning after a cervical ectopic last year. Feeling very shaky, excited, scared and praying this one stays safe 🙏🏻
Xx

Welcome DT. Hope this little one is just perfect for you. This place has been amazing.

Tiffin we can help each other through the next two weeks. Going to work today is difficult as I know I’d have been on maternity leave right now, just 9 days from my due date. Even though I’m incredibly lucky to be pregnant, it still hurts to think about things that will never be.

ekphrasis I had a small bump last time but this time it feels smaller, my DS was wee when he was born (6 14) but has caught up now, he's one of the youngest and tallest in his pre school class. MW doesn't seem concerned tho, she won't measure bump until 24 weeks so I'm trying not to worry

Welcome DT you're in the right place, I've found it a great place to air my worries! It's been very reassuring

mogul Lots of factors determine the size of your bump. Hugs. It is hard to have to worry about everything.

Good luck with the scan Ekphrasis. I think 12 weeks is a bit too long to wait.

Welcome DT. I hope everything goes smoothly this time.

21 weeks today. Over halfway and less than a month to viability. Plus it is sunny outside.

Double and Dancing I’m sorry your due dates are nearing. I was due mid November and would have been close to maternity leave. It’s a strange place to be in - thinking of and mourning that pregnancy and worrying about this one. Do you think you will mark it in any way or leave it? I don’t think dh will remember and will be unlikely to think marking it in anyway is useful. I’m not sure.

Morning all hope you’re all ok and had a nice weekend.

@DT2016 Welcome and congrats.

@Doublechocolatetiffin It does get easier. My due date just passed for my mc baby and it’s coming up to my twins 11th bday on the 10th October. I think it’s something you learn to live with but never completely get over.

I have my growth scan at 4.30 this afternoon. The hospital phoned me about 10mins ago to get me in. She’s been a wriggle bum all morning so I know she’s fine but I’m really nervous about this one. DH is at work and can’t get out today and I’ll have the girls with me, think that’s making me more nervous in case there’s something wrong.
Plus I had a shite nights sleep. Restless, aching legs all night and up to pee at least 10x. Was also worrying about dd2’s teddy diary she had to do for school. She came home with the class bear on Friday and had to do a diary for the weekend. Don’t know why I was worrying about a stupid teddy!

For those approaching their due dates - this happened to me back in July. I went out for a meal with my husband and just had a bit of reflective time, and we have decided to plant a cherry blossom tree in the garden when we do up the garden. This way we will have a memorial that looks pretty once a year. I still feel immensely sad about the little person we never got to meet, but now focusing our energy on preparing for our new arrival due in 6 weeks.

Thinking of you all 💐

Good luck for the scan Amy - glad she’s wriggling! Yes in my experience parents worry the most about the homework they’ve done for their child - certain seems that way since ds started reception!

Welcome DT - fingers crossed for a sticky bean. It can be stressful and talking on this thread does help.

The MW got in touch to do my booking. She talked through the options for getting a scan - how it can then be a bit tricky to get into the nhs system if there’s an issue. So now I’m not sure what to do! As I said, it’s not going to reassure me, just give me info on that moment in time. She said you’re only offered reassurance scans after 3 mc. Which is fine, it’s up to me I suppose.

That sounds lovely the other. I’d looked at a pear or a crabapple and now a good time to plant. Might reconsider the idea.

@Ekphrasis it’s funny with the homework thing! Kids are fussed but we worry about the smallest things.

The memorial plants are a really good idea. We planted a caster oil in a pot for our twins. It flowers every year around this time. I didn’t purposely pick a plant that flowered in October either it just starts to but the end of September and by the 10th every year it has a nice big bud of tiny white sprouts on it. Not the prettiest but still warms my heart when I see the stork popping out.

@Double and @Dancing So sorry your due dates are coming up. For me, the run up was worse than the actual day itself. DH and I took the day off and just spent it quietly, just the two of us. We didn't talk about the baby that much - a little bit, but not loads - and just focused on being quiet and calm with each other. We actually conceived this baby around that time, possibly even on that day, which I found very comforting - almost like a message from the baby we lost that it was okay to move on, while still remembering him.

Good luck with the scan Amy.

I was so worried about my first due date, but then on the day was too busy with my third miscarriage to pay it more than passing thought. I hope you guys have a better time of it than that.

I love the idea of planting trees for the babies. Ours are called Rowan, Holly and Ash and when we have our own place I will plant trees for each of them (although the Rowan may be made to count as Ash as well as it's other name is a Mountain Ash and it is a more manageable size than an Ash tree).

Good luck with the scan amy I've got my 20 week scan on Wednesday and am super nervous. I'm not sure movements are as they should be, but MW said they don't worry until 23 weeks...

I've had a cough for 3 weeks and went to the Dr because I thought I should, what with being pregnant. Dr has given me antibiotics today. I don't want to take them as they probably won't help, but she is a Dr so maybe knows best!! I was hoping she'd just make sure my lungs were ok and could advise me on cough medicine, turns out I can't bloody have any.
She also said to rest... but I feel mostly ok in myself... but alas I am sitting down with a cup of tea!

My MIL planted something for my mc babies but it actually upset me. I think because it felt like the mcs were still ongoing and it felt weird to commemorate them if there were going to be more (which there were).

My first mc in 2014 was due on midsummer's day so I think of all my lost babies on that day. I can't cope with 6 due dates each year, I've kind of blocked them out. I also do the #waveoflight on twitter.

Thanks for the lovely welcome 😊

Good luck @AmyB1986 today and @mogulfield on Wednesday xx

Welcome @DT2016 I hope you have an easy and stress free (!) pregnancy

Good luck this afternoon @Amy

Thank you everyone for the kind words about my due date. @Dancing yes let's help each other get through it together. I'm hoping the fact that it's my DD's 2nd birthday that day will completely distract me from thinking about it. I think it'll just be in the run up to it that I'm sad. In a way I'm grateful for more time with just me and my DD.

I'm feeling a bit worried about this pregnancy. I'm just not as tired today at all. It's like I have a new lease of life, lovely, except worrying because I think feeling better was the only indication I had of my mmc. It's only been a week since the scan but already I'm stressed again.

I have my booking in tomorrow, which I'm dreading. I'm not sure why, I guess just bad memories of being excited last time and having no clue that the pregnancy might not be ok. I'd much prefer to wait until after the 12 week scan, possibly the 20 week one! Sadly I know that its not possible. It's a trip to the hospital for 8:30 (so probably arrive at 8 to sort parking) with my DD. Thank goodness I have someone else coming to sort my four horses! I get up early, but I can't seem to manage organising everything so I get out of the house at a reasonable time these days.

double if it’s any help, I’ve noticed I had more energy in the last couple of days. I looked back through my old threads with ds a couple of weeks ago (not much tbh) and copied bits - I seem to have had more energy around this point then too. It comes and goes certainly - I find Monday is more energetic I think because the weekend has been a bit calmer?

Hope this afternoon went well amy.

Good luck with the booking appt tomorrow choc and for your scan tomorrow anutter.

I know what you mean about relaxing! What I have noticed is that in my first pregnancy I though a good day was just a good day and rejoiced. Now it’s doomsday - but I feel if I relax more I’m taking the eye off the ball so to speak!

Good luck today Amy, tomorrow Utter and on Wednesday Mogul.

Good luck with the booking Double. I didn't want to do mine either. I felt like I might be wasting their time if baby was dead. I was glad when it was over.

Try not to worry Mogul there is enough room in there for baby to hide out and for you to stop feeling things for a while. Plus, if you turn out to have an anterior placenta like me then they are going to be muted for a while yet.

I managed to do a big clean for half the house today. It feels good to be sat in such loveliness.

Hi everyone!
You were all so kind last week when I posted about waiting for Harmony results after a previous TFMR... I thought I'd update with some good news... baby is low risk for all trisomies and looking great on the scan at 13 weeks! Also found out it's a boy 😍

Ekphrasis I booked the day off work, as that just seemed too difficult. I’m probably going to go to church and just take some time for myself.* DH apologised at the weekend because he couldn’t remember the date, and I don’t think he will want to do anything. I’m hoping after the date passes I’ll have some magical weight lifted from my shoulders, but I imagine this is wishful thinking.*

Hope the scan went well amy! Good luck utter and mogul.**

I’m still at the hospital. Baby has minimal fluid around her. Not sure what the plan is yet just waiting. They’re saying this could be why movements feel less than usual.
My waters haven’t broken though they’ve done a swab to check.

Aw wonderful news impala I didn't know they could tell gender at 13 weeks, congratulations!
amy glad they're getting to the bottom of things and there's a reason for reduced movement. Fingers crossed for you

Oh Amy how scary. I hope they sort out a plan soon. Are you doing ok?