Staying posifrickentive- Thread 19 for ladies pg after mc

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Ready. Steady. Go

Good luck for next week Lisa. I'll be thinking of you, hopefully you're just lucky and get no symptoms and there's a seed in there bouncing away xxx

Thinking of you Lisa. Time goes so slowly doesn't it. I won't pretend everything is bound to be ok but I hope very much it is. Here to chat whenever.

Hand hold for you, Lisa. It’s hard when symptoms change/go. I know that feeling you can’t shake too. I don’t think it means too much... Study of one, but - I had a scan at epau today b/c of bleeding and all was fine. I was 100% sure it would be bad news. Conversely at my last MMC I went into the scan feeling everything was fine. Was so confident I went alone (wouldn’t do that again!). Take care, and here’s to the next week going quickly. It’s good we all have the distraction of Christmas!

Can I ask you a supplement question please? After my last MMC I switched to folate (1000mcg) instead of folic acid. The sister at epau looked at me like I was mad when I told her (she asked). Should I just go back to a standard pregnancy supplement with folic acid? I also take vit D and low dose aspirin, and was on ubiquinol before my bfp. I should probably start B12 and iron.
What do you all take?

Lisa handholding! I know exactly what you mean, so hard when symptoms come and go! Going to self refer to EPU in thurs and see if they’ll give me a reassurance scan. Should be 6+1 today, so nervous there’ll be nothing on the scan! How many weeks are you?

Life I’m on pregnacare with omega 3 and 5mg folic acid because i’m Epileptic. No idea about the folate vs folic acid i’m afraid!

Thanks so much, all. I know there's nothing anyone can do or say to change the outcome, but it's nice to talk to people who understand how I feel.

I'm sorry you're feeling anxious too, EastEnd, and hoping for a good scan for you. I'm 7+5 today.

I've not posted in quite a while but pop back for a lurk now and again...

I'm 23 weeks and all still going well. Big bump and lots of kicks these days. How's the hand @MsJuniper?y latest symptom is pelvic pain but I've so far avoided GD. Next GTT 27 Dec. Perfect timing!

@AnUtterIdiot I've just read your updates. Congratulations on the birth of your little girl. I'm so sorry that your little boy didn't make it, but I'm glad you have a plan of how the 3 of you will say goodbye. He will always be part of your family. I also really admire your spirit and selflessness at this time, your post was so thoughtful around how others would relate to this. Such a kind heart. Your little girl is very lucky indeed to have you as her Mum as a pp said.

Thanks Eastend - I did so much reading after my last MMC & can’t remember why I chose to take the supplements I’m taking
Hope you get to see something on the scan. We have the same dates and I did see a hb yesterday, but wasn’t expecting to!

pies also unsure of the folate vs folic acid but I’m taking pregnacare with added iron as I was anaemic after having my son and felt bloody awful! So keen to go into labour all topped up with iron 💪
I’m currently on a diet consisting of fortified cereals, black pudding and mussels to ensure this is the case 😂 I chinned off the spinach when I realised I’d need 3 whole bags in comparison to one black pudding/one portion of mussels!

lisa handhold- my symptoms went- I was so worried I called my midwife who was sympathetic yet very relaxed. She said it basically happens to everyone. Whilst I was at the other end of the line saying ‘I know somethings wrong... I think this is a mmc again’.
Then when I did have my mmc, like pies said, I went in thinking everything was fine!
The likelihood is without bleeding everything is fine.

Handhold @LisaSimpsonsbff - the early stages of this pregnancy were the longest, hardest days of my life and I wouldn't wish them on my worst enemy. I really hope you get through them quickly. The worry never quite goes but it DOES lesson, I promise.

Thanks so much for the kind comments. Hope everyone else is doing ok.

Mogul's post reminded me of something else I've been meaning to ask - should I have a midwife? My GP said just to ring up when I was ready for a booking appointment, and my plan was to do that after the next scan, if that shows I'm still pregnant. I really want to avoid booking stuff in that I'll have to cancel if it goes wrong, but I'll be 8.5 weeks at that scan, should I have it sorted sooner than that?

In my area we self refer for booking in during the 7th week of pregnancy lisa. Your GP receptionist should be able to tell you when you should ring/what number etc. You’ll need your NHS number to hand.

FYI the epau took care of letting maternity services know after my last MMC, so don’t let that put you off making a booking appointment X

So I think my GP said I should ring around week 6 or 7 so that they could see me when I'm 8 weeks... Is it going to really mess things up if I don't ring until this time next week? I assume that means it'll be later when they see me, but is that a big deal? At the moment I just don't feel like I could bear a meeting where we all act like I'm definitely going to have a baby (I may be building this up in my head - I've never had a booking in appointment before), and I'm worried if I call today they'll try and squeeze me in soon!

I know exactly how you feel, and I wouldn’t attend booking before a good scan. It might be worth calling now, but saying you can’t attend booking in until after next week (dunno, you could say you’re on holiday or something?). I say this because if they’re very busy then a late booking in might push your dating scan back.

Hmm, yes, maybe you're right. I guess ideally I want the appointment as soon as possible after a scan, as I've now learnt that the scan reassurance totally ebbs away after a week or so! I should have rung straight after the last scan when I felt happy! I'm taking my lunch now so will try and be a big girl and pluck up courage to call...

Lisa I’m really sorry to hear about what you’re going through! Try not to read too much into it..stressing won’t change outcome. I also had symptoms that came and went in my 1st pregnancy so hopefully it’s just that!

I don’t think you need to do anything til after the scan. Booking appointment should be between 8-12 weeks so you won’t need it yet!

I’m only 4 weeks and also very anxious..symptoms only just starting to kick in and definitely come and go.

Just rung them and turns out it's best I did, as the first appointment they had was the 28th, and if I'm still pregnant by then I'll be nearly 11 weeks, so I guess it could be a tight turnaround for the dating scan... So I think good I didn't leave it another week, so thanks for persuading me life!

Baby dreaming sorry you're feeling worried too. I know you're right that stressing won't change it, but it's so hard not to! I thought I'd feel a bit better once I was past the point where all three failed before, but I'm really not. I think I've just fundamentally lost faith in my body - it feels like there's no evidence it can do this, and so much evidence it can't. I know there's no point thinking like that, though.

Sorry for all the moaning, all, and thank you for kind words and support!

Thanks life good to know! Lisa re losing faith in your body, yup totally agree! Thank goodness we’re off work this week doing a few jobs on our new house. It’s good to have some distractions. My DH and DS have both been down with a D&V bug though so it hasn’t been as relaxing as I would have liked. Now they’re both better I can put my feet up a bit though

Sorry you’ve been feeling anxious lisa, my symptoms keep coming and going as well and it’s really hard not to think the worst when I suddenly feel fine. Glad you rang the Midwife; was going to say that I dreaded going in as, like you said, I didn’t want to talk as if there was definitely going to be a baby, but she was wonderful. We only covered what we had to;she left all discussions about birth or anything further down the line. She even convinced epu to give me an early scan there and then as she realised how anxious I was.

pies did you read the ‘it starts with the egg’ book? It sounds like the regime I was following from that. Don’t have any advice i’m afraid;I was just totally useless at remembering to take all the different pills so went back to single pregnacare.

Have a private scan booked for Friday morning and I’m slightly terrified. Trying to prep myself for bad news but keep on getting on hopes up.

Hi all. Feeling a bit anxious as my urine has been really dark and when I just went it seemed like there was a pink tinge. When I did a bit of investigation it doesn't seem to be coming from my vagina though as that wiped clear (sorry tmi). Google thinks maybe a UTI but also mentions pre eclampsia. It's pretty early for that though right?

I'm 24 weeks next Tuesday and the days are dragging by. All I can think is that after that date they'd have to try and save the baby. She is still kicking away which I hope is a good sign. Sorry a lot of thoughts rushing around my brain right now!

@MsJuniper I think it would be worth calling the midwife in the morning just to be safe. I'm sure it's nothing serious but it's worth just getting some advice, especially since you had a bit of swelling too.

Give them a call and get your mind put at rest. That's what they are there for!

Called the hospital's maternity helpline and it doesn't open until 10 so called my doctor and they have an appt at 9.40. I'm hoping they won't tell me off for going in there instead but I'm not sure what else to do - if I wait until 10 to call the helpline and they say it's probably a UTI, see your doctor then I will have missed the appointments. Oh well I will ask for my MATB1 form while I'm there so hopefully not a wasted journey.