Staying posifrickentive- Thread 19 for ladies pg after mc

[Brenna24]

Ready. Steady. Go

Thanks ladies, I'm hoping to see my gp Tuesday. I work 7am-9pm most days so finding time is hard and after I spent so long on sick after my last mc I don't want too much time off, I like having the money so when the time comes I can spoil my nugget. My mw is useless, I finally got through to her and she just said she'll be in touch with an appointment and bleeding can be normal. I explained what happened last time and she just said every pregnancy is different. Hopefully gp can help me though

@AnUtterIdiot I'm thinking of you tomorrow x

My right hand seems suddenly swollen this evening. I'm not quite 23 weeks which I thought was a bit early for pregnancy swelling. It's been a bit warm in our house tonight so I'll see how it is in the morning.

I so so sorry about the loss of your son utter. Wishing you all the very best for tomorrow and for you mammabear as well!

bex can you call your local EPU? I believe some of them accept self-referrals/walk-ins.

mamma that’s great they’re supporting your decision for a natural breech birth, I’ve just been reading about that very topic in my hypnobirthing book! Lots of breech babies are born naturally 👍 and I’m a twin who came out naturally (and my mums only 4 foot 10!) I’m sure you’ll smash it 💪

utter you’ll be in my thoughts tomorrow, I hope the section goes smoothly and the good and the bad go as well as can be expected

bex your MW does sound useless. Mine get very serious when I mention red blood, and it pretty much means an auto referral to EPAU, def give the GP a go 😊

Thinking of you for tomorrow mammabear and utter Xx

@AnUtterIdiot I'm so sorry about your son, I hope all goes smoothly with delivery tomorrow

@mammabear4 good luck for delivery too.

@Hazandduck it's good they got your daughter in quickly for her tongue tie. Initially with Eliza's they said it wasn't that bad and seeing as I fed dd2 for a year with a tongue tie I was 'used to it' as they put it. Dd2 suffered badly as a result of hers and so did I, it snapped spontaneously when she was 6 months old and her bottom teeth had come through, Eliza's is much tighter than dd2's was which is allowing no lateral movement of the tongue. I've had to fight to get her in to the clinic. It was only when I went to a breastfeeding cafe that I was out forward to a feeding clinic coordinator that I got a referral for her. I'm hoping they don't turn us away tomorrow, they still can. If they do we are taking the private root. It's been a really difficult 8 weeks and I'm exhausted much the same as you as we've had almost constant cluster feeding due to baby getting so tired during feeds that she falls asleep to then wake up unsatisfied a few minutes later. Have you found your LO does the same? X

Good luck for today Utter Once again I'm so sorry for your little boy and wish you all the best for your wee girl

I had another cervical length scan saturday and all was fine and she showed me the baby with the separate probe again. Anxiety is getting VERY high as it is the anniversary of my miscarriage. I started with a tiny bleed on the 2nd December last year, was scanned on the 7th, the 14th and 19th and had surgery on 21st. I'm very glad I'm having lots of scans but am pretty wound up about the whole thing (next scan is 14th which was day had the MMC confirmed) and midwife appt on the 21st... argh, I thought the 20 week scan would make me less worried but it's just one thing after another!

Good luck Utter and Mamma

Yes @Amy you are describing our exact situation it is awful! Can’t put her down :( she falls asleep and five minutes later is screaming for food. I feel so bad for her too I can tell she is just unsatisfied and on my left breast she half cries trying to latch because she just cannot get a good latch, I’ve been expressing as often as I can in between but that makes me even more exhausted. Last night was probably the worst night I’ve had. I got so angry with my DH who brought up the “well I have to work all day” at 5am when I had slept for about 30 minutes and he wouldn’t go and get a bottle of my milk from the fridge downstairs. We have the tongue tie clinic at 4 today I am praying this is a miracle cure because I really don’t want to give up BF but I really can’t carry on like this x

@Hazandduck Eliza is exactly the same! It has improved slightly over the last week.
She had her tongue tie divided without question this morning but it was awful and now I feel really horrible inside. She's fine though! The clicking noise she was making during feeding has almost completely resolved, I'm retraining her latch now too. She has a shallow latch, there are some videos on deep latch technique you might find useful for after your LO has hers divided.
Hope it's all done and dusted for you now.

So many congratulations on the birth of your baby girl utter. I am so very sorry that you lost her brother, but I know that all three of you will always remember him and he'll always be a part of your family.

Congratulations utter and sending you big hugs on a day where you must have so many mixed emotions.

I'm so happy to hear that all went well and of your joy at seeing your baby girl. I know her brother will always be a part of your family too and you will find beautiful ways to remember him together. You've been such a great support to everyone on this thread even while going through the traumas of the last few weeks. I wish you a speedy recovery and every happiness getting to know your daughter. She is very lucky to have you as her Mum.

Hi all, I'm catching up as I've been super busy (ironically during my first week of maternity leave) and haven't been on MN for a while.

@Utter I am so terribly sorry for the loss of your son, and as everyone has said you are an inspiration in the way you and your OH are coping. But I am also overjoyed to hear about your beautiful rainbow girl! Congratulations and enjoy every little newborn snuggle!

Hello everyone, hope you don’t mind me posting on here!

I’ve finally plucked up the courage to join. I’m only 4weeks and have had 2 miscarriages before and 1 baby so in my mind this is more likely to be a miscarriage than a successful pregnancy! I’m super anxious.

I’m 29 and have a little boy who is 1 years old in a few days. We actually weren’t planning on TTC until next month as wanted to have a September onwards baby so this was a bit of an accident but I’m happy regardless!

I’m feeling pretty rough but I think it’s cus my little one has a cold at the moment and was up every 2h last night...I find I get insomnia when pregnant and couldn’t get back to sleep last night!

I’m gearing myself up for 9 months of anxiety!

Huge congratulations on the arrival of your daughter, Utter!

All best wishes to Mammabear, hope everything is going smoothly and to plan with you.

@Utter I can't tell you how happy I am that you have your little girl safe and well, and that the experience was a good one. And I hope the three of you are able to find some peace when you say goodbye to your little boy. Sending you all love.

So delighted to hear that your little girl has arrived safely, utter, and that it was a beautiful experience, especially birthing your little boy, that matters so much. Thinking of you. X

Congratulations utter! So happy your baby girl is safe in your arms! Enjoy it!

No joy speaking to my gp today but I finally have the phone number for my midwife, left a voicemail so hopefully they'll get back to me soon. If not then I've been looking at private scans, just need to see a heartbeat now as my previous miscarriages were picked up on scans after the heart had stopped weeks previous. Fingers crossed!

utter congratulations!!! I’ve been checking this thread over the past few days to see if you had news I’m so pleased it’s all worked out as best as can be expected and you had a safe delivery of your baby girl.
I shall say a little prayer tonight for your baby boy.

mamma I hope it’s all going well and you’re not on here because of new born cuddles!

bex I booked a private early scan, only cost £40 and really helped, we didn’t regret it!

baby I have pregnancy insomnia as well! I wake up about 4-5 and then can’t get back to sleep. My left hip is hurting from sleeping on my left side (which I’m paranoid about after that Tommy’s campaign about sleeping on your side!). So that wake me up too! I usually end up just trawling mumsnet in the early hours.

@mogulfield I am exactly the same with sleeping, wake up around 4 and can't get back to sleep and constantly worry about sleeping on my left!

The pregnancy insomnia is awful right?! I hate the sickness but at least I know that goes by 12 weeks ish (well mine did last time I appreciate it can be worse for others!) but the insomnia just goes on and on. I’ve felt like a zombie all day and despite that I know that I’ll struggle again tonight, I just feel wide awake in the early hours! I guess it must be the hormones? I always feel really hot in bed too.

Can I get a bit of a handhold? Feeling so, so worried today. I just don't feel pregnant and I know that can be normal for some people, but I just can't shake the feeling that something's very wrong. My next scan is a week today, which I know isn't long at all, but feels it today! I just feel really low right now - had a good long cry earlier.