Staying posifrickentive- Thread 19 for ladies pg after mc

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Ready. Steady. Go

I’m terrible at keeping up with this thread, sorry ladies.
Welcome back pies 👋 I remember you from the summer, glad it happened so quickly for you.
I’m 28 weeks now (3rd trimester!) and finally relaxing a bit, movements good, bump looking big! Although I do keep forgetting I’ve got it and banged it into a car door yesterday which bloody hurt.
Glad to read you’re all doing well and to see new comers/returners 😀

Hi all! Hope everyone is doing ok. Is your scan tomorrow, princess? Wishing you luck for it.

Am currently freaking myself out about cramping, even though I'm 90% certain it's digestive (I have pretty bad constipation and wind at the moment - glamorous!). Am I an idiot for not being able to tell the difference between that and uterine cramps? It's all in the same area! Trying not to worry too much, but there's always some new thing to find and fixate on...

lisa it’s not just you, I freak out with cramps and I’ve had them all through my pregnancy (28 weeks now).
My midwife has assured me it’s normal and most likely ligaments stretching or digestive, but as they feel like how contractions feel a bit I freak out
She keeps saying as long as there’s no blood your fine.

Hi ladies - I've decided to join you all. I'm very unsure of my dates because we weren't really trying and due to lots of stress I can't remember when my period was in October, but I'm between 6-7 weeks at the moment.

In 2015/16 I has two consecutive MMC. One was discovered at a private scan at 11 weeks on Christmas eve. I had a medically managed miscarriage, which wasn't successful so still went on to have a D&C. I fell pregnant again a couple of months later. That time I made it to the 12 week scan, but the baby has passed at 10 weeks. We were booked in to have a D&C two weeks later, but I miscarried naturally before that date. It was horrible, my waters broke and I went into labour contracting until I passed the baby. Then I started to haemorrhage and was blue lighted to hospital.

I was really hoping that I might get a reassurance or dating scan when I saw my midwife, but she has refused because I haven't had 3 in a row. I'm contemplating a private scan, but to be honest it's all so similar to the first time around with the time of the year etc that mentally I'm not sure I can cope with it.

Nice to see so many positive stories on here.

mogul hi! Lovely to see you, and wow, 28 weeks, that’s fantastic. I remember bumping my bump all the time with DS - totally lost sense of my shape and size!

AKP79 it sounds like you’ve had a really rough time. I’m about the same timing as you, and also had 2 MMC, but with very straightforward surgical management. I’m so sorry for what you’ve been through.
I’m currently debating early scans... they only reassure for a small moment, and until you’re past the time the baby died previously I’m not sure how much it helps. It’s so difficult. In my second MMC the baby died just after a great reassurance scan. That said, it’s such a long wait for the dating scan. Thinking of you X

Hi, I'm 23+1 and had a loss two and half years ago at 22 weeks. Still can't relax and probably won't until the baby (hopefully) arrives in March. Next goal is to reach the viable stage - not sure what this is exactly but I'm guessing, I need to get past Christmas, so have made that my next goal. Not one for wishing time away usually but please time - pass quickly, I am not enjoying pregnancy at all (though feel very fortunate) looking after my other two dc is probably making things more tiring though my dh is super supportive (but works full-time) so not readily on hand. No external support. I keep giving myself a pep talk to help me get through. This too, shall pass.

Mogul I am also crap at keeping up with this thread!! I don’t think I’ve posted on here in weeks!

Currently 31 weeks and I feel like a house. I have absolutely zero capacity to bend over or eat large amounts of anything. Pretty much constantly eating rennies just to get through the day!! Can’t quite believe I have only 9 weeks left to due date (especially with Christmas less than 4 weeks away!!!). Currently trying to work out what I actually NEED for those first few days with a new baby and also what stuff hospital wise I might need!! Suddenly very real that there might be a tiny human who needs me to keep it alive very soon, and that I’ve never actually looked after a baby for an extended period of time!! Argh!!

Lovely to see positive news on here and updates from everyone. And welcome to newbies!!

AKP I’ve had 2 miscarriages (and a chemical), and my MW wouldn’t send me for early scans. I did have some bleeding and she referred me then, but all was well (in all honesty it was after a large poo ) I was pleased to have the early scan and it did help me.
The likelihood is everything will be fine in this pregnancy, just because you’ve had 2 doesn’t mean anything (I kept being told!).

pies glad it’s not just me! I forget I’ve got the bump at all, and then see people staring at me, or notice myself in a shop window and think ‘bloody hell that’s huge!’. I’m 5 ft tall so I think I am starting to look ridiculous.

User you’re not too far behind me, I must admit I am counting down the days to viability (which for some reason in my head seems like 32-34 weeks)... that’s when I’ll feel a little safer. This is not based on any science!!

Particular at 28 weeks I’m struggling with normal meal sizes now... I can’t sit down to a proper meal anymore. I remember this happening much later in my last pregnancy. It’s good in one respect as it means I’m not putting on too much weight, but I’ve only put on 4kg in 28 weeks, which according to weight gain charts isn’t enough! But I feel physically exceptionally full!!

Hi all, hope you don't mind me popping back to see how everyone is doing.

Glad to see some positive news but also sad for those who haven't had good news, sending my love.

Eliza is 8 weeks old tomorrow and doing great. She's in the hospital on Monday to have her tongue tie cut to help her to breastfeed better and hopefully that might cure her reflux too fingers crossed. What are the odd of having two of my three daughters with tongue ties?!
She weighed 11lb 1oz last week when I had her weighed. 5lb gain since she was born so doing something right.

Wishing you all smooth pregnancies. Ill keep coming to check for Baby news 😊

What a gorgeous little girly 💖 congrats xx

Hello all
I've been away for a bit, but thought I'd post to say I had my 20 week scan today and everything was fine!
For those of you where midwives have stood in the way of early scans - could you just walk in to the early pregnancy unit at your local hospital? Ours gave me a scan after bleeding in my first pregnancy, and a reassurance scan this time when I said I'd had two mcs
Hello little Eliza! What a lovely baby!

Oh what a beautiful baby! Glad everything's going smoothly for everyone so far. I'm still waiting for my first midwife appointment so no chance of early scan. Hubs is on about us booking a private one if I can ever get a day off work! Been having some niggling pain though so thinking of phoning midwife tomorrow. I might just be paranoid but it's driving me mad every twinge gets me panicking

Hi all Can I join? 5.5 with DC2 weeks after EP, MMC then DS. So paranoid about bleeding/ pain- I think I could cope with another MC but an ectopic was the worst pain i’ve ever experienced! Hoping to go for a scan at 6 weeks but wondering whether it’s best to try and hold on a bit to see a heartbeat, any advice? Ps Eliza looks gorgeous amy

Hi EastEnd, sorry for your losses. I think it depends how certain you are about your dates - you should see a heartbeat at 6.5, but you'd only have to be a few days out to not and that's then stressful and scary. I think in an ideal world I'd have held out to 8 weeks as seeing a heartbeat then tells you more, but I also think if I'd done that (I had a scan at 6+4) I'd be going mad with anxiety now, so I am glad I had the reassurance even if it was temporary. I guess it also depends if it'll be your only scan before 12 weeks? I knew I'd get regular ones, but might have 'saved' it if I knew I'd only get one. If you think there's a real chance it's another ectopic (if you're getting pain) then you should be scanned asap, of course.

Amy massive congratulations, Eliza is just gorgeous X

Congratulations amy what an adorable baby!

So I am tentatively joining you ladies. I had a missed miscarriage in September. Discovered at 9 weeks at a private scan, baby had stopped growing around 5 weeks. I had surgical management.

I got my BFP 2 weeks ago now and I'm 6 weeks today. Symptoms have started a little bit but nothing huge! Sore boobs, slight nausea etc. I have bookeda reassurance scan for 8 weeks but not really sure there's much point! I just need to have something booked in to aim for I think. I already have one son aged 2, and feel very lucky to have him as it was a straight forward mostly stress free pregnancy.

It's so so worrying this time around. I feel excited but so scared to get attached to this baby.

I’m so sorry utter. I hope you are ok, you sound remarkably composed. Thinking of you lots of the next week/s

@AnUtterIdiot what a thoughtful and generous spirited post at such a time for you. I am so sorry for the loss of your son and I know he will never be forgotten. It shows a huge amount of strength to make peace with what has happened and I'm sure your instincts are right. What was the phrase someone posted a while ago - they were with you always and they never knew pain.

I am sure the next week will be a difficult one and wish you a safe delivery.

So sorry for your loss utter and sending you big hugs. How many weeks are you now?

Thanks for the advice ladies! Had some pain yesterday but felt very low down on knicker line and seems more aligned to ligament pain. Thing is we are having a staycation next week so easier to go for a scan then than sneaking out from work. I haven’t had any bleeding but symptoms feel very mild so far- still so early though!! Maybe it’s just I have my hands full with DS and no time to feel sorry for myself!

@utteridiot I'm so sorry for your loss, and in so much admiration at how you're handling such awful news. I think you're absolutely right in that it's better for your wee boy to pass away peacefully than go through the trauma of delivery and procedures for the same outcome, but it's a lot easier for me as a (semi) objective observer to say that than it is for you - I'm in awe at your intense empathy and maternal instinct.

I wish there was something I, or anyone, could say that would make this any better. But know that I'm sending you all the very best of wishes and hopes for the safe arrival of your little girl, and that you would find peace in being able to say goodbye to your son.

You are amazing. I am proud to "know" you.

utter, I am so terribly sorry about your little boy. Thinking of you, especially over the next week or so. It sounds like you’re getting good care, and I wish you a peaceful and safe journey delivering your babies.
Thank you for taking the time to write such a reassuring post for everyone XX

utter I am so sorry for the loss of your little boy :( i feel heartbroken for you.
I hope you and your OH are coping as best at possible. Keep strong for your little Lady 💖 I hope she has a safe arrival. Take care xxx

hi girls

Can I join please? Just had a BFP and am 4 weeks. Had a miscarriage at 12 weeks in July (my first pregnancy) so I'm hoping this one is a sticky one. Not feeling as excited this time, all rather cautious now.

Please send sticky thoughts