Staying posifrickentive- Thread 19 for ladies pg after mc

[Brenna24]

Ready. Steady. Go

Oh rum, I’m so sorry. I had dropped off the thread too and I’m gutted to hear this horribly sad news. Sending you and your DH all my thoughts.

Oh rum I am so sorry sending love.

Thank you to those who had advice on breech babies... I’m trying to keep calm and positive but the anxiety is really getting to me. I can’t find any real statistics on the likelihood of twins turning at this late stage. Considering booking a private scan to check in on their position - I can’t tell at all where they’re lying just from having a prod - but DH thinks this is silly I know all I can do realistically is try everything I can to get them turning and try to have faith, but at the moment it all seems a bit hopeless!

Utter yes I’ve been told the same! So only need the lower one to turn really! I’m 33 weeks tomorrow, there really doesn’t seem to be much room left in there 😬 how far are you now? Glad to hear further up thread your two babies are doing well! I know the main thing is that I’m healthy and the babies are healthy. It just really is one of those things I can’t stop feeling anxious over considering my previous experience, I just so want it to be as straightforward. Will keep doing all I can.
Also been meaning to ask - have you decided on sleeping arrangements for your two when they arrive?

Oh my goodness how close is that!!! It’s come around so quickly hasn’t it! How exciting. Are you feeling all prepared and ready? We haven’t even got the pram and car seats yet 🙈! I attachment parented my DD and found it worked well for us, I think it was all just what came naturally for me anyway. Definitely don’t overthink going back to work, you can still do AP when you’re at home and I’m sure the twins will be very secure in their bonds with you, your DH (and of course each other!) by that point! I had a wrap for my DD that I just got from Amazon - liberty wrap I think it was called, about £20. Got two this time! I’m thinking they’ll both fit in one at first and then will have to share the load between myself and DH or DM. As for sleeping arrangements... same!! I’ve gone for 2 petite cots (which apparently still last til 12 months but we shall see), will have both in one with the side down at first, then side up, then when they outgrow will go in one each (aiming to keep in my room as long as poss) then move in cots to their nursery. And all being well should transition from those to toddler beds but they do seem quite small being “petite” sized! Also have 2 sleepyhead deluxes which will be used as Moses baskets for downstairs too, so we won’t be getting Moses baskets either x

@rum I am so sorry to hear your devastating news my thought with you and your family massive hugs ,😥

@mamma and @utter my twins both turned at 37 weeks were there's a will(ful) twin there's a way I guess but unfortunately for me it was 2, head down twins who turned to breech and transverse 🙈 twin 1 went bottom down and completely engaged twin 2 shot off sideways in to my rib cage felt them both turn middle of the night felt the wind knocked out of me went for a routine scan as i had obstetric cholestasis and they confirmed on the scan they'd moved no one could believe it from the scan the week before they were both in a perfect position had every student midwife in clinic in to see my scan lol c section swiftly booked for the next day in my panic I sent a text meant to my mum along the lines of omg having csection tomorrow are you able to have the kids.... but managed to send to all in my phone amazing how many people will come out to help in a crisis lol

I had my 1st cervical length scan yesterday and it was all fine thank god. Got to see wriggly baby too (and on the TV scan his head looked MASSIVE compared to my cervix-eek!)

Got a busy weekend at work this weekend, which will involve 5-6 hours + on my feet. yay

I also have anterior placenta, so explains why not really feeling anything yet

How lovely there's two sets of twins on the thread congratulations ladies.

That's fantastic news hotcookie and wonderful to see your LO on screen.

I've got hives and I'm a bit freaked out as I always get them around mc. Ofc I did stupid pseudo-science googling about histamines and mc. Silly! I should know better by now.

Hi everyone, just wanted to let you know our little girl Matilda Alice was born on Friday night. I just wanted to say what a huge support I found this thread and wish everyone all the best with their pregnancies and beyond. Being pregnant after miscarriage has been one of the hardest experiences of my life but it has been made infinitely easier having you lovely people to vent to. Thank you all, I hope you don’t mind me sticking around to keep updated on all your news :) xx

hazel aww yay! Congratulations:) what a beautiful name 💖 xx

I'm really really struggling with anxiety over this pregnancy. Im googling constantly.. i just feel like I'm waiting to miscarry. I've had 1 healthy pregnancy before so i know it's possible but after my last 2 mc's I'm a wreck. I'm crying all the time and I'm so stressed out. It's getting worse and worse as the days go past. I'm only 5+4 at the moment and I'm freaking out. I'm constantly checking my knickers.. how did you ladies cope? I'm really not! Xx

@Hazandduck Oooh I love hearing lovely news. Big congratulations, hope you're both doing well

haz i clearly didn't read your name properly 🙈 haha xx

@Hazandduck congratulations 😀 what great news to hear! Hope both you and baby are doing well 🙂

@Hazandduck Congratulations! And what a beautiful name

Bluee Close enough! Right?... Right? 😁

I have been away for a week and have come back to some awful news. Rum I am crying for you. I am so sorry. What a horrible shock, just when you are starting to get some hope. Look after yourself. Thank you for coming back and giving us the update.

Great news on the scan Smurf. I am glad baby is looking good and wriggling away.

Not having OC would be very good Utter. I am glad they are keeping a close eye on you though.

I am sorry minnie I am laughing a bit at the text going to everyone. I am glad you got lots of positive responses though. It is nice to know people care.

Haz I am so happy for you. Congratulations on your little girl. I hope you are both recovering well and you are enjoying spending the time with your baby. Best wishes for the future.

My niece had her little girl on Wednesday. She had a miscarriage 6 weeks after my first one, then struggled to get pregnant again. It has been great that both of us have been pregnant successfully together this time and that (assuming all keeps going well for us) our babies will be so close in age.

We had a lovely week away. I am going to be 40 when I am 37 weeks pregnant and DH wanted to take me away for a week for my birthday, so we compromised on going now. We had a very lazy week doing not much in a spa hotel in the town I went to school in. During the week I took him out to see a lovely waterfall close by and we got an extra show as the RAF were doing training in the area (lots of narrow steep sided valleys). We got treated to the sight of a wee two propeller scouting plane coming over our heads and doing a 90 degree turn at the head of the valley we were in into the valley with the waterfall as we drove up towards it. After we parked at the waterfall we then saw two tornados doing a low pass through the valley. Then I turned rould too look in the direction we had come from and was confronted by a valley filled with a hercules who was only flying about 200m off the ground. You could see every last detail on it and it almost filled the valley. That bit was bloody good flying in itself, but the only way it could have got there was to have done the same 90 degree corner as we had watched the first plane do - and we had our hearts in our mouths when they did it. Hats off to the hercules pilot for managing it. That was seriously good flying.

@Hazandduck that is fantastic news, congratulations. Beautiful name too. Have a wonderful time getting to know her and please do check back in to remind us all of the potential for happy endings.

@Brenna24 so glad you had a great holiday, sounds like a breathtaking experience

20 week scan tomorrow for me (at 20+6) so having a nervy weekend. Baby v active but still convinced something won’t be right.

Hazandduck that is wonderful news! Congratulations on the birth of Matilda. I'm so happy for you.

Bluee I'm feeling exactly the same, like I'm totally losing the plot. I spent all day on Friday crying which is totally out of character. The constant thinking about it is like a prison.

I don't have any symptoms so I'm not expecting this pregnancy to last long anyway (I had really strong symptoms with my only successful pg). I don't know where we will be if this pregnancy doesn't work out. I just feel bereft already. If I could possibly, I'd get signed off work for a bit, but it's just not do-able right now. Thinking of you.

@hazanduck massive congratulations and well done!!! Enjoy your newborn cuddling, you have earned it! X

@Greyclouds and @Bluee, it's very hard at first, but I promise you it will eventually get easier to believe in your body again. Everyone on this thread has a different story, but we all know that feeling of just waiting for the sky to fall and having to pretend to the world that everything is normal. Some of us have benefited from counseling to address the extreme stress of pregnancy after mc as well as general anxiety. One thing that is never helpful is Google and comparing your symptoms, or lack thereof as in my case, to anyone else or to your own previous pregnancies, so please please please don't drive yourself mad thinking that if you don't have xyz symptom or if you do have xyz symptom it's all going wrong! Good luck for the first few weeks and just take it a day at a time--hell, get through the next hour, then the next! X

@Brenna congratulations to your niece! I'm unashamedly curious and going to ask about the crazy lady in Italian class-- is it all panning out OK? You can't have too many more classes to go, right?

grey I'm so sorry your feeling the same :( it's so stressful isn't it.
WLMcl aww thankyou for your motivating words or wisdom 🤗 your so right! We need to take this one day at a time Grey especially so early on! We can do it! Every pregnancy is diff so please don't count yourself out because of your symptoms ot lack of:( How old is your little one?
Having my DD who is 21 months to focus on helps me so much, She's my little ray of sunshine 💖 keep positive & Take care xx

The early days are so hard Grey and Bluee. All you can do is just keep taking it one day/hour/minute at a time. It does get a bit easier, but I still look for blood every time I go to the loo and I am 28 weeks tomorrow.

Good luck MrsJ. I hope all goes well.

WMcL she is still attending, but seems to have got the message to stay clear of me in it. It still stresses me out about going - the only class I was relaxed and happy going to was the class when I knew she was off on holiday. She did try to engineer a meeting at a mutual friends house. They had mentioned I was coming round to see them on a night when she was normally busy and she 'dropped in' just before I was due to arrive to pick something up for her holiday a week in the future. I dropped DH off at the door when we saw her car and headed home (mutual friend knows the situation and was pissed off with her and apologetic to me). She then went to do her usual friday thing and dropped back in to mutual friend again later as she normally does after the friday thing - so really no need to pick up holiday thing when she knew I should be arriving.