Staying posifrickentive- Thread 19 for ladies pg after mc

[Brenna24]

Ready. Steady. Go

Yes, another one taking aspirin (75 mg) following late loss with potential clotting issues - though never conclusively proved, consultant advised me to take this and have been doing so from about week 11/12 As a precaution I am having to inject Fragmin daily - blood thinning medicine so they are not taking any chances this time which whilst uncomfortable is reassuring that all that can be done is being done.

Confirmed it. Took a FRER and got BFN. After 6bfps.

DP is angry and is insisting we march to the practise and insist on tests. We’re 23, and have now lost two pregnancies in four months.

I am sorry TheCatsPaws. I hope you are being well taken care of in real life.

I'm so sorry cats make sure that you are kind to yourself.
Make an appt with your GP to discuss, it's likely though that they won't do anything just yet, it's usually 3 losses before referral to consultants/ hospital.

Thank you. I think they won’t do anything but I’d like to see if they’d at least take bloods. My son was prem and I bled through the pregnancy so it seems to me I have some sort of issue with carrying full term.

Got back from drs. They have taken bloods and are seeing what happens and have recommended a semen analysis for my partner. I feel positive that I’m being taken seriously.

Thank you. I wish everyone here happy pregnancies, I’m sad my stay was short but threads like this are lovely to see. X

Wishing you all the best, TheCatsPaws

@waterfeature I am so sorry to hear of your loss. Take care of yourself first and foremost. X
@catspaws I'm so sorry. I hope your GP can give you the sort of game plan that helps when you and DP decide to try again

@zaalitje For me, spots were a first trimester pregnancy symptom, as I don't normally have them! In my previous MMC and in my current (33 weeks) pregnancy they came and went for a while until the hormones got better balanced, then my skin went back to normal. Recently, weirdly, all the hair on my legs has stopped growing completely--nowhere else, just on my legs! Haven't shaved them for over a month and they're still smooth! Hormones do weird and wacky stuff, is what I'm getting at

Sorry I missed your question earlier Zaa I had the most incredibly spotty chest, back and shoulders from about 6 weeks to about 18 weeks. I still have a few on and off even now. Normally I don't get any. Spots are definitely just a pregnancy symptom for me and happened both in the pregnancies I lost and this one. If anything I would have said they were worse this pregnancy - my one successful one to date (at least this far she says touching all wood in the vicinity).

I am glad your Drs are taking you seriously TheCatsPaws. Hopefully they can come up with a game plan.

So, I was naughty today and did a quick scan... Saw a wriggly little baby in there, with arms, legs, ribs and a backbone, but couldn't find their head! Our machine is NOTHING like the ones they use for proper scans!

Not sure if I'm feeling movement or it's just gas. But he/she is def moving. 2 weeks until the 20 week scan, am pretty nervous...

Hello again

I was on this thread in August and September but I lost my pregnancy at 6 weeks (3rd mc). I've just got a positive pg test (AF due yesterday) and I'm so frightened. I don't have sore boobs that I had with my only successful pg. I'm so grateful to have another chance but I'm finding it so hard to cope expecting the worst and waiting for symptoms. How can I stay sane?

Grey congratulations! My only advice would be to try not to think about it. Avoid excessive googling. This time round, I didn’t tell anyone, didn’t start getting out maternity clothes (despite v v early flab), didn’t even register with GP/midwife. That was my decision btw, I’m not recommending it to anyone else. I did download the pregnancy app. If I’m lucky enough to conceive again I don’t think I’ll do even that because it is so sad to think the baby had passed away weeks before I realised.

I booked a scan at 8 weeks because I know that if you see a HB then your odds of successful pregnancy are v high. As it turned out there was no HB and I started to miscarry that day, but knowing I had the scan coming helped me to cope with the earlier stages.

Sore boobs aren’t necessarily anything. I get them sometimes with PMT and haven’t always had them in pregnancy.

Try to look after yourself and keep busy and healthy... easier said than done I know. All the best.

I’m so sorry about your sad news Cats.

I normally do have spots across my back. One of the earlier signs of pregnancy is that they clear up, with my previous mc the spots have reappeared just before a loss. However I'm about 3-4 weeks further , into this pregnancy than I've got before, so it's unchartered territory.

We had a scan at 10 weeks and saw a wriggler with a heartbeat, I'm still nauseous, have heartburn and boobs that at times feel like they've been used as punchbag so no reason to expect things are anything but well BUT I just can't shake the anxiety that this won't be my happy ending. These spots, they're just the latest trigger :(

Welcome back Grey. Tentative congratulations from here. I don't know about staying sane, I lost my marbles years ago. I did a lot of distracting myself with shite tv and being depressed and miserable until about 14 weeks.

@Zaalitje it is totally understandable to feel like that, I feel like that now and I have 3 days until my due date. My poor Midwife has had me crying on her shoulder a lot because it is so hard to believe you will bring home a real life baby. I think you just need to roll with the good days and the bad when you have pregnancy anxiety, and trust that there will be so many good days in your pregnancy that you can look back on and enjoy (scans, first kicks, your partner feeling the kicks, sharing the news with loved ones.) Hope you’re ok x

So sorry @cats and @waterfeature. Cats I think sometimes your DH can feel so helpless seeing their partner in pain, anger is their way of coping, or demanding answers, even when there aren’t any to be found, helps them to feel back in control. It’s so shit but it sounds like the docs are looking in to it all for you and taking your concerns seriously x

Haz I think that’s right. He feels happy they’re doing something but is nervous about the sperm test. I’ve told him it’s unlikely to be him as I’ve been pregnant at least twice (we suspect 3, I had a faint bfp and bled the next day the month after my miscarriage. Drs told us it was a false positive from the miscarriage but I had tested negative before so we suspect it was another miscarriage) and if it were him it’d be a different issue but he’s still worried. :(

I hate this.

As well as spots my hair is greasy, so there's a definite shift in hormone levels.
I think my sickness is less too.
I'm so scared I've lost him :(

Handholding with you Zaa.

zaalitje
This isn't easy. I too am scared. I also symptom watch; I had a late loss at 20 weeks. One of the noticeable signs of the loss was spots but this time I have also had spots and have automatically thought that's it, game over. I too have experienced periods of greasy hair which I have taken to be hormonal shifts and therefore alarming. Can you check in with a midwife/ante-natal unit soon to talk about your fears? Our fears are very real and something that shouldn't be underestimated. I have had comments along the lines of 'well I know it's going to be worrying until you have had your 20 week scan' from some midwives. Urm, no, it's going to be worrying until I get a live baby in my arms, that I can't quite believe will happen. No advice really, other than speak to a midwife etc and posting to let you know that you are not alone in your anxiety. Like Brenna, there will be so many people on this board, handholding with you and wishing you well x