Staying posifrickentive- Thread 19 for ladies pg after mc

[Brenna24]

Ready. Steady. Go

PS Holiday is abroad but just a long weekend.

Sorry for hogging the thread. I’ve just started bleeding. It’s bright red. So that’s definitively it.

water i'm so sorry. Look after yourself. I'd still give the EPU a call in the morning, just so you can be completely sure? Will be thinking of you x

water so so sorry, definitely contact your epu in the morning, you need the confirmation.

I'm not sure what to advise about your holiday, it depends how things progress and how you think you'd cope whilst away (without your dp?).

So so sorry Water

So, so sorry water. I agree with the others that you should give the epu a call, see what they say and go from there x

So sorry water take care of yourself although not a great comfort I was relieved when the actual Mc started so I knew it was happening and I didn’t have to wait any longer, knowing it had gone wrong

juniper thanks for the chart, my bmi was 21 so I reckon I’m doing ok. I thought the advice my friend was given was wrong, as before 20 weeks you grow a placenta, blood volume increases and there’s a fairly substantial baby in there so that’s all going to weigh something! Therefore making it impossible not to put on anything before 20 weeks.

mamma I’m sorry your DH has been posted away, but the shift pattern will help the worst my DH and I had was a 7 hour commute to see each other (RAF Lossiemouth and RAF Fylingdales!). We made it work and we never argued as valued our time together so much! Are you planning on following him in this tour or waiting for the next posting?

I am so sorry Water. Look after yourself.

That is a bummer your DH has been posted so far away Mama but great about the shift patterns.

mogul I forgot you knew the ins and outs of RAF life! He’s been posted to Brize, which I hear is a really lovely place, but just don’t feel ready to move and upturn everything at the moment - for now staying put, only 18 months this time and keeping FX for Leeming next time as that’s where we would like to ultimately settle anyway - it’s in the middle of both our families and we have a few friends there. Lossiemouth was a potential posting so we can count our blessings he didn’t get placed there - I don’t know how we would have coped! Would have been an 8 hour drive away! Fylingdales is only an hour north of us but he won’t go there as flight ops. I’m totally outing our entire life and location aren’t I 😂 4 days at home will be amazing anyway - I have my mum who can be here at the drop of a hat but with 3 children (and newborn twins!) could really do with DH around as much as poss! X

So sorry water. I hope things work out for you.

So sorry water. Take care of yourself.

Sorry water take care of yourself

Hi everyone. I had a miscarriage in July that went on until August. Found out I am pregnant again 3 days ago. However my lines aren’t getting darker and a clear blue digital says not pregnant. I’m so scared it is happening again :(

Hi,
I have name changed; I know this isn't ideal but it has taken a lot of courage to post here because I am sure by doing so I will jinx the run of good luck I seem to be having. I am sorry for anyone experiencing a second loss (or more), experiencing it once is devastating enough x
I am 19+5 days after a loss at 20 weeks or thereabouts (may have been just after it is all a blur) just over two years ago Anyhow, I am approaching the 20 week mark and have a scan (consultant -intense checking blood flow next week) and I have convinced myself that everything is going to go wrong and something awful will turn up at the scan. Today for example, I had loads of twinges that told me so etc. etc. I have two dc's for whom I must stay sane but if it is O.K, I would like to admit that I am terrified. I have no-one in real life to talk to, no parents and no real friends but I do have my lovely dh who obviously can't comprehend what it is like to walk in my shoes at the moment but helps loads on a practical level (he works full time, so is not around during the day.) This, I have discovered, is a lonely, lonely place to be. I have become very introverted since I discovered I was pregnant again and being that much older (now 43) places me at high risk too. I'm just wishing time away, roll on next March (if I get that far) the waiting is unbearable; I then think what if I end up having a still birth, I just can't ever see me giving birth to a live baby again. I had ptsd after my loss and had a years worth of bereavement counselling but even the thought of counselling seems too much and the counsellor I saw has moved away. It is a weird dichotomy; I want to be left alone, yet often feel lonely (I am a sahm to a pre-schooler who attends pre-school each morning). I have an engrossing hobby but this is very insular too and I have been feeling so rough (physically as well as mentally) that I haven't felt like trying to instigate new friendships, join new groups etc; it feels like my life as literally closed in on me, having said all of this, I am obviously very happy to be pregnant again (have a history of infertility too). Sorry for the long rambling post, I hope I haven't managed to depress anyone else. I think I have managed to mentally/emotionally exhaust myself but have difficulty explaining this to others around me because they just don't 'get' it.

Thanks to all for your kind wishes.

I’m so sorry you are so anxious user. So understandable. I think it would help so much if you had someone to talk to IRL... Can GP refer you for counselling?

So sorry to hear of your loss Water x

Thanks, for suggestion of counsellor but finding a good one can take time and the last good one I found has moved away; it feels too much of an effort to find another one. I feel so grumpy and irritable a lot of the time; it certainly wouldn't be easy to build a rapport!

User sorry you have experienced this awful loss and are feeling so anxious now.* I think you can definitely be assured that everyone here “gets it” - we have all had different numbers of losses at different times but all have impacted on our current pregnancies. It feels impossible to me that this pregnancy will turn out ok. My losses were earlier but even so there is no possibility of relaxing and enjoying, although as milestones have passed, the hope does start to grow.*

I am sure the next week will be a really difficult time for you.* I don’t think there’s anything to be done but get through it breath by breath, vent here whenever you need to and take whatever support is offered professionally.* Thinking of you x

I've been taking aspirin (75mg) for a while (since I got my BFP, I didn't really check with dr-I think I might have asked hypothetically at one point when there for something else and have forgotten to mention to the midwife yet-I'm now 17 weeks!)

People who have been prescribed it for MC-when did you stop taking it? I'm presuming it would be fine to take throughout as people have it for pre-eclampsia? (I recently found a study where they looked into low dose aspirin for migraine prevention, so I was wondering if it might help there as I can't take anything else)

@Thecatspaws tests can vary but I would say a line is a line and step away from the tests, because so much can make it lighter, such as the time of day you tested or how much you’ve had to drink before testing! Tentative congratulations and I hope this one works out. X

@User it sounds like you’ve been on a horrible journey to get here but this thread is a brilliant support network of ladies you can vent to about every little worry. Handholding for next week xx

@hotcookie I think the general view (from what I’ve been told by my GPs) is that it doesn’t do any harm to take low dose aspirin. Have you been diagnosed with any sort of clotting disorder etc? I didn’t know that about migraine prevention but it may make sense because of the stroke/migraine connection (I suffer with migraines with aura and have a family history of migraine and strokes - Grandad died at 51 from a stroke) so that is something I am now going to go off an investigate - thanks for the titbit! X

Haz thank you. I went to a drs appointment and they tested and it was bfn. Then a squinter showed. They told me to come back in a week but expect to miscarry.

I was very upset but today I feel positive. I have no bleeding or pain and aside from these tests have no reason to believe anything is wrong. So I am praying for it to be okay

I am so sorry the GP wasn’t more positive @thecatspaws :( I know they have to be realistic but it’s still horrible to hear. Crossing everything that it will be ok xx

Hazandduck I don't have any diagnosis of clotting problems-I decided to self medicate with 75mg aspirin, as it seems to be something they recommend at recurrent MC places, even if no sign of clotting probs, so I thought would give it a go (had a MMC at about 6 weeks)

I have a history of hemiplegic migraine-which IS apparently associated with a slightly increased risk of stroke (and means triptans are contraindicated completely, not just in pregnancy) The study I read recently was small, and done in males (but I can't for the life of me find it again!)

catspaws I hope the doctors are wrong.

I'm 17& 1/2 weeks now (18 tomorrow according to my scan dates) and my back is KILLING me-dull ache constantly. My work involves being on my feet most of the day, bending and lifting, and despite virtually NO lifting for the last 2 weeks I am just aching! At least the shooting sciatica type pain is easing. I'm starting to look REALLY fat too!

hotcookie I was prescribed aspirin from BFP to either 28 or 32 weeks.* I’ll check later and let you know.*

Started bleeding. Sigh.

I've started to notice spots, one on my shoulder, one on my chin. Does anyone else have spots reappearing between weeks 10 &12?

I'm worried as this has been one of the first changes I've noticed prior to previous losses.