Staying posifrickentive- Thread 19 for ladies pg after mc

[Brenna24]

Ready. Steady. Go

Brenna that is so fantastic and exciting. I’m so pleased for you.**

The mw I saw wasn’t the one who did my booking in; that one was so kind and knew everything about me before I came in.* This one is I think head of the mw team so maybe was covering? All my appointments are with different people, I’m only guaranteed to see “the team led by...”, not a specific mw/consultant/etc.*

Re. Food aversions/cravings, I’ve not had specific ones but if I smell or hear about a food, I can’t get it out of my head for days! Trying to start more diabetes-friendly eating as I have my appt with the GD team next week and I’ll have to start finger-pricking eggs for breakfast it is...

ooh weird bolding there, I’m sure I didn’t put an asterisk!

Yay congrats on viability day Brenna!!! I ordered our pram on Friday night so now I need to go lie down in a dark room until I’m about 37 weeks and I might think about ordering some clothing haha!

I’m also not really experiencing cravings but I have a huge aversion to chicken which is unhelpful since I love chicken! I also get the “can’t get it out of my head” thing though like MsJuniper!!

She’s probably not as interested in forging a relationship then mrsj (which is bad anyway).

Yeay Brenna! congratulations!

hotcookie sorry to read about your odds. I think your decision sounds sensible. I hope all is well with baby.

My diet is appalling at the moment. I ate two fry’s chocolate bars earlier. I’m really struggling with nausea and exhaustion. I don’t doubt the exhaustion would be better with some healthy eating and exercise except I’m failing at both. I was really fit with ds! And pppr ds has had to sit in front of the tv for a could of hour while I have a rest, I usually go swimming while he does and simply can’t face it today. Utter failure!

Hello, huge congratulations to everyone on this thread. It's great to see such positive stories and lovely pictures :)

I got my shock positive last week and still full of mixed emotions. We had 2 mmc 3/4 years ago and didn't think we could get pg (low fertility results and v sporadic periods), so yeah, very much a shock result! Clearblue said 3+ weeks last Monday and I genuinely do not know when my last period was.

I'm feeling so confused about how to proceed, my head spins every time I think about it. DH and I have sort of agreed to wait a month and then get a scan and find out what's up, but I just don't know what to do for the best. The experience of the mmcs really scarred us. It became an all-consuming rollercoaster with multiple repeat scans and bloods and hopes raised and dashed. We want to avoid that if at all possible, but equally we realise it would be good to know earlier if there is a problem... Any advice would be so welcome.

Wow, I'm so sorry for the long post.

Congratulations brouge!

I’m not sure what to advise as my experience was different. I had some bleeding around 7/8 wks and a scan showed a ‘healthy baby’ but measuring 5-6 weeks with a heart beat. Which I knew was not right. I mc a couple of days later. So I have no real faith in scans I’m afraid other than a snapshot of that moment in time, which could be either good, negative or a grey area. They don’t reassure me, but I know others are very reassured. My feelings now are that perhaps one scan around 8 weeks is possibly helpful. But I didn’t have a mmc. I agree it’s easier to know sooner rather than later. We decided to have the harmony test on weds at 10-11 weeks which includes a scan. I have very mixed feelings about it. But ultimately I feel the timing is right. Not got nhs scan date yet so I’m guessing that’l be 13/14 weeks.

Not sure this is helpful!

Ekphrasis I have felt the same way about scans as you due to seeing a healthy hb at 8 weeks and mc at 9.* The second time the 8 week scan was measuring behind so I guessed I would have the same outcome. This time the early scans were more an assurance that there was definitely something there, but I didn’t feel reassured once I was out of the room. I’ve had 5 scans so far now (17wks tomorrow) and particularly with the last detailed one the effect lasted a bit longer as I could see all was well.* Until there is an actual baby in my arms though it won’t seem truly possible.

Hi and congratulations Brogue. I would leave it as long as possible to get a scan. With my mmc I had a scan for bleeding at 7 weeks and again at 8 weeks. Both showed a healthy baby with a good heartbeat and appropriate growth. I had no problems until 10+1 when I had another bleed. A scan that day showed that baby had died at about 8 weeks - i.e. probably the day after my last good scan. So like others here I am not a big fan of scans. With my other miscarriages I didn't get far enough for a scan to be worthwhile and miscarried without warning. This time I had a scan at 6 weeks for bleeding - which showed everything looking ok (I would not have gone in had it not been for the bleeding), then a scheduled scan at 9 weeks to see if we had passed the 8 week danger point - again all looked well. I am not way past that now but have only had scheduled scans since then. I hope this one works for you.

Thank you guys for understanding what a huge milestone today is. I can't stop grinning.

Sorry some of you are having difficult mw experiences. Mine has always been very sensitive except for the comment at my booking in appointment, "how are you looking forward to becoming parents?" - something that, at only 8 weeks, I certainly hadn't allowed myself to entertain the thought of. Other than that though, she's been understanding and thoughtful. It's a shame they're not all like that, you all deserve the most supportive of mw's during this stressful time.

Brenna, congrats on reaching 24 weeks - yay! That must be a wonderful feeling!

I'll join you on the not so great diet - during the first trimester I felt constantly sick and so just got down me whatever I could. Now that that's improved, my diet is better but I'm still allowing myself lots of extras - I still have the horrid metallic taste in my mouth all the time and I feel the need to almost constantly be eating to stop tasting it!

Welcome unicorn and brogueish. I wish you both the most boring and uneventful of pregnancies.

Brogueish, in terms of early scans, I'm also not a fan. I had a mmc and a then a natural mc and just had so many negative scan experiences and as others have said, had my hopes raised with seemingly "normal" scans only to be heartbroken later. I waited until my 12 week scan with this pregnancy and although it felt like forever, I'm so glad I did. Seeing my baby for the first time after hitting such a key milestone really allowed me relax and feel some enjoyment in it all. It's not all plain sailing even after that and I'm still incredibly anxious about it working out but I certainly don't regret waiting for that first scan. Everyone is different though, you must do what's right for you.

@Emvy it’s weird when they say things like that isn’t it. I was in tears with my Midwife just last week at my 36 week appointment because I still don’t feel like I really will bring a baby home at the end of all this. It’s too hard to have faith sometimes. X

@Brogue welcome and sorry for your losses. I’m sure it is a shock. I agree waiting a while will be better in terms of seeing things on a scan but I totally understand how hard it is to not know what is going on in there and just needing to know. Every couple is different, and sometimes a scan can really help with the anxiety. Really hope this pregnancy goes smoothly for you x

Thanks so much for all of your responses. It's so reassuring and definitely helpful to get your views on this and I agree that scans aren't all they're cracked up to be. It sounds that around 9 weeks would be the earliest to possibly be useful and that's really helpful to know. Thank you. I suppose that honestly, I am expecting this to fail, and I don't know what (if any) risk there is in letting a mmc just sit there... But that's not really in keeping with this wonderfully positive thread so I apologise.

Thank you so much for your posts and well wishes, sending them right back at you all. Reading your stories just shows that keeping hopeful can pay off!

Hi everyone, sorry I've been absent, just been trying to stay away to stop me thinking about everything. I just had my 12 week scan though and all was ok! There was a tiny baby, with arms and legs and a head. Obviously next step is screening results then anomaly scan (although I'm sure I'll have a private one at 16 weeks). It's a huge relief though, maybe I can start to relax just a little bit!

I'll have to go back and catch up on all that's happened.

Brenna congrats what a fantastic milestone to reach!!!
Glad to hear of some good scans!
Has anyone used gaviscon in their pregnancy??

Thanks all. It is so good to have people around who understand. I had my 24 week appointment with the midwife today. It went a lot better. My blood pressure is spot on, no glucose or protein in my urine (i.e. no signs of diabetes or preeclampsia) and baby's heartbeat was good and strong. Even better after having a good kick at the Doppler baby moved into a better position for listening and the heartbeat was so loud and clear.

Gaviscon is wonderful stuff Smurf. I don't normally need it, but I have had a few bouts of bad reflux which felt like it was suffocating me and either Gaviscon or Peptac has done the trick nicely.

Fantastic news brenna it is always a relieve to see / hear nice strong heartbeat isn't it!!
Thank you!! I have never used it before but am having really bad reflux that feels horrible and almost makes me sick at times. I have the gaviscon now sitting on the house as heard it was good for it but hasn't worked up the courage to take any yet!

It is vile but effective.

Oh god Gaviscon. I can’t bear the stuff! I’ve become really prone to dry heaving throughout pregnancy and it only takes a couple of heaves before I have to breathe hard through my nose for ten minutes until the overwhelming urge to be sick subsides. Sometimes it’s easier just to be sick but occasionally I really do not want to see what I’ve just eaten/drunk again!! Gaviscon is not something I can persuade myself to swallow without heaving it all straight back again so I’m keeping my fingers crossed that my mate “Rennie” can keep on top of things!!

Started to realise today that 1) I can feel junior kicking away even when I’m walking now and 2) turning sideways to fit through a gap is no longer a useful skill. In fact I think it makes it worse.

Oh junior just kicked you all as I was typing this so from junior!!

Hi Junior. Lol at the turning sideways, that hasn't worked for a while here. I also realised yesterday that I can't see my feet when I stand straight. I have apparently been bending over to look at my feet for some weeks now, i just didn't realise I was doing it.

NoParticular how far along are you now? When did you all start feeling movements?
Hello to junior 😀

I don’t often have to go places where I need to squeeze through, but I did notice a few weeks ago that getting in/out of the car in a car park was difficult if the person next to me was too close!! But I think I’m hiding it well at 25+4 as I’m so tall! Or maybe the old wives tale about carrying neatly meaning a boy will be true?! We shall find out in Feb!!

I’m laughing at the idea of tricking yourself into seeing your feet! I can’t say I’ve checked (and can’t currently be arsed to get off the sofa to have a look!) but I’d bet my life I can’t see mine if I stand properly haha!!

Smurf I’m 25+4 (I think. 26 weeks on Friday anyway!) and started to feel small swooshes around 16-18 weeks but they’ve been visible from the outside for about three or four weeks now and I’m now realising that I can feel them without really concentrating now which is nice.

Who’s have thought we’d get this far eh?! I only had around four thousand melt downs a day in the first trimester....! Anyone know when the third trimester starts? I’m starting to get excited about the home stretch now (remind me of that when I’m fat(ter), breathless and overdue would you?!). I went slightly mad in the Sainsbury’s clothes 25% off today- junior has the most adorable penguin fluffy onesie!!

I am 24+1 today and started feeling movements at 15+1. I have an anterior placenta so very, very few are visible externally yet - I have seen and felt it from the outside twice to date. I am 5' 2" with a short body and I am definitely not carrying neatly. I have been showing since about 12 weeks and am now looking bigger than some people do at term .

I think I'm still having about 4000 meltdowns a day! I honestly am trying not to but it's still difficult.
18+4 here. I do have a bit of a bump and bad reflux.. But I don't know if I've felt any movements or not.. Maybe a couple of times i have thought "could that have been" but it's so quick that it's stopped by the time I can really consider it. I can't decide whether they could count or whether I want to feel movements that my head is just telling me that could have been.. Baby was doing grand 8 days ago and jumping and trying to suck thumb (looked like that anyway ) so I'm just trying to keep reminding myself of that.
Could movement at 18 weeks feel a little bit like when your stomach jumps going over hidden dips on the road in the car? (I understand I sound totally and utter ridiculous)

I would say that’s a good description Smurf.

All this wriggle talk is lovely! And hi Junior! I'm desperate to feel some movements and as it's half term, have been taking lots of time sitting quietly and "listening" but no such luck I know it's super early (I'm 15+5) so I'm trying not to let it worry me but I can't help but sometimes feel like something has gone wrong because I can't feel him/her yet! (Utterly ridiculous, I know). In terms of bump, I too noticed my toes were the only things peeping out from my below my bump yesterday! I too have had one since about week 12 and am also a shortie. It seemed to pop even more 2 days ago though - it's now nice and prominent even lying down.

Tiffin, congrats on a lovely 12 week scan, it's wonderful isn't it?!

Brogueish, this thread is for wobbles and positivity - we're all here to hand hold during difficult times. Never feel you can't say what you're feeling - it's such a difficult road x