Staying posifrickentive- Thread 19 for ladies pg after mc

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@halloumisandwich welcome back! I'm so pleased to see you here again. I got a scan at 8 weeks this time (NHS), and it did reassure me. I just thought 12 weeks was a long time to wait (I also had a MMC and didn't know until 2 weeks later). Every good sign gave me a little more confidence.

@lisara, congratulations on your wonderful scan! 😊
@DrRBannerx welcome and congratulations!
All the best for tomorrow@AmyB 😊

My growth scan is in a few hours. Thank you all for the reassurance and I'll let you know how it goes. 28 weeks today, can't believe I am starting the 3rd trimester!

Welcome back halloumi! And welcome Dr

wlm good luck today with the growth scan. Can they measure the baby from end to end then? I thought they got too curled up from 16 or so weeks to do that.

I had my 20 week scan yesterday and found out I'm having another boy! I didn't realise how worried I was until I was in there. I was surprised when the showed me a healthy moving baby! I need to chill out I think

Hopefully now movements will become regular so I can start reassuring myself.

utter I see, thanks for clarifying 👍 And thanks for your wishes, I'm so so pleased. My son is excited to get a little brother, he keeps bringing toys up to me and saying 'Il share this with the baby', bless him.

Hello everyone, I took a little internet break as I was getting way too anxious for my own good.
Glad to hear all going well for everyone - @amyb good luck for tomorrow!

@mogulfield congrats! :D I have 20 weeks in my head as the next major milestone to get past, but we have an extra growth scan booked in on 2nd Jan so then I know I will worry til that one!

@wlmcl good luck for your growth scan

Welcome @halloumisandwich fingers and toes crossed everything goes okay this time round

@lisara so pleased your scan went okay! :D

Sorry if I've missed anyone.

I'm 15+4 today and definitely getting a bit of a bump. Most of my symptoms have tapered off a bit [this is normal right?!} and I've started to get some weird pressurey feelings lower down in my abdomen.

I went to the doctor earlier in the week as I bent over and got a horrible tearing pain when I straightened up, in my lower abdomen, but doctor was lovely and examined me and said she was 99.9% sure it was ligaments.

So just trying to relax now. Got my 16 week appointment on Monday and my flu jab next Thursday, then will have the 20 week scan at 19+4 as I'm going away for a week and a half immediately after.

Oh I have discovered some amazing bras in Primark - £5 each, a kind of cross between a sports bra at the back and round the main band [stretchy no fastening] and a normal bra at the front, just without the underwire. They are so so comfy, mine were starting to dig into me.

Oops sorry for the giant essay of a post.

oh and @utter sorry to hear about the GD but like everyone else has said, more monitoring is good right?! Hopefully all will be steady in your levels and easily managed.

Echoing thoughts about the GD utter, I can imagine it's a bit of a blow when actually things look pretty normal!

Amy, best of luck! It sounds like your gorgeous children are going to make wonderful big sisters!

Halloumi, I'm so pleased to see you! I've just had my 12 week scan after having 2 consecutive miscarriages this year and couldn't believe that I was seeing a healthy wriggling baby - there is hope! I really pray this is your time . I didn't have an early scan as all I could think of was how I would feel if something went wrong after seeing a heartbeat on an early scan. I'd heard of so many people losing babies after early "reassurance" scans and it just put me off. 12 weeks was one hell of a wait but it's such a key milestone (at least in my head) that made it somewhere I was determined to reach before being scanned. It's not for everyone though!

Also welcome to dr. Lovely to welcome newbies!

lisara, beautiful scan picture - wonderful news. And Mogulfield, congrats on a little boy! How exciting!

wlmcl, best of luck with your growth scan!

Sorry if I've missed anyone!

Quick question to round off, when did those of you in end of second/third trimesters begin experiencing movements? I guess I'm looking for my next milestone that makes the 20 week scan not seem a million years away!

I actually felt baby so early but didn't realise, I had weird popping feeling from about 13 and a half weeks, I didn't have my '12 week scan' until I was 14 weeks and the night before laid awake absolutely beside myself with nerves I felt the bubbles popping and little fluttery movement. I know it is crazily early for my first, but both my mum and sister felt the same, and the movements have always been on the same side of my tummy, even now at nearly 35 weeks! I think it is normal to not feel much until 20-23 weeks, they have so much space in there to move around! Those in between weeks are incredibly hard. Even when I felt flutters and tickles I still worried. Your midwife may listen to the heartbeat at your 16 wk appt, that was a good milestone for me to work towards between scans! X

Sorry that was meant for @emvy :)

Thanks for the welcome everyone! Has anybody here had consecutive losses and gone on to have a healthy pregnancy? Sorry to sound so nervous but I've had three in a row now and I'm just extremely nervous! X

P.s congrats everyone on your healthy pregnancies!

Thanks hazandduck! I have a ridiculously large bump for 13 weeks tomorrow so I'm hoping that means I'll feel movements earlier too but also aware it's unlikely until much later. It sounds like yours definitely were though! I hope the midwife listens for the heartbeat at the 16 week appointment - that would be wonderful! I guess that's another of those location lottery things right?!

Sorry dr, missed your post there! I had 2 and have now got to 13 weeks with this one - the furthest I've got after a mmc and then natural. Feeling anxious is completely normal and all consuming. I found it helpful to talk to a miscarriage charity. I'm not sure whether this could be an option for you? I found it on google but I know that the miscarriage association offers a service over the phone. Were you referred after your third for further tests or not? I know that sometimes if you've had a referral you're offered reassurance scans early so that could be available to you? I wish I had more practical day-to-day advice but it is so hard. Just keep going and take each day one step at a time! We're all here to support each other through this 💪🏻 x

Hey emvy I do actually voulnteer for an organisation called "from my womb to my heart" but I don't want to speak to the other ladies as I feel like I'm running it in! My first was an early MC my second was a MMC and my most recent was just my womb opening but the baby was alive and fine but unfortunately my body decided it was a no go. I was sent for further tests but I wanted to wait a few months before going back for scans and the like, as it's always bad news and I'd just kinda had enough of being at the hospital, but we've amazingly fallen pregnant 10weeks after my last loss (last time it took a year) I'm being referred to a specialist in this pregnancy, but as I say, I'm in no rush for scans because it's just always bad news! Congratulations on your sticky baby x

The scan was great! Baby is measuring exactly as it should, 1.1kg at 28 weeks 😊 So I guess it's just me that's small, not baby! Thanks for all your well wishes--I know it was a minor thing to get worked up about, but this anxiety is what it is and I appreciate the support 😊

That's great news WML

I got my letter from the hospital saying that I was low risk for trisomies. 1:3200 for Down's and 1:100000 for Edward's/Patau's. Really relieved.

Dr I had a successful pregnancy in 2012 and then 6 mc. I'm currently 14 wks and all going to plan so far. The worry certainly hasn't left but the hope has increased.

So glad the growth scan went well wlmcl . And there’s no need to worry about it being ‘a small thing’. Everything is a cause of anxiety I’ve found! And you’re right, there’s sometimes just no controlling it.

I am in awe of those of you who have survived this loss multiple times. ❤️

I’m still feeling pretty down and anxious about things. Partly the inconsistency of movement for now, partly shattered as I’m not sleeping well, partly because it would have been my due date next week. I realised if my baby makes it this time, and is born on or after it’s due date, I’ll have been through a full year of pregnancy to meet them. I feel incredibly blessed that I got a second chance so quickly, and feel guilty for being down about it when I know some people have been through so much worse. But for me, today, I’m feeling sad that there are still 5 months of this to go, instead of a week.

So gearing up for my 20 wk scan next week and also the due date approaching for my last MC baby. ... Feeling a bit tearful and stressy. I thought I'd be ok I was very early and new from the off I wouldn't get to meet that baby but actually I'm a bit sad will do something on the date I think not sure what yet. Feels strange if I hadn't MC that little bean I wouldn't have the little one kicking away now which is a strange feeling like that baby wasn't meant to be but this one is and I feel very guilty for thinking that way.... Prior to that I had a mmc who would be one this December and would be gearing up to be a big brother or sister I feel like they still have a place in our family a spot in the hall were their shoes should be but the October baby.... I feel like I've ereased their place by getting pregnant again I know thats mad we tried again after mmc but took ages to conceive as body messed up from surgery so easily could have done the same with that baby... I'm rambling now🙈
I'm off work cos of my back so not sleeping well either so think I'm just driving myself loopy 😕
Hope everyone well. Good to see some newbies congratulations on your beans 😚

I'm really pleased to see all the good news on the scans, you ladies fill me with hope that I might just make it.

It feels like these few weeks are really dragging. I'll be 9 weeks tomorrow. My symptoms are definitely much better which is worrying me. I'm starting to become convinced that I'll get to the 12 week scan and the baby won't have a heartbeat. It was 10 weeks that I started spotting last time. It feels like another milestone if I can make it past then, but it's more than a week away and that feels like forever!

My symptoms came and went and came back again tbh this pregnancy and really had me twitched all was well epu did scan me and it did actually reassure me I was worried about mmc and saw little one with a Hb nurse said while she couldn't say it's definitely going to be ok usually the symptoms stopping occurs after the pregnancy has failed not the other way around so baby being fine was a really positive sign I was just carrying this one differently (god awful all day sickness previous few pregnancies) hope your ok I think most women get a fluctuation in symptoms particularly between 9 and 12 weeks as hormones are settling down and placenta almost up and running

Oh my goodness. I have been very busy for the last few days and so much has happened on here. Best of luck this morning Amy. I hope it all goes well. Your daughters are so sweet.

Great news Emvy. It is a magical moment seeing the little miracles wriggling around in there.

Double not that I can feel movement I keep having to check the idea that I am only imagining it. I still feel like a fraud. At this rate I am going to be holding a baby and trying to convince myself I am not a criminal who has just stolen one.

Great to hear the twins are doing well Utter. I hope the scan goes well next week. Sorry you have the extra risk hanging over you, although glad that it doesn't look that serious.

It is so good to see you back Halloumi. I hope this is the one for you. I am sorry your GP was so insensitive.

Beautiful picture Lisara. I am glad all is well with you too.

Hi and welcome Dr. I am on pregnancy number 4 after 3 consecutive losses. I am 21+4 now and all is looking well so far. It is possible (if utterly terrifying).

Glad the scan went well WMcL. I look massive already and I am totally expecting to be told I am measuring too big. I was looking big by my 20 week scan though and baby was perfect with loads of room and fluid around it, so I am not going to get upset when they do say it. There is no winning really.

Great news MrsJuniper.

Hugs for all those is significant dates coming up. 17th of October is the 2 year anniversary of my first miscarriage. And my best friends 40th birthday. That is going to be a tough day here.

Thanks for the understanding ladies, it's good to know I'm not alone with all the anxiety! It's so lovely to see so many happy and healthy pregnancies after MC with you all too. Thinking of amy today, hope all goes well!
I seem to spend half my time worrying about not feeling ill enough, and the other half trying not to throw up at the moment . I've sent off my self referral to the EPU and put in the notes that i'm very anxious and not sure on dates due to just bleeding on and off for about 6 weeks after my last MC, so we'll see if that gets me anywhere. I'm having counselling too - I found a local charity as I was such a mess after my last MC (and of course the NHS did nothing beyond telling me to phone back if I didn't have a negative test after 3 weeks). So I'm hoping that'll help me get through the next 5-6 weeks if i don't get an early scan - emvy I think I agree with you that I'd find it harder if I lost it again after seeing a heartbeat, so maybe I should just wait it out.

Hello all,
I am an oldtimer from these pages and thought I would pop by with an update.

DD1 was born in 2015, she was the result of my fifth pregnancy. Nothing except for a low thyroid found. She is now a hectic chatty 2.4 year old who is still keeping me awake nights.

And with me at the ripe old age of 43, she is about to be joined by DD2. Fairly uneventful pregnancy, except she is measuring a bit small so may be induced early.

I never thought one would happen, never mind two. I know I found these stories helpful in my darkest days, so just thought I would share.

Good luck to you all