Part 2 - anyone found out they are pregnant and want some buddies

[CL1982]

Hurrah! Here is to thread 2.

Any newcomers please feel free to join.

@CL1982 I'm on a Facebook group that stemmed from another Feb 2018 thread if you're interested. I think there are about 25 lovely ladies on it now and there has been lots of helpful advice, chat and bump photos! But if you'd prefer a smaller group I'm happy to join that too.

For those of you who are anxious and have had bad experiences in the past, I reckon you should ask for whatever support you need and not feel at all guilty about it. I worry all the time that something is going to go wrong despite having had a very normal pregnancy before, so I can't even imagine how amplified that worry becomes how when you have actually had a previous loss. Glad you're finding this group supportive

@CL1982 that's a great idea. I'm happy to do that

@CL1982 good idea 👍 hope your feeling ok today

Hi @CL1982 hope the meeting is going well. Id only be able to join if secret as a closed group shows up on notifications in the news window (and we haven't told many people of our news). We'd also need to not share our real names outside that group and be careful with who we let in. Also I'm happy discussing nausea and poo anonymously but not so much if people knew my name and it was going to be stored on the internet forever. As barristers our actual name is our business name (and with an unusual surname I am easily googlable). I don't know if there is a way we can have a logged in group not public where we can still use a nickname/ omit our surname? That would be ideal. Facebook used to allow people to use an initial as their surname but not any longer.

@blueobsessive I totally understand and yes I agree-we go secret. We'd need to get everyone in there and I think there is a way to use an alias (or I thought there was...).

Does anyone know how to do that? Let's do some research then liaise back-there is no rush :)

I suspect there will be about 5-8 of us so it'll be quite small. I agree-what goes on tour stays on tour!!

Also, I think there also needs to be an understanding that we will know locations, names etc. and there should absolutely be an understanding on privacy etc. I was purely thinking it'd be so nice to follow it through as a mums group while we're all on mat leave ❤️

@Mummygof2boys - argos- of course - why didn't I think of that. I always forget Argos for things.

I'm happy with a secret Facebook group (id rather secret than closed as closed groups still show on timeline etc as Blueobsessive has said)
However I appreciate what @Blueobsessive is saying about privacy and wouldn't want anyone to feel pressured or left out - especially as the group of us who chat regularly are wuite close
(You can use a middle name on Facebook as a surname. A lot of my teacher/midwife friends do that. But that may well not give you any more anonimity). I would absolutely give you the assurance of privacy Blue but appreciate it may not mean a lot as a relative stranger!!

We could always move the group to the antenatal clubs....might get a bit less general traffic than in the pregnancy section.....

My bump is coming along......

What's the thought then. I think if everyone is happy with FAcebook we go for it but keep it secret once everyone is in through the gate OR we can keep going on here as long as they'll let us (LOL).

Lovely bumps! I'll try to take a pic when i get home. A lot of it is flapjack today....

I think a secret Facebook page that only the people we regularly speak to is on. If we all know each other's first name we will know who is requesting to join. Does that make sense. Put the link on her to it and once we know we are all on don't let anyone else join.

Yes I'm happy with a secret group too. I think once it is set up you can pm us the details and we can give you our Facebook details to add us in.

I'm happy if everyone else is.
I think if it's secret you have to invite people by email.. .... as a link won't work (as the group can't be found....if that makes sense)

Who is setting it up?

I've had a little look and it seems easy enough so I don't mind setting it up. Only thing is that to add you to a secret group we need to be Facebook friends first - other option is to have it as a closed group then change it to secret once everyone has joined but I think then your joining might show up on your timeline. It definitely doesn't with a secret group. So if you're happy with that, pm me on here and I'll tell you how to find me on Facebook!

I wouldn't have a clue about setting it up lol but think it's a good idea @CL1982 I love flapjack now I I want some lol

@SAH2241 I think you can add people by their Facebook email address. If you add yourself on a closed group it still comes up on your wall..... even if you then change it....

Thanks @SS81C. Shall we try it if you pm me your email address I'll see if I can add you?

Right I've changed my surname to my middle names and have pm ed sah through the website.

Let's see if this works

Can we have a go at secret rather than closed

I definitely want secret and not closed. Sorry but I haven't told a lot of people yet and don't want to be outed! Haha!!

If there is a secret group can I join? I can keep up with mumsnet

If there is a secret group can I join? I can keep up with mumsnet

All set up as a secret group. @blueobsessive is my guinea pig as I've sent her an invitation using her email address so I'll let you know if it works!

Someone will have to tell me how I go about joining lol

@lauralou if you pm me the email address associated with your FB account I can add you.

Great stuff @sah2241 let me know if it works and drop me an invite.....