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BalticUnicorn · 04/08/2017 20:23

Hello i think I have prenatal depression. I'm irritated and hate everyone. My friends have disappeared. I'm up all night on the loo so I'm exhausted in the day. I just can't be bothered with all the baby talk and people keep saying my bump is small so I think there's something wrong. Needing a piss constantly means I can't get comfortable and I feel weak probably From losing so much water

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ijustwannadance · 04/08/2017 20:27

Speak to your midwife of GP.

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BalticUnicorn · 04/08/2017 20:29

Ok x

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jitterbug5 · 04/08/2017 20:35

Just wanted to reach out and let you know you're not alone. I'm 32 weeks and although I'm feeling really lonely I don't want to see anyone! I spent half my day crying. I'm not sleeping whatsoever and struggling with everyday tasks which is really infuriating. I even had a real sense of 'detachment ' from the baby. Although I think he's lovely, and it is lovely seeing him wriggle about and I wouldn't do anything that could harm him, I almost feel like he isn't mine and I'm watching from someone else's perspective!!
DH took me to the GP this week and I got referred to some counselling to see how I get on. Honestly just talk to them. They'll be a massive help.

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BalticUnicorn · 04/08/2017 20:39

I hate talking and really want to go to the midwife alone on Tuesday but dh wants to come with me it's stifling

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snackarella · 04/08/2017 20:52

From
Another perspective I am pregnant and miserable and ultra stressed - but it's because I expect so much from
Myself I just cannot win.
Also, I don't bond with bumps, didn't with my first and haven't with my second - but the babies are awesome once they're here - hope you feel better xx

carrotcakecupcake · 04/08/2017 20:53

Definitely speak to your midwife; I too felt a real detachment from my first during pregnancy, I think it only felt "real" when I delivered him and they placed him on me. I had such a sense of shock with the reality of it all.
I struggled with lack of sleep during pregnancy thanks to major hip and leg pain, it was horrible when I was already so exhausted.
I really think sleep (or lack of) makes a huge difference to mental health. My DC2 (five months old) sleeps a million times better than DC1 did, and I now feel so much better than I ever did during the early months of DC1.

ijustwannadance · 04/08/2017 21:48

Midwives in my area have drop in centres at certain times. Anything like that where you are so you can pop in on your own without an appointment?

How far along are you. Having to get up constantly to pee is crap. You don't get to the deep sleep stage long enough so it's no wonder you feel so exhausted. Mine is just bloody heartburn at the mo.

Blossomdeary · 04/08/2017 21:53

My DD had a very severe ante-natal depression and was seriously ill. You must get help. It can be a truly horrible illness.

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BalticUnicorn · 04/08/2017 22:35

I'm 24 weeks I literally have to wee every 20 minutes it's exhausting. I've got no friends I'm never invited anywhere I end up sitting in the house with the dog. Ive got anxiety about work because I can't remember anything and I'm dropping the ball I cant speak to anyone at work about it either

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ijustwannadance · 04/08/2017 22:45

Have you talked to your DH about how you are feeling?

lucyloopy · 04/08/2017 22:46

Have you been checked for a urine infection? I would rule that out first.

If that's fine possibly you have an irritable bladder?i had this and felt like I needed to pee all the time, the urology nurses really helped manage it, so ask for help.

Pregnancy is crap, lots of women feel low but don't talk about it. Ive had antenatal depression in all my pregnancies and it's shit. Is there anyone you can talk to about it?

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BalticUnicorn · 04/08/2017 22:50

I've checked for urine infection it was clear. I don't want to speak to dh as he tries to be positive and I can't be arsed with the pep talk. I don't really have anyone to talk to because it'll just be repeated to people I don't want knowing my businees

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MotherofA · 04/08/2017 22:58

I struggled with pre natal depression and severe anxiety in my pregnancies . It over took every thing . Personally I tried to manage it myself but speaking to the GP may be best.
When my friend did they sent a psych nurse out to counsel her each week and as I am quite withdrawn and private I knew I didn't want that. I probably should have though .
It's so so hard but the cloud will lift . Tell DH no need to go with you it's boring if you really don't want him to .

MotherofA · 04/08/2017 23:00

Also I couldn't talk to anyone as they have no empathy or understanding in my family lol . Sometimes made me feel I was lying .

lucyloopy · 04/08/2017 23:12

I get the DH thing, mine was the same. TBH I don't think there are many people you can talk about antenatal depression with.

Have you thought about speaking with a therapist? I saw one in my last pregnancy and it saved my sanity.
I had some really dark times in that pregnancy, but going there every week and being able to say how utterly miserable I was really helped. Most sessions I just sobbed my heart out but as soon as I gave birth it went. With my first, I just kind of ignored it and went on to have roaring PND which was truly awful.

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BalticUnicorn · 04/08/2017 23:18

Thanks ladies I'll see what the midwife says on Tuesday x

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BalticUnicorn · 05/08/2017 12:29

I've phoned the pysch team

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ijustwannadance · 05/08/2017 12:32

Were they able to help?

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BalticUnicorn · 05/08/2017 12:34

Midwife is going to phone me back. They're going to think I'm a nutter. I've just drove to Ikea and back again I stayed for 2 minutes and pissed myself

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MotherofA · 05/08/2017 12:37

Bless your heart . No one will think anything of the sort ! You can't help what is happening I hope you get the support you need .

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BalticUnicorn · 05/08/2017 12:42

My midwife is going to phone me and might come out. I'll have to put the blinds down I don't want my parents turning up

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ijustwannadance · 05/08/2017 13:02

No one will think you're a nutter!

I nearly pissed myself in B+M bargains last week. Invest in some pads like tena lady and keep a bag with spare clothes in the boot of the car just in case. Pregnancy is soooo undignified.

If midwife comes, tell her everything. You have done the right thing by asking for help.

MotherofA · 05/08/2017 13:27

Yes put them down , do whatever you have to do . Try an app called the mindfullness app . It really helps me when I'm very anxious .
Also , nail on a head what pp said about pissing self 👌🏼

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BalticUnicorn · 05/08/2017 13:55

Shes been. Told her how I feel etc she was great said it's not unusual it's not spoken about. I'm seeing my gp on Monday and she's referring me for peri natal support

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ijustwannadance · 05/08/2017 14:43

Good. Ball is rolling. GP may offer medication and now you will hopefully get the support you need.

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