Depressed

[BalticUnicorn]

Hello i think I have prenatal depression. I'm irritated and hate everyone. My friends have disappeared. I'm up all night on the loo so I'm exhausted in the day. I just can't be bothered with all the baby talk and people keep saying my bump is small so I think there's something wrong. Needing a piss constantly means I can't get comfortable and I feel weak probably From losing so much water

Oh Baltic I'm just catching up on this. How are you today? Please do make the appointments. Honestly, work is not that important and you really are. You need to look after yourself. X

Hi im so so. Dh going on a stag do this weekend so im alone with the dog which can be stressful hows you?

Hopefully rather than being stressful you can find some part of it is better than expected. Will you make some more appointments? I still need to speak to my perinatal team. They are never available when I ring and only call back once, but not at the time I requested and never try again. I just don't see how I will be able to feel I can rely on them if things get really bad again.

Hey Baltic, are you on your own yet? Hope you've found some company for tonight or failing that some other way of unwinding - takeaway and a box set?

How is everyone?

Low mood creeping back in. Got an appointment with perinatal MH on Friday and am going to feel like a naughty girl as haven't taken the meds and now look... I feel shitty again :-/ I keep trying to convince myself it's not antenatal depression, it's just a bad patch and normal pregnancy hormones. If I keep telling myself enough maybe it will come true.

Mums at school noticed my tummy this morning - first time it's been sticking out properly I suppose - and I surprised myself by grinning and excitedly saying "yes!!" when one of them asked me if I was pregnant.

Still not back at work and worried about what's going on due to unresolved pregnancy discrimination grievance. I've had day one at home with the toddler whilst the older one had gone back to school and it has been pretty grim. I fell asleep for 3.5 hours accidentally. He climbed on top of me and fell asleep too, bless him. I already feel like the walls are closing in on me and I'm dreading maternity leave.

Oh, and heartburn.

Lots of anxiety here and I just can't seem to switch off.

Hope your appointment goes well on Friday Little?

How are things with you Baltic?

Have you got much longer left Fuzzy? Is it general anxiety or pregnancy/birth stuff worrying you?

I'm only a third of the way through. I think there is an element of generalised anxiety but my last two labours have left me scared of another one, which doesn't help matters.

Would you opt for a section? Have perinatal discussed ptsd due to labour with you?

I suspect I will have no choice as it will be my third labour in three years and two previous EMCS. The problem is I tend to labour before consultants like to do c sections and last time it was all so quick the baby went into shock and had to be resuscitated. So I'm worrying about whether I will get to hospital in time and all kinds of things.

Hi ladies. I'm ok due back in work next week not ready really but I need to go back as don't want alot of sick on my record when I look for a new job on mat leave. Little I try to convince myself it's just hormones but i think it is more. Fuzzy have you spoke to a consultant 're elcs?

I'm considering going off sick and, like you Baltic, I will look for another job on mat leave but figure I will put down one instance due to pregnancy related illness if asked about previous sickness. ELCS tend to be carried out at 39 weeks and very rarely from 37 weeks. I don't know a consultant will agree for before then. I just don't know. I will have to see a consultant regarding it due to previous sections but last time my appointment was the day before I went into labour, so hopefully things will be done a bit earlier on this time.

It's so hard fuzzy I tend to overthink. I cant get a reference from my old job (left on bad terms) so that might inhibit me getting a new job although by the time I'm looking it will be 2.5 years ago.

Btw do any of your friends and family know about AND? my dh does but no one else I'm mortified

I overthink as well. Hopefully by the time you need it, your old job will have a different person responsible for references and it will be ok.

Not really. I've mentioned to a few people I am under the perinatal team but that is all. It's hard.

Oh this old manager isn't going anywhere. Fortunately I have another contact who'll give me a reference

How are things for you now?

Went back yesterday to work it's ok. I'm tired and really cant be arsed talking to anyone. I'm tempted to take early mat leave but fear id be bored sitting at home waiting! How's You?

I am so tired it is ridiculous. Finally spoke to the perinatal team and need to think about a few things but not really sure how much I will get from them.

I plan on starting mat leave as early as possible.

I feel too guilty telling them I'm going early it doesn't leave them any time to cover me. I'm not going back to that job anyway I've decided so dont know why im arsed

I'm not going back either and haven't even told them that I am pregnant yet. They are a big company so can cope but haven't ever been overly sympathetic or at all supportive to me in the past, so don't feel guilty.

Yeah I shouldn't feel guilty but i do! I'm such a loser hahaha! Tbf being in work does my tits in but I'd rather that than sit at home depressed. It's the tiredness that kills me!

It's hard being at home, kind of enhances the loneliness! Even if I have a toddler to keep me company. I can't wait to go back to work, conversely, despite the shit storm I know I'm about to hit due to the formal complaint.

Baltic, how early were you hoping to stop working? Just remember last few weeks of pregnancy drag and you could also go overdue by up to 2 weeks. My advice would be to keep as busy as possible. IMHO.

I saw a perinatal panel the other day... It was odd. 4 grown ups and then me! We've settled on ongoing talking therapy and that I'd go on a 25mg dose if I felt I needed (just half the existing tablets in the pack I've got). And obviously to call if I start having suicidal thoughts again. What did they suggest for you fuzzy?

Tbh I was wanting to start now but money wise we couldn't do it. I'm finishing at 36 weeks i think thats late enough! I only got up once to wee last night so I'm not as tired today. When you finishing work little?