Depressed

[BalticUnicorn]

Hello i think I have prenatal depression. I'm irritated and hate everyone. My friends have disappeared. I'm up all night on the loo so I'm exhausted in the day. I just can't be bothered with all the baby talk and people keep saying my bump is small so I think there's something wrong. Needing a piss constantly means I can't get comfortable and I feel weak probably From losing so much water

That's brilliant , you are very brave x

I don't really want anti depressants I'm terrified they'll harm the baby but I can't be like this

I suffer as well and have just been referred to the perinatal team for this pregnancy, even though it is early on.

Prenatal depression is incredibly common but just not as spoken about as postnatal depression. I'm glad you have spoken to your midwife and got some support, but keep this thread going as well in case you need to talk at any time.

I'm also reluctant to take any meds so speak to your mental health team about what else is available for you and let you discuss the risks which will hopefully allow you to make a well judged decision another whether to take anything and (if so) what.

Good luck owl. She's said I can have an elective c section if I want but I don't have anxiety about that yet! She pointed me in the way of antenatal classes which is good as friends seem to have gone missing

I didn't want meds either and was so afraid of snooping that's why I never contacted anyone .
You should all be so proud and we should do more for awareness on this subject as pp said no one talks about it .
Thinking of you all going through it now . 🌸

Thanks BalticUnicorn. I did an NCT course with my second child and, whilst I didn't think much of the course content, the friends I have made had been completely worth the money.

It's good that you are being given control over the labour that you have and no harm in getting a date for an ELCS if you are unsure and then seeing how you feel on the day.

How is everyone today?

Ok.ta. How are you feeling?

Tearful but managed to wash and dry my hair so that a positive. Feels like I've wasted the weekend really

I've been feeling a lot calmer since speaking to my GP. It's still very early days but I hope it bodes well for this pregnancy.

I find things like washing my hair etc can make a huge difference on my mood, so it doesn't sound like a wasted weekend to me at all. Do you have anything positive this week to be able to look forward to?

My parents are coming round tonight but I've got to hide this from them so I'll just have to act normal which is exhausting but next week is just work and seeing midwife again Tuesday how about You?

Thinking of you and hope tonight goes as well as it can. I find hiding it and acting like everything is fine is exhausting but the alternative is causing so much worry that it becomes even more stressful and more of a burden than before.

I'm not due to see the midwife for another ten days but I'm hoping things will be quite level until then and that I will hear from the perinatal team beforehand. Hope your week goes ok.

GP was ok but not interested really. I'm going to see midwife tomorrow but I do feel better for being in work today and I've booked an antenatal course. I'm crying over stupid things still like someones dog on Instagram dying

I would cry over that as well. Hope your midwife is supportive tomorrow and the antenatal course is a good one - is it through your hospital or NCT?

It's through daisy foundation they're a bit cheaper than nct at 70 quid for 6x 1.5 hours sessions

I've heard good things about them. My closest one is just too far away to make me think I would be able to meet up with people afterwards otherwise I would have signed up. Hope you find it useful and the others going are ones you feel you'll get on with.

How is everyone? Went to midwife can't go under mental health as I'm not on ADs. I need them but I refuse to take them in pregnancy so I've shot myself in the foot a bit I've been looking at baby stuff but there's too much choice lol

That sounds a ridiculous policy. Could you write to PALs for your hospital and ask them to arrange it? I'm under the perinatal team and am not on antidepressants either.

Is this your first baby? I remember being really overwhelmed and not having a clue what babies really needed or what I should get/should avoid.

Yes it's my 1st after 7 rounds of clomid I'm really lucky but at the mo feel a bit disconnected and cold

Really struggling today trying to keep it together in work this is a nightmarev

I'm quite angry that your midwife said you can't go under mental health because no AD's. They should be helping you more.

When are you due to finish for maternity leave? Could you be signed off sick for a few weeks by GP just to give yourself a break?

I've phoned peri natal team they're getting back in touch with me but I can't self refer. I wouldn't dare get signed off it's too busy and I'd never hear the end of it

Fuck work. Your mental health is far more important at the moment.
Fingers crossed the peri-natal team will be more helpful.

The peri natal team phoned back and will send me an appointment within 2 weeks

How is everyone?