Staying posifrickentive- Thread 17 for ladies pg after mc

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Hope you all find this one ok!

Glad to hear things went well rider! I'm join you in the scan club on the 23rd (hopefully!)

Pies I'm so incredibly sorry for your loss. Completely heartbreaking, and not in the slightest bit your fault.

Welcome Harriet. Really hope everything works out for this little one.

So, today is the date in this pregnancy when my last one stopped progressing. I'm having a lot of cramps, but think it's wind rather than anything awful, although last time I had symptoms right through to my 12 week scan. Desperately hoping for a better outcome this time.

Congrats brenna and good luck for your dating scan! It's reassuring that you've had bleeds and all is well. Today is the day my period would have been due and I feel like my body is trying to have it! I've had cramps on and off all day and tiny bits of brown when I wipe (sorry tmi). Fx it is just implantation and nothing more serious. I've been taking the cyclogest rectally so don't think it can be that.

Thank you Dancing we're at the same stage and I have cramping too. I thought it was the uterus stretching mixed with constipation which I'm suffering from. It's so nerve racking these weeks around the time of previous MCs. I'm rooting for you x

Harriet I had brown spotting for a full week after my bfp this time. Was absolutely nothing. Really hope it's the same for you (though I know how anxious a time it is!!)

Rider that's reassuring. Rooting for you too. Wishing away the time to the scan, and then I'm sure I'll be wishing away ten weeks to the next one!!

Rider glad you had a good scan.
I also had one today and fingers crossed all looks good so far. Measuring 6 weeks 3 days with a heartbeat of 140.. Midwife seemed happy with everything...
I think my anxiousness went away for about all of an hour. Feeling very icky this evening, trying to distract myself with some TV.

That is awful Amy. Do they have no clue at all?

Great news Rider. You are not that far behind me.

Good luck Dancing. That is a tough day in subsequent pregnancies. I hope all is well for you.

I hope the next few days goes well Harriet.

Also great news Smurf.

Thanks dancing that's really comforting. I remember you from the mc board - congrats!

Sorry for the tmi but some more thicker brown stuff came out - weirdly quite dry like the "school glue" type CM only brown. I'm hoping that's it drying up rather than it being the start of something. Still quite crampy though which is worrying. I guess only time will tell.

@Brenna24 no they don't realise. It's a couple of the younger girls in their early 20's. One always asks if I'm ok, if I happen to mention I ache she will say she does too. Had to point out to her that I'm heavily pregnant, 3x her size and 31. She's 20, a size 6 and burning the candle at both ends lol bless her so young 😂

@harrietm87 sorry you're crampy and having brown cm. I was super crampy right up to around 12 week maybe more. Had yellow cm not brown. Brown is generally old blood maybe coming from your cervix? Or could be left over from implantation. Fingers crossed it's drying up for you

She will learn

I hope it is all oik harriet

Just catching up now and hope everyone is doing ok.

Is anyone else on treatment for prenatal anxiety?

Ooh tell me more if you don't mind Fuzzy? I'm not as I didn't know it was a thing but I'm struggling!!! I think I shocked my sister yesterday as I'm really not thinking like myself, really anxious and low self esteem. and she said I was being paranoid about things that normally I wouldn't have registered.

I have suffered with prenatal depression twice so I wanted to make sure I was proactive this time to try to prevent things getting too bad. My anxiety is absolutely terrible and I think the hormones combined with miscarrige worries etc are an awful combination. My doctor has referred me to the prenatal team for support in early pregnancy (which will then continue as things develop) and also given me some medication to help.

Thanks fuzzy. I'm flatly refusing to test at the mo, as feel like even if positive a 4th miscarriage feels inevitable and I selfishly don't want to spoil my big birthday month. Clearly not a long term plan....

@FuzzyOwl @thisismadness77 I'm undergoing treatment for anxiety. I'm on a 10 weeks course with the NHS to overcome my anxiety.

I also have a specialist mental health midwife who I see roughly once a month.

My MMC tipped me over the edge with my anxiety, I had been having a tough time; made redundant, starting new job, and moving house. It was too much for me to process in one go.

I was offered sertraline at the beginning of my treatment which I declined. It has helped me hugely by having people to talk to.

Feel free to PM if you want more info

Thank you @theotherendofthesockportal and I am pleased to hear how much it has helped you. I was offered and declined sertraline as well - I just think I would worry even more about causing harm to my baby if I take something. Is your course online or do you need to go into the hospital or to see your midwife?

@FuzzyOwl it's a support group that is run by the NHS. I could have waited to have one to one therapy but I wanted to get help as soon as possible. It has got to a point where I couldn't continue the way I was.

I'm so grateful especially to the mental health midwife who just listens to me.

I am an advocate of asking for help and talking to as many people as possible

Sorry to sound dim but do you go to the hospital and there are a group of you that you chat to or does it work differently? I think I will get a MH midwife this time and am definitely asking for all the help.

@FuzzyOwl I go to a group which is for people who are suffering with anxiety/ depressing. It is run at a local NHS wellbeing centre (I guess it's a perk of living in a big city). It's not a group especially for pregnant women - I would have preferred that but didn't want to wait on the waiting list. I knew I needed help asap

I used to have quite bad anxiety and had CBT, which really worked for me, and I meditate every day. There's a great app called headspace I use and it has a pregnancy section, it really makes me feel much better when I'm feeling mega stressed/down.
I have just had more blood when I wiped it's not loads and there's no pain, but I'm annoyed the midwives are now closed and il have to wait till tomorrow. I think I'm going to push for a scan tomorrow as there's 2 incidents of bleeding now.

Thanks @theotherendofthesockportal

Hope it is nothing but can understand why you are worrying mog.

Fingers crossed all ok mogulfield

I'm really interested to hear about the various resources there are for those of us suffering with anxiety. I always put such a brave face on at any appointments but deep down I'm not feeling myself. It's not just worrying about the pregnancy, but things like feeling paranoid and having absolutely no self esteem. It's really hard. I wonder if it would be worth having a chat with someone after all, it seems like there is quite a lot out there that could help

@itsgoingtoofast I'm sorry that you are suffering with anxiety too. I'm sorry that any of us are! All I can advise is don't suffer with it alone. There is help out there, don't be afraid to ask.

Although I'm only half way through my course I have noticed the change in me. I'm able to stand up for myself a little better and I understand why I get trapped in a vicious circle of anxious thoughts. Now I understand it a little better I can break the thought patterns.

@mogulfield thinking of you 💐

@theotherendofthesockportal thank you. You are right. I am going to pluck up the courage to call Epas tomorrow morning and get booked in for an early scan in the next couple of weeks. I'll see if they can give me any info. Unfortunately it sounds like it is very common. I don't think anyone would guess I'm feeling this way, everyone thinks I cope really well. You just can't tell what people are going through

Hi all

Got a few days worth of pages to catch up on. Hope everyone is doing well and keeping ok

Hi everyone I'm popping back in. I'm nearly 6 weeks after 4 Consecutive miscarriages.