New due in Sep 04 thread...

[dejags]

I thought I would start a new thread because we finally passed the 500 post mark.

This is a pretty quiet thread - I think too many of us have been moving house. Our move is well and truly over (thank heavens) - well at least for the short term, we still have the small matter of emigrating in November with an 8 week old and a 3 year old which should be a barrel of laughs...

Otherwise I am bumbling on nearly 31 weeks and actually feeling ok despite no sleep, spd type pain at night and lots of time at the hospital because DS2 is so big and needs constant monitoring.

How are you all doing - time is flying we'll be doing birth announcements soon...

Podmog - my friend recently went into hospital when she was in labour - they sent her home because she hadn't had a show. She was back in hospital less than 2 hours later 9cm dilated, so it certainly sounds as if it's possible that you are in the early stages of labour.

Could you call your midwife?

Podmog - I would call the hospital / midwife....from what I have heard it certainly sounds like this could be it. Good Luck.

Just thought I would give you an update on me, ....following my Obs appt this afternoon they have schedualed me in for induction on Friday 3rd September - next Friday!. The Ob is fairly sure I will go naturally into labour before this though as the head is well engaged and although still closed the cervix is ripe :o)

Its exciting and scary all at once!

Saddy X

Distracted... we have had all the worry and numerous hospital visits as well.. all over spina bifida and related problems and then over placental function/baby growth.. it is a worrying time. They are now saying there are no problems but the worry is still in my mind and won't be eased till baby is here and they can 'see' there are no concerns... Dh has had to come to all visits as well (not that I would have let him off otherwise...!) as spd pain is preventing me from driving so the whole family has been disrupted... Try not to worry too much (easier said than done).. we are all thinking of you...

Podmog - I'd call your midwife for advice, I didn't have a show last time and was only convinced that I was in labour when my waters broke... Your midwife will be happy to see you..

Off to veg in front of cbeebies.. I am so tired today so I hope ds can entertain himself for a little bit!!

Is anyone else bored? I just can't seem to muster any enthusiasm for anything.

Mog - I was like this until about a week ago. Suddenly I got this weird surge of energy and all of a sudden I just couldn't be busier - cleaning, ironing, making things for DS's themed nursery days, been to the library to get enough books to tide DS over the for the next month, taking DS to the park.

I feel better now than I did at 30 weeks - aaarrghhh probably means I'll go overdue ...

Please tell me that I haven't been pregnant forever...

OMG - we are nearly there (well some, it would seem, more than others). How exciting - although I have been reading a thread about third-degree tears and prolapes - OHHHH. I am looking forward to lovely short painfree birth stories!

I am thinking of a water birth - although knowing my luck someone will be in the pool when its my turn. I am not due until the end of Sept. and am already fed up of nighttime loo visits, wriggling baby, lack of energy and back-ache after walking for anything over 30 mintues.

Dejags - does this surge of energy not sound like nesting syndrome (ie not long to go!!!!).

Podmog, any news?
Distracted, sorry to hear how worried you are. Sorry, nothing helpful to say except thinking of you. I carried v big with dd1 and had lots of waters (she was only 6.7lb). I'm sure all is well.
Dejags, sounds like you may be next! Am I the only one that doesn't want baby to come yet?! Am 38+4. Had antenatal - all fine except am very anaemic so am now taking iron tablets. Am SO tired, especially as nursery is shut this week and dd is being so clingy.
God, wonder if I'll go overdue after all my worrying about having another pre-term baby. Was convinced I'd have a Leo - we're now in Virgo!
Saddy - not long for you now! Take care, Dinny x

Hello all,

Had a semi normal nights' sleep last night & feel like wonderwoman this morning

Dinny - it's bizarre everyday that goes by I feel better and better - swear I'll still be sitting here in October. I think I am with Saddy on the nesting thing - I can't bear the thought of people coming into my house when I am not there and saying "ooh look her loo needs a good scrub" so I think it's more of a personal pride thing than nesting per se.

Where is Highlander? Haven't seen her in a while - are you ok?

Jacksmum - nearly there, hope the SPD eases up for a few days before the birth

Cazzybabs - I am also hoping to labour in water and maybe give birth too. The one thing that puts me off is having to take your own mop and sieve to the hospital - thinking about what they will be used for makes me a little queasy.

Podmog - where are you / how are you?

Have a good day everybody!

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Morning! Podmog, it sounds like you may not have long to go...sorry you are feeling so achey though.

Dejags - any change of sending some of your wonderwoman energy in my direction? I need to beat the enthusiasm just to get dressed, yet alone anything else! Still you have picked a nice day to have an energy spurt.

Now I know whatever happens baby will be here in 8 days time, I feel a little more in control of everything. Thinking what I can do this weekend as a couple as it will be the last weekend we are officially a couple. Knowing my luck if I book theatre tickets etc, labour will commence and the only show I'll get to see will be the start of labour!!!

How many people keep telling you that its best if baby can hold off to next tuesday? Academic year reasons? My midwife said yesterday that more and more women try and hold off to have Sept babies for academic reasons! What? I never even thought of this!

What does 50% effaced mean? Its on my notes - need to look it up.

Love Saddy X

I had to laugh Saddy... I am one of those women who want to hold off till next tuesday at the earliest!!! The only reason I know about this is because I was one of the eldest in the school year and my cousins were the youngest at literally just 4 years of age when they had to start... the extra year at home does stand the child in good stead but the downside is you still (possibly) have childcare costs for an extra year. However... all my friends think I am mad to want my child home for an extra year - talk about wishing their lives away - surely we spend enough time in education/work?!

I'm feeling very fed-up though - lot of discomfort, lack of energy but having to muster some for ds... can't wait for next wed to come... though time is flying by!

DEjags - you have to take your own mop and sieve??? No-one has told me that - I shall have to check! Bit worried about my celluilte and fat thighs - so hope I get an old fat midwife .

Don't forget having an older child means you will qualify for nursery vouchers for that whole year (if you wish to send your child to nursery), rather than just part of it. I am off to buy things like maternity pads etc today - just in case I go into labour early and because of going back to work next week I know I won't be able to face shopping (a rareity!) as I will be tired. Not sure how I'll cope without my afternoon nap.

CB - I was all up for the waterbirth and then this was bought up at the hospital tour. Its a brand new hospital with really nice birthing pools - obviously the NHS can't spring for suitable cleaning supplies though

I have a friend who recently delivered at the same hospital - she gave birth so quickly that she never managed to make into the pool and has offered me her mop and sieve (unused) - lovely...

Cazzybabs - how would I apply for nursery vouchers? Is it through the tax scheme? Is there a earnings limit? Ds is due to start at nursery and then pre-school in January.... any help would be gratefully accepted!

Who else has swollen legs and ankles? My feet ache chronically even if I try and rest them.... 6 days to go.. 6 days to go!! (whimper.. I'm so nervous...)

jacksmumto1 - yes, swollen feet here too, and hands - I have not worn my rings for several weeks now, and it feels like I have arthritus (sp) all crampy and yukky. My feet too, have come out in spiderviens, and are all red and blotchy. Not attractive. So you have my heartfelt sympathy! Cazzybabs - hope you manage without your afternoon nap....although how you will I have no idea, I have had two naps already to day and its only just gone 3pm. Dogs are mighty fed up at this napping lark, I think they think as mommy is home I should be walking them, like constantly! I have just got up especially to give them a long (and hopefully labour inducing!) walk.

I have found ASDA really good for disposable pants and maternity pads, whilst its a 25 mile drive for me to get there, the store at RoehamptonA3 is really good!

What is everyone doing about nappies? Anyone using terry towling? I am using disposables and have bought some of ASDAs, some Sainsburys and some boots - but am reluctant to buy a brand - anyone else?

Sx

Well we have to apply for nursery vouchers via the LEA. Its not income dependent - in Cambridge you can use them for a state LEA place (which is five half mornings a week) or put them towards a private nursery. But we are not allegiable until dd is 3 and a half (I think). Look on your LEA website - but I guess if your ds is going to a state nursery you may not have to do anything. Ask at the nursery - sorry not to be more help but I know each LEA does things differently!

Saddy does your dp/dh not get cross with your napping - mine thinks its because I am really lazy and that if I got up and walked or swam I would feel mch better. I would like to swim or walk more but it makes me more tired and my back aches more!

WE are using terries - they are brilliant I feel green and I can save money - and have potty trainned dd so won't have 2 in nappies at the same time, even if gf (and every other baby guru) says dont do it just before the birth of a new baby. I shall have to try ASDA for materity pads - boots have them at 12 for 1.36. But last ime I got through so many - I think I needed about 4 at a time for a week after the birth to aviod leaking (and I still managed it - on the sofa, on skirts). Infact I remember once I couldn't get up to see my vistors out because I knew there would be an ambarrsing mark! OH JOY!

Saddy - we are using shaped terries once we get to South Africa (we are emigrating when the baby is 6/8 weeks old). Until then we are using Pampers Newborn - with first DS we tried the own brand nappies and have to say that they just didn't do the trick i.e. leaked and didn't fit very well. My advice would be to try one type at a time until you find one that suits you and baby and then stick to what works - ASDA ones get a good rating in the M&B Mag. We chose terries because of cost - it was a £300 outlay but the nappies we have bought will last until our baby is toddling and compared with the cost of disposables it's a lot less - would never have attempted it first time round though.

Re. subsidised nursery places - our nursery has handled all of the paperwork for us, I have just had to fill in a form and provide a copy of DSs birth cert. It is quite a saving too - £65 of a £312 monthly bill.

Cazzybabys - why on earth does your DP get annoyed with you for napping? He should understand that this building a baby business is incredibly tiring on the body - especially in the first and last few weeks of pregnancy.

Well - he is a bloke - he is prefect in many ways but he does have his faults! me sleeping in the afternnon is just one of those things that annoys him - be genuinely doesn't understand how tiring it is and also because how ever tired he is he will never nap. it is a bit unfortnauate because when he is ready to go to bed the baby wakes up and so I can't sleep for all the wriggling!

I remember the good old days when it moved in the afternoon and morning more and now i has decided to become a nightime owl - which worries me because I am sure it must be linked to sleep/wake patterns when it is born. I tell it firmly it is tume for it to go to sleep. It is also irrating because it is lying more on my Right hand side which is the side I perfer to go to sleep on so it doesn't like me lying on my right side - I think this one will cause me trouble - much more than dd did!

We are using cloth as well - also used them (and still using them) for ds - have a mix of tots, popolini/motherease onesize and flat terrys. I much prefer them to disp's particularly as I have only had 2 leaks in 2 1/2 years and that was dh's fault cause he didn't check the wrap!! Ds has terrible 'toddler diahorrea' and disp's just can't do the job.

DH also isn't good with the 'rest' thing... he's also getting very narky at the moment as ds is 'playing up' and I am unable to physically move him to the "time-out" step if I need to use it. Consequently ds is playing up more.... Can't wait till I can move more freely!!

Must ask the nursery about subsidised places - I know we qualify once ds starts pre-school.. the nursery/preschool deal with that for us.

Oh well Cazzy - they all have their faults - you'll just have to have a kip without him knowing .

My DH doesn't understand about waking at night - he thinks I am weird because I can't sleep. I wonder if he would be able to with a 8lb baby dancing on his bladder and BH contractions which seem to go on and on.

I think we are all getting to the stage where it will be good to be "not pregnant" anymore

still here, but in a filthy mood. I'm absolutely sick to death of people TELLING me how I MUST be so excited, this MUST be the best thing that's ever happened to me. Grr, far from it. I don't understand why I'm treated like a bloody leper because impending parenthood isn't my number one priority. It seems like I'm not supposed to be realistic about the sore boobs, sleepless nights etc etc.
Rant over, shall quit whilst I'm ahead

Ooh er, Highlander - you don't think you're about to drop, do you? Sounds like a hormonal surge to me.....
I'm feeling very angry at people - at my friends and family for not helping me at all this pregnnacy - never offering to play with dd1 so I can nap etc. Feel really neglected.
Can't believe how many of you use resuable nappies - I was about to order them last pregnancy when dd was born before I got the chance - all I could think was THANK GOD I never got round to buying resuables (as dh would have made me use them as pricey outlay at first). Saddy, I use Pampers for dd and will use them for the new baby too. I also really like Tesco's own brand - when I remember to get them.