Hyperemesis Support

[LucindaE]

I hope everyone suffering from the Horrors of Hyperemesis will find this thread useful as a source of support and information.
There's no TMI on here - can't be by definition - and nobody should feel ashamed of moaning as much as they feel the need to.

MOH's wonderful website is full of useful information on this illness:
sites.google.com/site/pregnancysicknesssos
Another invaluable website is:
www.pregnancysicknesssupport.org.uk

If you need help in obtaining medication, this phone number is
brilliant:
024 7638 2020

Lastly, the NICE guidelines on treatment are useful:
cks.nice.org.uk/nauseavomiting-in-pregnancy#!scenario

I would like to thank everyone who has given such invaluable support and advice on this and on previous threads.

Remember when you are at your worst, 'This Too Shall Pass'. It really will.
So many women on this thread have thought they couldn't get through this, but they did.

Holly that's amazing! 3 weeks to go! That's the same day as my 12 week scan

Haha what a coincidence. My DH was like, couldnt you have got the Friday because then he would be born 7.7.17!!

Are you feeling a bit better? Hope its massively eased off by your scan. There's too many of us suffering the whole way through...

Thanks - My mornings are definitely better this week so I'm hoping it's the start of improvement especially with our holiday at the end of the week. I am now taking my ondansetron from about 12pm and then a double dose about 5pm when it's really bad. I can't believe you will have a baby in 22 days!

Aaaahhhhh that's really exciting Holly! How far along will you be then? Must be such a relief to have a solid date to count down to.

Please make sure you vomit on your manager's shoes before you leave.

Thanks Lemon. I will be 38 weeks bang on by the hospital dates (38+1 for mine!). 3 weeks seems doable. I feel like the end is possibly in sight, which I havent been able to see until now.

Haha good plan. I have enjoyed telling my horrible management and HR that I am beong induced early due to how ill I've been. They have never believed me, so looked quite uncomfortable!

When will you find out re redundancy? I'd think they need to let you of everyone know sooner rather than later...

How is the HP nursery coming along?!

Going to need a new thread soon !!!

Thanks for everyone saying nice things about the scan, nubs and it has the same nose as their big brother. Scan pic is blurry but the actual scan was crystal clear I can share it if anyone fancies taking a guess on the nub theory I'm new to it. So probably completely wrong.

So glad you have a date Holly can't wait the 6th is soooo close but obviously not close enough if you are still feeling pants.

Lemon pilchards yuck!!! Lucky doggy though.

Sorry to everyone facing redundancy and job hunting it's rotten but it could work out that you don't feel rushed back to work on maternity time. You can take extra time at the end if you don't want to rush back and survive financially.

The glycerine sups didn't work for me, in the end I just had to not take the ondansetron but it was two days max before I got some relief so I felt it was worth it and it was good to know that it was just the pills causing the problem.

Ha! I'm glad they looked uncomfortable Holly, they deserve it. I'm supposed to have a meeting sometime from tomorrow onwards. All individual consultations should be decided with 4-6 weeks, so I don't think I'll get anything concrete for a little while. I don't care too much, I'm just counting down to my maternity leave and I'll cross the job bridge when I come to it next year! Detailed plans for HP nursery all laid out but haven't physically started on it yet. Should have someone coming to paint the mural next month.

Yeah Mustang, let's see your scan pic! I'm no nub expert but I'll give it a crack!

Ok apologies for crappy blurred scan supposedly best she could do as they were at an awkward angle.

I just wanted to offer some support. I was unfortunate enough to suffer from hg. My baby was very much wanted, once I got ill, my whole life stopped. I couldn't work/wash/eat/talk. I begged god for a miscarriage, I begged my partner for an abortion. I contemplated suicide. I was mentally unstable. It's OK to feel this way. You are not in the right frame of mind and it's hard. I was lucky and stopped being sick at 17 weeks. It did end for me, it has taken another 12 weeks for me to stop hating my baby.
Do whatever you have to do to get through it.
Do not hate yourself for having dark thoughts.
You can and will get through it. I'm sorry for all you ladies who are experiencing this awful illness. Xxx

Kitty your post just made me cry. I'm sorry you went through that. Iv had several really dark days and sometimes can't help but say horrible things about bump to my partner who just recoils in disgust which just fills me with even more guilt. I don't loathe my baby but I do hate my body for the way it deals with pregnancy and iv made it very clear to my dr & family that I intend to be sterilised regardless of the outcome of this pregnancy twice is enough or shall I say too much

Sorry you had such a rough time Kitty. I'm glad yours cleared up by 17 weeks and things are going well now. I had some dark days around week 7 when I simply didn't know how I could get through and 9 months felt like an eternity. I was stuck between the idea of panicking about a mc versus knowing that a mc would end all the suffering. I want this baby so much, I would have been devestated if I had mc but there were some dark thoughts crossed my mind in those weeks I really don't know if I'd have the strength to do this again.

Hmmm tricky Mustang, you're right, the pic isn't very clear. I don't think I see a nub? The only thing that might be a nub, I think is actually more likely a leg or cord or something? Based on the not-a-nub, I'd guess boy, but the skull is very round and girly. I'm going to guess girl!

@Kittysparks1 you're very brace to open up and be honest about how HG has made you feel. I have had dark thoughts too. I had a mc last year and I really want this baby but I really hate being pregnant at the moment. It makes it worse when so many women are telling me how wonderful it was for them.

I don't feel excited or anything - just anxious and sick. I feel really low today as I've come home from work.

Thank you for your kind unjudging replies. Mustang, please don't feel guilt for what you say to your partner, you say these things out of desperation. You wouldn't be thinking dark things if you were well. I was very lucky my partner didn't judge me, he understood as best he could. It's other people who have not experienced this that just don't understand. I look back now and I'm so fortunate I didn't tempt fate, I would not of coped going through all that to have nothing at the end of it.
Despite me wanting the baby or myself to die at the time, I feel now it has made me closer to my bump. I went through hell for this baby and because of that I want it so much. It will be my reward for the suffering! I just wanted to reach out to other who may be feeling like I did, I want to offer hope. I want to keep reminding you, it will end. Do/say/think whatever you need to, don't feel guilt and don't hate yourself. You are human and can't control how you feel.

I wanted to add another story as reading other people's experience helped me when I was ill.

I had hg and although I was never hospitalised I lost a lot of weight and was signed off work for 3 months with it from 8 weeks pregnant. I was basically bed bound for that time and the nausea never seemed to stop. I couldn't hug my husband or keep water down most of the time. I felt weak, nauseous, isolated and miserable through most of the pregnancy. After trying about 5 different tablets from the gp one doctor eventually spoke to a consultant at the hospital and I was put on ondansetron which worked much better. I was on those tablets until the day I had my dd and they allowed me to get my strength back and return to work for the last couple of months of pregnancy. I had to be quite pushy and keep going back to say that the other tablets weren't working before they prescribed them though and it was the gp who was the drugs lead who prescribed them.

My appetite came back as soon as I had her and the hospital food tasted amazing and I've enjoyed my food and coffee again ever since.

I think hg stopped me bonding with dd during the pregnancy and I was so surprised to be handed a gorgeous baby when she was born I must have disconnected from what it was all leading to. She is 7 weeks now and so amazing.

Hg is the worst thing I've ever been through and I struggle to explain to others how hard it was to endure- it changed who I am. It turned my dh into my carer. It made me understand what it is to live without any quality of life. If you are suffering with this now know that it does end and the 9 months will pass and feeling so sick will become an awful memory.

I'm so grateful to have my daughter and she makes me laugh and smile every day but at the time I couldn't picture my life ever being good again. Society is still catching up with how debilitating and dangerous an illness this is.

I also spent the whole pregnancy worrying if the hg and the tablets were hurting the baby but she was 8 pounds 6 when she was born and she is breastfeeding and putting on weight really well.

Hi guys, totally crossposting here but I phoned up about the headache I had... they didn't seem too worried which is good and some decent sleep has helped. And a load of fresh air at the beach today.
Managed to skim through the last few posts and the whole constipation thread made me laugh. I may need to keep on top of having lactulose as I'm currently not able to poop... But then I'm also used to only going once a week or once every week and a half anyway so I've not really noticed I'm constipated. (No its not unhealthy I've been like this since I was born, no lie. My parents joked about it while growing up)
kitty and jenny I'm glad for your insights. I'm currently 17+ weeks atm and it's driving me mad. And I'm glad that you could still bond with your child. I don't think my mum ever did after having me. She suffered for 7 months with hg and no tablets to help so I'm glad there can be a positive.

Thanks for your posts Kitty and Jenny. Ihave felt suicidal twice during this pregnancy. I am 'lucky' I guess that I suffer from a mental health condition so have felt comfortable telling my DH how awful and low I have felt. My perinatal team have been amazing and definitely helped me. Like you, HG is the worst experience of my life. I feel incredibly lucky that it hasnt affected my bond with my bump, but it has sadly made me never want to be pregnant again. I simply can't go through this again. I am in awe of those who do.

This support group has been my lifeline. No one understands HG unless they have suffered from it. A massive thank you to e everyone who helped me during my darkest moments.

Lemon that's bumps big bro I think they look quite alike well as alike as little alien blobs can lol.

Kitty jenny I should add I have a beautiful 2yr old boy and iv been nothing but ecstatic since he was born he was and is just a joy. I was unfortunate to suffer right up until labour and I'm assuming this time will be the same but I know all the dark thoughts and days will just vanish in a haze of new baby. So yeah anyone on their first thinking on their shittest days is it worth it???? HELL YEAH even the toddler tantrums are fine, I think HG made me a better mum because if you can cope with that Christ you can cope with anything.

Kittysparks Thank you for posting. Don't for a second blame yourself for dark thoughts when suffering from this scourge. Look forward to your baby and say 'stop' when you are haunted by guilt over them.
JennyGreenTeeth Thank you for your supportive message.
Mustang Good news about your scan.
Pippasnippa Sorry about bad day. Do keep an eye on those ketones. As Thingymaboob says, its all very confusing and they can be evidence later on of long term 'starvation' and it is best to get medical advice about rising levels. Later on, dry eyes, skin, dark urine, headache and blurry vision can be more useful signs that you are dehydrated. Most hospitals admit at 3+ and some as Thingymaboob says at your level.
Thingymaboob I do hope it is peaking for you now at 10 weeks, and this is the worst.
Hollyhop I've added your new date and I am glad you have found this thread useful.
Apologies to anyone rudely overlooked.
Due Dates
LHReturns 1 June
Boobs 6 June
South London 6 June
Pastiemaid 12 June
squeezypeasy 13 June
Babyand 23 June
Captain Warbeck 24 June
HollyHop17 Between 6 July
whoate 1 August
HaichM 1 August
SociallyAcceptableCookie 5 August
JimmyJay Early August
Daffodil 11 August
SickRose 18 August
Pip1982 20 August.
Melleebacca 22 August
Mardybum2017 25 August
MagnumAddict 1 September
littlepooch 2 September
MamaBear 7 September
MrsK8541 15 September
MuvaWifey77 17 September
Lemondrop09 30 September
RubyReins 3 October
Passthesickbucket 4 October
FlapAttack 10 October
Heartburn247 23 October
FluteyTootey 26 October
mrsgembles 27 October
putput 17 November
NonStopDisco 17 November
DeadDoorPost 19 November
pippasnippa 19 November
Oklahoma 22 November
NonStopDisco 23 November
OnNature'sCourse 23 November
Satsooma 4 December
Mustang 18 December
BeautifulLiar 29 December
millsbynight 20 December
Can'tdothisagain late December
mrsb87 13 January
Flossyfloss 13 January
Presh1234 16 January

In poo hell. Constipation makes stomach cramp awfully. Any time I get any out, end up with agonizing piles. Still taking one ondansetron on days I have a lot on so I don't end up in a nauseous ball. Stopped iron pills on Monday.
Bright side. 30w and have finally gained back all the weight I lost.

Holly - great news about the induction date. 7/7 would be a great date!

Waves to everyone suffering.

Just wanted to reassure people that it is totally understandable and not unusual to want to end a much wanted pregnancy, or even have thoughts of ending your life when suffering from HG. It is all-consuming and there is no escape. It can be difficult to talk about these feelings with people close to you, or others who might not understand. It is absolutely okay to call the Samaritans if you are struggling and need somewhere safe to let out your thoughts and emotions. You don't have to be suicidal and although the person may not have experienced it themselves (they might have though! ), they will not judge and you don't have to face them again after!
The number is: 116123 and is free to call from all phones.

I have been awake since 5am with nausea / vomiting and restless legs. I know I must eat but I cannot face a thing. Not coping at all at the moment.

NonStopDisco 23 November
OnNature'sCourse 23 November

All those with SNAP due dates should have bets on who goes first. There seems to be a few.

Sorry, I'm really terrible at keeping up with this thread now. It's so busy, and we've started clearing out our home to make room. Nursery prep started too and sickness returned this morning so matter how much I fought it. Plus I had the dentist, that's always pleasant with a heightened gag reflex!

Hope all are well, hugs xx

Oh no Mellee 😫 Sounds awful, you have my sympathies. Hopefully stopping the iron tablets will help?

Sorry you're having such a bad day Thingy I hope it eases off a bit later

Thanks for all the words of reassurance for everyone Ballot

Nature, what's the decoration plan for the nursery?

Thingymaboob Poor you. The only good thing can have been, that it was light by then, as it is always so much worse in the dark. Are no liquids staying put?
Melleebacca Very likely stopping those iron tablets will help, as Lemondrop says. They make quite a few people vomit, too - I know they did me.

Wise words BetweenMeAndTheBallotBox.
Waves to OnNautre'sCourse and everyone. I usually start a new thread when we get to only about fifteen posts left - a few to go yet...

Lemon... It's grey and white with twinkle stars, fairy lights and Disney xx