Staying posifrickentive- Thread 16 for ladies pg after mc

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Starting a new thread for us ladies...

@AnUtterIdiot I'm the same. Can't stop checking every loo visit. I'm trying to keep busy as there's nothing I can do about it. 11 days until my scan.

anutteridiot and drdonna we've all been there, it's so hard to be positive. I remember at my booking in appointment my MW suggested now (8 weeks) was a good time to start bonding with and talking to baby, I almost laughed in her face. At 21+ weeks just about getting there! You just have to get through a day at a time and maybe distract yourself with other things.

Utter it's not stupid and self indulgent; this thread is for everyone whether just worried or going through an nth mc and looking for just somewhere to speak.

I'm 16+2 and last night was 1000% convinced I'd see blood. Low period type pains and back pains.

The thing is it really is just stretching. But as a PP many threads ago said a mc robs the subsequent successful pregnancy of all its joy. It's 40 weeks of worry. I will not believe I'm out the woods until I am holding a live baby wriggling in my arms and that's not gonna happen until mid October earliest.

What keeps me going is the "today I am pregnant" mantra.

The other thing is "why shouldnt this pregnancy be fine?"

They have helped me so far. Thy may help you guys, I dunno.

I think folks underestimate the serious mental strain that a pregnancy after mc can cause, I truly believe that unless it's been experienced it can't be fully understood (maybe that's me being horrible).

But all I can say is just distract, distract, distract. Go for a swim. Have that cake. Go for a curry with mates. See an exhibition. Take your man to the cinema. Play Candy crush for 4 hours. Drive somewhere you've never driven befure. Decorate your bedroom. Take up cross stitch...just keep doing xxx

@AnUtterIdiot lots of us have been/ are going through the same thoughts and emotions as you. I have found this forum a life line as it's hard to talk to people in real life.

I too had a mmc, I was 13 weeks when it happened but the baby had stopped developing between 8/9 weeks. I'm 12 weeks now, although I had an early scan that shows a baby with a heartbeat I am still riddled with anxiety. I have my scan next Tuesday which I am hoping will solve my anxiety.

The mantra for this group is "today I am pregnant."

anutterindiot you are not being self indulgent, you are worrying about the same things every single one of us is...

I will be 22 weeks on Sunday and I still check for blood every time I go to the loo. As Beans said, until I am holding a live, healthy baby in my arms I won't stop worrying that something is going to go wrong....though once he's born, there's a whole new set of worry that comes with him!

Well said Beans... NOTAnIdiot listen to what the ladies have said. You are far from alone and we have ALL been exactly where you are. We're in it together sweetie.

Just a quick update from this basket case. Bean is measuring well with heartbeat as it should be for dates. So the bleeding is just bleeding and now I need to try to calm down for two weeks!!!
Thanks for all your kind thoughts and wishes. Today I am pregnant (I know this to be true cos I have seen it) woohooo.

meadow We're picking out worktops and sinks for the new kitchen tomorrow and the builders are in over the weekend so that'll keep me occupied.

Going to see friends of DH's on Sunday. They have a little boy who was born a month after my previous due date which resulted in a mc. I found out they were due a month after I mc'd which has always been painful. But saw their DS for the first time a couple of weeks ago and he is so lovely (6 months old now) and I think now I am pregnant again it makes it easier.

Fantastic news Miami! I am so happy for you I'm nearly in highly hormonal tears... not so professional sitting in the middle of the office!

@Miami81 that's fantastic news!!! You most definitely ARE pregnant!! so pleased for you.
Also made me feel better about my cramps. Love that mantra @TheLegendOfBeans - why SHOULDNT this one be fine?? It's so true that going through a MC robs you of some (or a lot in my case) of the joy of falling pregnant again. Early days for me - 5 weeks today so needing a lot of patience and positivity sending my way!!
@Meadowlark3 my interview went ok I think... I hope! I find out this afternoon! Definitely not helping with my current stress levels 😬😩
Hope everyone is doing ok and staying posifrickintive!!! Xxx

Miami that's wonderful news, so so pleased for you!!

@Miami81 so happy for you hun

Good stuff Miami

Yes however hard they try DH don't quite get it. Mine just couldn't understand why I wasn't excited at the beginning of my second pregnancy, after a MMC at 10 weeks in first pregnancy (2nd pregnancy was absolutely fine btw)

Hooray Miami! That's lovely to hear; you must be all done in emotionally but so relieved. mamabear I hear that! I'm 6+1 today and still surprised every day that something hasn't gone sideways yet. I have to say that the anxiety was just as bad the first time for me, though! Sending you all that positive energy and composure we so need right now

Is it normal 🙁 Im thirsty ALL the time. Bloated too like im hungry or weird feeling.

So happy for you Miami!

I'm so lost with the thread 

@Miami81 so pleased everything is well!

16+1 and my boobs are still on fire. Growing out of my bras as well!
Also (TMI) have horrendous thrush and find myself scratching involuntarily especially during the night. I've been to see the nurse who has taken swabs and given me canesten but it is giving me no relief! natural yogurt helps I've heard

Hope everyone else is doing ok... going to try to catch up now

@AmyB1986 the best cure for thrush is garlic! Thrush is a yeast infection and garlic kills yeast. Try taking some garlic tablets (of course check these are safe in pregnancy)

And if you are ever taking antibiotics drink one of those probiotic yoghurt drinks that way your good bacteria don't killed and you won't get thrush.

Thanks @theotherendofthesockportal I'll try the yogurt drinks. Oh the joys of pregnancy! I've only ever had thrush once before and that was years ago due to taking antibiotics. At the min I just want to cheese grate my lady garden

@AmyB1986 I wanted to rip my fanjo off when I had it. At the time I had it repeatedly! Let the air get down there and where Bridget Jones cotton pants! I hope you feel better soon!

Is it normal to have period pain kinda pain in low belly after wee? When i need a wee afterwards it aches like period pain then goes🤔 wondering if thats normal HELP ANY1???

Miami- great news!
Sweetie - I have that, and have the same pain in the evenings mostly. I think it's uti so am off to the gp. I spent the beginning of the second trimester of my first pregnancy thinking this pain was normal and it turned out to be a uti so not taking chances this time! However it's a bit better since it started, as I've drunk a lot!
AnUtterIdiot - I feel just the same!

Sweety I am also extremely bloated, and have had constipation (which I absolutely NEVER have normally) several times this past week. The hormones apparently mess mightily with your digestion even in the first trimester! I guess that is my version of morning sickness...