Staying posifrickentive- Thread 16 for ladies pg after mc

[oliversmummy26]

Starting a new thread for us ladies...

Its not that much a good news yet. Will see the heart beat next wed & then 11-12 w scan will find out if all is well

Hello, quick update from me, another scan today 21+4, growth fine, fluid levels reduced but adequate. Had been convincing myself we would get bad news re fluid levels and be faced about decisions re ongoing management. So overall feeling on a relative high tonight, just wonder how long I can hold onto this feeling before starting to loose the plot again!

Thingy, olivers, and haz, thanks for the kind words. Sweety, congratulations on seeing a yolk, as I believe that is a good sign.

As for me, bad news I'm afraid. Although the doctor called me yesterday and said the hormone level was going up and that was "good news," I was told today that level is actually rising slowly. It is fast enough that they don't think it is outside of the womb but slow enough that it is likely to be another pregnancy that can't survive. I am absolutely gutted but also didn't honestly expect much else after my breast and nipple soreness went away yesterday. I am still foggy and tired but not as I was before, and I just don't feel pregnant. My period would be due on Fri but I am on the progesterone pessaries so I don't think it will come.

We will have a scan next week and I will hold out hope but really can't think it will be anything but an empty womb.

Hope you are doing better. Ginger good luck with your scan next week and that you find some joy and excitement.

xx

Had my scan today and measured a day ahead. Unfortunately my results for combined test came back as 1:26. I suspect lost my previous pregnancy because of CVS so I automatically refused CVS and have had the harmony test done. So now for the two week wait. Having to go back in tomorrow to speak to the consultant.

meadow sorry you are having a tough time, it's such a roller coaster isn't it? Try to take it easy until next week and distract yourself as much as you can xx

Sounds like a plan @theotherendofthesockportal

I'm having a bit of a meltdown today. Symptoms have been fading the last week and for the last two days my boobs have stopped being sore at all. Just really concerned that I'll turn up Tuesday and they'll tell me the LO hasn't made it. Feeling really anxious and stressed and know that's stupid but don't seem to be able to get out of this bloody spiral.

Annoying thing is they were going to scan this week, but as I was measuring three days behind dates (6+3 instead of 6+6) they decided to wait a week to be absolutely sure. Argh!

Meadow oh no thats horrible. May God give all of us strength as if i had a bad news im gonna loss it. Its my 5th pg & im lossing it slowly if this time it dont work out. Only my 5 year old son keeps me going otherwise god knws what i will do. My pg goes ok no probs no worrys & at 12 weeks alwas bad knws so im still very worried too .

Congrats on seeing the yolk @Sweetyboo keeping everything crossed for your next scan
@meadowlark3 @thingymaboob my period was due this week too. I also don't "feel" pregnant and I keep getting quite bad cramps, reeeally strong this morning. I have a job interview this afternoon and feeling so so sick, I'm half hopeful it's pregnancy sickness rather than just nerves!!!
It's such a horrid stage we're at isn't it, so much waiting and worrying. Sending lots of positivity out there really hoping for a happy ending for us all xxx

@Miami81 how are you doing hun any updates?

Sorry for the triple post - and also sorry if TMI but I'm also getting LOTS of CM... I'm panicking every time I feel it thinking oh shit am I bleeding?! Obviously good sign that it's not - but does anyone have any insight as to whether increased CM in early pregnancy is a positive sign? Thanks ladies xx

Hello I'm new to this thread! Currently 4+4, after a mmc (partial molar pregnancy) last year. Have peed on at least 25 quids worth of sticks over the last week - first response was positive at 3+5 and still is now though the line doesn't look as strong as I would have thought it should be. Trying not to worry and just wait and see. Annoyingly I feel like I have a UTI - I just phoned and got a doc appointment for Monday so am just going to have to try to drink lots til then. Do GPS have tests that can tell what your hcg is?

@mammabear4
I am just about hanging on in there. 6+2 today which is around when both previous pregnancies have stopped developing. So am slowly but surely losing my mind. I keep getting slight stabby pains in my cervix (like it is moving around???) which I normally get before AF. I have a bit of nausea and mildly twingy boobs (nowhere near as strong boob pain as my miscarried pregnancies) which is freaking me out and I am not really that tired. I am having to pee all the time though. Mild pale brown spotting again this morning. It's like literally two dots on a panty liner, but it is enough to make me sweat.
I have promised myself and DH to try and get to the end of this week and see how we feel, currently booked in for a scan at 9 wks, but we will see where we are and maybe try to pull that forward by a week.
Anyone had weird cervix pain that was ok? And fluctuating boob soreness?

@GingerHanna from what I understand the symptoms do fade at this stage during pregnancy. I wasn't expecting mine to vanish over night, I feel like a new woman and have felt this way since I woke up yesterday morning.

I officially no longer fit into my size 12 jeggings, which I wear religiously due to the nature of my job. I asked my husband if they looked tight and he got worried about the elastic squashing my tummy.

Due to me being superstitious, I am not wearing any maternity clothes until I have had the ok next Tuesday.

Oh @theotherendofthesockportal how close we are in it all! I've read quite a lot and already knew academically that the fading of symptoms was normal... but I blame it on the hormones sending me into a Puddle. I seem to be working myself into a state for no bloody reason. My poor DH! He's now not really wanting to tell many people/start buying stuff until we get the NIPT results back which could take 2-3 weeks more. Grrrr...

I had to give up my jeans a couple of weeks back as they were hurting me when done up - hips fine but waist was awful muffin top! Therefore I did succumb and buy a couple of pairs of maternity trousers but those are just casual wear. For work I'm down to one pair of trousers and one skirt that were from when I was a size 12 instead of a 10... so glad I still have them!

Like you I'm planning to get some 'proper' maternity wear after Tuesday... will also be giving up my heels for work which will cause a lot of questions (usually 4"+).

@GingerHanna I'm slightly paranoid that I've tempted fate by ordering a few maternity tops of eBay.

Paranoid that I feel like the happiest healthiest woman in the world! I didn't realise how grouchy and poorly I had been feeling recently.

I stood up too quickly today and felt a twinge in my lower tummy. So now I'm paranoid about that too.

Basically I'm paranoid!

Thanks mamabear

greenglass Sorry to hear about your results but hopefully the Harmony will bring better news. Remember that the combined test is just for screening and not a diagnosis. I'm sorry you have to wait so long for the results though.

grainmum, sweety, mammabear, and everyone else, thanks for your kind words. It is such a relief to know that others are going through this too and I'm not mad for worrying about all of these symptoms and numbers. sock I didn't know such paranoia could exist until all of this happened to me! I even find myself doing a kegel when I sneeze, as if that will help keep the baby in!
mammabear how was your interview? I read that increased CM is normal (due to more estrogen in pregnancy?)
ginger any plans for staying relaxed until your scan? I found some pregnancy meditation videos on youtube that at least distract me for a wee bit.
sweety When is your next scan? How are you getting on?
stealth what UTI symptoms are you having? Is it just weeing more? That is also a pregnancy symptom, isn't it? Your GP should be able to order a HCG blood test for you.
miami I'm having the same as you: less boob pain than with miscarriage and now fluctuating. I always have boob pain after ovulation so it is normal for me but it went away a few days ago and now seems to be very mild. When I miscarried it was so bad I couldn't sleep on my tummy (and I have very small boobs) and was like that last week but went away. I am also having to wee lots and walking around in a fog. I did have sharp pain like you describe a couple of times but not during this or the miscarried pregnancy...I thought it might be gas or an ovarian cyst? It is so hard to approach the date of the last miscarriage...sending lots of positive thoughts to you.
sock I am superstitious too! I even look away when I see maternity clothes in shops!

I apologise if I've left anyone out. I am in such a fog these days. I can't express how much the support of you ladies means right now. I of course wish none of us had to go through this anxiety and fear but it is wonderful to have you lot.

Lots more positivity for everyone
x

Thanks meadow - positivity back to you.

My consultant today said what you said and seemed pretty confident that all would be ok on account of my scan. He said he couldn't be 100% but he thinks the baby is fine. Definitely feeling a lot more reassured. He also said 5-7 working days for the results so hopefully I'll find out next week.

I spoke too soon my chronic exhaustion has returned and the hangover feeling is back!

Morning all
I am desperately trying not to wallow in a pit of despair but my spotting became heavier last night and now just feels like I am about to have a period. Boobs no longer sore and vague nausea is gone. Looks like I am staring a third mc in the face. So gutted. Will phone epu for an appointment in a while. Hoping I can get seen today and I don't have to wait til Monday.

Oh Miami, I hope it's not what you think.

Light, I hope the harmony comes back clear. 1 in 26 sounds a lot but if my maths is right it's only 3%. Little comfort I'm sure, but a 97% chance of everything being ok is something.

Glad you're hanging on in there Grain.

Sorry to everyone I forgot and those having a tough time. The early weeks are the hardest.

After a bad start to the week I am feeling a lot brighter and trying to look forward to my 20wk scan next Wednesday. Every time I feel more positive I think I've turned a corner and it's going to get better, but then there's a down day where it all seems so sure to go wrong. Ho hum, another 20/21 weeks of rollercoaster emotions...

Scan appointment has arrived. It will be exactly a month after my early scan so I will spot on 12 weeks. Typically it is on a work day when I'm teaching so a white lie may need to be used.

@meadowlark3 hey my scan is on the 10th i hope all goes well

miami everything crossed for you, hope you don't have to wait too long for definitive answers. Limbo is terrible. Hugs x

say for some reason I feel much more positive since Wednesday's scan, hope you get some similar reassurance. I might be enjoying being pregnant so making the most of this couple of days.