Staying posifrickentive- Thread 16 for ladies pg after mc

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Starting a new thread for us ladies...

Good luck @LisaSimpsonsbff

Bad news for me, unfortunately. They could only see a tiny, nothing like six weeks blob (I'm 6+3 today). Tried to convince me that I might just be earlier than I think, but I got a positive at 11 days after conception so I know that can't be the case. They did a blood test; waiting on that to see whether they think I'll miscarry naturally soon. Sobbed and sobbed at the hospital but feeling calm (though sad) now. As this is miscarriage no. 3 we'll be sent for tests now, so I think it'll be a few months at least before we can think about trying again. So I'll say goodbye - I hope to be on one of these threads again one day, but I hope you'll all be happy mothers by then! Wishing you all really well - thanks so much for the support over the past few days.

Oh no lisa. Been refreshing the thread & hoping for good news.
I'm so so so sorry. Sending you virtual hugs x

Oh @LisaSimponsbff that's so awful. I'm so so sorry

Take care of yourself and I hope to see you back here soon. x

Oh Lisa, I'm so, so sorry. Absolutely gutted for you. I hope the investigations reveal an easy to fix problem and you're back here very soon. Sending you lots of love.

So sorry @LisaSimpsonsbff take good care of yourself xx

Gutted for you @LisaSimpsonsBFF

Oh no I'm so, so sorry lisa, absolutely gutted for you. Stay strong and you will one day be back on here I'm sure

Oh no @lisa am so very sorry - sending you a huge huge hug - have been exactly where you are and it's such a crap
Place to be - make sure you get lots
Of tlc and hope to see you back on here with good news in the future. Also hoping tests show something that can be easily sorted - miscarriage sucks xxxxxxx

LisaSimpson I'm so sorry Shitty as it is, I hope the referral to RMC gets you some answers, and that you'll soon be a happy mother on these threads too. X

I'm so sorry Lisa
Take care of yourself and I hope it's not long until you're back x

@LisaSimpsonsbff
I am so sorry that this has happened to you. Hoping for some answers for you from the rmc. Be kind to yourself over the next while.

Hi everyone. Please can I ask: when did the pregnancy start feeling real? When did you allow yourself to feel happy and hopeful?

I'm really struggling. Only 12+4 so still very early days but I can't even imagine what pure joy about possibly having a baby looks like.

TIA

@JCleRoux Now that I've seen a heartbeat I'm determined to enjoy it. The odds are in my favour and being miserable all the time won't make it hurt less if anything goes wrong. That doesn't mean I'm not nervous, and it doesn't mean I'm shouting it from the rooftops, but DH and I are starting to say 'when' instead of 'if', and that's.l been lovely.

Oh Lisa I'm so sorry. I so hoped for a positive outcome for you. Big hugs and lots of love. I have everything crossed you get some answers from the RMC.

JC I'm also trying to enjoy this. I feel totally rotten so I'm taking it as a good sign and trying to not be a totally miserable mess all the time. I'm also doing it because it's our wedding in 5 weeks so I do have something to celebrate and for now, as the saying goes, I am pregnant and shitting myself trying to enjoy it.

Not been on here in ages so trying to catch up.

So sorry Lisa.

JC - the 12 week scan helped it feel real for us as we started telling family and friends then but I think really it was the 20 week scan as that was reassuring that nothing was wrong (I was super nervous and anxious beforehand) and also we found out the gender so he became a he rather than an 'it' and it definitely felt more real then.

Now 37+5.....both scary and exciting!

I'm so sorry Lisa. I hope you get some answers soon 💗
JC I'm 17+4 weeks today and I still pinch myself and wake up every day amazed I am still pregnant. Wear a pad every day and feel a stab of fear every time I go to the loo still. I don't think I will relax until baby is in my arms. I keep saying "after this milestone I'll relax" and to a degree I do, after I got past the point of previous MCs I felt so good...for a day...then I had a private scan at just under 11 weeks...I was ecstatic...but between that and our official '12 week' scan at 14 weeks I felt certain something had gone wrong. It hadn't and was amazing. After that, I told myself midwife would not find heartbeat at my 16 wk appointment. She found it immediately. I work myself up so much. Have my 20 week scan in 2 and a half weeks. Maybe after that I will feel reassured but at the moment I am panicking whenever baby is a bit quiet and not tickling me as much as usual! With each milestone I do feel like it is more real, but each stage brings a fresh set of worries. Motherhood all over I guess ha! X

Thank you for the kind messages and words, everyone. Feeling ok today. Not good, but ok. Again, wishing you all really well.

@JC same feeling here. 13+2 today and despite suffering with hg and the rest of the symptoms I'm still struggling to get my head around it. I do already have 2 healthy children but after 2 mmc's after them I just can't get my head around a happy ending! We still haven't told family or announced. I'm hoping by 20 week scan it will be feeling more real lol x

Hi ladies. I know how you feel JC I can't seem to let myself enjoy it yet even though we've seen the heartbeats at 7 weeks and as far as we know everything is fine. Think the excitement lasted about 3 days then the doubts and anxiety started to sink back in.

DH has rang the EPU this morning as I have had more bleeding overnight and it's making me absolutely sick with worry now. He was quite "firm" shall we say and managed to speak to the nurse who I spoke to and basically told her he felt she'd been quite unprofessional in the way she had spoken to me, and left me feeling like I'd wasted her time and reluctant to ring again despite the continued bleeding. She was very apologetic and the end result is we're booked in for 1.15 today - so FX for us that our two little beans are all OK, feeling so nervous xxx

I'm sat in the EGU waiting for my third reassurance scan (9+1) after 6 previous miscarriages (have on every 7-10 days as requested by the doctor at recurrent miscarriage clinic and fertility specialist) and I've had a bit of bleeding overnight and cramp last few days.. just want to see a heartbeat

Issy sounds like you're in a similar position to me. After MC any kind of cramps/bleeding are terrifying, I completely sympathise. FX for you everything goes well today x

Just got back - measuring just 8 weeks but strong heartbeat so that's reassuring at least. Got next scan next Friday and hopefully my first midwife appointment soon as well