Staying posifrickentive- Thread 16 for ladies pg after mc

[oliversmummy26]

Starting a new thread for us ladies...

Today I'm pregnant...

I've been saying it in my head all day. Also pant-checking like a loon, whilst waiting for my midwife to call me back; it's been 2 days now. I really really feel like I need an early scan, but I think a lot all of that is anxiety.

Lovely to read about everyone's scans though, keeps me hopeful.

WLMcl whether it's reassuring or not to you, but I've had no similar symptoms to the first time around, other than sore boobs. First time around I had the metallic taste, sore joints, stuffy nose etc. I only tested as a way of eliminating why I had 7 days of positive OPKs!
I must admit I'm finding it worrying but every pregnancy is different, or so my mum keeps telling me!

Wlm
Here to hold your hand. I'm in the same boat. Bleeding again since Sunday night, just so tiring and very difficult to stay positive. But it is still more likely to go right for us both then not.
Try and stay positive.

Symptoms are also almost gone here too. 10 wks + 2 so feels too early. Mine do come and go though.

Yellow thank you, this pg has also been totally different for me from the last and I was so pleased to have normal symptoms (which I didn't really have last time). Miami thank you, I know you're having it so much rougher than you should! I'm 9+6, I do still have the utter exhaustion and bigger boobs (they didn't grow much but they're tiny to begin with), and I know the stats are with us--after 1 mc you actually have a much lower chance of having another one in next pg. I'm trying to hold onto all that logic, but every once in a while I just break down from the strain of it. Thank you guys for hand holding! X

Thank you @JCleRoux

@WLMcI, @Miami81 I'm so sorry you're both going through it right now. I was just on the phone to my best friend who - after 3 miscarriages and 1 stillbirth - has two gorgeous wee boys, and she was saying that she bled in all six of her pregnancies - in fact her DS1 had the heaviest bleeding and he was as right as rain - and her symptoms were different every time and came and went willy nilly. Not much comfort as what we already really want is a way to know FOR SURE - but some comfort nonetheless. to you.

Oh WLM and Miami I'm really sorry if I sounded insensitive with my last post. This board has kept me sane many a time and of course it is intended for support when you are having worries. Don't ever feel like you can't vent here.
I think I convinced myself I saw blood on the toilet paper when it was the date when I miscarried last time, but it turns out I had anxiety related diaorreah (don't know how to spell) and a bit of brown was on the paper from that. It still took so much crying and panicking to realise it wasn't that. You are just in such an extreme state of anxiety as you are just expecting it to go wrong. But you are both right, the odds are in your favour that this pregnancy will go ok. Have you got any early scans or appointments coming up to focus on? Xx

@Miami81 and @WLMcL I am so sorry it's been a stressful few days for you both. I know it is very hard but if you can try and keep positive and hopefully this is all part of these pregnancies. Thinking about you both and hope you both get some reassuring news soon

Hi all hope you're all ok...

Sorry to anyone having a tough time, really hope things improve.

Congrats to anyone new here and those with positive scans.

19+6 today for me and have my 20 week scan tomorrow. Very anxious but I can feel baby girl kicking around on my bladder! It feels like her feet are going to pop out of my foo!

Hi ladies I've been a bit AWOL as the sickness has hit me so badly this past week. I'm not functioning very well, constantly sick and drained, but at least I'm reassured all is ok. I have DH bringing me dry toast in bed every morning which helps me to lift my head off the pillow! Anyway self pitying moan over.

Donna and sweety fabulous scan news congrats to you both!

Miami and WLM to you both it's such a stressful time. I'm still having random spots of bleeding here and there too and that niggling negative thought can never fully be pushed aside until you see the little wriggly bean/heartbeat!

Thinking of you today Amy bet you can't wait to see your little girl again!

I had my booking in appointment yesterday, dating scan is 28th June. I've come away slightly stressed out as I'm classed as high risk (standard for multiple pregnancy), told I need more appointments and monitoring and that I'll have a battle on my hands to have a midwife led waterbirth as the docs will want me heavily monitored in hospital with doctors present. I was told the midwives will be fully supportive which is great and at the end of the day it's up to me but to be prepared to stand my ground!

Thank you to everyone! Feeling better today after the brown CM or whatever it was has stopped. I've always had anxiety issues, and I think that + hormones is never a good mix, especially when you add in our "special kind of stress". I do have my 12-week scan appointment to look forward to; although June 16 seems like forever away, at least the calendar says "June" today, finally! My friend in Australia, who it turns out is due the same week as me, had her scan yesterday at about 9 1/2 weeks and she's doing well (she had previous MC too), so that is also heartening. X

Thanks @mammabear4 yes im same sickness hit me too & milk is big no no at the mo. Scan was great & now dating scan in 2weeks still worried everytime belly aches or anything i get so worried. I hope all goes well.

WLM and Miami sorry to hear you are both have a tough time of it. I know it's easier sad than done but don't hold too much in how your symptoms are. I've had very mild symptoms this time, no sickness, only had sore boobs for a while, three different episodes of bleeding too and all is well so far here. I completely understand about the anxiety taking over, I think I can worry about NOT feeling worried sometimes if that makes sense, it's a weird treadmill of fretting this pregnancy after MC journey.

I had my offical 12wks NHS scan on Monday as as per the Harmony one I'm measuring ahead which is a blessing as have fast forwarded as bit, 14wks today, slightly worried I'm growing a giant baby who will take after 6'5" DH.

All symptoms, apart from peeing three times a night and tiredness, have gone but I'm deffinately getting a bump. I feel like I'm in some kind of limbo now until my next appointmeet with my MW in two weeks, specially after all of the stress over early scans and test results, it's weird. What am I supposed to be doing with myself now? (Apart for ordering maternity jeans then sending the back because they are crap???)

Only strange thing that has happened is I appear to have a pain in my right groin everytime I drive the car for more than 20 mins, feels like a swollen glad and goes the minute I get out of the car, any ideas ladies?

mamma sorry the sickness has hit you. I can understand what you mean about your booking appointment, lots to get your head around with a multiple pregnancy. Have you met your consultant yet?

Hi all. Just thought I'd pop on and let you all know my scan went well and all is fine and definitely a girl no doubt about it.

Hope you're all ok today

Congrats on the scan @AmyB1986 🙂

Congrats Amy!!

Monkey I laughed at growing a giant baby! I think far too much emphasis is put on due dates personally. It ranges so much and I will never understand this panic once you get to 40 weeks. I just had a friend who had a 8lb4oz baby at 38 weeks, and another who had a 7lb12oz baby at 42+1!! They just can't have it 100% accurate all the time. I think 4% of babies are born on their due date and most are born around 41 weeks - which is actually what most countries work out the due date as! Anyway little dates rant over 😬 my point was try not to worry too much about dates moving forwards/backwards ladies!!

Ahh sweety it's awful isn't it. Hopefully won't be too much longer now, it passed by 10 weeks with my DD but I know every pregnancy is different. I have serious mum guilt at the moment as just not able to be my usual self with my little girl and she is definitely noticing 😞

grainmum no I've not met my consultant yet I think that's the next midwife appointment. I was also told the doctor will probably want to be present for my 12 week scan - I just feel like everything's so "red alert"!!

Everyone will be pleased to hear that I have washed all my light coloured pants so I can now resume knicker checks with great gusto!

haz congrats to you too! I'm in two minds about how I go about this hen do- I can either come clean or I can try and hide it. The only problem with coming clean is that there will be people there who don't know about the miscarriage in July so will no doubt want to talk about babies and be all excited, but I'm just not there yet. Give me another 20 weeks and I might be!

WLM and Miami how are you both doing today? I hope you are both managing not to worry too much. It's bloody ridiculous this pregnancy carry on- especially after what we've all been through. Fingers, toes, eyes and everything crossable crossed for you both!

Monkey glad you had a good scan and yay for being fast forwarded!! I'm laughing at the idea of you growing a giant baby- I'm panicking that ours will take after OH as he was born 10lb 15oz and EARLY!!!

Congrats on a brilliant scan Amy!!

Glad the midwives are supportive mamma, rubbish about more monitoring but yay for extra scans meaning more pictures!

Today we are pregnant. Tomorrow is my repeat HCG and I KNOW it will have gone up the requisite amount. I KNOW this. Am I convincing anyone yet?! Positive mental attitude or something.....

Congratulations AmyB! Plenty of time to get the little girl names lined up :) Will you tell other folks or keep them in the dark? I don't know if I could, I'm sure I'd let it slip if I knew!

Sweetyboo I was the same, totally off cheese and anything heavy at all; just craved lots of fresh fruit and plain carbs. Mine started early but went away by 9 weeks. Hope it doesn't last too much longer for you.

Well after wishing for more symptoms all week I got my first bout of morning sickness this evening and it was VILE. Almost puked in the car and had to eat some emergency hula hoops! So much for my healthy (thus far) pregnancy diet! In hindsight it's nice to have had the reassurance of a new symptom but I'm dreading it coming back!

Hope you're all doing okay today, ladies. Pattern, glad the knicker-checking can resume! I had a work night out I had to go too and just pretended I'd had a migraine and alcohol would re-trigger it. Not sure if it worked but nobody was rude enough to question it!

Congratulations Amy!
Sorry to everyone feeling rubbish :(

So far the only symptoms I have are little cramps & tiredness.
My midwife called today; booking in a week Tuesday & she's referred me for an early scan.
Still knicker checking!

Thanks all. We already have a name picked out but no one will know that until she's born. Close family know we're having a girl but haven't even announced my pregnancy to anyone only family and two close friends so far. I have one more milestone to go before I feel I'm not jinxing things. 22 weeks maybe we will tell the wider of our friends group. It's pretty hard to hide now though. My bump is huge!

We've had a boy name picked out since before we were married (nearly 5 years now ) but really struggle for girl names. We both like v traditional names, but most of the ones we like are "taken" by family on one side or another, or just don't work with our (very boring) surname! Oh well, we've got another 8 months to work it out, and might not even need a girl name!

My (female) colleagues at work know I'm pregnant....because I asked for decaf on the coffee run on Tuesday morning. Obviously we aren't telling the boss yet!

I am driving myself insane with the knicker checks, but tentatively enjoying feeling vaguely pukey (although feeding the cats is not a pleasant experience and DH is working long, oddly timed shifts so I have to do at least 2 of the daily wet feeds at the moment) but a bit concerned about the AF-type pains. I'm sure I didn't have them last time but then again, last time all went to shit, so maybe I should've been "aargh, where are my AF-type pains" when, as it was my first pregnancy, I didn't know I should've been having them. And if that makes sense, you're better than me, I am WOEFULLY undercaffeinated, and trying to wean myself off my daily bucket of coffee is not going well!

Well, second blood test done. Now I just have to wait until TUESDAY for the results. Which will obviously be fine. Obviously.

I'm glad it's not just us weirdos who had names picked out before we were even thinking about being pregnant last time! I think we are pretty set on a boy's name but less so on girls- maybe that's a sign?! We won't find out what we are having though so 8 months time will tell!!

Hope everyone is having a lovely day- I'm off to clean all my windows as I'm sick of looking at bird poo every morning!!