Staying posifrickentive- Thread 16 for ladies pg after mc

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Starting a new thread for us ladies...

I'm getting that "vaguely pukey" feeling too and quite enjoying it although very aware that it will turn to "extremely pukey" if I leave it too long to eat - but that's tricky as I'm still on a low calorie diet to try and get my BMI down before it becomes impossible!

We've had a boy's name decided for ages too but no girl's name. I'm sure the baby I had the MMC with was a boy but this one feels more like a girl... we'll see!

Hello all! Hope you're all well. 12 weeks tomorrow for me, feels like such a big Milestone! It's my 12 week scan on Tuesday and I'm just so nervous despite 2 positive scans already, it will be 4 weeks since the last!
Sickness is still alive and kicking, so much so that I had an unexpected visit to the maternity ward on Wednesday and hooked up to a drip for the day, doctors orders! I'm now on new tablets that I can take alongside the ones I was already on, hoping they help and stop another hospital visit! X

We have a shortlist of 2 boys names and 2 girls names picked, we will wait until we meet the LO to decide a definite name :) Although every so often we do hear a new name and think ooh yes lovely...But never really deviate from our original names that we picked out about 9 years ago!

Pattern I have just purchased a 'knocked up' t-shirt from Boohoo, I plan to debut it on my hen do in July when I'll be about 22-23 weeks, so the girls that don't know yet can find out then! I was going to try and hide it under lots of baggy things but thought sod it. I want to relax on my hen do, and they will be your nearest and dearest any way who will be all excited for you! x

Tootsy hope you are feeling better now, how awful! Good luck for your scan next week :)

Just catching up with thread after 3 days away with work - I work with children with type 1 diabetes and just lead a camp taking 30 of them away on an adventure camp on the Norfolk coast! Utterly brilliant but have been feeling so so sick and tired and rubbish - which is good but was also hard when in charge of 30 kids and having to be on call over night!!! Both nights!!! Only got 6.5 hours sleep in total over whole 72 hours! Did have to tell two of my nursing colleagues - mainly so they did t pick me up and chuck me in the sea!!!! In bed for a huge nap now!
Have of course been knicker checking and had to do another test when I came home to check was still positive which thank goodness it was !!!!!
I can't help but tell myself though that getting pregnant this quickly after mmc is too good to be true and of course it will not end well :-( I don't think I'm letting myself attach for that reason - which is hard - don't know what it will take to convince me otherwise?
Just have to take things one day ah a time I guess and stick with that fab mantra 'today I am pregnant!'
And I have all the fab people on here to hand hold with!!!
@hazandduck absolutely love the idea of your t-shirt! What a brilliant idea for the hen night! If we are lucky enough to get that far might have to get one! I love a sloganed t shirt!!!

conker I'm tired for you! You'll be relieved to know I've had a 2 hour nap this afternoon though so you should feel better haha!!

Loving the knocked up t shirt haz! I'm going with telling them I'm on antibiotics that I can't drink on (which I've had before and will also explain the frequent loo trips!) and then pulling out my best sad face and "heh, if only that were true" if anyone dares to actually ask me. I'll feel a bit bad about playing on the MC, but at least it's for something good!! I've already made peace with he fact that I'm a bad person so I think I'm ok now haha!

Nothing to report here really. I have spent all day needing to pee and being very tired. But the tiredness could well be from getting up in the night to pee. Very unlike me! Been to the docs for second blood draw so now to wait until Tuesday for the doctor to ring me to tell me everything is absolutely fine! Am I being convincing yet?! No knicker based excitement/panic today so fairly straightforward from my end!

Yay Friday!!!!

Hi all, I'm sorry to crash in on your thread, but I'm feeling desperate and wanted to talk to people who might understand. In the last three months I've twice conceived and lost at exactly five weeks (I know I'm lucky that they were so early and that I've had no problems conceiving again). Today I'm 5+5 with a third pregnancy and beside myself. On Tuesday my sore breasts disappeared so I took another pregnancy test and it was lighter. This is what happened with the last two, just slightly earlier (no sore boobs, fading tests, bleeding a couple of days later). I tried to prepare for the inevitable. I had made an appointment with my GP to ask for an early reassurance scan (they said they could do that when I lost the second one) so I still went but explained what was happening and he said that he'd ring me on Tuesday and book me in for a scan if I hadn't bled, and refer me to RMC if I had. Well, now it's four days later, I haven't bled, no reappearance of the symptoms but I took another test this morning and it was much darker. My first reaction to this was 'what fresh hell is this' - I feel too scared to be given a bit of hope again, and also stupid for allowing myself to feel that. I know I just have to wait for either bleeding or a scan, but I'm alone this weekend (DH away) and just beside myself. Again, I'm sorry to burst in on this thread, especially with a story that seems to have so little chance of a happy ending.

Oh Lisa you poor thing. My DH was away all this week and it was actually the worst. I just kept waking in the middle of the night thinking I was about to mc. So you are 5+5 today. I would ask your gp to do hcg on Monday and Wednesday for you. I did that this time in my third pregnancy also after 2 mc's. levels were rising so I could relax for a few days.
Scan maybe towards the end of next week if you can wait that long as you could see a heartbeat by then, which is also very reassuring.
Darker tests a good sign.
Stay strong. We are here for you. Holding your hand.

Lisa me and you are in a very similar situation and I know how horribly frightening it is to have anything happen that might mean the end all over again. I second Miami's advice to ask for a blood test- I've had mine done and I'm waiting for the results Tuesday (doctor is away Monday). My doctor was more than happy to agree to this and said it will give us a better idea right now than a scan would. I'm dead set against a scan before 8 weeks really but only due to previous bad experiences. Everything crossed for you

Girls weirdest thing happen. Im only 10weeks & i felt baby move in baby IS IT POSSIBLE? It was so weird but im sure it was baby. Any1 else experience this? Or is it possible or im just tripping lol

@Lisa I am so sorry. . I think PP have given you some good advice with the blood tests. I know it's hard but try and stay positive. Not all pregnancies are the same. Hoping for a happy ending for you

Thank you so much for the kind messages. I will ask for a test on Monday, though since I saw my doctor last week and he didn't suggest it I'm not sure how keen he'll be on the idea. Do you think I should ring in or try to get an emergency appointment? Thank you so much again for the advice and comfort.

Here is baby sock portal, we still don't know wether it's pink or blue sock as the cord was in the way for them to give us an accurate opinion. We have been invited back for free tomorrow morning.

Lisa
The main thing is to try and keep you as calm as possible, so definitely go for the emergency appointment. I always think, fuck it this is my baby and the people who don't ask don't get.
My doc was fine with doing hcg like pattern said. Play the anxiety card if you have to. I didn't even really have to say anything to mine, I just burst out crying and he was like, what can I do to get you to leave!!

Are you able to contact the epu yourself? Is there one near you? They may see you directly to do the hcg.
Try and mind yourself over the next few days. It's all shitty at the start, but then you get to where @theotherendofthesockportal is and you get an awesome scan photo. Well done sock!
So. Today you are pregnant. The tests don't lie. It's in there and stuff is happening (lots of stuff). Believe in it and believe in yourself.

I also second the bursting into tears tactic. My doctor just sat there and agreed to pretty much everything I asked for just to stop me wailing I think! And yes, tests don't lie. I had a wobble last weekend when I had some down spotting and (although I know it's probably bad and people tell you not to- those people don't know my brain like I do!) I have been very reassured by my darkening tests. I'm not bothered about digis or another frer, so long as my ICs are getting darker then that's enough for me. It might not be a healthy habit, but I figure if it stops me panicking then it can't be bad for me!

Also yay for baby sock!! Fingers crossed for the morning!

Brown spotting. Not down. Curse you slow internet not being good enough to use preview!!

The thing about this morning's test is that it was darker than before, but I think maybe not dark enough for nearly six weeks. I have attached a picture, like a loon.

@LisaSimpsonsbff
You simply cannot tell anything from a dark / light test. Also, that is the darkest FRER I've ever seen!
These were mine. Top one was my BFP, then the next two were lighter during the week, then the last one is from when I was almost 6 weeks.

Mine were all lighter than yours!

Thank you so much, @thingymaboob - that has made me feel a bit better. If you google 'frer 25 dpo' (for instance!) you get pictures of crazily dark tests, with a barely visible control and I've been obsessing over them all day.

Welcome Lisa; I don't blame you for doing heaps of stick piddling after the upset you've been through but step away from the sticks and post your socks off on here instead.

We are a supportive bunch who've all had the terror of navigating a pregnancy after miscarriage(s). It's so so so so so so hard, nobody "gets" it and you feel like a nut.

I'm 20w and I still check my pants. It never leaves you.

But a couple of practical things that I think are common consensus:

Re early scans - 8w appears to be a good time. Any earlier and little "niggles" on a scan can cause greater anxiety than not.

Wishing you good vibes xx

Ah Lisa I'm sorry you're feeling like this but I second what Legend says, testing more will drive you crazy. A line is a line. Write down the positives in a tangible list that you can focus on. You've had several positive tests so right now you are pregnant. You aren't bleeding or in pain. The symptoms often don't kick in until 6-7 weeks if not later for some, and sometimes every couple of days you can adjust to the hormones before they rise again and have another bout of symptoms. It is so easy to convince yourself that this new pregnancy is the same as the others, but in reality it's not, each one is different and new.

Everything crossed that this one sticks, the early days are torture. I actually didn't test for a good 2-3 weeks after I missed my period this time because I was so bloody scared to know, although I knew I was pregnant because I felt the same as I did with my two MCs. I still wear a pad every day now at 16 weeks 6 days! Just distract yourself as much as possible and keep venting on here xxx

Sweety is this your first baby? That does seem really early! I thought I felt bubbles really early just before I was 14 weeks, turns out my sister felt them too early on in both her pregnancies, we must be similar in that way. What did it feel like? Kind of like fluttery, flicking feeling? X

Oh and girls - the t-shirt is on Boohoo for a tenner (bargain!) and there is also a I 💗 Manchester tee on there with all profits going to the cause, I got one of those too. X