Staying posifrickentive- Thread 16 for ladies pg after mc

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Starting a new thread for us ladies...

@miami81 my sister has a heart shaped uterus and had a beautiful baby girl 6 weeks ago. She was down as high risk because of it but apart from some light bleeds at 20 & 21 weeks she had a fairly easy pregnancy otherwise.

@Thingymaboob it's been a rough few years. The scans have so far thankfully been ok. This is the furtherst I've gone with a pregnancy since having my DS so that's a little hopeful. It's going to be a long few months though x

Welcome JC, Christ you've had a rough ride. I've said it before; anyone who goes and gets pg again after the hell of a mc is super brace. Me included [gold star].

Weird question; can anyone else smell their own boobs? For the second time mine have had a salt and vinegar whiff to them now (both times from week 16) and it goes without saying it's strong today.

It makes me weirdly happy though, like a sign it's all ok in there.

*brave, even

@TheLegendOfBeans I could in my previous pregnancy, but not this time round yet.

@JCleRoux So sorry for your losses. It is horrible, this fear. I didn't have any bleeding with my MMC but having had a bleed / clot scare a few weeks ago I now check every time I go to the loo too. Hope everything goes well for you x

Congratulations badgerbird on getting to your due date! Wishing you all the best win birth, motherhood and beyond :) success stories like yours are what makes the thread so comforting.

Jcle gosh sounds like you've been through a lot :( Welcome. I think everyone on this thread does the same and has the going-to-toilet-dread! Totally understand that, have you got a 12 week scan date yet? X

Hi everyone, just found out I'm 5 + 1 after having a miscarriage in December at 8 weeks! I'm over the moon but also a nervous wreck that something is going to happen! I'm having completely mixed emotions! I'm constantly going to the toilet to make sure nothing has happened and feel I will be like that all the way through, especially until my 12 week scan! Just wondered if anyone had any advice to try and keep calm?xx

Can you book an early reassurance scan for when you are 8 weeks? Sorry you are here but it is a great support.
The best thing for the early weeks is distraction. I set myself a reading challenge and still stick to it now, it really helped in the early weeks to keep me from googling and my mind engaged on other things. Maybe find a good box set or something to take you a little out of your reality? And most importantly let yourself cry. The stress got so intense for me at times a big outburst of tears really helped relieve the pressure. X

@haz agree with you about the crying - I feel a bit like a pressure cooker, every week or so a good cry is needed, then I feel a bit better again!

Hi ladies, can I join? Pregnant again after a mc last month. Not sure how far along I am, haven't had a period to date it with!
Clear Blue digi says 2-3 weeks, very strong positive on a frer too.

Feeling so excited but terrified. I don't think I could cope with a mc again

Going to my gp this week to be referred to mw. Did anyone else get offered an early scan? I'm debating whether I'd take it up. We had a private scan at 6 weeks where we saw a heartbeat & apparently healthy baby, but mc'ed at 10 weeks.

grainmum
haz

Agreed re "pressure cooker crying".

I'm currently drilling through Game of Thrones and inadvertently blubber my eyes out when Danerys got on a dragon and flew away.

Might've been the uplifting music that did it - anything uplifting is always dangerous for me

@Hazandduck & @yellowfrontdoor yes - we asked and were offered an early scan after 7 weeks and took it up.

Hello, checking in. I've been reading and then always forget to post.

Lovely to see more new faces on the thread.

I had been doing a lot better and not feeling as anxious but last night I woke at 3 and worried about baby as he's been quieter the last couple of days I have also been busier and not laid peacefully but at that time in the morning I couldn't rationalise it. So I got out of bed, had some juice and laid until I felt movements. Must have been awake 2hrs fretting so I'm exhausted. Have felt movements again this morning so think it was just my anxiety having a moment.

23wks tomorrow. Feels a bit like no mans land. Out of the worrying early weeks but still not far enough through to believe we will have a new baby come October. Only 10 days until my next scan, I'm sure that will help balance me out again.

Hope everyone else is having a lovely, relaxing bank holiday.

Hi ladies, hope you're all enjoying the bank holiday weekend?!

I've had some brown CM for the last couple of days which is the first sign I had a ting was wrong last time. I'm absolutely terrified that this will just turn out to be a chemical or I'll miscarry again. I have no symptoms at all, only the lack of a period and the positive test to tell me I'm pregnant. Very very worried and overly emotional here right now. I just so desperately wanted this one to be ok, for it to go smoothly and not end in miscarriage again but it's not looking that likely I don't think!

Fingers crossed it at least sticks until Tuesday when I can get to a doctor and hopefully it will at least count as the second miscarriage meaning we will be two thirds of the way to getting a referral. I just wish I knew why this happens to us, I was so prepared for it to all be ok this time just like everyone said it would be. Feel a little bit silly for believing them now!

I hope everything turns out to be ok Particular. Lots of ladies on this thread have been through similar. The early days are so tough, but that's what we're here for.

@NoParticularPattern
I had a miscarriage in October which started off as brown CM. I'm 7+4 now but started having brown CM last week and I was beside myself with worry. I had a private scan booked anyway plus the duty GP didn't ring me back. At the scan I saw a little bean with a heartbeat. I know it turned out bad for you last time but brown spotting really doesn't mean the end, especially so early as could be implantation bleeding.

@say sorry you're having a wobble, hope little one has been dancing away today to remind you of their presence. 10 days til my next scan too, the next milestone to check off the list....

@particular, it's so hard to get through the early days in a pregnancy following MC. However the overall message from the experiences on here seems to be that bleeding doesn't necessarily mean miscarriage, change in symptoms doesn't necessarily have any significance either. Keep your chin up and think positively, and try not to let the uncertainty drive you mad!

Thanks ladies. I've not really had any spotting or brown stuff today so fingers crossed its just something annoying my cervix- I know from my MC that I had an ectropion then and he did say it would likely happen with subsequent pregnancies so maybe it's just that.

Having said that I have no symptoms I think my sense of smell has gone crackers and my left nipple is very sore and also massive!? Weird! Maybe things will all be ok- might be worth going to the GP just to check. Although I'm slightly afraid they offer me a scan as that's when we started to realise it had gone wrong last time so I'm wary of going too early for them to say that maybe I have my dates wrong etc etc.

Hope the rest of you are all doing ok- Glad LO started moving again Say. Fingers crossed he's just as tired as you are so just having a snooze :)

Thanks Grain and Particular. He has been pretty active today so I feel a bit daft. Easy to feel like that now, not so easy at the time!

So, I've almost made it to scan day (tomorrow morning) with nothing to report. Unfortunately having had a MMC before that doesn't reassure me. Although my MMC was a blighted ovum and I saw the baby and heard the heart beat two weeks ago just can't get passed being put back 8 days. And I have to go on my own again.

Lots of us recognise that feeling @doctordonna. Everything crossed for you. Hope you have something distracting planned for today x

Good luck for tomorrow DoctorDonna

11+2 here today! My scan is a week tomorrow and nerves are starting to creep in, I'm still puking and on anti-sickness tablets so I'm trying to take this as positive!
At what point does it actually feel real that it's happening?
I still can't imagine a baby at the end of all of this! I guess that's normal thoughts though.

Tootsy 23wks here and it still doesn't feel real. Although I feel more positive most days, I wouldn't say I have grasped the reality of a baby being here by Oct I think DH and I will have some 'oh shit' moments before and after he arrives!

Good luck today @doctordonnanoble. Fingers crossed that everything is ok with your scan 🤞

@Tootsy I'm the same as you and I am just trying to think positive thoughts. I know it's harder than it sounds. Hang in there x

Good luck today @DoctorDonna, let us know how you get on. @NoParticular, how are you today? How far along are you? Sounds good that the brown CM has stopped - fingers crossed it's just cervical irritation and totally normal.

I'm 5+2 today and doing the usual "is this a symptom or am I just imagining it" thing. I'm sleeping much better than I did last time when I had the MMC which is, in a way, worrying me?! Determined not to go for a reassurance scan until 8 weeks so in the meantime I'm just repeatedly checking for blood (none so far) and poking my boobs (ouch) to make sure they're still sore. Ridiculous!