Pregnant at 40 and over - thread 4

[Gizmojo]

To continue support for mums to be over 40

I'm sorry Canrt, you don't sound too hopeful. I had a miscarriage at about 6+5 last summer after a year of ttc and it was all a bit gloomy as I felt it might be my last chance... but to my surprise I conceived again within about 2 months and so far okay. I hope you don't lose hope, whether this pregnancy is viable or not. Sorry you have to go through the horrible wait and see time

And welcome Cheese!

Hi cheese and congrats!

Sorry to hear you're having a difficult time carnt. I'm now similar, ongoing brown discharge (more than wiping) and some cramps. Measuring 2 weeks behind. Also a scan next weds. A waiting game I guess.

Oh and Canrt on the question of pregnancy tests, I think you would continue to test positive for a while after a mc anyway so they probably won't help you to figure out what is happening. I believe it takes a while for hormone levels to drop - that was certainly my experience anyway.

Sorry Carnt. That's really tough. Fingers crossed for you Eprk and welcome Cheese.

I had to tell work today due to job changes . they were very relaxed about it all thankfully. Trouble is I've not had a scan yet so this will add to the stress if something is wrong. I'll be ten weeks next week and have booked in for the harmony test at the Portland so things are starting to happen.

I have my first growth scan later this morning. I'm a bit anxious as my teeny bump makes me worried that baby is small... or what if he's large and i have to do the gtt. Argh having a neurotic moment. I have sensory issues with texture and I hear the glucose syrup drink is vile. Fingers crossed I don't need it :-/

I have my first midwife appointment this week (I'll be nine weeks by then).

I'm on cyclogest and I'm also having chinese acupressure to keep my progesterone levels balanced. I think I may have to be consultant led (fibroids). Has anyone got fibroids...what did the midwife say to you?

Not good news for me. Started bleeding so guess it's gonna be mc number 9. Might try again.
But good luck to all the other mums out there 🦋

Teabag from memory the gtt isn't gloopy or particularly disgusting. For me it was the fasting before the drink that made me super queasy. Hope your growth scan goes well today!

I have been watching Paw Patrol since 7am (toddler has totally taken over the tv) while obsessing about early pregnancy symptoms. I have become an obsessive boob poker. I wish I could fast forward to my first scan and get it out the way whatever the outcome...

Pixie am so sorry to hear that - that's really awful for you.

So sorry Pixie

Teabag we are at the same stage, I have my growth scan tomorrow!

I had the GTT a few weeks ago. At my trust they gave me a bottle of lucozade. I did struggle to drink it because I don't normally do fizzy or sweet drinks (except G&T!) but I managed to keep it down. It's not much fun but it is tolerable.

So sorry to hear that pixie, that is rotten luck. Wishing you all the best with whichever road you decide to take next

Hope things become clearer for you canrt and ekraphis, the not knowing must be very stressful.

Two weeks until my 12 week scan. It seems so far away. I stupidly tried to find the hb on a Doppler last night and couldn't of course, so freaked out. Trying to be a bit calmer today but the anxiety is building!

And I've had to tell some clients at work as I freelance and they wanted me to do projects that went on past my due date. It feels weird to tell virtual strangers when close friends don't know.

I'm so sorry pixie. That must be so tough.

Thank you for kind wishes.

I think I'm starting to bleed a lot more though not bright, and cramping so not feeling too hopeful.

Pixie, I'm so sorry. I know this feeling (as do many of us). I had this in September and conceived again in Feb. very hard to feel optimistic when it happens. In fact all I did was get horribly drunk for a week and then snapped out of it when my cycle returned to normal and started the damned ovulation sticks agin

Ekhphrasis and Canrt, I share your feelings of uncertainty. Its better to just know one way or the other and turn your mind and emotions to coping with the situation.

I had a scan yesterday 6w 2d and there was apparently a strong heartbeat. I felt so relieved and the this morning I started feeling crampy and had light brown staining when I wiped. This is how my last mc started. My GP is away and the locum GP refused to give me a private prescription for progesterone despite the notes from the hospital consultant stating clearly (after my last mc) that I should be placed on progesterone and aspirin if pregnant again!! So I dropped work and rushed to the ARGC this morning for their monitoring service which will involve weekly scans and blood tests and weekly prescriptions of progesterone at the cost of £150 a week!!! They won't do a one off prescription for 3 months. I was so desperate I simply agreed.

So sitting here in a cafe waiting for their call back to tell me whether this pregnancy is viable or not...I wish they prescribed valium for these uncertain times :)

Sorry to hear that short. My cramping and bleeding is increasing a little. How did you get the go ahead for asprin? I'm frustrated that after my son who had iugr they apparently told my dh that I should take asprin in early pregnancy. I haven't been able to get anyone to confirm this. My blood count is a bit high (only just) so clearly 'thick' blood but obviously I'm not an expert! A very kind nurse today said that the asprin was more for me but that's not what I've read.

Pixie. I'm so sorry 💐💐

My gp did me a prescription of cygelest which would have been £8.75? Cost of usual prescription but as preg got it for free

I had loads as needed 800g for think 12w / 400am and pm

As well as progynova of 6mg a day in 3 doses

Think I still have some somewhere if you want me to look and send off to you ?

That sounds great, yes please. I'll obviously check with my doc that it's ok to take. I'm thinking tho that my mc's are because something is wrong with baby. If I take these and something is wrong, would it stop mc? X

I've started spotting today too. Just brown/dark red so far so fingers crossed ok. I'm being a bit obsessive about going to the loo to check every half hour or so.

I've had a day off work today too as I slept really badly last night and had an awful headache. I've slept most of the day and still feeling awful.

brug and pixie.

I'm in a lot of pain and passing a lot of blood. Probably leave the thread soon but hope to be back :)

pixie have they tested your thyroid function?

So sorry to hear about the spotting and concerns. Hearts and hugs to all.

@Ekphrasis
Thyroid? Had a test for that a while back and ok. I think I can't carry girls. Had a test on a baby 3 miscarriages ago and she (yes it was a girl) had chromosomal abnormalities which apparently is the most common cause of mc's under 12 weeks.
Also, my age doesn't help at 42. My eggs are old and by the look of it, not up to much anymore!

My doc is going to refer me now but tick tock, time is running out and, hubby is saying he doesn't want to try much longer as he's almost 47!
I'm gutted as I feel able to have 7 more babies! It's just my body that is saying 'you're getting past it!'
Wish I was 10 yrs younger, I would have a litter as I've just got so much love to give and bring a mummy is what I was put I. This planet to do.
Gotta go now, can't stop crying 😢😢

Oh goodness I'm so sorry to those going through such a hard time. It's awful.

Oh Pixie. Heart goes out to you. But there are lots of older mums out there so with the right help I really hope you get to achieve your dream of being a mum!

Thinking of you, Pixie. And everyone else having a scary time.
I'm feeling okay, keep worrying about various scenarios. Not normally an anxious person, so it feels quite strange. I'm very bloated, very swollen. I've been going mad on the fruit & veg though...