Bleeding, waiting for repeat scans, worried about viability etc – let’s unite in limbo!

[MrsMcJnr]

Ladies, I know there are quite a few of us in this category and I am conscious that although the lovely ladies on here are supporting us on every thread we post on, I am worried that we are spoiling their own pregnancy experience by worrying so I thought I?d set this up for those who really don?t know if things are going one way or the other. Thought it might help us to get through the days/weeks until we do know what?s going on.

For those who don?t know me (though I?m a prolific poster ) here?s me in a nutshell: Based on LMP I?m 9+4 weeks (9+1 based on suspected OV). First pregnancy (though had early termination 10 years ago). TTC for 8 cycles to get here. Got BFP 26/1. Some spotting that week so sent to EPU on 23/1 for early scan. Gestational sac seen by external scan and yolk also seen by internal scan. Measured only 11.4mm though so only 5+5/6 weeks. Was rescheduled for scan 7/3 to see if things had changed. Given 50/50 chance. Started heavy bleeding 1/3. Had emergency scan 2/3. Told sac still there and has grown. Repeat scan scheduled for 9/3. In the meantime, more heavy bleeding, clots, cramps and much anguish.

I just wish I knew what was going on! Please join me.

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Im so sorry for your loss MrsMcJnr im sending all my love to you and your dp.

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MRsMcJnr hope you're ok
How is everyone else today? Hopeing this limbo land is ok for everyone

Hey ladies, hoping you are all ok and hanging on in there. Whoops ? have been thinking about you a lot, are you ok? DH and I did a car boot sale today, sounds crazy but physically I am fine, I think I am over the worst and on the mend and we actually had fun and made some cash to splash out on a nice night out together soon .

Hotchoc ? thank you and sorry you feel so sad, I quite expect the pain of losing the baby to hit me emotionally for a very long time, I hope it gets easier for us all. I explained to DH today that I?m sad for us and for our relationship that we will always know, no matter how many babies we go on to have that we lost our first child and it makes me so angry that our innocence about having babies has gone and our excitement will be so much more measured and tainted by fear next time round. It?s just not right is it? Be nice to yourself honey.

Ammylovesolivia ? thank you, what a lovely post I look forward to getting to know you well as a temp Buddy

Hey Jules - thank you for thinking of me. I?m really sorry to hear about the pains and bleeding. You have been through so much already we are here for you, always. Try not to think of it as the sac holding on but just the lining of the womb getting back to normal thickness; it?ll make it easier to bear honey. Huge hugs.

Thank you Eaglebird and Sweetbean

MMJ Glad you are ok, been thinking of you too
I think things are getting going for me as had a bit of bleeding today but not a huge amount and it was quite dark (sorry if tmi!)

I should say I know what you mean about doing things that people may find odd I have had quite a few people shocked that I have still been going into work but I think that has helped the week go quicker

I know what you mean Whoops, I have been at work all but yesterday too. Don't worry about telling us TMI, we all know what it's like and it can get scary (well, I was scared, I had never seen so much blood, I have never had heavy periods and going through a super pad an hour with bright red blood was terrorfying plus the pain was unbearable) Sorry if I am scaring anyone, I'm not trying to, it's just how it was for me. I really hope the blood is nothing Whoops but if it is the end I hope it is as quick, painless and complete as possible. Here for you x

I'd rather other peoples experience than worry about the unexpected - I am supposed to be going out for the day tomorrow and dd is looking forward to going to but am abit worried about something more than a little blood when I'm wiping myself when so far from home

Whoops - if it's going to happen hon, you'll be ok if you are prepared, buy some super pads and dig out some big pants, have a good day out and I really hope it never happens, but if it does, you'll be prepared. Remember you can take paractemol without worrying about effects on the pregnancy. I was out for dinner last Sat through the worst of it and though I did wish I was at home, I was still able to drive 30mins back again. Will be thinking of you and hoping and praying it is all ok. x

Whoops im thinking of you hun and hope everything is ok xxxxxxxxxxxx

Good morning all. Oh, I am so sorry to hear about you bleeings woops and Jules. I am going through a very dfficult time a the moment. My bleeding has stopped than picked up again. It's very light, so I am absolutely sure it's not over (which I almost wish by now). Pg-tests
are coming back stronger every day as well.
I really need some resolution and will go the the GP tomorrow. I seem to remember LissieLou had the same symptoms in her ectopic. I will go no and try to find her thread. Does anybody know how I might be able to ask her some questions? All other advice regarding and and off bleeding so arly on (weeks 5) would be very much appreciated.

Glimmer - you should be able to find LIssie in the tea shop she runs it most days!

I have started bleeding a bit more today not a huge amount but I think this is it now

Feel like crying today dp being a complet prat !! and sitting hear witha masive glass of wine just wishing that i couldn't drink!

Why is my Dp so horrible at the moment can anyone lend my there lovely DH/DP's just for a quick hug i promise i will control myself

Whoops sorry babe just read your post i hope your ok babe xxxx

Evening ladies, big hugs to Whoops, Jules and Glimmer, I'm thinking of you all.
MrsMc, I'm happy to hear you're still being so positive, I'm sure you're right and the emotional side will hit you eventually but you sound like you'll be able to meet it head on (and your DP sounds lovely and supportive too ).
Sweetbean, whatever has your Dh been up to? You sound frazzled chick x

mrs, oh mrs. what a completely shitty couple of weeks you have had. i have only just discovere there is internet access at my hotel and my first thought was to come on here and check how you were doing after your scan on wed. then i found out about the pain and bleeding and emergency scan and then fridays news. \

i am so so sorry. i know it sounds stupid, but i feel guilty that this has happened to you when (touchwood) all seems ok for me at the moment. i really thought it was going to be the other way round, as i already have 2 beautiful children i kind of feel like it should be.

i dont know what to say to you really. i am so so sorry for you both and you do seem remarkably strong.

lets hope you will be another fettle and get up the duff as quickly as she did after her mc at xmas. in your shoes i think i would definately go for it again straight away.

sorry i cant think of anything better to say.

greedy

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MrsMcJ...really sorry to hear your news, ive been in switzerland for the weekend and been wondering how it went for you.

It sounds like you've had a nice weekend with your DH which is good and hopefully you are over the worst of it.

Please take heart from the fact that i was in exactly the same position as youonly last Nov and i am now 10 weeks gone with this one. I felt the same as you that i wanted to get pregnant again asap. Do what feels ight for you and i'll keep my fingers crossed that you dont have to wait too long.

Hi Greedy. Somebody mentioned you experienced bleeding in early pregnancy. Was it you?- and if so could you point me to the thread you posted at or give me a little insight? I am presently 5 weeks and had bleeding off and on for the last ten days: bright red, then brown now red again. Thank you and all the best for you!

PS: I found Lissilou and talked to her. Thank you for the tip!

MrsMJ -
You seem to have a really positive attitude about the whole thing. Good for you.
I've emailed you. xx

Good luck to all you other girls in limbo.

Sorry I have not posted much in the last few days, I?ve been doing a lot of sleeping and talking in RL I guess. I decided that I am not up to going to work yet physically or emotionally, I am just taking each day as it comes, might go in tomorrow but might not.

Jules ? how are you now hon? Has the bleeding stopped yet? I really hope so

Glimmer ? sorry I missed your anguish, I hope you are ok? How did it go at the GPs? I really think you need to have a scan to see what is going on. Glad you got hold of Lissie, she?ll be a great help. Greedy?s in St Lucia at the mo but I know she?d love to help you. She did have lots of bleeding and clots too, and I don?t think they ever worked out why. Thankfully her baby is doing fine Have a look at the temp threads on the conception boards from Christmas onwards. Hope that helps.

Whoops ? how are you? I have been thinking about you a lot and wondering how you are.

Sweetbean ? sorry to hear DP was being a prat, hope you have resolved things. I know what you mean about being able to drink, it?s a very hollow comfort (and not much of one at that).

Hello Greedy, old pal, I hope you are having a lovely holiday and had no more scares yourself I?m very touched you came on to check up on me, but feel bad it?s not good news, please don?t let it put a damper on your day I?ll be ok and don?t feel guilty, it?s just nature doing it?s job, your LO is meant to be sadly, mine wasn?t

Thank you thehairybabysmum really sweet of you to post and let?s hope I fall quickly again (though DH is too upset to try at the mo )

Thanks Juicy, got your lovely email

MrsMcjnr - I'm ok - I think work has got me through this week by keeping my mind off things have my scan tomorrow so will see what happens from there, I have started bleeding a bit now but not a huge amount.
I got a bit annoyed today as I found that someone at work was quite happily telling people that I was expecting but failed to inform them that I was having problems and the poor woman congratulating me was so embarassed but as I told her it wasn't her fault she didn't know. I know it's not anyone elses place to tell my bad news but when I don't see the people that often and they do I think it only fair they should pass the message on
sorry for the rant!

Glimmer - Glad you got hold of Lissie

Sweetbean - sorry to hear your dh is being horrible my dh wasn't impressed that I fell asleep at 7pm last night leaving dd still awake I had been out all day and was shattered!

Hope everyone else is ok

Hey Whoops, I'll be thinking about you tomorrow. I really hope it goes well. What you describe about work is one of the reasons I don't know if I can face going back just yet, I'm just too jaded to cope with questions etc.

I think because i have had the warning from the first scan it has been easier, It probably sounds harsh but I have been able to tell people that things haven't gone the right way, it has also helped me deal with things too.
Take your time with work they can wait you are the most important person take all the time you need (your work will still be there when you get back )