Bleeding, waiting for repeat scans, worried about viability etc – let’s unite in limbo!

[MrsMcJnr]

Ladies, I know there are quite a few of us in this category and I am conscious that although the lovely ladies on here are supporting us on every thread we post on, I am worried that we are spoiling their own pregnancy experience by worrying so I thought I?d set this up for those who really don?t know if things are going one way or the other. Thought it might help us to get through the days/weeks until we do know what?s going on.

For those who don?t know me (though I?m a prolific poster ) here?s me in a nutshell: Based on LMP I?m 9+4 weeks (9+1 based on suspected OV). First pregnancy (though had early termination 10 years ago). TTC for 8 cycles to get here. Got BFP 26/1. Some spotting that week so sent to EPU on 23/1 for early scan. Gestational sac seen by external scan and yolk also seen by internal scan. Measured only 11.4mm though so only 5+5/6 weeks. Was rescheduled for scan 7/3 to see if things had changed. Given 50/50 chance. Started heavy bleeding 1/3. Had emergency scan 2/3. Told sac still there and has grown. Repeat scan scheduled for 9/3. In the meantime, more heavy bleeding, clots, cramps and much anguish.

I just wish I knew what was going on! Please join me.

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Hi MrsMcJnr

just checked in to see how you are getting on. Wishing you all the best for tomorrow. I hope you get some answers.. I sincerly hope you get some good news as well

Take care x

Thanks Ready, really sweet of you.

Becklespeckle ? sorry that you went through all this last year and that it did not go well, it sounds like you had a awful time Thank you for the advice about the blood tests, I will push for those if asked to come back again (oh, no not more blood loss! ). Hope you fall pregnant again very soon

Firststar ? thank you so much for taking so much time to answer me, I really appreciate it and have printed off your post to take with me tomorrow. The reassurance scan is a very good point, I hadn?t thought of that but would definitely want one.

Thank you Ejb ? really appreciate your thoughts

If I am able to, I need to go straight from the appointment to a business lunch so I apologise now if I leave you in limbo not knowing how I got on. I promise to come on here as soon as I can and let you know what happened either way . All your support has really got me through this week and I am so incredibly grateful. For all of you still in limbo, whatever happens, I?ll be back to get you through too.

Phew this thread is moving quickly!
Eaglebird - any news from your scan yet chick?

Mrs.McJnr - Thank you, I slept ok last night, still knicker checking like a mad thing and now find myself calculating the time between my last two bleeds and counting ahead to see when my 'next bleed' may come - how daft is that? Tomorrow is coming quickly but I'm majorly hoping that you're going to get an option one scenario. I'm out tomorrow but will be thread checking frantically when I get back. Masses of love and cyber hugs hon x

Glimmer - so sorry to hear how awful your experience with NHS was, it sounds truly dreadful. Glad your back ache has subsided a little. Hopefully a scan in 2 weeks will bring good news.

I've had more period type cramps and side pain (on the side with the cyst on the ovary so I suppose this is the reason). Much frantic running to the loo but so far no more bleeds. I've told people I work with and my Mum and Dad- it made it seem a little more real for me but now I'm feeling like I've somehow jinxed it. Will I be this paranoid for (hopefully) nine months? I'm mentally exhausted!

Just to say good luck for tomorrow MMJ.

Thank you so much for all your good wishes.
The scan went well and I got good news.
The baby was there, like a little chipolata, and the heartbeat was fickering strongly .
Dp was speechless with shock & wonder, and I just cried with relief.
Nurse measured the pg at 7+4 (I thought I was 7+1). She could see no reason for the bleeding, and suspected it was due to implantation, and said not to worry unless it got heavier than a normal period.
Fingers crossed for everyone else in limbo waiting for scans.
I'm off to celebrate with a soak in the bath & a glass of Ribena.

That's great news Eaglebird

MMJ - good luck for tomorrow will be thinking of you and hope your lunch doesn't drag on too long!

Tuesday seems to be drawing closer quicker than I thought - can't believe it was a week ago tomorrow that I was given the bad news

Hope everyone else is ok

Brilliant news Eaglebird ! I'm so pleased for you and your DH. x

Whoops- will be thinking of you on Tuesday chick. How are your aches and pains going?

all pains seem to have disappeared at the moment! it'll be back now tomorrow I've said that

God, it feels like that doesn't it, this limbo lark. You're almost scared to say you feel ok or some pain or other has gone incase fate goes 'aha!' and slams it right back at you. Pleased pains have gone, let's hope they stay gone. x

Jules, please don't worry, I took absolutely no offence. I'm the worst with names!
I really hope your body gets back on line really soon. x

Jules - yes I am expecting the worst as they weren't at all positive at the hospital last week I wish I could be positive but even though even I know I'll be gutted hearing the worst I don't think it would be as bad as if I was expecting to hear good news.
As for letting things naturally I have 2 dc's here I don't think it would be nice to see me laid up for days in pain - I know there must be some element of pain involved in a D & C but I'm sure it won't be as bad someone correct me if I'm wrong though please.

MMJ - again good luck for your scan hope you see your bean & hb!

Hi to everyone else x

MrsMcJr and Whoops
Good luck today on your scans i'm thinking of you ans keeping everything crossed xxxxxxxxx

EagleBird so happy for you babe thats the best new !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Thinking of all,and sending all my good vibes and lots of Love xxxxxxx

MrsMcJr good luck today thinking of you ((hugs))

Thays really good News eaglebird

Mrs - thinking of you at 10.00am! good Luck xxxxxxxxx

Eaglebird -- great news!
MrsMcJnr -- thinking of you intensely.
Whoops -- I am so sorry for the limbo. What an agonizing time the wait is!
We are really having the full spectrum from good to devastaing news on this thread. For those considering natural or D&C I would like to add a consideration, but that means I have to "come out". For those that know me from other threads: I am d4phne. Following a missed m/c last year I had an ERPC, which was incomplete and needed to be redone (officially 5%chance), followed by a cervical stenosis caused by the 2nd ERPC (officially 1/10000) chance. While ERPCs are often recommmened by experts and considered good practice, since they clear out the uterus, they are associated with some risks such as the ones mentioned above and potential scarring of the uterus (called Ashermans syndrome), which can lead to infertility. Now this is extremely rare and everybody has to decide herself which way to go, but if you opt for an ERPC I would ask them diligently about the risks and the experience of the surgeon. How many has he done? How successful were there? Were there complications? While naturally aborting has clearly its own risks and disadvantages, at least you know that your uterus and cervix have not been scarred. I am trying to be objective here, but certainly I am not. Therefore take what I say with a grain of scepticism.

Thanks for that info Glimmer - I will take those questions to ask if it needs to be

Hi all

So sorry to see so many on this thread, not fair to be in this situation.

Mrs Mc- thinking of you and hoping all well.

Glimmer- Your out, wow. I hope it works out for you. What's the latest do you have a dark BFP now? You definately didn't need more worry, i hope all is well real soon.

Hope waiting goes real quick for everyone and you have some happy outcomes soon.

Whoops - Fingers crossed for you, hopefully you will get some positive news.
On subject of D&Cs, I had one a few years ago after a missed m/c and the worst bit was going into theatre for the op - the rest was like a heavy period and cramps were easily controlled by painkillers. Last year I had another missed m/c and didn't have the D&C - it didn't all come away and had to have one anyway 2 months later.
It is a hard decision to make but if I was in the same situation again (hopefully never again) I would have the op as for me it was less emotionally painfull.

MillyM - glad you slept better you will be exhausted both physically and mentally. Let?s hope the time between the bleeds gets so long you can no longer count. My advice is wear black knickers and try not to look. All will be fine hon, really it will.

Eaglebird ? SO pleased it went well for you honey, I really, really am hopefully everything will be by the book from now on.

Thanks Sunshinedays , Trace2, Sweetbean, Pinkranger, Uki and BeckleSpeckle.

Ladies, I?m sorry to bring you bad news on a Friday but DH and I have lost our precious baby we were told this morning at the scan that I?d had a complete miscarriage and that my lining was back to normal (4-5mm) and therefore there is no need for any surgery. We took comfort from that. We were also told that my ovaries are clear and there is nothing else in the womb and therefore we should be able to conceive again.

I want to thank you all for your incredible empathy and support. It has been an emotional rollercoaster and I am convinced I am only able to take this all in because of your help. I am going to stay on this thread with you and when I feel up to it start posting on the conception threads again for those who have had miscarriages. DH and I have both agreed that we would like to try again as soon as we can (which they have said is right away ? I was told there is no risk of infection? Is that true?) Anyone with any tips on getting back into TTC after this has happened would be very gratefully received.

Whoops ? just couldn?t face the lunch so came home. Think I owe myself some time. Hang on it there for Tues. Please don?t lose hope, you just never know.

Jules ? thinking of you and know how you must feel I guess we have to see everyday as one closer to our next pregnancy. I look forward to groaning about early pregnancy symptoms with you again very soon.

Glimmer ? I think it was very noble and brave of you to share that with us and I now know exactly why you mistrust the NHS. Huge hugs for what you have been through and the limbo you are in. How are things today hon?

MrsMcJnr - So sorry to hear this I don't blame you for taking time off - I am planning to take most of next week off. I think things are starting as I've just been to the loo and there was some dark blood when I wiped (sorry if tmi!) I really didn't want this to happen at the weekend with the kids around but that's sods law isn't it!

oh Whoops I'm so sorry. It must be so hard putting on a brave face for the DCs. If it is happening, I hope it's not too painful and that you feel ok yourself (if that makes any sense at all) we are here for you whenever you need us x

MrsMcJnr, am so sorry to hear your news, but I am glad you can take some comfort from it being complete. Try again when you are ready, I don't know how much difference it makes.
(I was told by one doc to try straight away and another to wait until after first AF, I think there is a slightly higher risk of m/c if you don't wait a cycle but not heard of any risk of infection.)
and hugs to Whoops too x