Hi girlies, hope you're all well, I'm still following your journeys 😊 I'm feeling a lot better myself, off work til mid may so relaxing and enjoying the sunshine while I come to terms with everything. Every day it gets a little easier but I still shed a tear now and then but it's to be expected. Think the majority of my loss happened last night. On and off the toilet from 9pm til 2am and lost some big pieces of tissue and was in a LOT of pain, worse than any af cramps I've ever had 😖 it wasn't pleasant but also not as horrific as I thought. Ringing hospital Monday to go back for scan to check if it's all out.
I just popped on to reassure ew 💕 chick it's the scariest thing in the world when you start bleeding but honestly I googled so much and it is definitely normal. Believe me I know how hard it is not to worry but if it was anything sinister, I personally think you'd be in pain. When I started bleeding, it was light brown and only really when I wiped, but the pain was more than any little "pulling" or twinges I'd experienced before, it was deep abdominal muscle spasm-like cramps like very intense af, that gave me shivers and had me curled up on the couch crying down the phone to nhs direct. They sent me to out of hours doc in the hospital coz they were worried about the pain. They were very unconcerned about the bleeding, even when it became red, and remained unconcerned in all the follow up appointments I had, it was the pain that they were worried about. So please, please try to relax. And if you DO get any pain, it still does NOT mean the worst. Calculate your dates... if you weren't pg, would you be due af around now? Check out breakthrough bleeding, it's where your body is so used to having a period regularly that it still sheds a little bit around the same time every month, even though it's not shedding an egg. Some ladies have it throughout their pregnancy. The stress will drive you mad so try and be grateful you've got work to take your mind off it. Although if you've been advised to rest, and your job is intense, may do you good to have time off while you wait for your scan.
Plz try and remember, common as mc is, MOST people have normal pregnancies and coz it's new, every little thing is terrifying. Sorry this is such a long post. I hope I've given you even a tiny bit of reassurance. If you want to chat more, drop me a line chick.
Glad you're all doing good and enjoying the lovely weather!
And ps, I'm very huggy and am one of those people who love rubbing bumps haha but never strangers 😳 wouldn't dream of just sticking my arm out there! Have pregnant friends and if I'm dying to have a little smooth of it, depending on how close we are, I say "oh babe can I put my hand on your tum? If you don't like it, please say no!" Sounds weird but I think you know yourself if you'd be comfortable with someone touching it when the time comes, my friends have grabbed my hand and plonked it on in the past and been like "don't be stupid, come here!" But it's your body, your choice and don't let anyone touch if you're not comfy with it 🌺